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This is a difficult conversation, but it is one the law takes very seriously.

Let’s be clear from the start. This is not an attack on fathers. This is not saying men are wicked. This is about boundaries, child protection, and prevention. A father can be loving. A father can be caring. A father can be responsible but the law recognises one uncomfortable reality; most sexual abuse of children does not come from strangers it comes from people the child knows and trusts.

That is why boundaries matter. Bathing a baby girl is care but a father bathing a baby girl is no longer care it is exposure. As a girl grows, her body changes. Privacy becomes necessary. Modesty becomes protection. Men are generally moved by what they see. That is not an insult it is human biology. Repeated exposure dulls restraint, dulled restraint allows thoughts, and thoughts, when unchecked, can cross lines. This is how many abuse cases begin not with force, but with:

🥢 Access
🥢 Familiarity
🥢 Silence
🥢 No boundaries

Now, let’s talk law plainly. When a father, stepfather, or any adult sexually touches, molests, or violates a child, the law does not care about intentions, family ties, or excuses. Under Nigerian law, such an act is a serious criminal offence. It can amount to:

🥢 Sexual abuse of a child
🥢 Defilement
🥢 Rape, depending on the act and age of the child

Consent does not apply to children.
Relationship does not protect the offender.
Being a parent does not reduce punishment.
The penalties are severe long-term imprisonment, and in some cases, life imprisonment. and here is the part many families don’t expect:

Keeping quiet does not protect the family.
Covering it up does not stop the law.
Once reported, the state takes over.
This is why the law emphasises prevention over regret. So mothers, this is not about suspicion. It is about structure.

Set boundaries early.
Teach privacy early.
Protect dignity early.
Because once a line is crossed,
love cannot undo trauma, and silence cannot stop the law.

Gen z dads……..
A pervert or paedophile will still sleep with his daughter even if she baths with her mom daily. And a man with sound mind won’t. He will automatically stop when he sees she’s approaching puberty. Your advice is only for the dads but the mothers can bathe both kids right? Double standards.

I bathe my kids including my daughter of 8.
No loving father will molest his own child. Such molestations has a lot to do with brain damage and manipulation.

Having four sisters growing up and younger siblings has shown me that the best person to protect is the father.

In my experience I have come to see that male children are more molested by the mother's friends and acquaintances.

I protect my boys even as much as I do my girl. Till date if my wife or my mother in-law is not backing or bathing my kids it has to be me.

I have carried her from Warri to Benin and stayed almost two days alone when she was not up to a year and I was accosted by a police officer at roundabout who owns the child after much proof the man was not satisfied and he got what he deserved. No one protects a girl child more than the father.

My sisters or sister in-laws don't dare touch my boys.

Fathers has always been the best protector of their female children in my opinion. I don't mean step-fathers.

See how society has degenerated to the extent men are now being advised to stop bathing their own flesh and blood. I have a friend whose father bathed her until she was 11 when the man passed untimely. She was his last child and favourite. Nothing inappropriate ever happened. Just a hygiene ritual of a father's love for his youngest female child.

Like someone said, nobody in his sound mind will have any kind of sexual attraction to his own child.

SpencerForbes:
Gen z dads……..
A pervert or paedophile will still sleep with his daughter even if she baths with her mom daily. And a man with sound mind won’t. He will automatically stop when he sees she’s approaching puberty. Your advice is only for the dads but the mothers can bathe both kids right? Double standards.

The girl that confessed she was using vibrator on her daughter from when she was 8months na MAN do am

Kingray10:
The girl that confessed she was using vibrator on her daughter from when she was 8months na MAN do am

Abeg epp me ask am oo. Men don to suffer for people hand. Na our own Dey loud pass. Women too dey rape but na men dem dey stone to death pass. Nobody is supporting crime but the double standard is too visible.

SpencerForbes:
Gen z dads……..
A pervert or paedophile will still sleep with his daughter even if she baths with her mom daily. And a man with sound mind won’t. He will automatically stop when he sees she’s approaching puberty. Your advice is only for the dads but the mothers can bathe both kids right? Double standards.

Gen zees have not yet started giving birth. This sheet has been going on since lots daughters rode him. What is going on is that daughters sleep with their fathers and it is a normal thing. Even wife's and mothers are aware of it (after all they too didi the same) and they expect it. And it is so done that it is normal. That is why you hear so hush hush and blockings in families when you ask questions like why does papa like Beatrice too much,; then they would tell you one crap of "it was the day she was born that he got the promotion he was looking for". It's a lie and a cover up.

Which is why most girls do not tell you who disvirgined them and why fathers do not talk even when they see their daughter doing asha things

All this is only coming out because God is exposing them in support of the girls who did not and will not submit to them.

