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There are two things that will make me ever forgive any victim of suicide death; if the person is suffering from an incurable illness or he/she is battling with extreme poverty. Other than that, I consider anyone who commits suicide as a scumbag who deserve neither attention nor pity.

Like someone rightly pointed out, a depressed person does not write a well orchestrated suicide note such as the one above. Dude was just looking for some sick popularity after his death. I wish he was someone I knew, I wouldn't have even bated an eyelid.

Arrant Nonsense! Which kind yeye depression? Does he know what some of us have gone through in life?

Hhh4444:
pray no more,that is not going to happen. Either you face life squarely or you exit yourself like that guy just did. If people are honest enough to tell you what they think about life,you would know many people don't wanna be here.This shit called life is draining.

Holding Jesus helps me face life squarely. Unless ……..

musicwriter:
I am certainly a candidate for suicide but I feel the punishment I got from Paystack is just a challenge. And I'll overcome it. I've never in my life felt the depression I've had for the past one month.

For those who don't know......

I am fundraising to make a documentary about the origin, history and evolution of religion. Once Africans understand how our ancestors came up with the concept of God and a savior. Redeemer, Messiah, we'll be freed from religion.

Could you believe that an Indian donated about $1,500 to support me but a Mr. Tosin (a Christian) at Paystack review department unilaterally refunded the money back to the sender? A black man refunded money donated by an Asian to make a documentary about how Africans invented the concept of God!!

No be juju be that??

If you have the full information, sue the paystack staff that did that

Love800:
Robin Williams, the wealthy American actor/comedian that took his life then, abi. Am i correct?

Yep.

mariovito:
If you have the full information, sue the paystack staff that did that

I don't have any business with the staff that did that.

My dealing was with Paystack and it's not a question of "if" I have the documents. I took screenshots where necessary and you can read details about what transpired at https://www.africason.com/2025/11/save-me-from-depression-and-possible.html

Eventually, I'll sue Paystack and get my money back, it's just that it will cost a lot of money to take them on. It a "David and Goliath" battle

Love800:
I heard dagrin commited suicide because of his girlfriend.

Interesting.....

musicwriter:
I don't have any business with the staff that did that.

My dealing was with Paystack and it's not a question of "if" I have the documents. I took screenshots where necessary and you can read details about what transpired at https://www.africason.com/2025/11/save-me-from-depression-and-possible.html

Eventually, I'll sue Paystack and get my money back, it's just that it will cost a lot of money to take them on. It a "David and Goliath" battle

Good one.

Sue them asap, the best time to strike is when the iron is hot.

Sue paystack, add the staff as second defendant

mariovito:
Good one.

Sue them asap, the best time to strike is when the iron is hot.

Sue paystack, add the staff as second defendant

Bro, there's no lack of knowledge about what to do. I just don't have money now to pursue the case but I'll do that later.

Again, the particular staff don't have anything to do with that in the eyes of the law. Even if the staff no longer works for paystack, I can still sue them and get my money back.

Adewale1603:
that's the rubbish most of you people normally says. I don't justified him commiting suicide. But there's nothing absolutely sweet about life, that's the fact. If life were sweet like you claimed, do you think people will be attempting and committing suicide.

You don't need to talk much bro, you're this kinda person who has distant himself from ur Family/friends, that's why you really don't know what pain/love is.... whatever that rocks ur boat, that should be ur headache to deal with✌.

Anguldi:
Omorr, e no easy. I can remember when I battled chronic depression. I go a whole week with 2hrs sleep per day. Home alone, no one to talk to. I was an introvert then. Luckily, I met with my new squad, them tear eyes, get voltage. That was how I faced my fears, put fingers into elders eyes wey stress me, Dem dey fear me now.
This was 7years ago. I felt suicidal severally, was manipulated by MOGs, stopped going to church. I want to beat one elder as my new year resolution.
Omorr, don't keep quiet for anybody 📌💯, speak up. If Dem pressure you, pressure them 🙌👌.

you still haven't find the right path yet. Jesus Christ is the only key

SixSeven:
Someone was thinking I was heartless to be hard on this person, that I don't know the battles, I don't know the things this person is going through, I don't know this and that and I said part of being a man is surviving trials of this world. I told the person to give me an alternative to willingly participating in your own death and the person could not. And then I said, finding solution is a much better part to taking your life. No matter what. I stand by my words. Life is tough. It will break you but sometimes I think Nigeria's law or punishment for attempting suicide is more of a logical one than the punishment itself. Nigeria's law is telling you, if you want to do it, just do it and go, make sure you do it.

