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Ozzyk:
All these research work just for her to perform her matrimonial role

Not research, just speaking her love language till she open

That is why is good to taste before buying
To know her libido or if she was mishandled back then in boarding school by her fellow females students.

Ozzyk:
We were in love with each other really....
It was obvious
This whole thing is making us become mere housemates who only share thesame bed....
No connection, no bond

Then you might not have a big problem if it was obvious you love each other. It might be hormonal changes due to early stage of pregnancy.

Just be patient. I know by second and even third trimester, same pregnancy hormone cause women to want it more and even be more soaking down there.

Another question I have is this. Do you learn how to pleasure a woman very well or did you also marry as a Virgin with no experience? You will need that experience when she is ready for you. A no-experience man in that business is also a turn off for them.

brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

My brother most people don't understand this sex before marriage helps you both will know your sexual compatibility and staminals .
If you say no sex before marriage you may marry the person and end up not sexually enjoying or sexually living the person .
Marriage way sex no frequent that means them don't like each other .
Why will you marry and find it hard to touch each other.who you one go they touch na person wife or you on they cheat .
Make sure you are sexual compatibility before marrying

Ozzyk:
I'm on 6 weeks leave immediately after our wedding
She resumes work the 3rd week after our wedding
Whenever she goes to work I do the cooking, and cleaning and other basic home duties before she comes back from work.
By the time she comes back she'd just eat press phone and sleep
But still all these doesn't yield anything positive
I stopped doing the home works since it yields nothing

What!?

Sit her up and talk to her jare.
Did she not what she signed up for when she got married?

If there is anything wrong, she should at least open up and make you understand.
You also make her understand how the whole issue is affecting you.

brain54:
➜If you waited for 2 years of courtship...You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy. By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility. I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship. Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

I hope you are equally a fan of compensating the woman for using her body and time during those extramarital runs.

A lot of women have been left high and dry carrying the bag after these extramarital encounters(not saying the same does not happen after marriage, by the way) by men(who wanted to test their virginity/compatibility). Are you certain you would wish for your daughter to be tested in the same manner by a man with an over 90% chance he would turn out to be a creep in the end?

Chubhie:
Ogun kpai you dere

For you telling you the truth.

The guy just told you the truth, you can either take it or forget it.

She doesn't desire you sexually.

A woman who desires a man will move mountains for a chance to sleep with him, and she won't give him rules like she's giving you

The attached sounds like your case ..

Ozzyk:
It's not long distance we were like 30 minutes drive away from each other
We see anytime we want to
She just decided no sex before marriage
Perhaps we do kiss, smooch and all sorts except penetration

Mariangeles:
You are not a woman, so you can't understand.

Can you please stop supporting evil, madam?

God! Enough of this your "you don't understand a woman's body.

That woman knew exactly what she's doing. she's just manipulating the poor husband

Mariangeles:
You don carry your private sensitive matter enter nairaland, abi?
If you like, let them make you begin doubt your new wife, and destroy your home, you hear?

As for your wife, I believe her body is going through a phase/process she's not familiar with, and everythingthere is happening so fast -- between the time she had her first sex, and conceiving.
Just try to be patient with her, and keep helping her in any way you can, to make her feel comfortable.
Hopefully, by the 2nd-3rd trimester, things will change for the better.
You might not have to wait until after she gives birth.

So within two weeks to one month of marriage this is how you intend to behave and pay your husband who was responsible enough to respect you, honour your body, and not take u as sex object while dating like other guys do?
In the name of hormone, no more communication, bonding, touching and kissing? Even if knacking no dey, so hormone also affect showing care, bonding, and communicating. Women are just too selfish...

A man spent millions few months ago to marry a woman only to end up being manipulated under the guise of hormone or body is changing fast.

What rubbish, when most ladies get pregnant and abort while single, hormone no matter na when they are legally married this nonsense dey happen ba?
Make una continue. Shebi mumu kuku plenty wey go carry una put for house

kelechi50:
Yes you just nailed it. OP, look for something that makes her happy and spoil her with, e.g things she craves for, pet her and make her happy.

And he should keep doing that for the rest of his life?

Sometimes it's better to just keep quiet if we don't have advice to give.

dollypi:
➜She doesn't desire you sexually. A woman who desires a man will move mountains for a chance to sleep with him, and she won't give him rules like she's giving you The attached sounds like your case ..

Na wa oo! I blame OP for coming here to complain after marrying himself his virgin, whom he desired and wanted ooo! He chose to marry a woman without a sexual history as a wife.

So, like play like play the woman is now, not only an olosho, an adultery, but also a narcissist, all for telling OP— this only after realizing she is pregnant— that she is not interested in sex? 🙄🙄🙄

Diamond098454:
But you have been sleeping with her throughout your courtship a month of no sex won't kill you

They are now married

If you can't control it anymore, seek it outside.. simple. No be u she go turn miserable for house and give her non challant attitude

Pedrocross4568:
Can you please stop supporting evil, madam?

