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I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Learn the rudiments of womanhood and start to pattern your life around it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't keep company with loose girls changing boyfriends life undies.

Be a strong woman as much as you can but understand that your vulnerability as a woman is part of your strength.

Pray, plan, prepare to marry right. That's the most important thing for your life.

Be spiritual, be born again but don't be religiously foolish.

Your greatest investment is in your kind of spirit and character. Get the right spirit and let your character be noble.

Get all the certificates you can get in your teens and early 20s because when you get married in your late 20s or early 30s, you can't subject yourself to too much school stress.

Do not get so relaxed after Marriage, still do that which you love doing, and follow up with your life plan.
Keep developing yourself, never rely totally on your husband for everything, build your own riches, a good man will love it when he isn't carrying all the financial burden of the family alone.

We go wait tire. See men have already taken the initiative. If you want female opinions, head to Instagram.

Don’t do hookup

Everything is not social media …

Above all! Learn how to talk to ppl especially that man you love

Be independent and be faithful

They say women give terrible advise to each other.

Kobojunkie:
➜ You were probably raised by your parents and maybe even society, tradition, and religion to center your life around men and their ideas about women, a brainwashing to have you believe that your life amounts to nothing with validation from men and religion. (They all lied to you so that they could use you — manipulate you — to their own benefit, not yours.) You need to begin your deprogramming at this point, where you remove from your mind all that you have ever been taught— decenter men and decenter tradition & religion — and begin centering yourself and your self-love in the place of it all.

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➜ There are no badges of honor out there for good girls; as a matter of fact, bad girls end up at the top while the majority of the good girls end up abandoned and eating sheet no matter how many men they try to please(their father's included). Don't be a good girl. Rather, be the girl who has her best interest at heart, no matter the situation or condition.

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➜ Above everything in this life, always choose yourself first—center yourself!

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➜ You need to learn to accept and love yourself, flaws and all, and no longer see your singlehood as some sort of placeholder for marriage. Nature had you born without a dick stuck inside of your vagina as the optimal state of your being. That state remains the optimal state of your being throughout your entire life. If you later decide to choose the option that is marriage and childbearing, know them for what they are... additional burdens —responsibilities —you(with your own hands) place on your life, and not necessarily requirements.

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➜ Do not get married until after your late 20s/early 30s.
⟹ You were born with all of the eggs you will ever need in the life from your mother's womb, and the DNA of those eggs remained biologically intact until you reach menopause in your 50s, so don't let anyone deceive you into thinking time is against you in your 20s. over 95% of birth problems are the result of men, not women.
⟹ Your thinking brain does not fully develop until well into your late 20s and early 30s. This means the chances are tremendously high that any decision you make, particularly regarding your relationship partners in your teens and 20s, you are likely to regret by the time you reach your 30s. So, wait to make any serious relationship decisions until after your brain is fully developed to the point that you are very much self-aware.

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➜ Before you get married(if you choose to get married), make sure the following:
⟹ Do not get married to any partner unwilling to sign a prenuptial/postnuptial agreement guaranteeing you payment of a percentage of the marital communal wealth as your share from the dividends of the marriage each month. No matter how much a man claims to love you or love bombs you during the dating phase, nothing stops him from financially abusing you immediately after you say your "I do's" to him. And under no circumstances should you excuse him for not paying you this percentage every month throughout the marriage.
⟹ Alternatively, particularly if you plan to be a stay-at-home wife for a period of time, meaning you will not be getting any salary from external sources, sign a prenuptial/postnuptual agreement with your future partner requiring that you be paid at least half of the market cost for the work you will be doing in the home during all of that time — cooking, cleaning, babysitting the children, nursing babies, laundry, emotional regulation/counseling of children and spouse, home finances, running of errands, event organization, carrying the babies during the pregnancy, etc. These are all jobs that ordinarily people would be adequately remunerated for. A wife should be remunerated for her contribution of these services to the family company, too.
⟹ Investigate the emotional, mental, and social intelligence of your partner. This will go a long way in determining how beneficial that marriage will be to you and to your children in the end. It is also the best way to determine whether a marriage will bring benefits or heartache and suffering galore.

