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In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

Sound like you're dealing with a drama queen

She probably just needs some reassurance. My take is, let her have her moment sometimes, but don't let fights drag on past the next day. When she's calm, have a chat and break it down for her.

Relationships hit a rough patch where fights are common - it's like a test phase. Lots of couples don't make it through, but if you both can work things out, you'll likely come out stronger with more understanding. She's got feelings for you, she's just needing that assurance. Don't let anyone push you to break up just yet.

P.s., Apparently last-borns and only children often exhibit these traits - might just be a phase. Hang in there, work through it, and things might smooth out.
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See mgbofiri wey see manchi wey dey show her love,Abobi,run her street, she go wake up,all this soft touch with barnis na old format,use that 15k rubbers buy Igbo and shayoo calm ya sef down,Wata Bam Bam

Lol 😂
She's pained, rightly so. Women😂

First off, take your relationship off social media.

Apologize. Reasonable women would appreciate your care more than your money. Show her that you appreciate her.

She's a Christian and I believe you are too. Don't mind folks who will tell you to "be a man and show her who's boss". Love her like Christ loves the church. And she should honor you too.

Just apologize, my man. And reassure her. And don't do it again.

She's your fiance and you are already living together and committing fornication.
Marriage is honourable and the bed undefied.
Repent therefore and be ye converted for Jesus Christ is coming very soon.

IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

If you believer she's worth it, make your relationship work. That is, if you truly belief she's worth it oooo.

There are less and less wife material out there!

So have she sent your money back to you?

If she sends the money back to you, then she's quite serious, if not, pls...

You have a demanding job she knows so what is the fuss about.

If you keep giving her leverage them go walk on your head ooo.

You need to put your foot down it's either she understand now or you'd pay for it not only now but in the future.

What is a demanding job sef just asking?

Sonnobax15:

So have she sent your money back to you?

Thank you Bro, na waytin I wan ask.
Who get time for all this drama, wen actual marriage never start, make them pack well.

Happy New month Bro
A progressive month for us all.

You need to thank your stars and RUN!

You CANNOT rely on an ADULT who cannot plan her own movement for ONE day to PLAN YOUR FUTURE together.

She thinks you were sleeping when she's NOT safe.
YET she put herself in that situation where she wasn't safe with her full chest.

You tried to get her a cab.
You SENT her money to get a cab.
You proferred a TANGIBLE solution to her own FAILURE to get a cab by suggesting she takes a short trip to a different location.

You did MORE THAN ENOUGH!

The fact that she expects you to be panicking, pacing up and down and BLASTING her phone with calls until she steps foot into the door is MADNESS!

If you wanted to stay AWAKE that long, you'd have followed her to the SCAM CRUSADE.

This girl is IRRATIONAL.
STAY AWAY from her like she commanded you.

DON'T call.
DON'T text.
DON'T beg.

She's DEAD to you now.

Finally, I guarantee you there is a new SUITOR on the horizon.
She believes she can do BETTER than you.
LET her.

In the next 3 years, she'll join her mates wearing wedding gowns to do Hallelujah Challenge.

You only slept.
You didn't go to a beer parlour or night club.

The fact that she just BLEW UP on you, ridiculed your capability to be a husband and a father and IMMEDIATELY demanded that you stay away from her is a GIANT RED FLAG.

She was looking for an excuse to end the relationship.
She got it.

LET HER BE!

Now, many of her friends and family and even yours will ask you to explain why the relationship ended, DON'T!

You'll sound DEFENSIVE.
And guilty.

Just tell them to ask the person who ended it.
She'll lie and EXAGGERATE.

Correct them when they repeat her lies and exaggerations to you.

Meantime, download Tinder and book yourself a fine hookup girl to cure your ONEITIS.

I can bet zonefree 's balls she would never send that 15k back...

She demanded you stay away from her, please adhere to that instruction.

Don't allow anything that is not money to stress you this Tinubu regime.

marsup:
If she sends the money back to you, then she's quite serious, if not, pls...

To send the money back to him is nothing. Women do that a lot. It's one of their manipulative tools.

The OP should pretend he didn't see any alert or messages. Ignore and avoid her and watch her crawling back to apologize.
No man has ever attain greatness with a girl like that.


Men should learn to stop patronising foolish girls!

Please what is her name

If it was me. I won’t reply nor apologise. Don’t start what you won’t finish. Anytime she does this again and she will. You will be expected to apologise and beg despite doing your best.

This looks like a manipulative queen.I will suggest you be your self and if she comes back letter just let her know your peace of mind matters most.she should be responsible for her decisions not shifting it on you

So una no suppose sleep because of relationship??

I’ve been there with a drama queen too and it did not end well…

OBTOREPA:
She's your fiance and you are already living together and committing fornication.
Marriage is honourable and the bed undefied.
Repent therefore and be ye converted for Jesus Christ is coming very soon.

We don't live together please

Sonnobax15:

So have she sent your money back to you?

She actually did. Imagine

Namaster:
You need to thank your stars and RUN!

You CANNOT rely on an ADULT who cannot plan her own movement for ONE day to PLAN YOUR FUTURE together.

She thinks you were sleeping when she's NOT safe.
YET she put herself in that situation where she wasn't safe with her full chest.

You tried to get her a cab.
You SENT her money to get a cab.
You proferred a TANGIBLE solution to her own FAILURE to get a cab by suggesting she takes a short trip to a different location.

You did MORE THAN ENOUGH!

The fact that she expects you to be panicking, pacing up and down and BLASTING her phone with calls until she steps foot into the door is MADNESS!

