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Host78:
you're lying.

Most of us today have witnessed monogamy than polygamy.

In fact, to many Nigerians today, polygamy is a myth. One they are continously taught that it's bad and bad for the children.

Most have not seen a man with more than one wife and most can easily tell you the disadvantages of polygamy and the advantages of monogamy because that's all they've been taught from childhood.

Polygamy is great and children all went to school.

My uncle was a primary school teacher with 3 wives and all went to school.

I know of others like that. There are some who had just one wife and the kids don't go to school.

If the man wants to train his children he will regardless of the number of wives.

There are disadvantages also but for the man the advantages are more just that it has been painted black by our schools and our minds have been poisoned against it right from primary school

idrismodel:
You are referring to kids that are yet to understand life.

Are you saying that kids from monogamy family do not have reason to complain

Even kids that are from monogamy family also experience some happenings that make them blame their presents situation.

The ultimate reality is that when kids grows into maturity and become adults, they will realise that most of the childhood experiences were necessary to shape them into what they will become in life

I am from a polygamy family and I am grateful for the reality that my polygamy background had made me to realised

EponObi:
He is saying this because he is mega rich, well exposed, and have abundant connection. He has too much wealth, more than enough to go round his wives and kids. No doubt, there will be rivalry, envy, and jealousy amongst the wives and kids, even if he denies it, but it will be limited.

His abundant wealth rubs off on his family. Everyone eats what they want, wear, drive whatever they want. They go on vacation anywhere they want, private jet lifestyle, la vida loca, etc. Everyone has their businesses, and enough political network of Ned to get whatever they want for themselves, their kids, and immediate family members. Take Regina for example, Ned's wealth rubbed off on her mother and brother. Her brother alone has enough wealth that 90% of young Nigerians can only dream of - simply because he's Regina's brother. Among the wives, it's a game of chop, make I chop. In fact, they don't live together. They all have their apartment and take turn to sleep with Ned in his own palace.

Compared to a middle or low class man, where his own resources is not even enough to take of himself alone. Now add 4 wives and dozens of kids like Ned has. Na die! Crazy scarcity mentality will reign terror in that family. Everyone is looking out for themselves. Everyone wants to cut the other one out with whatever means. Everyone - wives and kids - want the man alone for themselves because his resource is limited. Juju priest, Alfa, pastor - you name it - they will tour round to get something to turn away the man from the other wives and kids. The wives will use their feminine gifts to manipulate the man and their own kids. Resentment, envy, jealousy will reign supreme.

And majority of men today don't have the wisdom of the ancient men. Most are more feminine than they are masculine. They don't possess the ability and wealth to establish balance and fairness in their home. At the end, you have a broken home where the wives hate each other; the children become enemies for life.

If you think I'm saying rubbish, ask those who come from polygamous family, they will give you proper gist.

DiarisGodoo:
Just talk to kids from polygamous families. You'd change your mind

maasoap:
I'm a kid from a polygamous family, now a man and my experience was clearly different from yours if you were from one too.
Are you from polygamous family or just another opinion from brainwashed someone?

DiarisGodoo:
It doesn't take much thinking to see why a child in polygamy would hate it:
Because of polygamy, less money for you and your mother, less of your father's time for you and your mother. You can't help but envy those who have their dads and their dads' money and time all to themselves

Ifexibe:
If you know. You know. Polygamy is devastating in the long run.

DiarisGodoo:
How do you debate this my post below:
It doesn't take much thinking to see why a child in polygamy would hate it:
Because of polygamy, less money for you and your mother, less of your father's time for you and your mother. You can't help but envy those who have their dads and their dads' money and time all to themselves

maasoap:
Lol. You tried.
Some monogamous families have more children than polygamous families, I'm sure you don't know that or think it is impossible.
A polygamous family with 8 kids in total, three wives and one man. Compare it with a monogamous family with 9 kids, one wife and one husband. Which kids out of the two families down you think would fare better? The one with four adults providing for them or the one with two adults providing for them?
Besides, polygamy is now becoming a thing for only the rich or wealthy men where money to take care of the house is not an issue

Host78:
you're lying.

Most of us today have witnessed monogamy than polygamy.

In fact, to many Nigerians today, polygamy is a myth. One they are continously taught that it's bad and bad for the children.

Most have not seen a man with more than one wife and most can easily tell you the disadvantages of polygamy and the advantages of monogamy because that's all they've been taught from childhood.

Polygamy is great and children all went to school.

My uncle was a primary school teacher with 3 wives and all went to school.

I know of others like that. There are some who had just one wife and the kids don't go to school.

If the man wants to train his children he will regardless of the number of wives.

There are disadvantages also but for the man the advantages are more just that it has been painted black by our schools and our minds have been poisoned against it right from primary school

CoronaVirusPro:
Bitter and honest truth!

Men with one wife are the saddest, demoralized, lonely and isolated creatures on Earth.