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➜ If you choose to get married(marriage is choice not a requirement):
⟹ Never get married under the traditional marriage configuration. You were not born a slave, and no man has the right to subjugate you even in marriage. Never let it happen to you.
⟹ Remember to center yourself every moment of the marriage.
⟹ Keep your social life and friends from before marriage completely intact and healthy, even in your marriage. That is the support system that will help you the best in maneuvering marriage, and in recognizing and avoiding any potential bullsheet that might be thrown at you in marriage. Also, keeping your social circle from before marriage helps you protect your boundaries and peace of mind better than any other group, including your partner.

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➜ if you choose to have children(children are a choice not a requirement), make sure you are fully aware that:
⟹ You are the one to decide for your own self to have them(not a result of external pressures). Children are a burden that is usually solely borne by the women who have them.
⟹The moment you become a mother, you can't unbecome a mother, and in the case that the man you had the child with decides he no longer wants to be in your life and that of the child, or he dies, or he even stays a present-absent father to that child, you alone will have to carry that burden all by yourself.
⟹ You risk your very life — battle with death itself— with every pregnancy. So many women die during pregnancy or childbirth, with many of them dying careless deaths, and even after that, conditions such as PTSD and other complications that result may leave them unable to return to who they were before it all. So, prepare your mind, your body, and your bank account(never depend wholly on your partner/husband in this)if you choose to be pregnant.
⟹ You are not a retirement plan
⟹ Child-free living is also a valid course of life

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➜ Some of the best soft skills you could ever gift yourself with are emotional, social, and mental intelligence. Those are the pathways to wisdom in this life that will help you better navigate this life and make more regret-free decisions the most.

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➜ Again, even where it concerns a man, a job, opportunities, family members, always choose yourself first— center yourself— so you do not become another statistic on the journey that is life.

Hmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!! KoboJ, u again!!!
Ladies make una no listen to her ooO.
Na regret, toxidity, bitterness towards the male gender she dey always preach.
Tomorrow, her type will want her male child to marry a homely and submissive woman.
Karma is a bitch don't 4get koboj

COMRADES, I hope kobojunkie has something to say on the subject matter, let's hear from him

Women never give themselves good advise

Omo, marry early (18-22)


Make sure you learn a skill, bag a degree and remain intact.


Remember to remind your hubby to run a DNA test immediately after the birth of your offspring(s). Dem nurses dey change children for hospital.

Kobojunkie:
➜ You were probably raised by your parents and maybe even society, tradition, and religion to center your life around men and their ideas about women, a brainwashing to have you believe that your life amounts to nothing with validation from men and religion. (They all lied to you so that they could use you — manipulate you — to their own benefit, not yours.) You need to begin your deprogramming at this point, where you remove from your mind all that you have ever been taught— decenter men and decenter tradition & religion — and begin centering yourself and your self-love in the place of it all.

---

➜ There are no badges of honor out there for good girls; as a matter of fact, bad girls end up at the top while the majority of the good girls end up abandoned and eating sheet no matter how many men they try to please(their father's included). Don't be a good girl. Rather, be the girl who has her best interest at heart, no matter the situation or condition.

---

➜ Above everything in this life, always choose yourself first—center yourself!

---

➜ You need to learn to accept and love yourself, flaws and all, and no longer see your singlehood as some sort of placeholder for marriage. Nature had you born without a dick stuck inside of your vagina as the optimal state of your being. That state remains the optimal state of your being throughout your entire life. If you later decide to choose the option that is marriage and childbearing, know them for what they are... additional burdens —responsibilities —you(with your own hands) place on your life, and not necessarily requirements.

