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| My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 1:15pm On Oct 29, 2025*. Modified: 7:14pm On Oct 30, 2025 |
Good afternoon everyone, hope we are all good? There's this my childhood friend that is in a problem but right now even me I am confused and I don't know what to do so I decided to bring it here so u people can advice him on what to do. Note, I am not here to beg for money for anyone so don't think anyone wants your money or wants to scam you, all I need is advice for him. We went to higher institution together n we have been friends for over 15 years, this my guy is the definition of hardworker...he has done many hustles you will never believe a graduate can do because he's the kind of person that isn't ashamed once money is involved. He was a teacher for good 3 years, it was when the 30k can't sustain him that he left to learn shoe making, after making shoes sales weren't coming so he started working at a paint sales company where they market paint in the market. It was there he was able to gather money for pos and gas retail business, after sometime he tried traveling and it didn't work and he lost money. We his friends came to his rescue and he got another shop but sales isn't moving, then he started agent work, after a while he got married because he's no longer getting young and hustle never pay. After marriage, things were harder than diamond that he applied and applied for job and nothing was forthcoming, he even applied for higher purchase bike and keke napep but them no give am. All these just to make you know he can do any work. His wife is working in a company n she resumes to a shop in d evening, this our guy decided to be going to the wife's shop so as not to be idle since work never come, believe you me this graduate guy was selling cups of rice, beans , garri, kulikuli n co and he wasn't ashamed. With time the shop rent was due and no money to pay so his wife friends abroad decided to open warehouse so the wife can be the manager, they opened it with over 3 million and since they needed logistics they bought a small car, my guy as an hustler didn't think twice he discussed with his wife that he will b d driver so as to ease house burden even with no pay and the wife agreed. My guy was seeing small change and he used all the money to apply for drivers license to do Uber since e-hailing won't take affidavit for drivers. Lo and behold, just last week my guy call me say car engine don knock and right now he's confused, though the company said they will fix it with time but this guy is just tired of life. It's been 10 years we graduated but this guy can't afford 5k in his account after all the hustle, right now I don settle quarrel tire because his wife believe he's d one bringing him misfortune. He's contemplating suicide now, I called him not quite long today and I sent my token to him but I am worried for my guy, he has fasted tire, right now he's too lean that I told him to stop fasting. He's just tired of life now and at home, please what should he do? Update - we went to price the engine of the car, lo n behold it was 750k. We were actually thinking it will b around 350k maybe we can contribute for him. Like seriously none of us said anything till I dropped him at d junction....like in d car while going back, even me couldn't turn on radio or anything Cc Emceecee Infogenius Ishilove Walklifeman Otipoju Lamani22 |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Joeboypondeck(m): 1:16pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:if your friend mother is still alive Tell him to visit her and make her happy His problem will be solved that's all |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 1:20pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Joeboypondeck:the mother self dey go church 247 on top d matter,I send him that token to enter transport to church and also carry mechanic to go price tokunbo engine for the car. The company is ready to pay but my guy no get transport fare for him n mechanic n him wife no gree give am 1kobo again. I just weak for him matter n na very hardworking guy, I could remember he was d one that went to work as a bricklayer when we were waiting for call up letter in 2015. Na very hardworking guy |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by fnep2smooth(m): 2:08pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Hope say your guy no dey take drugs. Because Na drug people (especially ice, wasi, heroin cocaine ) people fit dey act like this. We see people daily way dey misbehave. Wife go dey suffer but she no go know say husband Na drug addict or gambler. Check well |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Ishilove: 2:28pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
The man has spiritual problems. Serious ones |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 2:28pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
fnep2smooth:so na drugs make car engine knock? We are talking about a broke guy who him wife no dey give food n he's at home now thinking n u are talking about drugs. No b say I wan use am brag but na me send 5k to am to go church n make him n mechanic go price new engine. I think it's spiritual though, I can bet d guy no dey take drugs, where he wan even see money self |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Joeboypondeck(m): 2:31pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Ishilove:his mother is the one behind spiritual problems |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Joeboypondeck(m): 2:32pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:your friend offend his mother but she haven't forgive him that's why I'm saying the truth and fact here |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by otipoju(m): 2:43pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:Send this to him PRAYER 1.Place water in a bucket outside overnight on a Friday night and bring it on on a Saturday morning. 2.Add, salt, sugar and honey 3. Pray for washing away by the blood of Jesus of stagnancy, redundancy, monitoring spirits,evil hand, bitterness, obstacles and hindrances on your path. 4. Pray for progress, Divine breakthrough, elevation, uplifting, blessing, provision , favour. 5. Bathe with the water and let it dry on his skin without using any towel. 5. Do this for 7 separate Saturdays. Peace. Let us know the effects after 4 months. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 3:25pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
otipoju:God bless u These are d things I am talking about not money cos last year, na me give am 100k to start small POS n d money still finish cos he complained of low patronage which I testified to cos I go there on a weekend to see how things work. God bless u |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 3:26pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Joeboypondeck:same mother wey dey run helter skelter for am? Same mother wey dey send am 10k per month despite d fact that she's retired? Well nothing is impossible in this world |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Ishilove: 3:44pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Joeboypondeck:Why do you say that? |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by otipoju(m): 4:38pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:From the repeated patterns , there is definitely a metaphysical problem. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Lamanii22(f): 7:03pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
