₦airaland Forum

koladata:
But why can't they go back to their husband

If u be husband you go collect am back?

My prayer everyday is for 99% of married 9ja women to be a divorcee.

The more they divorce, the more girls we have begging us to manage their kpekus to keep body and soul 2geda.

In the pass 3month, more than 12 na him don divorce for my area. If you see most the guys now, they are living better now. Am so glad I was able to make 5 of the marriage clash. The thing dey sweet me.

SmartPolician:
Although a couple of marriages have failed, the failure rate in Nigeria remains insignificant. Why we think that many marriages are failing is that negative news easily gets media attention.

Really?, you are not following the trend. The truth is that the rate of marriage break up and separation and divorce in Nigeria is getting higher and higher.
There are so many broken homes in reported than the ones in the news

SmartPolician:
Although a couple of marriages have failed, the failure rate in Nigeria remains insignificant. Why we think that many marriages are failing is that negative news easily gets media attention.

Really?, you are not following the trend.
The truth is that the rate of marriage break up , separation and divorce in Nigeria is getting higher and higher.
There are so many broken homes not reported in the media than the ones in the news

Divorcee turned marriage counselor

Lolzzzzz 🤣

Only women experiencing domestic violence should quit, others should stay.

cityboylagos:
“There’s Nothing Outside” – Nigerian Divorcee Advises Women to Stay in Their Marriages Despite Challenges



https://eyesoflagos.com/divorced-nigerian-woman-advises-women-to-stay-in-marriage/

For men, apart from cheating nothing suppose make you divorce your wife, for women apart from physical violence, nothing suppose make you leave your man.

Many couples enter marriage with unrealistic expectations or little understanding of marital responsibilities. Here are some ways out
Strengthen Premarital Education
Improve Communication Between Couples
Re-emphasize Religious Principles of Marriage
Address Family and Societal Interference/ Privacy in marriage
Reduce Materialism in Marriage
Promote Patience and Forgiveness
Teach Modern Life Skills Alongside Tradition

RightToReject:
Balderdash! This is an indirect way to encourage women to accept oppression as a normal thing, which shouldn't be. The highest point of living, as a woman (human being), will always be not minding losing anything/anyone on principle - in this regard, walking away where your sanity is abused, provided that you came into equity with clean hands. I wager it's ignorance that do make people assume that physical abuse is the worst form of abuse.

You're right.
They should leave as soon as there's discomfort.

Luckysbab:
Thank God say you sef be better man. Na make them dey pack come your side. More power to your elbows sir.

you missed the sarcasm too

Are you guys aware that some women, instead of assisting their husbands in building a great home, compete unfavorably with them! Can you imagine... That's sad!

Reginal don divorce?

Nazgul:
This is why as a woman you must be mindful of who you'll marry. Don't just marry a man because he's financially OK. Rather marry someone you're compatible with.

Truth is you can find someone who is financially comfortable and compatible with you.

Never be in a hurry to settle down, cos if you marry wrongly and the unending crisis makes you leave your home, it's worse outside. A lot of women left their husbands to become a side chick to other women's husbands.

Some girls would say that they don't care about compartibality as long as he's rich it would work out. Look at Regina today, did it workout? Not even Ned's money could make her stay.

Madam Rhoda had to pour out her heart based on real-life experience and not some
social media euphoria.

Truly, marriage is not as easy as most people imagine it to be.

There are moments of good, bad and ugly but, if you let the bad and the ugly incidents to slide and you look back later in life, you would know patience is the key.

Most couples are grossly impatient with their partners and ask for divorce at the drop of a hat.

Marriage is not a bed of roses but a school where no one ever gets to graduate.

You just have to keep on learning without an end.

Just like she said, except in cases of domestic violence, there's no need going separate ways.

Marriage is very sweet when you begin to reap the dividends.

Try to make your marriage work by all means possible!



@hotseat

Stay put in marriage yes but in a yeye relationship? No!

A bad relationship will lead to a worse marriage if u dare to take it there. A relationship to a testing and experimental stage to learn the ropes and pick a partner from ur options not stay with anything or the 1st person u date unless they are determined to be fitting for u.

Be guided.

shortgun:
The white man's definition of marriage will never work, it didn't work in their countries so how will it work here.
Any organization where there's no clear defined leadership will only amount to confusion.

Our ancestors knew this for centuries but the white man came with the equality nonsense in marriages. Now neither the man nor the woman understand their roles in marriages

Na so.