---

➜ Do not get married until after your late 20s/early 30s.
⟹ You were born with all of the eggs you will ever need in the life from your mother's womb, and the DNA of those eggs remained biologically intact until you reach menopause in your 50s, so don't let anyone deceive you into thinking time is against you in your 20s. over 95% of birth problems are the result of men, not women.
⟹ Your thinking brain does not fully develop until well into your late 20s and early 30s. This means the chances are tremendously high that any decision you make, particularly regarding your relationship partners in your teens and 20s, you are likely to regret by the time you reach your 30s. So, wait to make any serious relationship decisions until after your brain is fully developed to the point that you are very much self-aware.

---

➜ Before you get married(if you choose to get married), make sure the following:
⟹ Do not get married to any partner unwilling to sign a prenuptial/postnuptial agreement guaranteeing you payment of a percentage of the marital communal wealth as your share from the dividends of the marriage each month. No matter how much a man claims to love you or love bombs you during the dating phase, nothing stops him from financially abusing you immediately after you say your "I do's" to him. And under no circumstances should you excuse him for not paying you this percentage every month throughout the marriage.
⟹ Alternatively, particularly if you plan to be a stay-at-home wife for a period of time, meaning you will not be getting any salary from external sources, sign a prenuptial/postnuptual agreement with your future partner requiring that you be paid at least half of the market cost for the work you will be doing in the home during all of that time — cooking, cleaning, babysitting the children, nursing babies, laundry, emotional regulation/counseling of children and spouse, home finances, running of errands, event organization, carrying the babies during the pregnancy, etc. These are all jobs that ordinarily people would be adequately remunerated for. A wife should be remunerated for her contribution of these services to the family company, too.
⟹ Investigate the emotional, mental, and social intelligence of your partner. This will go a long way in determining how beneficial that marriage will be to you and to your children in the end. It is also the best way to determine whether a marriage will bring benefits or heartache and suffering galore.

---

➜ If you choose to get married(marriage is choice not a requirement):
⟹ Never get married under the traditional marriage configuration. You were not born a slave, and no man has the right to subjugate you even in marriage. Never let it happen to you.
⟹ Remember to center yourself every moment of the marriage.
⟹ Keep your social life and friends from before marriage completely intact and healthy, even in your marriage. That is the support system that will help you the best in maneuvering marriage, and in recognizing and avoiding any potential bullsheet that might be thrown at you in marriage. Also, keeping your social circle from before marriage helps you protect your boundaries and peace of mind better than any other group, including your partner.

---

➜ if you choose to have children(children are a choice not a requirement), make sure you are fully aware that:
⟹ You are the one to decide for your own self to have them(not a result of external pressures). Children are a burden that is usually solely borne by the women who have them.
⟹The moment you become a mother, you can't unbecome a mother, and in the case that the man you had the child with decides he no longer wants to be in your life and that of the child, or he dies, or he even stays a present-absent father to that child, you alone will have to carry that burden all by yourself.
⟹ You risk your very life — battle with death itself— with every pregnancy. So many women die during pregnancy or childbirth, with many of them dying careless deaths, and even after that, conditions such as PTSD and other complications that result may leave them unable to return to who they were before it all. So, prepare your mind, your body, and your bank account(never depend wholly on your partner/husband in this)if you choose to be pregnant.
⟹ You are not a retirement plan
⟹ Child-free living is also a valid course of life

---

➜ Some of the best soft skills you could ever gift yourself with are emotional, social, and mental intelligence. Those are the pathways to wisdom in this life that will help you better navigate this life and make more regret-free decisions the most.

---

➜ Again, even where it concerns a man, a job, opportunities, family members, always choose yourself first— center yourself— so you do not become another statistic on the journey that is life.

Your username says it all.
Please don’t listen to her young ladies.
Follow God’s Wisdom, many of the people who give advises like this are broken, hurt and desperately in need of help internally.
They have failed and have made terrible decisions and would want to blame it all on men and how marriage is not worth it, but they never open up to you about all the bad choices they have made in life that led them to the point they are in with so much bitterness and selfishness in their hearts.
And they would go to any lengths to find accomplices. People they will drag down that pit with them.

Painful part is such a person like this might end up healing up, finding God but have cause so much damage with all the bitter contents they have shared with young ladies.