This is a spiritual problem, he needs prayers..... If he can go to ikeji arakeji to pray it'd be resolved. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by ReacherSaidNoth: 8:23pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Look at these dumbos talking spiritual problems . Your friend is a poor person living in a poor, misruled country. His story is similar to that of a multitude. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by DeltaBachelor(m): 8:24pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Oh boy ! This story should be a script for Nollywood. Only one person has suffered 100 people suffer. Na wa o |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by DeltaBachelor(m): 8:24pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
DeltaBachelor: |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Gotocourt: 10:10pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:He had no business with marriage in the first place, the woman is tired of hoping and encouraging him. My brother, you better hustle oOoOO |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Gotocourt: 10:17pm On Oct 29, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:Poor maintenance and his greed knock that engine 🤷🏿 |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Zico777(m): 1:17am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:You are a very good friend indeed! God will also meet you at the point of your needs. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by ArkofEnock: 1:28am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Imam Mahdi is here https://www.iponder.co Investigate the evidence this is a major test and blessing from Allah https://www.iponder.co/library |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by ibechris(m): 7:52am On Oct 30, 2025*. Modified: 9:38am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Your friend needs to take inventory of his life and start all-over again. His problem started the day he added a wife unto his already existing problem...u can't be in a ditch and still continue to slide in by carrying more loads. However,what ur friend is facing is typical of what many uncountable graduates are facing while some are even more grievous especially if u have no helper and hence, many resorting to life of crime and burglary. Tell ur friend to relocate and find his niche...what he is doing might be unfavorable for him because of the environment he found himself while at the same time,could be favourable else where. Lastly,tell him to apply perator principles in all he does else he would be working like jacky and eating like ants. Good luck to u all. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Baronthecelebri(m): 8:06am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Tell him to give his life to Christ, and learn how to play instruments in the church and God will see him true. He should serve God well. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Factcheck0001(op): 8:45am On Oct 30, 2025 |
ibechris:sorry please explain perator principle because I am just hearing it the first time |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by ChybuzzDD(m): 8:53am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Ishilove:There are no such things as spiritual problems That's just one of those African myths that are rooted in superstition and ignorance. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Nobody: 9:26am On Oct 30, 2025*. Modified: 3:47pm On Oct 31, 2025 |
Have you considered it's simply a function of his mindset and beliefs? otipoju: |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Nobody: 9:28am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Pareto principle: the Pareto Principle is the observation (not law) that most things in life are not distributed evenly. It can mean all of the following things: - 20% of the input creates 80% of the result. - 20% of the workers produce 80% of the result. - 20% of the customers create 80% of the revenue Factcheck0001: |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by ibechris(m): 9:36am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:Let him look for ideas and business that requires little efforts such 20% inputs and 80% profits. That is,application of less efforts and good returns. I don't believe in this,he works hard mentality. That is simply old school. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Immatex(m): 9:48am On Oct 30, 2025 |
There’s nothing wrong with your friend but poor planning and execution of plans. Your friend has always being in a hurry, and over ambitious. He didn’t let time and patience mould him into a capable man which is why he jumps into any seemingly promising opportunity without first building from bottom up. If he had stocked to one thing, patiently but diligently done that for 5 years, he would have past this stage. If he had perhaps learnt a trade or skill, if he had sort help with customising his CV for each job search and not randomly using same CV for every application, he might have landed a job. If he had asked friends like you for referral to a vacancy, perhaps someone would have given him a job. He could have even volunteered to work for free in any job he needed experience on to better his employment prospects. Obviously he ventured into things he had little or no experience and guidance on, burning his fingers and loosing both time and money. Even so, all hope is not lost if he has character and not ashamed to start anew but now with experience. He should keep a low head, stay humble, stay honest, never maltreat his wife, don’t venture into illegalities, go slow but steady and between 12-24 months he can be on the path of recovery. It might not be a miracle but with prayer and working towards his prayers, he will overcome. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Walklifeman: 10:31am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Immatex:The bolded is the answer to his problems. He has tried too many things without letting time give him the best from life. Choose a path, remain on that path for life and have faith that the Lord will change his story. There's no other way. Remember, the only way out is through. The person should learn patience with one skill. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by Ishilove: 10:46am On Oct 30, 2025 |
ChybuzzDD:Lol. I hear ya. You're gonna learn, and you're gonna learn the hard way. |
| Re: My Friends Ordeal!!!! Help. by infogenius(m): 10:47am On Oct 30, 2025 |
Factcheck0001:To be honest, what I see here is a man who has been busy, not necessarily productive. Your friend sounds like a jack of all trades jumping from one hustle to another like a blind horse. Yes, he’s hardworking, no doubt. But sometimes, too many scattered efforts can waste the same years that consistency would have turned into mastery. If he had picked one of those trades say shoemaking, POS, or even agent work and stayed long enough to grow skill, reputation, and structure, favour would have met him there. It’s not every time that life needs a new hustle; sometimes what we need is focus and depth. He should calm down, stop chasing everything, and rebuild from one thing he truly understands. God blesses consistency and not confusion |
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. Your friend is a poor person living in a poor, misruled country. His story is similar to that of a multitude.