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My wife has been disturbing me for our child dedication, we have done the first one for our first child but the second child, I don't feel nor see any need to go specially for child dedication. I feel Sometimes people dedicate a child just because everyone else does it.

I don't need unnecessary attention now.

Any opinion in here?

Austine567:
My wife has been disturbing me for our child dedication, we have done the first one for our first child but the second child, I don't feel nor see any need to go specially for child dedication. I feel Sometimes people dedicate a child just because everyone else does it.

I don't need unnecessary attention now.

Any opinion in here?

You said it all, it's this generation that starts all these from dedication to baby shower before wedding and asho-ebi, at the end the celebrant would spend a lot of money

Well, if you can just do it minimally.

I also feel people do it because everyone else does it...

If you are not up to it then don't do it. But you may also consider what madam wants since it isn't your decision alone to make.

But to me I feel it's so much ado about nothing. I also hate unnecessary attention especially with the present economic realities.

Don't let society pressure you!

If you feel like doing it, go ahead. As long as it isn’t a sin, there’s no issue—but please, cut your coat according to your cloth, don't go broke to impress anyone. A simple prayer at home with a crate of Coke and biscuits is enough. Anyone who isn't satisfied is free to go home and slaughter a cow for themselves. You can also call two or three family members as witnesses.

[quote author=SpencerForbes post=137540453]If you feel like doing it, go ahead. As long as it isn’t a sin, there’s no issue—but please, cut your coat according to your cloth, don't go broke to impress anyone. A simple prayer at home with a crate of Coke and biscuits is enough. Anyone who isn't satisfied is free to go home and slaughter a cow for themselves. You can also call two or three family members as witnesses. [/


I don't even want to do it this way either,

[quote author=Austine567 post=137540671][/quote]If you say no, stand your ground. Don’t let emotional tactics sway you. A man must lead, or else manipulation becomes the norm in the marriage. You can explain your reasons, but don't compromise just to please her. If you allow manipulation today, it becomes a pattern tomorrow.

If she insists on the party, tell her to go ahead—on her own bill. She’s the mother; she can host it while you attend as a guest.

It isn't necessary (though I love seeing them done during Mass).

Tell your wife pockets are dry now, so can you meet the Revd Fr/ Pastor to go to his office and bless the child, maybe accompanied by Grandparents or Godparents or a few relatives. Then have a simple meal at home later.

I didn't dedicate any of my kids, just baptised them.

Austine567:
My wife has been disturbing me for our child dedication, we have done the first one for our first child but the second child, I don't feel nor see any need to go specially for child dedication. I feel Sometimes people dedicate a child just because everyone else does it.

I don't need unnecessary attention now.

Any opinion in here?

If you don't understand the significance of dedicating your child to GOD, then what is the point? Especially as the head of your home.

Christian women should endeavor to choose men that they align with in faith to bear children with.
It is very important.

Mariangeles:
If you don't understand the significance of dedicating your child to GOD, then what is the point? Especially as the head of your home.

Christian women should endeavor to choose men that they align with in faith to bear children with.
It is very important.

I understand the importance more than you think, but I still didn't want do it

Austine567:
My wife has been disturbing me for our child dedication, we have done the first one for our first child but the second child, I don't feel nor see any need to go specially for child dedication. I feel Sometimes people dedicate a child just because everyone else does it.

I don't need unnecessary attention now.

Any opinion in here?

Na waooo, your wife went into labour and delivered successfully mother and child are ok and you don't want to dedicate that child to God

Incase you don't know the child and you all already belongs to God

So do the dedication it's part of a child's growing life

frozen70:
Na waooo, your wife went into labour and delivered successfully mother and child are ok and you don't want to dedicate that child to God

Incase you don't know the child and you all already belongs to God

So do the dedication it's part of a child's growing life

You already said the child belongs to God...


You can dedicate the child to God without the ceremony. I think what the op is referring to is the ceremony/party of dedication and not the dedication itself.

A pastor can pray on the child and that's dedication.

You can be in your room and dedicate your child and family. Its the whole festivities, party and ceremony about it that the op ( or at least speaking for myself) is referring to.


Why would anyone not want to dedicate their family to their God?

Its just the whole ceremony of it that is not necessarily!

brain54:
You already said the child belongs to God...


You can dedicate the child to God without the ceremony. I think what the op is referring to is the ceremony/party of dedication and not the dedication itself.

A pastor can pray on the child and that's dedication.

You can be in your room and dedicate your child and family. Its the whole festivities, party and ceremony about it that the op ( or at least speaking for myself) is referring to.


Why would anyone not want to dedicate their family to their God?

Its just the whole ceremony of it that is not necessarily!

If the party aspect is the problem, then who are they trying to impress, book your child for service any Sunday of your choice and let the child be welcomed and blessed at the altar, after service go home and thank God for it

frozen70:
If the party aspect is the problem, then who are they trying to impress, book your child for service any Sunday of your choice and let the child be welcomed and blessed at the altar, after service go home and thanks God for it

If this is the case then I don't think it should be a problem for the op...

Or anybody else!

Mariangeles:
If you don't understand the significance of dedicating your child to GOD, then what is the point? Especially as the head of your home.

Christian women should endeavor to choose men that they align with in faith to bear children with.
It is very important.

Dedication has been done during naming ceremony, case close