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GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

DeGLORIOUS:
➜Feminist theory. You can't seek for equal right with men and expect to be happily married.
➜ You won't enjoy your relationship with your man. If you got no respect, forget it. No man will want to marry his fellow man except gay.

That is a general misconception; many of the feminists you know are actually happily married. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Again, wrong! Not all men are tiny-brained. Some actually understand what a partnership means and how to effectively implement it in their relationships with their women. 🥱🥱🥱

Learn to speak for yourself alone in these things. 🥱🥱🥱

Marry God fearing and hard working man, even if he doesn’t have much money. Support and pray for him to be prosperous.

Luckybelt:
Marry God fearing and hard working man, even if he has no money. Support and pray for him to be prosperous.

You hate women, don't you? 🥱🥱🥱

ADVICE ?




ADVICE ？



ADVICE ？

Don't do Love, do hookup

Continue with your hookup runs. Nothing dey marriage.

pocohantas:
Thread for men, men commented.
Thread for women and even a man had to change his gender to be FTC _more reason is advice sounds very mechanical rather than practical. The rest are still hovering around.

Something is definitely (mentally) wrong with you lots on here.

And your own advise is......nothing. Empty and pretentious heads everywhere

Enjoy yourself very well before you clock 30 years. invest in your career and start making money early. Marry a knd and God fearing man only. Money will come when you marry a man you can plan with.

Abeg MODs, lock this thread or delete it.

Because there is no point to it.

You asked women to advise themselves and jobless men tied wrapper, put chewing stick in their mouths, left their OWN thread and came to poke their noses in women's business.

This is why it can be so hard to respect our men, because their Oyinbo and Asian counterparts would have avoided this thread or be silently reading. Their self-worth isn't tied to whom they can oppress, because they have created value globally.

Strong, capable men stay out of women's business unless they're invited to partake.

Brethren, please go to your thread and speak to your brothers. This is no place for you. Unless you're gender-fluid (and I will tag all the men who commented here to the Health threads on Pregnancy and Giving Birth, as una be woman nau )

Pocahontas, their behavior is pathetic.

1. There is a consequence for EVERY ACTION, good or bad. Immediately or in the future.

2. Wife not cook, wife, not maid is a ridiculous ideology; it’s a woman’s responsibility to NURTURE HER FAMILY and she should do it WITH PRIDE.

3. Don’t waste your time fighting men over who is the head of THE HOME. Your husband is THE HEAD OF YOUR HOME. Every other man around you is the head of HIS OWN HOME…

4. Sex is spiritual; life is spiritual. The Netflix and chill you are doing with that guy today, will complicate your life in the future…

5. Virginity is not old fashioned; REAL MEN will be over the moon, with a virgin wife. They’ll respect and treasure you for the rest of your life. By the way, they’ll boast to friends and family about your virginity and those people too would respect you for it…

6. MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY; if you want your husband’s respect, if you want to prevent side chicks, if you want to secure your children and your future, if you want your man to be IN AWE OF YOU, MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY…

7. Finally, but most importantly, know God, walk with Him, trust in Him. E get why…

GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Ensure you have a stable source of income before thinking about marriage..

Don't rush nor allow pressure from the society to make you settle for less.

Kobojunkie:
You hate women, don't you? 🥱🥱🥱

I later said ‘doesn’t have much money’ . Why did you say that

infogenius:
Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

I was reading earnestly & saying this write-up look familiar...lo and behold, I checked the monicker and boom!

I beamed a smile that, he'd never disappoint.... keep it up Boss!

Luckybelt:
➜I later said ‘doesn’t have much money’ . Why did you say that

Because I am certain you hate women. 🥱🥱🥱

Onegai:
Abeg MODs, lock this thread or delete it.

Because there is no point to it.

You asked women to advise themselves and jobless men tied wrapper, put chewing stick in their mouths, left their OWN thread and came to poke their noses in women's business.

This is why it can be so hard to respect our men, because their Oyinbo and Asian counterparts would have avoided this thread or be silently reading. Their self-worth isn't tied to whom they can oppress, because they have created value globally.

Strong, capable men stay out of women's business unless they're invited to partake.

Brethren, please go to your thread and speak to your brothers. This is no place for you. Unless you're gender-fluid (and I will tag all the men who commented here to the Health threads on Pregnancy and Giving Birth, as una be woman nau )

Pocahontas, their behavior is pathetic.

Very pathetic. I don't know why they see the need to constantly speak on female issues. Their thread is 6pages long and they left it to rush frontpage here. They don't mind coming on the Pregnancy thread if you let them. They will come tell you how their mothers climbed mountain with twin pregnancy.

Capernum:
Learn the rudiments of womanhood and start to pattern your life around it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't keep company with loose girls changing boyfriends life undies.

