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Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse - Family (4) - Nairaland

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Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie:
Nnamdipapa:
➜I have discussed the option of a divorce which I am very much in favour but as an uber religious person, she is vehemently against a divorce and would not hear of it. I may have to run away to Uganda or Kenya one of these days. lol
Religion is indeed a literal weapon fashioned against the happiness and joys of women. 🥱🥱

Imagine making a prison of marriage for oneself. Does she realize that forcing you to remain in the marriage with her makes her essentially a terrorist/prison warden over you, with literally nothing left for her to gain except? 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 10:55pm On Dec 22, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
You have a good point and I totally agree with you. I stop mounting when I stop loving you.
Now, why would I want to deny mounting to a kind considerate husband like you who is willing to consider my feelings and opinion?

Trust me, if another woman dares just look at you after we marry, I will tear out her eyes and feed them to our dog.

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Hhh4444: 10:59pm On Dec 22, 2025
budaatum:
Now, why would I want to deny mounting to a kind considerate husband like you who is willing to consider my feelings and opinion?

Trust me, if another woman dares just look at you after we marry, I will tear out her eyes and feed them to our dog.
🤔🤔🤔🤔
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Ishilove: 1:40am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Now, why would I want to deny mounting to a kind considerate husband like you who is willing to consider my feelings and opinion?

Trust me, if another woman dares just look at you after we marry, I will tear out her eyes and feed them to our dog.
😁😁😁😁😁😁
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 6:44am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
No, the only reason why I'd want my husband to mount me, is not only when I am pleased with him, though I definitely will not be mounted when he makes me unhappy.
I see. Now what if that unhappiness is of your own doing?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Teymanhenry(f): 7:19am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Please, go out to mount another woman, I'm not that concerned if that's your prefered solution to a night of mount withholding. Just know you sound no different to a child who throws tantrums because mummy didn't give you sweets.

And keep your money too. My parents trained me well enough so I can earn even more than you can dream of.
They should have trained you well enough to understand that you don’t bring your dirty linen to social media and still expect all the responses to be positive.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 8:53am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Actually they do. If they don't, they won't set it at all, whether they like the man or not.

It is more of the case of making it very difficult for the man they don't like, that's why they set standard for them.
It's crazy that some people like Nazgul and co think women don't have standards and rules are made for only men they don't like.

A better answer indeed is the rules are stricter when they don't like you but the standard remains.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 8:59am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
It's crazy that some people like Nazgul and co think women don't have standards and rules are made for only men they don't like.

A better answer indeed is the rules are stricter when they don't like you but the standard remains.
tongue


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:10am On Dec 23, 2025
Teymanhenry:
They should have trained you well enough to understand that you don’t bring your dirty linen to social media and still expect all the responses to be positive.
First, I have not got any dirty linen. And second, only weak people expect "all the responses to be positive", since not everyone has an equal ability to comprehend what they read, like you for instance, who thinks expressing ones view on a Nairaland topic is bringing ones dirty linen to social media, and gives you the right to insult one's trainers, which just shows your own non-training.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:16am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
tongue


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8
Or better still, avoid workplace romance totally.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:22am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
It's crazy that some people like Nazgul and co think women don't have standards and rules are made for only men they don't like.

A better answer indeed is the rules are stricter when they don't like you but the standard remains.
Oh the rules and standard thingy with women have been known to me for years...

Take the case of girls who ply their trade in brothels. It's not every customer they shag, and those they even shag, the rules usually apply: no boobs_ touching, no kissing, no sucking etc.

So, if hoes_ can have rules and standard... grin grin 🤦
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:27am On Dec 23, 2025
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:28am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Or better still, avoid workplace romance totally.
So like you to ignore the humour and deflect. tongue
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:28am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
I see. Now what if that unhappiness is of your own doing?
No one should want to mount an unhappy person for any reason unless its someone you are just paying to service you. And even then, I must wonder why any man will pay to mount an unhappy olosho.

