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grandstar:
➜Yes, it's not the same. There has been no bonding by the wife to the child of any kind
➜ On the other hand, there's been deep bonding by the man to the kids. So much emotional invested has been made that the children look up to him as "daddy."

This is not true. A child born outside of a marriage to just the man has literally no emotional or psychological bond with the woman in the marriage. However, a child born in the marriage, even if not from the man, grows up forming emotional and psychological bonds with both the man and woman in the marriage. The two situations are completely different.

2. That is only if the man had regular visitations with said child outside of the marriage.

To all the men saying that they won't cut off the kid and blah blah blah, shouldn't you kick out a woman guilty of paternity fraud? Would you forgive her and take care of the child under your roof, or send child support if you have the balls to kick her out the home? Thank God for science and new generation technology o! Paternity fraud should be as old as marriage itself. Many women must have gotten away with it and deceived their husbands for thousands of years.

Lost generation of men.
Why would a man sleep with another man's wife to start with?
Useless and shameless men who do this are here blaming women. I am not justifying women who commit paternity fraud, I am saying that both men and women should be held culpable for paternity crime.

On another note, DNA test laboratories are promoting DNA test so as to milk stupid men dry, and many more test labs will start springing up.

Manny21:
If I discovered that my child is not mine. I will just jejely keep quiet and pour more love on the child. Who abandons years of emotional investment

Pour more love on the child till the father shows up to permanently relieve you of the child.

Ethantaylor555:
That’s a really sensitive topic. 💔 While paternity fraud is absolutely wrong, abandoning an innocent child doesn’t solve anything the child didn’t ask to be in that situation. The real issue is accountability and justice for the deception, not punishing the kid.

Men deserve legal protection in such cases, but children deserve care and love no matter how they came into the world. Both sides need fairness and empathy here. 🙏

But he isn't taking the child away from the mother, hope she can provide care and love the child deserves, alone. The child's just the product of evil deed melted out to him, even staying for longer times in the relationship won't change anything.

Chilipepper:
Lawyer addresses men who abandon children who are products of paternity fraud.

You're seeking for comment, ok
Comment!

If I come to discover that the man that I have known all my life is not my real father based on a DNA test, I will never stop loving him as a father and switch to the new discovered father. He will be my father forever, leave the biological discovery to those that needs it. I believe this is exactly how children who discovered that their know father is not their biological father feel. Fatherhood is not a noun it's a verb, he that stands as a father for me throughout my childhood is my father, Also he that knows me as his father from birth to the age of realisation will be my child forever. Life is too short for all these biological nonsense. I am a man ooo for those that want to bash me

bokoarerams:
✓ If I come to discover that the man that I have known all my life is not my real father based in a DNA test, I will never stop loving him as a father and switch to the new discovered father. He will be my father forever, leave the biological discovery to those that needs it. I believe this is exactly how children who discovered that their know us no not their biological father
feel. Fatherhood is not a noun it's a verb, he that stands as a father for me is my father, Also he that knows me as his father for birth to the age of realisation will be my child forever. Life is too short for all these biological nonsense. I am a man ooo for those that want to bash me

You will hold him as a father even if he was nothing but a cruel father to you before the discovery? 🥱🥱🥱

[even if he is a cruel father, he will not stop being my father, my subconscious mind knows him as my father and I will address his cruelty the way I will address it if he was my biological father. what you don't know is that whenever you dream of your father, the new father will never be in that dream cos your subconscious mind can never register him as your father, it's the one you grow up knowing that will appear to you in your dream as a father, so to nature, that's your real father quote author=Kobojunkie post=137312186] You will hold him as a father even if he was nothing but a cruel father to you before the discovery? 🥱🥱🥱[/quote]

bokoarerams:
[even if he is a cruel father, he will not stop being my father, my subconscious mind knows him as my father and I will address his cruelty the way I will address it if he was my biological father. what you don't know is that whenever you dream of your father, the new father will never be in that dream cos your subconscious mind can never register him as your father, it's the one you grow up knowing that will appear to you in your dream as a father, so to nature, that's your real father

I wouldn't know since I have no dreams of a father or my father.

We create a society where dishonesty is the order of the day allowing men to have multiple partners but expecting the women to be monogamous until we structure our society for honesty paternity fraud will continue.

Polygamous home with a believe system that the woman is robotic and only has the urge when it’s her turn or when the man says oya when actuality the woman might have a sexual energy more than the man such that something way no belleful is being shared is a recipe for disaster kwo.

My dear we all dream, till today whenever I dream of being at home it's always the house I grew up in not the present house i live in. Same with when I dream about my parents. It's always the once I knew from birth. A mother's niss doing should never be vented on the child

bokoarerams:
My dear we all dream, till today whenever I dream of being at home it's always the house I grew up in not the present house i live in. Same with when I dream about my parents. It's always the once I knew from birth. A mother's niss doing should never be vented on the child

That may be your dreams but not mine. I don't dream of parents or fathers. So, your claim does not apply to me, and I believe to many others out there.