Be a strong women as much as you can but understand your vulnerability as a woman is part of your strength.

Pray, plan, prepare to marry right. That's the most important thing for your life.

Be spiritual, be born again but don't be religiously foolish.

Your greatest investment is in your kind of spirit and character. Get the right spirit and let your character be noble.

you be woman ?

FineUsername:
Omo, marry early (18-22)


Make sure you learn a skill, bag a degree and remain intact.


Remember to remind your hubby to run a DNA test immediately after the birth of your offspring(s). Dem nurses dey change children for hospital.

are you a woman?

Kobojunkie:
Because I am certain you hate women. 🥱🥱🥱

Then you are wrong. Women are jewels. If I hate women I ll tell them just to go and marry a rich man not minding God fearing trait

GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Ladies hardly visit and comment on Nairaland because Nairaland boys insult the hell out of them. This space is too toxic for them. I see them complain about it on X all the time.

Goodlady:
Make sure you're self sufficient cos money is very important. It's the only weapon men have over us so get your quids and be ready to be independent.
Don't depend on men.
Love may come early but it must be worth it before you go for it.
Beware of men. They have sweet mouth but when you have your money, they're powerless over you.

Good advice for women to be independent but not all men are afraid to wife an independent respectful and discipline woman

All dis talk for 20yr old girl when her mama don already train am finish send am out for missions?

At 20, she is probably going for her 18th mission. You no see dis guy thread?

https://www.nairaland.com/6964035/story-sexlifecultlife-all

DeGLORIOUS:
If you haven't learned the art of submissiveness and respect yet, then marriage is not for you.

Respect, respect and more respect.

I pity how many will beg younger men to impregnate them just to have kids out of wedlock cos of no respect and discipline.

I tell people, all women are beautiful, can cook, clean but not all are respectful and discipline.

I can't waste my time and money and the future of my kids.

Luckybelt:
Then you are wrong. Women are jewels. If I hate women I ll tell them just to go and marry a rich man not minding God fearing trait

You don't even need to say anything women already hate themselves more than you

infogenius:
Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

Respect queen of a true kingdom, i can see the kingdom of your king is in safe hands.

This is a queen with intelligence and discipline, Keep it up.

ManknowThyself:
Respect, respect and more respect.

I pity how many will beg younger men to impregnate them just to have kids out of wedlock cos of no respect and discipline.

I tell people, all women are beautiful, can cook, clean but not all are respectful and discipline.

I can't waste my time and money and the future of my kids.

When them plan you they can be respectful oo. It is better that they are the way they are.

Luckybelt:
Marry God fearing and hard working man, even if he doesn’t have much money. Support and pray for him to be prosperous.

Respect queen of a true kingdom

Winneepye:
Enjoy yourself very well before you clock 30 years. invest in your career and start making money early. Marry a knd and God fearing man only. Money will come when you marry a man you can plan with.

Respect queen

CandidNotes:
1. There is a consequence for EVERY ACTION, good or bad. Immediately or in the future.

2. Wife not cook, wife, not maid is a ridiculous ideology; it’s a woman’s responsibility to NURTURE HER FAMILY and she should do it WITH PRIDE.

3. Don’t waste your time fighting men over who is the head of THE HOME. Your husband is THE HEAD OF YOUR HOME. Every other man around you is the head of HIS OWN HOME…

4. Sex is spiritual; life is spiritual. The Netflix and chill you are doing with that guy today, will complicate your life in the future…

5. Virginity is not old fashioned; REAL MEN will be over the moon, with a virgin wife. They’ll respect and treasure you for the rest of your life. By the way, they’ll boast to friends and family about your virginity and those people too would respect you for it…

6. MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY; if you want your husband’s respect, if you want to prevent side chicks, if you want to secure your children and your future, if you want your man to be IN AWE OF YOU, MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY…

7. Finally, but most importantly, know God, walk with Him, trust in Him. E get why…

Respect queen of a true kingdom.

Virginity is nothing without respect.
I know it's take alot of discipline to be a virgin, so discipline without respect is a 50/50 race.

I'm always proud of women who kept themselves for their husbands and my daughters will be virgin before marriage or no wedding.

EmekaBlue:
As a man with no sister i will advice them to keep shaking their water water nyansh on all social media platform

Your female cousins nko?

pocohantas:
Thread for men, men commented.
Thread for women and even a man had to change his gender to be FTC _more reason his advice sounds very mechanical rather than practical. The rest are still hovering around.

Something is definitely (mentally) wrong with you lots on here.

Yet you made no tangible contribution still...

Dtruthspeaker:
When them plan you they can be respectful oo. It is better that they are the way they are.

Yes I concur but my clarity and intuitions level are strong. People find it difficult to pretend around me cos I see beyond the mask.