You don't know the pain you cause those living when you selfishly consider yourself only. You're not living for yourself alone if you don't know. Especially when you have influence. I prefer you take more steps to help live than take the easy step to press the end button when you know we will all leave this world unalive!

Then like those boys who shoot in US, you now write a manifesto letter on your death. For what? Just go silently and don't disturb the world if you wanted us to not worry about you. It would have been easier for the loved ones to lie to us and tell us he died in his sleep. I am so disappointed and I have no nice words to say. This is where we have raised this generation to mental health everything. Spiritually ungrounded, digitally prosperous. Perhaps one day, we will realise our true reason for living. A person is a person because of another person (Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu”: a person is a person because of other people). We will remember our purpose on earth, stay grounded and keep serving others because service to humanity is the price you pay for earth. Fall seven times, rise up 8th.

It is best to leave a note. Loved ones will get closure.

If there should be a candidate for suicide, I should be no.1

I suffer from crippling social anxiety. I also suffer from trauma and depression. Many things stop me from taking my life iand one is the unbearable pain to your loved ones. It is also contagious. When another family member goes through difficult times, the next thing na sniper.

The prime reason why I stay alive is that the Bible assures us: "But God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out so that you may be able to endure it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Since God will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we can bear, that means no suffering or temptation that I am presently facing is beyond what I can bear. So, why commit suicide? Taking one's life is equivalent of either calling Him a liar, or I lack faith.

He also assures us he will make a way out! That's the one I need to apply more.

For help with suicides, this article will help:https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-change/

I appreciate.

LordReed:
Yep.

Did you watch the movie! It was after the break-up with his girlfriend that he started behaving gloomy and depressed.
He went to club the next day at night, told his friends not to join him in the car, shortly afterwards, he crashed himself inside the car.

Anyway, thanks for your comment.

AZControversial:
Interesting.....

grandstar:
It is best to leave a note. Loved ones will get closure.

If there should be a candidate for suicide, I should be no.1

I suffer from crippling social anxiety. I also suffer from trauma and depression. Many things stop me from taking my life iand one is the unbearable pain to your loved ones. It is also contagious. When another family member goes through difficult times, the next thing na sniper.

The prime reason why I stay alive is that the Bible assures us: "But God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out so that you may be able to endure it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Since God will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we can bear, that means no suffering or temptation that I am presently facing is beyond what I can bear. So, why commit suicide? Taking one's life is equivalent of either calling Him a liar, or I lack faith.

He also assures us he will make a way out! That's the one I need to apply more.

For help with suicides, this article will help:https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-change/

If you were not a religious person, do you think you'll have done it?

SixSeven:
If you were not a religious person, do you think you'll have done it?

That's a tough one.

I would most likely be in a nuthouse

I'm really serious.

grandstar:
That's a tough one.

I would most likely be in a nuthouse

I'm really serious.

Thank you for your honesty. I avoided religion or anything like that in my previous posts because I respect people and their faith and I'm not here to sermonize but one of the things that keep us grounded in life is spirituality. It often comes through religion but being religious does not mean you're spiritual.

Religion is structured in beliefs, rules, rituals, identity, community while spirituality is inner alignment of meaning, awareness, values, and how one relates to suffering, purpose, and life itself.

A person can be religious yet spiritually ungrounded if faith becomes external performance rather than internal grounding. In that case, religion may provide answers, but not resilience. It may offer rules, but not resources for navigating pain, loss, or emptiness because most religious followers are judgmental and pretend that they are omnipresent. They think they can see the future. They use the books to judge a person's current story without realizing that life is never linear. Life is a mystery. One guy is enjoying sin and it looks like he has it all in this worldly life while one other person is righteous and they are going through so much suffering. They start to question their maker and doubt the reward for their efforts. We only see pieces of the puzzle, not the whole board.