God! Enough of this your "you don't understand a woman's body.

That woman knew exactly what she's doing. she's just manipulating the poor husband

Going by more details the op added, there's a chance she might be taking advantage of the situation.

Mariangeles:
Going by more details the op added, there's a chance she might be taking advantage of the situation.

I bet you she is taking too much advantage with the way she is going.

Infact she have a plan.

Op just need to put an end to this now or else Premium cry await he.

You wey marry very godly woman can't eat your cake and have it...

Oga she didn't love you, probably you are forcing yourself to her

Diamond098454:
But you have been sleeping with her throughout your courtship a month of no sex won't kill you

This one no dey ever read to comprehend before commenting. Lmao

Diamond098454:
But you have been sleeping with her throughout your courtship a month of no sex won't kill you

Not reading might k*ll you one day

That’s got to be so terrifying for her. Imagine, to never have had sex and on your first attempt you get pregnant. For a woman that’s 2 fears in 1. The anxiety of having to give birth before you even set your mind on being a wife. Why wouldn’t sex be the last thing on her mind.

What’s even sadder is ops selfish attitude. He doesn’t even care about her wellbeing because a wife is an incubator and a sex tool for him and his like. I honestly believe a lot of men hate women and refuse to see them as human beings. Reading the comments from men on this thread is shocking. No mercy.

I really hope young ladies are paying attention and are not looking to these men as some knights coming to save them. My sister prioritise your education and be ready to rescue yourself before one beast uses you as a sex tool before he throws you and your seed out of HIS house.

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

Unfortunately, you married a lady that believes sex, is only for pregnancy..... Once pregnant, sex stops......

NiRfreak:
Oga. This is not right at all
At the beginning of what should be your bonding time, she's playing games and manipulation....
These are what you should do.

1. Erase the fact you have in your head that she's godly or good or virgin. Erase it. It no longer count. Otherwise you won't be able to act as a man, even when u are hurting, ur emotional side will be emasculating you..
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2. Approach the situation practically and zero your mind completely away from having sex with her. At least before marriage u dint die without sex. So don't let her use the sex card to turn u to her slave.
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3. Insist on pregnancy test
4. Insist on DNA test after 9 months..... Just to get on her nerves and make her agitated that you may not trust her.
5 Don't try to please her, do the barest minimum and no special treat. I beg you, no special treat or outing meant to curry favor.
6 play the same game she's playing. And don't bother her for sex... and don't seek her attention.
7 don't sleep in same room at night..go sleep in the second room.
8 Create scene and lambast her if she tries to gaslight you or flip the script on you for behaving mean towards her. A woman should be able to see your anger expressed as a man when she crosses certain lie. Even if u can't express anger.. voice and act it... No go dey do gentle man for this situation o

Over times she will sit up if she realises u are not taking her manipulation.

But I bet you can't do this because u still see her as a saint who has ur best interest.. Lol.. But she's there manipulating you and trying to be the boss over you. If u don't flip the script, she will turn ur boss, u will have to obey anything she says, and she will make you beg for everything in that marriage

You contribution make sense the most. Its control she is seeking. I think the OP needs DNA test. There are ways of faking virginity these days. Talk less of two weeks pregnancy. So before the two weeks of discovering pregnancy there was no show for OP.

OP better take the advice above seriously.

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

Bro tell your wife to ask her doctor , because sex in pregnancy is very very good especially as a prime mother. She needs lots of sex to help loosen the Cervix during labour. Both of you should visit a midwife or gynae for more advice.

NotOfThisWorld:
Just talk to her, or wait until May 2026 when she will deliver. May 2026 is just around the corner, even though you'll have to give her some time after that as well. You cannot expect her to want to do the do with you right after she puts to bed. She's your wife; she's not going anywhere. Just be patient. Patience, patience.

Don't know why I find this your comment so hilarious

Why u dey stress yourself.... Na to start to patronize those kind houses wey Samson for Bible dey visit take find Delilah...

Kobojunkie:
Have you tried taking some activities off her daily plate to see if that would help her relax and be more at ease with the possible anxieties that surround pregnancy?

Trust you

Been waiting for your comment

It's the major hormonal change going on. Trust me, the first trimester of a pregnancy is often the worse stage. Even the pregnant woman herself feels like person wey trailer jam. She feels like crap in that period but wait till she comes out of the first trimester na you go run😂😂. The hormone will start a riot and fire, you sef go dey run

you dey read at all?

Diamond098454:
But you have been sleeping with her throughout your courtship a month of no sex won't kill you

Starz825:
➜Trust you Been waiting for your comment

I guess I should thank you for taking the time to spot and read my comments then, right ?