May the will of God be done 🙏

Kingray10:
The girl that confessed she was using vibrator on her daughter from when she was 8months na MAN do am

Women abuse children far more than men. Mothers abuse children far more than fathers.

Why didn't you say fathers bathe your male children? You see how una sense dey.

I used to bath my daughter, even her mother will be the one to tell me to clean her up after pooping while she was still very young. I stopped bathing her when she clocked 5 or there about cos I already thought her how to bath. I only help her to bath her back sometimes that's all. So Men bathing their flesh and blood as nothing to do with hurting them. It's just the mindset..

coputa:
This is a difficult conversation, but it is one the law takes very seriously.

Let’s be clear from the start. This is not an attack on fathers. This is not saying men are wicked. This is about boundaries, child protection, and prevention. A father can be loving. A father can be caring. A father can be responsible but the law recognises one uncomfortable reality; most sexual abuse of children does not come from strangers it comes from people the child knows and trusts.

That is why boundaries matter. Bathing a baby girl is care but a father bathing a baby girl is no longer care it is exposure. As a girl grows, her body changes. Privacy becomes necessary. Modesty becomes protection. Men are generally moved by what they see. That is not an insult it is human biology. Repeated exposure dulls restraint, dulled restraint allows thoughts, and thoughts, when unchecked, can cross lines. This is how many abuse cases begin not with force, but with:

🥢 Access
🥢 Familiarity
🥢 Silence
🥢 No boundaries

Now, let’s talk law plainly. When a father, stepfather, or any adult sexually touches, molests, or violates a child, the law does not care about intentions, family ties, or excuses. Under Nigerian law, such an act is a serious criminal offence. It can amount to:

🥢 Sexual abuse of a child
🥢 Defilement
🥢 Rape, depending on the act and age of the child

Consent does not apply to children.
Relationship does not protect the offender.
Being a parent does not reduce punishment.
The penalties are severe long-term imprisonment, and in some cases, life imprisonment. and here is the part many families don’t expect:

Keeping quiet does not protect the family.
Covering it up does not stop the law.
Once reported, the state takes over.
This is why the law emphasises prevention over regret. So mothers, this is not about suspicion. It is about structure.

Set boundaries early.
Teach privacy early.
Protect dignity early.
Because once a line is crossed,
love cannot undo trauma, and silence cannot stop the law.

I dont have objections in ur write up. I have three daughters, i bath for them from age 3 to 7. Though From 8 years old i stopped because they begin to grow or transform into lady, that does not mean i feel any thing when they are nicked God forbid.

It is a generalisation that men are moved by what they see. No sane man would be moved by his daughter's unclothedness. So, the society should stop making excuses for men with depraved mind.

If your daughter's unclothedness is turning you on, then get help asap. That being said, a girl should be able to bath herself at age 7. And I don't see why her parents should be bathing her at that age. Just teach her basic hygiene and she will be fine.

Felimax:
Women abuse children far more than men. Mothers abuse children far more than fathers.

Lol....I like to believe you don't mean sexual abuse. Let's pretend that's what you meant, then you are just trying to be silly.

How many women sexually abuse their sons? I'm sure if we are doing numbers, it will be one out of one million women.

But fathers sleeping with their daughters has become a norm. So, stop trying to paint women black when men are the real culprits.

Another male vs female thread. Boring Nairaland.

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It's obvious this post is from a dumb individual.

Have you done any research to think Father who bath their daughters abuse them?

A pervert is a pervert it has nothing to do with your relationship with your kids.

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We4all:
Lol....I like to believe you don't mean sexual abuse. Let's pretend that's what you meant, then you are just trying to be silly.

How many women sexually abuse their sons? I'm sure if we are doing numbers, it will be one out of one million women.

But fathers sleeping with their daughters has become a norm. So, stop trying to paint women black when men are the real culprits.

No you don't get it I swear.
I gave a very serious instruction that nobody touches the private parts of my kids. Their mother is not allowed to touch the guys own no matter what.

Mothers are fond of accessing their boys private part, aunties are also fond of it as they crack joke with the boys private part. This I have seen several times. Hardly will you see fathers doing something similar to their female children. That is nothing but pure sexual abuse. I don't even allow my wife to rate the boys private part. I forbid her.

Mothers and aunties will even go as far as sensitizing it so they can make joke with it. What do you call that? This I see on a daily basis. Even if it's your child it is forbidden.

Do you agree that is also child abuse?

That you are abused by your father doesn't mean all fathers are abusers.

I am a loving and caring father.

I bathe for my daughter and she even prefers me to her mother in all things. She prefers sleeping with me and she won't eat until I'm ready to eat.

She's basically my heart. My precious jewel... How do I hurt her?