Fiscus105:
I guess you are advocating for boss- servant of a marriage. No where in the world that man is not headship of family, the word equality doesn't mean no clear headship, but trying to say you are helpmates in progress

Two people can’t be helpmates in marriage. You guys are doing modification of what bible says and that’s why modern days marriage have problems. Only one of them is an helpmeet to the other. Help meet, they are not mate. There is no equality. That is when there can be clear leadership. How can u say they are equal and as well say there is headship? There is no better, bigger, larger, senior, superior in two equal things. Marriage is not partnership between a man and a woman, it is a project given to man by God and to be assisted by his wife and children if they are able to produce. The later are helpers and not partners or mate. They should submit to their leader who is the man. GenZ have changed everything and that’s why marriages are having problems now. But guess what, these women who are rebellious and fighting for equality with men are the ones who suffer most from the consequences of their action. God can not be a fool.

Beautiful single women no see husband, na divorcee with children go see another man marry?

Women never learn, check most marriages where there are issues, 80% of the time the woman is the cause

shortgun:
The white man's definition of marriage will never work, it didn't work in their countries so how will it work here.
Any organization where there's no clear defined leadership will only amount to confusion.

Our ancestors knew this for centuries but the white man came with the equality nonsense in marriages. Now neither the man nor the woman understand their roles in marriages

I guess a teenager or a very insecure, immature man / woman wrote this. Pls go read Ephesians chapter 5.

seanwilliam:
Don’t listen to her.
Divorce your husband if he’s not satisfying you.
Don’t tolerate disrespect from any man. Better men are outside please don’t settle for less.
You deserve better.

Chai😂😂😂

You’re sarcasm is topnotch🤣🤣🤣

Fiscus105:
Hopeless republic will say marriage nah scam


Meet partners in which two of you, love and understand each other and see how marriage is beautiful.


Many of them would capitalise on errors in marriage, what about errors u are seeing in your, education, career, or other human endeavour, outside marriage, did you abandon school, job etc because of that?

Outside marriage, you will free, but leaving a disjointed life as an adult, is even worse for women, different rods would only be visiting and quickly disappear like tin air.

The concept of a marriage is a scam. I say it with my full chest. Comparing marriage with job, school, education or whatever is out of point. Can you imagine living with one person forever till death do you part. Is your work, or education human being? Weird opinions flying on Nairaland nowadays🥳

StreetFight:
We want more divorced women on the streets. They are the side chicks to we married women. They help to reduce how much very single girls charge us. We love divorcees so much. The more, the merrier.

🤣🤣🤣
But use protection boss. Na commitment you suppose dey fear ooo

We all know, our concern is there's no biological clock for both men and women so each and everybody should live their lives the way they want, it doesn't matter.

seanwilliam:
Don’t listen to her.
Divorce your husband if he’s not satisfying you.
Don’t tolerate disrespect from any man. Better men are outside please don’t settle for less.
You deserve better.

What stopped you for meeting the better husband before marrying the man you got married to. If there were no better man you will never see one afterwards.

cityboylagos:
“There’s Nothing Outside” – Nigerian Divorcee Advises Women to Stay in Their Marriages Despite Challenges



https://eyesoflagos.com/divorced-nigerian-woman-advises-women-to-stay-in-marriage/

things outside..


You be free for everybody to back you with out paying shishi

Except big big gbolas waiting to take their turns unfortunately

ogascomax:
What stopped you for meeting the better husband before marrying the man you got married to. If there were no better man you will never see one afterwards.

well she was not smart then ni, now she’s smarter.

pocohantas:
Na you pursue her, Naz?

You didn't hear?

She don comot from Ned house o.

No worry I go give you gist later.

This is the anthem for the pickmes! If you can’t handle your own company in peace and need to be in a relationship then sure! But if you are happy within yourself then nothing short of peace could lead you to coupling up. Many people can’t stand being alone with themselves and spend their whole life looking for someone who can keep them distracted.

Her experience won't be mine in Jesus name... Amen!!!..
Akwaugo husband woke up and Said he doesn't want their marriage anymore, she cried, and left broken.The man moved on and remarried almost immediately..

She went to God in tears..
God gave her beauty for ASHES!!!
Ask CHIKE which of her wedding is sweeter..He sang in both weddings.
I come in peace..

seanwilliam:
Don’t listen to her.
Divorce your husband if he’s not satisfying you.
Don’t tolerate disrespect from any man. Better men are outside please don’t settle for less.
You deserve better.

Alakoba