Chilipepper:
Lawyer addresses men who abandon children who are products of paternity fraud.

One of the products of Nigerian version of feminism.

Atleast you have to meet and talk to the biofather before your go further. Set things on reality grounds with him before your decision to keep the kid, because the kid ain't yours only to decide on anymore after the information about the paternity fraud.

DoctorAyukebot:
She has got a valid point though. I dont think I will throw away a kid based on a DNA results. I definitely would be disappointed beyond measure but cutting off the kid ain't justice

Don't put words in his/er mouth. That piece is contextually about the caring father.

Kobojunkie:
You will hold him as a father even if he was nothing but a cruel father to you before the discovery? 🥱🥱🥱

This one dey okay at all. Charge and bail lawyer

But she is right. That is one thing I cannot do.

I don't know that they are learning in law school because law school will not teach this kind of thing. Always on the leward side of the truth. She forgot to mention the disappointment, distrust and Truman the poor man will be after helping a dishonest and promiscuous woman to rail her child fathered by an irresponsible secrete lover who doesn't understand that there are boundaries to opposite sex friendship, especially when they are married.

We wey we no go law school sef go don tell the madam sey you Bleep up big time ooo.

Or you think anytime the poor man sees the girl, he won't remember the sins of the mother. Most times men leave their home to to make sure that they are all live fine.

So madam , don't bring any sentiment and emotional in nonsense here , what we should be discovered is how to send the woman to correctional centers for opening her legs while under a man's roof. Get some shame and let me live in peace.

gabbytabby:
We create a society where dishonesty is the order of the day allowing men to have multiple partners but expecting the women to be monogamous until we structure our society for honesty paternity fraud will continue.

Polygamous home with a believe system that the woman is robotic and only has the urge when it’s her turn or when the man says oya when actuality the woman might have a sexual energy more than the man such that something way no belleful is being shared is a recipe for disaster kwo.

When men father children outside their marriage, do they force the children on their wives to take responsibilities of them ? No

https://www.nairaland.com/8551109/after-19yrs-dad-discovered-wasnt his son.

Another of such problem that will crested by infidelity, promiscuity and adultery by women.
If you can open your legs wide for one alien and get pregnant for him. Return the children back when the secrete is out.

[quote author=bokoarerams post=137312181]If I come to discover that the man that I have known all my life is not my real father based on a DNA test, I will never stop loving him as a father and switch to the new discovered father. He will be my father forever, leave the biological discovery to those that needs it. I believe this is exactly how children who discovered that their know father is not their biological father feel. Fatherhood is not a noun it's a verb, he that stands as a father for me throughout my childhood is my father, Also he that knows me as his father from birth to the age of realisation will be my child forever. Life is too short for all these biological nonsense. I am a man ooo for those that want to bash me.

This is wisdom. This is how I see it too. As a being, the man that donated the sperm that formed me has no effect on my existence, and same is true with the children that would be formed from my sperm. Nature doesn't care about who did what, it just want to perpetuate the human species.

Having said that, being a sperm donor does not make you a father. What makes you a father is your willingness to include another being as part of yourself; loving, caring for and nurturing him/her.

I do not support paternity fraud in anyway, but she is actually making sense, the woman should be made to bear the cross alone and not the innocent child.

lol. aaaah this is blackmail of the highest order. Emotional blackmail oo imagine the narrative she is trying to push, in a nutshell all she is saying is if your wife birth another mans child you should just close mouth forget the matter and continue with the child. men done suffer

Chilipepper:
Lawyer addresses men who abandon children who are products of paternity fraud.

I just knew it will be a female lawyer that will say this
Gots to defend the gender

This message would've been stronger if it was well delivered and also coming from a man. A woman's perspective on this is considered bias by most men. And her delivery lack reasoning and empathy to the men who fell victim of such crime.
Personally I do believe the scenario and context also matters a lot before a man can decide to stick around for the child sake or not.

The real father and mother can provide emotional support and care for the child.

Women will support rubbish until their own brother becomes a victim then their view changes

We pray for her brothers to father someone else children so she can tell them to grow up

Well, we know she is chasing clout for Elon's money

[quote author=Thephilosopher1 post=137313234][/quote]would you have said this if your real biological father is Otedola?

98% of children will switch to their real biological father if he is more stable and richer

ayoncox:
Madam let me drop an horrible story for you I got to know about. A male horse was waiting patiently for a female horse to give birth, obviously they are partners. She gave birth only for the male to notice that he wasn't the father, he matched the baby horse to death. That's animal oh, how much more humans. it's very traumatic for man to know

Your story is not complete. Go back to do more research on it.