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Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

Kobojunkie:
Does the man in question directly threaten you or your wife? Does his sending money to her parents somehow threaten your ability to relate to them or send them gifts? What exactly is the problem here? Let us know!

Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

Ezini:
✓ How am I supposed to know It’s just not right and does not sit well with OP a reason for his outcry

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.

Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.

LordReed:
➜Unless he is in direct contact and remained friendly with them then it is weird but I feel your discomfort. However if your wife is not willing to listen to you when you say you are not comfortable then there are issues o!
Talk to your wife and express exactly what makes you uncomfortable with the situation. Hopefully she'll listen and do something about it.

budaatum:
They could collect from their ex-son in law and not tell their current son in law, if they did not have a motive.

Kobojunkie:
1. They didn't set any such boundary, as is apparent from OP's reveal.

2. Did OP state that his wife does not respect him? Why assume disrespect when OP clearly did not state that he was disrespected by his wife in any of this?

LordReed:
Unless he is in direct contact and remained friendly with them then it is weird but I feel your discomfort. However if your wife is not willing to listen to you when you say you are not comfortable then there are issues o!

Talk to your wife and express exactly what makes you uncomfortable with the situation. Hopefully she'll listen and do something about it.

Kobojunkie:
He may have feelings for your wife, so what? He has a wife of his own, and your wife is married to you. Are you looking to create the opportunity for him to get at your wife then?

2. You are not making any sense. Are her parents trying to take her from you and then give her to him instead? Is that what you reason they could be doing by their actions and friendship with the man?

emmabest2000:
By not hiding it proved that they have no motive or so I think,

Kalulu44:
Sometimes do you re-read what you normally post. You're always off point supporting bunkum

DeepSight:
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It has been obvious to me for years that he/ she is not sane.

Fgo31:
.➜ What is disrespect if I may ask?
➜ Must they shit on his face or make a mockery of him in his presence before they disrespect him.
➜ Wait until you find yourself in that situation before you understand.
➜ If the gift or pleasantly is a one-off thing, it is normal. But the moment it becomes regular, it's abnormal. If the op ex spouse heard about it, will she also be comfortable?
➜ Let stop normalising what is wrong. They are past, it should be past. He can offer a help but there should be a limitation to it.

stanvesco:
The painful thing is that it's not like this man is more hardworking than you are oh....na currency difference dey cause this disrespect!


ITS WRONG FOR THEM TO STILL BE COLLECTINF MONEY! THE MAN IS GROOMING YOUR WIFE AND HER RELATIVES!


I swear e no get how he wouldn't have sex with her anytime he lands Naija

Kobojunkie:
Do something like?

Kalulu44:
Thank you for telling me the truth about yourself

LordReed:
➜ Talk to her people to stop being loud mouths and bringing up their friendship with her ex. Tell her ex to cool it with the gifts. Any number of other solutions.