I teach her everyday how to seat in public, I dress her and teach her the parts of her body no guy or man must handle.

She gists me about all that happens in her school daily even when I'm not around.

Who sleeps with a living loving daughter?

You must understand that you don't use few bad fathers to blackmail all fathers.

Everything good always have a perverted version. Should we now deny the reality of good fathers? Because of the bad ones?

What about bad, naggy and druggy mothers? What about mothers that are lesbians?

This thread is disgusting and should not be allowed to thrive. This kind of threads push widowers to marry new wives who in turn maltreat their children. Have you not seen responsible single and widowed fathers who raise their toddler children into adulthood? How do you expect them to raise them without bathing them? I will bath all my kids including girls until they are able to bath themselves well enough and there's nothing paedophilic minds like yours can do to change that.

Imindmybusiness:
✓ This thread is disgusting and should not be allowed to thrive. This kind of threads push widowers to marry new wives who in turn maltreat their children. Have you not seen responsible single and widowed fathers who raise their toddler children into adulthood? How do you expect them to raise them without bathing them? I will bath all my kids including girls until they are able to bath themselves well enough and there's nothing paedophilic minds like yours can do to change that.

Unfortunately, responsible fathers and husbands are rare in Nigeria. That is sort where I see OP's rather distasteful warnings coming from. 🥱🥱

The vast majority of Nigerian men have been groomed from a young age into regarding sex as the go-to activity for all of their emotional outlet by their male role models in the society to the extent that when Nigerian men see a female body, they don't see a human being but a hole to stick their dicks into. Even religion raises this hypersexualized view of women in the minds of men to another level by insinuating women are there to serve the desires of men. 🥱🥱🥱

Which Kain yamayama talk is this nau.

So mother's should not bathe their sons to again nigbayen.

I still bathed for my son yesterday , sometimes those children no dey wash body well, after instructing them on how to do it sometimes you just have give them a thorough bathe.

My husband still bathed for my daughter, if she poops he washes her bum bum with water after she does her own cleaning which may not be clean enough.

Till they are old enough to do perfectly without error parents will have to monitor these things nau.

SpencerForbes:
Gen z dads……..
A pervert or paedophile will still sleep with his daughter even if she baths with her mom daily. And a man with sound mind won’t. [/b]He will automatically stop when he sees she’s approaching puberty[b]. Your advice is only for the dads but the mothers can bathe both kids right? Double standards.

Exactly.

Felimax:
I bathe my kids including my daughter of 8.
No loving father will molest his own child. Such molestations has a lot to do with brain damage and manipulation.

Having four sisters growing up and younger siblings has shown me that the best person to protect is the father.

In my experience I have come to see that male children are more molested by the mother's friends and acquaintances.

I protect my boys even as much as I do my girl. Till date if my wife or my mother in-law is not backing or bathing my kids it has to be me.

I have carried her from Warri to Benin and stayed almost two days alone when she was not up to a year and I was accosted by a police officer at roundabout who owns the child after much proof the man was not satisfied and [/b]he got what he deserved[b]. No one protects a girl child more than the father.

My sisters or sister in-laws don't dare touch my boys.

Fathers has always been the best protector of their female children in my opinion. I don't mean step-fathers.

Aptly written!.What did you do to the over zealous police man?

spencekat:
Aptly written!.What did you do to the over zealous police man?

So he insisted he must talk with my wife and ask her some questions. I placed my wife on call and they spoke at length asking her all manner of questions which my wife answered including what my baby was wearing.

Along with some men at the roundabout they insisted they must meet my wife who then was working at Sapele. That was how they drove us to Sapele Roundabout where we met my wife. Already I have apologized on my wife's behalf because I know the second part will not be easy.

Moment we got to Sapele Roundabout and baby saw her, my baby screamed mommy and that was where the problem started. She held the police and refuse him to go that he must take us to his station. She has already called the various uniform men including her family members and they told her not to let him go.

I beg lemme stop here.
That day was not funny. I later got to Benin in the evening.

Felimax:
So he insisted he must talk with my wife and ask her some questions. I placed my wife on call and they spoke at length asking her all manner of questions which my wife answered including what my baby was wearing.

Along with some men at the roundabout they insisted they must meet my wife who then was working at Sapele. That was how they drove us to Sapele Roundabout where we met my wife. Already I have apologized on my wife's behalf because I know the second part will not be easy.

Moment we got to Sapele Roundabout and baby saw her, my baby screamed mommy and that was where the problem started. She held the police and refuse him to go that he must take us to his station. She has already called the various uniform men including her family members and they told her not to let him go.

I beg lemme stop here.
That day was not funny. I later got to Benin in the evening.

Na wa o.