If you wanted to stay AWAKE that long, you'd have followed her to the SCAM CRUSADE.

This girl is IRRATIONAL.
STAY AWAY from her like she commanded you.

DON'T call.
DON'T text.
DON'T beg.

She's DEAD to you now.

Finally, I guarantee you there is a new SUITOR on the horizon.
She believes she can do BETTER than you.
LET her.

In the next 3 years, she'll join her mates wearing wedding gowns to do Hallelujah Challenge.

You only slept.
You didn't go to a beer parlour or night club.

The fact that she just BLEW UP on you, ridiculed your capability to be a husband and a father and IMMEDIATELY demanded that you stay away from her is a GIANT RED FLAG.

She was looking for an excuse to end the relationship.
She got it.

LET HER BE!

Now, many of her friends and family and even yours will ask you to explain why the relationship ended, DON'T!

You'll sound DEFENSIVE.
And guilty.

Just tell them to ask the person who ended it.
She'll lie and EXAGGERATE.

Correct them when they repeat her lies and exaggerations to you.

Meantime, download Tinder and book yourself a fine hookup girl to cure your ONEITIS.

Thank you

Namaster:
You need to thank your stars and RUN!

She thinks you were sleeping when she's NOT safe.
YET she put herself in that situation where she wasn't safe with her full chest.

You tried to get her a cab.
You SENT her money to get a cab.
You proferred a TANGIBLE solution to her own FAILURE to get a cab by suggesting she takes a short trip to a different location.

You did MORE THAN ENOUGH!

The fact that she expects you to be panicking, pacing up and down and BLASTING her phone with calls until she steps foot into the door is MADNESS!

If you wanted to stay AWAKE that long, you'd have followed her to the SCAM CRUSADE.

This girl is IRRATIONAL.
STAY AWAY from her like she commanded you.

DON'T call.
DON'T text.
DON'T beg.

She's DEAD to you now.

Finally, I guarantee you there is a new SUITOR on the horizon.
She believes she can do BETTER than you.
LET her.

In the next 3 years, she'll join her mates wearing wedding gowns to do Hallelujah Challenge.

You only slept.
You didn't go to a beer parlour or night club.

The fact that she just BLEW UP on you, ridiculed your capability to be a husband and a father and IMMEDIATELY demanded that you stay away from her is a GIANT RED FLAG.

She was looking for an excuse to end the relationship.
She got it.

LET HER BE!

Now, many of her friends and family and even yours will ask you to explain why the relationship ended, DON'T!

You'll sound DEFENSIVE.
And guilty.

Just tell them to ask the person who ended it.
She'll lie and EXAGGERATE.

Correct them when they repeat her lies and exaggerations to you.

Meantime, download Tinder and book yourself a fine hookup girl to cure your ONEITIS.

Nice. But if we keep breaking up because of one mistake or one argument without communication, Do you think we’ll have a stable dating environment?

What’s the purpose of relationship if every little mistake is met with “break up”?

I think with the way we’re going it will be really hard for men to manage any family setting.
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IsiahRashad:
She actually did. Imagine

. Good . Now,hold that money,enter market, buy cat fish,and yam.....Carry am go house go use am take arrange pepper soup make you take chill..

IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

You already did your best. You cant do more than this. If she says stay away, they you stay away. Cos if you start collecting insults now over little things, marriage own go worse. You dating a self entitled lady and its not OK. Ask your self, if you were in her shoes, would she do same for you?

PlasmaTV:
Lol 😂
She's pained, rightly so. Women😂

First off, take your relationship off social media.

Apologize. Reasonable women would appreciate your care more than your money. Show her that you appreciate her.

She's a Christian and I believe you are too. Don't mind folks who will tell you to "be a man and show her who's boss". Love her like Christ loves the church. And she should honor you too.

Just apologize, my man. And reassure her. And don't do it again.

My bible tells me in Proverbs 12:15 - The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

My point is, stop disgracing yourself.

@OP

You've done enough already. When she's tired of being unreasonable, she'll come back to you. I hope she'll do that in a reasonable time before she's replaced.

My bible says in Proverbs 31:3 - Do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings.

Do not respond to her, nor call her in a couple of days.

Qualityoffer:
My bible tells me in Proverbs 12:15 - The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

My point is, stop disgracing yourself.

I don't get the correlation, please..

See my bro my advise to you like someone said is check and compare look through if she is WORTH IT. You need to be authoritative in suitations like this be 2 step foward. Women wet for men who are decisive authoritative and yet loving. This woman knows she is better than you. Hence the insult. Just check if she is worth it. My advise to you. Watch the lives of lions and lioness and see how they live

This girls doesn't treat you with respect.

Are you a the bolt driver or a security guard that you have to stay awake?

You have already sent her N15k - which I assume is more than generous to cover her fare.

You must have set the precedent of folding and begging in the past for her to go this far.

This is a good opportunity for you to regain power in your relationship, or to end one where you no longer wear the pants.

Call her bluff.

Bro, at the end of the day, na still your baby.

Pet her, tell her sweet stuffs...

You too, play this kain film for her. One day call her up, tell her you stranded blah blah and watch...

Does she work or has she ever done anything that is really stressful? I’m just wondering because if she has, she should know that sometimes when a person is tired, they can fall asleep without intending to. On a second thought, it’s something that happens to others around us - like someone falling asleep in a bus or car before getting to their destination so, what’s the fuss about?

@op, let her be (as she requested), she has some unrealistic expectations about relationships. If she values and appreciates you and your efforts, she won’t be breaking up over something as unreasonable as this.