I wouldn't even buy pepper from an unhappy market seller, so why will I mount a person who is not happy, most especially if their unhappiness is of their own doing?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:33am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Oh the rules and standard thingy with women have been known to me for years...

Take the case of girls who ply their trade in brothels. It's not every customer they shag, and those they even shag, the rules usually apply: no boobs_ touching, no kissing, no sucking etc.

So, if hoes_ can have rules and standard... grin grin 🤦
Toh. Exactly.

If sex workers are like this, then imagine how it is for regular people.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:33am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
So like you to ignore the humour and deflect. tongue
I'm a serious minded individual. grin angry
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 9:35am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Or better still, avoid workplace romance totally.
I raise you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O880LqI_jxs?si=y0QfWOS5Vda0A-VL
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:35am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
No one should want to mount an unhappy person for any reason unless its someone you are just paying to service you. And even then, I must wonder why any man will pay to mount an unhappy olosho.

I wouldn't even buy pepper from an unhappy market seller, so why will I mount a person who is not happy, most especially if their unhappiness is of their own doing?
Imagine mounting an unhappy person, no soft moans, dryness everywhere. embarassed
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 9:40am On Dec 23, 2025
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Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 9:41am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Imagine mounting an unhappy person, no soft moans, dryness everywhere. embarassed
Trolling mode activated 👿😈

Doesn't matter had sex


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o?si=kfU9eDeRw-IGKUVP

Bonus points for checking out the chicks grossed out expressions
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:44am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Toh. Exactly.

If sex workers are like this, then imagine how it is for regular people.
Your response indicate you're still naive in some areas, care for me to educate you? grin
folake4u:
I'm a serious minded individual. grin angry
Yeah right, yOu can tell that to gloriousgbola_ I'm sure the gloriousness of his gbola_ will listen. grin
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:46am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
Trolling mode activated 👿😈

Doesn't matter had sex


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o?si=kfU9eDeRw-IGKUVP

Bonus points for checking out the chicks grossed out expressions
Hallelujah!. 🙌
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:48am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
I raise you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O880LqI_jxs?si=y0QfWOS5Vda0A-VL
Lol. Insightful video.

The power imbalance issue is a real problem indeed.

Then again, asides our homes, we spend more valuable time with our co-workers and it's quite normal if feelings creep in.

But then again, Yikes!
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:49am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
No one should want to mount an unhappy person for any reason unless its someone you are just paying to service you. And even then, I must wonder why any man will pay to mount an unhappy olosho.

I wouldn't even buy pepper from an unhappy market seller, so why will I mount a person who is not happy, most especially if their unhappiness is of their own doing?
Oh Like folake you're also very naive.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:50am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Imagine mounting an unhappy person, no soft moans, dryness everywhere. embarassed
Imagine! lipsrsealed

One might as well mount wood. But I guess some people are so desperate to mount that they'd mount anything.

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:50am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Your response indicate you're still naive in some areas, care for me to educate you? grin
Yeah right, yOu can tell that to gloriousgbola_ I'm sure the gloriousness of his gbola_ will listen. grin
Lol smh. So what do you want to educate me on?

Mtchewww.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:52am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Oh Like folake you're also very naive.
What happened. angry angry

Why are you mounting someone who's dry down there? There's no pleasure when someone's writhing in pain.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 9:54am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
What happened. angry angry

Why are you mounting someone who's dry down there? There's no pleasure when someone's writhing in pain.
tongue

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:55am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
I'm a serious minded individual. grin angry
I think this is one thing that joseph1832 does not comprehend, and he thinks he can drag others down to his level of unseriousness.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:56am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Oh Like folake you're also very naive.
I think folake4u and I just don't reason like you do, but I'm very certain it bothers us not that you think we are naive.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 9:57am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Imagine! lipsrsealed

One might as well mount wood. But I guess some people are so desperate to mount that they'd mount anything.
Honestly Budaa.

I don't understand some folks mounting someone who's dry and not in the mood at all.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 9:58am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
Trolling mode activated 👿😈
You at least announce your intent, unlike some.
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