Spiritual grounding, whether religious or not, does something different. It anchors a person in meaning beyond momentary pain, it teaches that suffering is part of being human, not proof of failure and it encourages presence, humility, and acceptance rather than escape or self-judgment.


When spirituality is absent, people may feel disconnected from themselves, defined only by productivity, comparison, or approval and overstimulated but inwardly empty (especially in a hyper-digital world of tech and social media). That inner emptiness is dangerous not because life lacks value, but because the person loses sight of it.


Being spiritually grounded does not mean constant happiness. It means knowing pain is temporary, even when intense, understanding that thoughts are not commands and having something steady to return to when the mind becomes chaotic.

This grounding, whether found through faith, philosophy, nature, service, or reflection helps people stay tethered to life, even when life feels heavy.

Many of us have had this dark thought but we must learn to see the light, not the darkness. I have also had those moments and they can be dangerous. No matter how successful you are, the thought will just creep in and if you let it make a match stick in the haystack, it will burn the barn! We must continue to perish evil thoughts and let these dark experiences teach us our WHY. Why are we here on earth?


Sorry for the speech you didn't ask me to write. I am just writing from my heart as I think of it right now.

emmalezy:
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Sad news has emerged regarding the alleged death of popular Nigerian writer and creative strategist, Anda Damisa, popularly known online as Lazy Writa.

According to close friends and associates, the talented writer reportedly took his own life a few days ago. It is believed that the emotional note shared on his social platforms at exactly 12 noon on December 29, 2025, was a scheduled post, prepared before his passing and meant for his loved ones and the general public.

Lazy Writa became a household name around 2012, when his unique storytelling, creativity, and witty writing style began dominating the Nigerian internet space. Over the years, he reportedly worked behind the scenes for several brands, creating some of the memorable and engaging online advert contents many Nigerians came to love.

His passing has left many in shock, with tributes pouring in from friends, colleagues, and followers who admired his brilliance and creativity.

May his soul rest in peace.
🕊️

Source: https://www.reportnaija.ng/2025/12/popular-nigerian-influencer-anda-damisa.html?m=1



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Chai... Why take your life naa

Even in death,the devil is still trying to use him deceive his gullible followers

Love800:
Did you watch the movie! It was after the break-up with his girlfriend that he started behaving gloomy and depressed.
He went to club the next day at night, told his friends not to join him in the car, shortly afterwards, he crashed himself inside the car.

Anyway, thanks for your comment.

Wow....

Didn't know that. I heard he crashed his car resulting in his death.
But I wasn't aware of what led to it....

Thanks for the info...

SixSeven:
Someone was thinking I was heartless to be hard on this person, that I don't know the battles, I don't know the things this person is going through, I don't know this and that and I said part of being a man is surviving trials of this world. I told the person to give me an alternative to willingly participating in your own death and the person could not. And then I said, finding solution is a much better part to taking your life. No matter what. I stand by my words. Life is tough. It will break you but sometimes I think Nigeria's law or punishment for attempting suicide is more of a logical one than the punishment itself. Nigeria's law is telling you, if you want to do it, just do it and go, make sure you do it.

You don't know the pain you cause those living when you selfishly consider yourself only. You're not living for yourself alone if you don't know. Especially when you have influence. I prefer you take more steps to help live than take the easy step to press the end button when you know we will all leave this world unalive!

Then like those boys who shoot in US, you now write a manifesto letter on your death. For what? Just go silently and don't disturb the world if you wanted us to not worry about you. It would have been easier for the loved ones to lie to us and tell us he died in his sleep. I am so disappointed and I have no nice words to say. This is where we have raised this generation to mental health everything. Spiritually ungrounded, digitally prosperous. Perhaps one day, we will realise our true reason for living. A person is a person because of another person (Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu”: a person is a person because of other people). We will remember our purpose on earth, stay grounded and keep serving others because service to humanity is the price you pay for earth. Fall seven times, rise up 8th.