But for most of them, check their lifestyles, they never end well.

Young woman,
Find God and Love Him Deeply in your early 20s young women, then be very Prayerful and intentional about who you will spend the rest of your life with. From experience, getting intimate with God in your early years will set the pace for a life of fulfillment for you in marriage, career and every area of your life.
Yes, Your life is more than marriage, but marriage is a significant stallion that can make life so much fulfilling and easier for you. Marry someone who is addicted to serving God and His Interests.


But above all, don’t listen to anyone who tells you you that your life is all about you alone. Because it’s not! There’s so much beauty and fulfillment in creating life and living a life loving others and making sacrifices for others. It’s the only life that brings a smile to you face on your death bed…a feeling many of these feminists will never experience whether while alive or on their death bed.

PS: No offense intended

Melagros:
COMRADES, I hope kobojunkie has something to say on the subject matter, let's hear from him

kobojunkie is not a man she is a woman.

Get education, live morally , Be a woman

Single mothers are a menace to the society

it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't marry till you get to 50🤣🤣

GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Make your own wealth, stop seeing men as a gateway to wealth

Go to school, get certifications, establish yourself...calm down and marry well...marry a man that'll be your companion because in the end, you need companionship. If you love money and fancy things, please marry a man that can provide them, even if you are comfortable with your personal income-you will likely get irritated if you have to provide most things for yourself. Enjoy life but don't overdo it...life really is so much fun if you are with the right partner! So much 😊

So after 12 hrs women can't give any advice
It's nough to say they don't have any



Thread closed

Nlfpmod

Login2025:
Don’t do hookup

Everything is not social media …

Above all! Learn how to talk to ppl especially that man you love

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

Capernum:
Learn the rudiments of womanhood and start to pattern your life around it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't keep company with loose girls changing boyfriends life undies.

Be a strong women as much as you can but understand your vulnerability as a woman is part of your strength.

Pray, plan, prepare to marry right. That's the most important thing for your life.

Be spiritual, be born again but don't be religiously foolish.

Your greatest investment is in your kind of spirit and character. Get the right spirit and let your character be noble.

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

RevenuesBoost:
Get all the certificates you can get in your teens and early 20s because when you get married in your late 20s or early 30s, you can't subject yourself to too much school stress.

Do not get so relaxed after Marriage, still do that which you love doing, and follow up with your life plan.
Keep developing yourself, never rely totally on your husband for everything, build your own riches, a good man will love it when he isn't carrying all the financial burden of the family alone.

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

dierich:
Be independent and be faithful

Respect queen of a true kingdom

fredoooooo:
Get education, live morally , Be a woman

Respect queen of the kingdom

Tayorshd87:
it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Respect queen of the kingdom

see how men till take over this thread.

I am still in my 20s but I will advise.

1. Do not marry a man because he is ready. Marry a man you love. Better to laugh in a keke than cry in a Lambo.
2. Marry go into marriage if you are not financially independent. Love if sweet but money maintain a home/marriage. If your husband is the only one providing up to salt and maggi, my dear, that home can never be sweet.
3. Do know discuss your relationship with your friends. There are so many things your friends shouldn't know about your boyfriend/husband.
4. Respect your man.
5. Put your self development first before him. If you do not develop he will dump you for another woman.
6. Take care of your body.
7. By all means try and stay independent of your parents before 25.
8. never open your legs for any man. \most man lose interest the moment they nag you.
9. Be a listener than a talker.
10. Always carry money with you whenever you go to visit any man or going for a date.
11. Don't make your love for a man be more than your love for yourself.
12. Try and have at least a skill or a business even if you have a certificate.
13. By all means try and go to school and graduate.
14. Never take back a cheat.
15. Make your health a priority.
16. Do not bend your rules for any man.
17. By all means have at least a Love Machine. You can get the cheaper one from Jumia. I have vendors too.
18. Always have your money. Whatever he gives you should be a bonus.
19. Do not date a man you are older than unless he is from a wealthy home.
20. By all means never give birth if you don't have any source of income.