If marriage vows were to be renewable, 99% of men won’t renew it. They will run for their dear life’s.

Pacyrus:
You're indirectly speaking my mind.

The situations am in since 15 years.

seunmsg:
An average man that wants peace of mind should not marry more than one woman at a time. It brings too much problems and a divided Family. Marry only one wife and play carefully with as many side chicks as you can afford with 💯 protection though. No outside children.

Finally, the conversation should still go back to marriage itself. Is it even necessary in the first place? Is it really beneficial to men whether it’s polygamy or monogamy?

whippersnapper:
my dad married 4 wife's but all of us went to the best schools. Sometimes it's all about balance and sacrifice.

Pacyrus:
You're indirectly speaking my mind.

The situations am in since 15 years.

ravensckar:
NED is talking nonsense!

I was born and raised in a polygamous home but I'll forever choose monogamy.

ravensckar:
NED is talking nonsense!

I was born and raised in a polygamous home but I'll forever choose monogamy.

Ifexibe:
If you know. You know. Polygamy is devastating in the long run.

idrismodel:
You are referring to kids that are yet to understand life.

Are you saying that kids from monogamy family do not have reason to complain

Even kids that are from monogamy family also experience some happenings that make them blame their presents situation.

The ultimate reality is that when kids grows into maturity and become adults, they will realise that most of the childhood experiences were necessary to shape them into what they will become in life

I am from a polygamy family and I am grateful for the reality that my polygamy background had made me to realised

Love800:
When your dad married the four(4) wives, were you all living inside the same house?

whippersnapper:
everybody gets him own house oh. You want make blood overflow everyday

MiddleDimension:
Oga, you are talking nonsense! There are countless number of people born into a polygamous home and their experience have been overwhelmingly positive!

That yours did not turn out right, does not mean countless other people's did not turn out right.

The whole arguement that a polygamous home did not have the best of experience therefore polygamy is bad, is the worst type of argument I have ever heard!

When you see a bad monogamous home, you don't go like ''monogamy is evil'', did you? So why the bias? Why the hypocricy? Why the hate against the most poly form of marriage humankind has ever concieved?

Comparing the worst polygamous home to the best mogamous home is the most dishonest, disingenous, frudulent and decietful thing ever to exist!

How about comparing the best polygamous home to the worst monogamous home?

And how are we to believe you when you say your experience of polygamy was shitty? Why should I not think, giving your bias against polygamy, that your conclusions are fair?

ravensckar:
Well, I guess you're guilty of what almost all of us are guilty of; impatience.

If you had read my subsequent response on the subject matter, you probably wouldn't have made this assumption.

Anyways, it's on this same thread. I hope you find it. But in summary, my experience of polygamy isn't shitty. You just assumed it was because I disagreed with NED.

Make una dey calm down sometimes.

MiddleDimension:
Ok, I am sorry about that. Its just that your response indicates to anyone who reads it that you are one of those people who speak about polygamy, a thing they know nothing about.

ravensckar:
Lolz.

It's all good Brother!

Trust me, I know a lot about polygamy. I was born and raised in it, hence, I know first hand what it entails. Whilst my experience wasn't bad in any way, I've seen those whose experience of it is terrible.

But in all, every man will still make his choice according to his convinction.

However, one thing I'll never agree with anyone on is that reckless saying that; "a man with only one wife is suffering". That one, I no go ever accept am.

CoronaVirusPro:
Bitter and honest truth!

Men with one wife are the saddest, demoralized, lonely and isolated creatures on Earth.

If marriage vows were to be renewable, 99% of men won’t renew it. They will run for their dear life’s.

MiddleDimension:
@DiarisGodoo, you said we should ask those from polygamous home to tell you, and now, you have heard it from one.

Do you want to hear it from another? Well, take it from yours truly!

Yours sincerely's experience has been the best and he could not have asked for something better! Children all educated, well balanced psycologically, emotionally etc. All siblins have each others back way more than you find even among the so-called monogamous homes!
You can also listen to the experience of the vast majority of those from polygamous homes whose experience is nothing but splendid!

I want you to answer this question: when you see people from monogamous homes who did not have he best experience, do you say that's the reason monogamy is bad? Why the double standard?

Guestmale:
With this number of likes and shares you got for this your comment,shows clearly many people especially men are passing through hell in their marriage and what could have responsible for this.

First, marriage built on faulty foundation of infatuation called love will not and can't last long.

Secondly,any man going into marriage because of outside beauty alone without inside beauty will later be disappointed and pissed off when she started showing her true colour.

Above all Christ is the sure foundation of most successful marriage, allow Christ into your life and family,He is the prince of peace and you will experience peace, love and joy in your family which no religion can give you.

DiarisGodoo:
Even those who grew up in clear dysfunction but succeeded will tell you the dysfunction was part of why they succeeded. So you can't go by that.

I can assure you NOBODY who grew up monogamous will tell you they wished pa had more wives!

But psychologists have thoroughly researched these things as you can see below