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Shallow. You dont know anything about life.
Go and study the principles behind Euthanasia.

That said, everyone is perfectly entitled to decide they no longer wish to live.

LordReed:
May you never suffer what some of these people suffer because then you will understand that the struggle goes beyond finding a solution to external challenges. Do you think Robin Williams didn't overcome all the external challenges that came his way? Yet he faced a battle you will never understand if you don't suffer from the same or similar ailment. An ailment where you own body is fighting you every step of the way and not even in a way you can properly articulate to someone who is not suffering it.

I repeat, may you never suffer it.

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Deep. Well said.

DeepSight:
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Shallow. You dont know anything about life.
Go and study the principles behind Euthanasia.

That said, everyone is perfectly entitled to decide they no longer wish to live.

Euthanasia will never be African because it goes against the African soul, which holds life as sacred and belonging to the community, the ancestors, and God not to individual choice.

A practice that intentionally ends life contradicts our spiritual and moral foundation, so it can never truly belong to us. I know about it and it is alien to us. Don't let the West indoctrinate you with foreign ungodly concepts. I hope you know they are assisting children now to take their lives.

Jolene in my picture was in the news and the US guys said they were going to raise money to treat her for FREE, yet she still wanted to take her life. We don't do that here please.

Dutch government backs plan to legalise euthanaia for minors under 12-years-old

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbEOLYSNO0k

You will get to a stage where children will be tired of life and say they too want to go. You should actually study the principles of euthanisa, study the principles of your culture and tradition and then know which one is good for you. Euthanisa ko, Indonesia ni

LeeSmart:
This thing still dey baffle me oo, how person go just wakeup one morning and then decide to kpai his/her self? With the way dis life sweet so, he didn't even consider the emotional pain he'd be putting his friends and family members through. Rip anyways

What is really sweet about this life? Just food, drinking and sex?

SixSeven:
Euthanasia will never be African because it goes against the African soul, which holds life as sacred and belonging to the community, the ancestors, and God not to individual choice.

A practice that intentionally ends life contradicts our spiritual and moral foundation, so it can never truly belong to us. I know about it and it is alien to us. Don't let the West indoctrinate you with foreign ungodly concepts. I hope you know they are assisting children now to take their lives.

Jolene in my picture was in the news and the US guys said they were going to raise money to treat her for FREE, yet she still wanted to take her life. We don't do that here please.

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You know nothing, Jon Snow.
I will not get into this subject with any closed minded person.

DeepSight:
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You know nothing, Jon Snow.
I will not get into this subject with any closed minded person.

That's your piece of cake. Bothers me not. Next time, ignore the ignorance of whoever you deem unfit to exchange with you. Misery loves company and being in that pathetic state and trying to justify it with you don't know what and whatever is your pound of cake. Don't spread your misery to the world. We are not oblivious of the world's problems, how we respond to it is what matters most and if you choose to off it, get off the lawn. We'll come join you when it's our natural time to go.

A wise man can learn from a fouuolish question, but a fuuuool cannot learn from a wise answer because it is easier to fuuuol people than to convince them they have been fouuuoled.

SixSeven:
That's your piece of cake. Bothers me not. Next time, ignore the ignorance of whoever you deem unfit to exchange with you.

A wise man can learn from a fouuolish question, but a fuuuool cannot learn from a wise answer because it is easier to fuuuol people than to convince them they have been fouuuoled.

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A limited, narrow mind is not worth discussing with.

SixSeven:
Someone was thinking I was heartless to be hard on this person, that I don't know the battles, I don't know the things this person is going through, I don't know this and that and I said part of being a man is surviving trials of this world. I told the person to give me an alternative to willingly participating in your own death and the person could not. And then I said, finding solution is a much better part to taking your life. No matter what. I stand by my words. Life is tough. It will break you but sometimes I think Nigeria's law or punishment for attempting suicide is more of a logical one than the punishment itself. Nigeria's law is telling you, if you want to do it, just do it and go, make sure you do it.

You don't know the pain you cause those living when you selfishly consider yourself only. You're not living for yourself alone if you don't know. Especially when you have influence. I prefer you take more steps to help live than take the easy step to press the end button when you know we will all leave this world unalive!

Then like those boys who shoot in US, you now write a manifesto letter on your death. For what? Just go silently and don't disturb the world if you wanted us to not worry about you. It would have been easier for the loved ones to lie to us and tell us he died in his sleep. I am so disappointed and I have no nice words to say. This is where we have raised this generation to mental health everything. Spiritually ungrounded, digitally prosperous. Perhaps one day, we will realise our true reason for living. A person is a person because of another person (Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu”: a person is a person because of other people). We will remember our purpose on earth, stay grounded and keep serving others because service to humanity is the price you pay for earth. Fall seven times, rise up 8th.

Oga some people just want to leave the world at the end of the day on their own terms and not necessarily due to any burdens. I know it's difficult to comprehend but yeah, that's the reality and diversity of thought amongst different people. Not all suicide deaths are becos of depression.. Some people just probably figured within themselves that life has no meaning and isn't worth living for or that the are playing the chess games of divine beings who would just trash them to the dustin of the cosmos at the end of day and decide to end that game before they're ended in a more brutal fashion - afterall none of us were invited before joining this game of life. Some people get so fulfilled and then get bored with life and decide to end it. Some believe ending their current lives will reset them back into another realm or level of consciousness via reincarnation and so forth. The proliferation of so many school of thought and diverse streams of enlightenment amongst people will give rise to more deaths like this unfortunately.

Denko2721987:
Oga some people just want to leave the world at the end of the day on their own terms iand not necessarily due to any burdens. I know it's difficult to understand but yeah, that's the reality and diversity of thought amongst different people. Not all suicide deaths are becos of depression.. Some people just probably figured within themselves that life has no meaning or that the are playing the chess games of divine beings who would just trash them in the dustin of the cosmos and decide to end that game after all none of us were invited before joining this game of life. Some people get fulfilled and then get bored and decide to end it. Some believe ending their current lives will reset them back into another via reincarnation and so forth. The proliferation of so many school of thought will give rise to deaths like this unfortunately.

No matter how long the night, the dawn will break.

SixSeven:
No matter how long the night, the dawn will break.

Absolutely but at the end of the day, that may not stop one from dying horribly.. Life doesn't guarantee anything.. Take examples of Kobe Bryant, Wigwe, Pastor Myles, Abraham Lincoln, Anne Boyle, Pastor Bimbo and so many others who went through different phases of life, came out victorious but still died horrible deaths.. Life is deep, complex, strange and unpredictable and the more some people think about it the more it makes them see it in varying dimensions and perspective that may push them to such actions as suicide.

No one should cause so much pain for another to begin to fancy suicide.

Denko2721987:
Absolutely but at the end of the day, that may not stop one from dying horribly.. Life doesn't guarantee anything.. Take examples of Kobe Bryant, Wigwe, Pastor Myles, Abraham Lincoln, Anne Boyle, Pastor Bimbo and so many others who went through different phases of life, came out victorious but still died horrible deaths.. Life is deep, complex, strange and unpredictable and the more some people think about it the more it makes them see it in varying dimensions and perspective that may push them to such actions as suicide.

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Death is certain, the manner is not but character is what a man controls.

We are not what we say we are. We are what we do. We are what we respond to and how we respond to life's different tests.

Are we moving or are we staying in the same place? Keep it moving. It is a paradox that we need to keep fighting to live but we are eventually going to die.

One way I get out of my head is when I go and meet someone else, listen to their stories, listen to their struggles, life is more than what we think of ourselves and who we think we are. One of the benefit of this same internet is that you now have access to read people's stories. People have gone through a lot and when you watch others who have gone through what you have been, it helps you. The elders say there's nothing new under the sky when there is a scandal or something has happened before. We learn from the experiences of those who have gone through the road before us. Yet we keep moving.

May we be stronger than our weakest darkest thoughts.

Anikulapo