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Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by oyeb15: 12:43pm On Dec 21, 2025
If plenty money comes very early in marriage, prepare for d raining days cos nothing last forever.

And if it's because of d money and success that you married the man , someday you will regret alive or below.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by ExudeLoveToAll: 1:54pm On Dec 21, 2025
Houseontherock1:
Go to school, get certifications, establish yourself...calm down and marry well...marry a man that'll be your companion because in the end, you need companionship. If you love money and fancy things, please marry a man that can provide them, even if you are comfortable with your personal income-you will likely get irritated if you have to provide most things for yourself. Enjoy life but don't overdo it...life really is so much fun if you are with the right partner! So much 😊
Why should an adult be irritated been an adult? If the husband dies will she continue to be irritated been an adult? Train up a child in the way he should go when he is old he won't depart from it, life isn't all rosy one should plan to be adult. In today's world a man isn't a meal ticket for a woman anymore, finances isn't exclusive to the male gender, anything can happen and the woman may become the provider at home. If this happens are u saying she will be irritated for life even if she has her own money?
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Getsaved(m): 1:54pm On Dec 21, 2025
Capernum:
Learn the rudiments of womanhood and start to pattern your life around it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't keep company with loose girls changing boyfriends life undies.

Be a strong women as much as you can but understand your vulnerability as a woman is part of your strength.

Pray, plan, prepare to marry right. That's the most important thing for your life.

Be spiritual, be born again but don't be religiously foolish.

Your greatest investment is in your kind of spirit and character. Get the right spirit and let your character be noble.
Those good men you rejected because of your selfish or extreme materialism in your 20s, after acting stubborn to many good men who genuinely loved you, yet you opted for the bad guys. You see, God forgives, some men forgives, but nature never forgives.
Those good values he begged you to imbibe , after chasing them all away with your bad character. In the end , you may want to change, you may feel sorry and regret, but the good men you were blessed with are gone. You are now left with the bad guys you had always crave for. Nature can purnish you that even though you have repented you will do it under a bad man who doesn't appreciate good values. Then, you are to cry all your life for the grivious mistakes you made.

#WhoSoldNigeria?
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by trytillmake(m): 2:03pm On Dec 21, 2025
saphiere:
see how men till take over this thread.

I am still in my 20s but I will advise.

1. Do not marry a man because he is ready. Marry a man you love. Better to laugh in a keke than cry in a Lambo.
2. Marry go into marriage if you are not financially independent. Love if sweet but money maintain a home/marriage. If your husband is the only one providing up to salt and maggi, my dear, that home can never be sweet.
3. Do know discuss your relationship with your friends. There are so many things your friends shouldn't know about your boyfriend/husband.
4. Respect your man.
5. Put your self development first before him. If you do not develop he will dump you for another woman.
6. Take care of your body.
7. By all means try and stay independent of your parents before 25.
8. never open your legs for any man. \most man lose interest the moment they nag you.
9. Be a listener than a talker.
10. Always carry money with you whenever you go to visit any man or going for a date.
11. Don't make your love for a man be more than your love for yourself.
12. Try and have at least a skill or a business even if you have a certificate.
13. By all means try and go to school and graduate.
14. Never take back a cheat.
15. Make your health a priority.
16. Do not bend your rules for any man.
17. By all means have at least a Love Machine. You can get the cheaper one from Jumia. I have vendors too.
18. Always have your money. Whatever he gives you should be a bonus.
19. Do not date a man you are older than unless he is from a wealthy home.
20. By all means never give birth if you don't have any source of income.
Nice

17. By all means have at least a Love Machine. You can get the cheaper one from Jumia. I have vendors too.
19. Do not date a man you are older than unless he is from a wealthy home.
Wao Baddest babe wen dey hold her side, girls dey form dem no wan nack but na dem wire pass o, also cause of money u wanna go against yr own rules that said marry a man u love, why na
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Kobojunkie: 2:12pm On Dec 21, 2025
DeGLORIOUS:
It's not compulsory to come to terms with reality. Your thoughts about reality can't change it from being the reality. Keep it up using the big brain.,
Reality is not as defined by your delusions but facts established outside of your mind there. 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Kobojunkie: 2:14pm On Dec 21, 2025
Luckybelt:
Then you are wrong. Women are jewels. If I hate women I ll tell them just to go and marry a rich man not minding God fearing trait
Yep! You definitely hate women so very much! 🥱🥱
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by vdestro: 4:14pm On Dec 21, 2025
This generation of women dey fear person ooo!

They no dey even hear advice unlike in our own time.

But just in case there is any woman out there, still pure and having not given in to the pressures of hk and who knows to fear God, remain pure and standing in God for this is thy blessing and your life.

Once you lose your pureness, you lose everything and causes follow you for the rest of your life.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by alukstea(m): 4:24pm On Dec 21, 2025
Asides that a man loves a woman whom he's at peace around/with, another trait not often discussed is the ability to think critically. Men are adhered to critical thinkers...
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by FineUsername(m): 8:23pm On Dec 21, 2025
Who man?

Allthelight:
are you a woman?
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by FineUsername(m): 8:25pm On Dec 21, 2025
grin wink cheesy
ezra1990:
Lol...why you dey paint the truth...make their husbands run DNA test because women can't be trusted...wetin concern nurses for this matter now?
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by AlphaTaikun: 3:03am On Dec 22, 2025
GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by AlphaTaikun: 3:08am On Dec 22, 2025
saphiere:
see how men till take over this thread.

I am still in my 20s but I will advise.

1. Do not marry a man because he is ready. Marry a man you love. Better to laugh in a keke than cry in a Lambo.
2. Marry go into marriage if you are not financially independent. Love if sweet but money maintain a home/marriage. If your husband is the only one providing up to salt and maggi, my dear, that home can never be sweet.
3. Do know discuss your relationship with your friends. There are so many things your friends shouldn't know about your boyfriend/husband.
4. Respect your man.
5. Put your self development first before him. If you do not develop he will dump you for another woman.
6. Take care of your body.
7. By all means try and stay independent of your parents before 25.
8. never open your legs for any man. \most man lose interest the moment they nag you.
9. Be a listener than a talker.
10. Always carry money with you whenever you go to visit any man or going for a date.
11. Don't make your love for a man be more than your love for yourself.
12. Try and have at least a skill or a business even if you have a certificate.
13. By all means try and go to school and graduate.
14. Never take back a cheat.
15. Make your health a priority.
16. Do not bend your rules for any man.
17. By all means have at least a Love Machine. You can get the cheaper one from Jumia. I have vendors too.
18. Always have your money. Whatever he gives you should be a bonus.
19. Do not date a man you are older than unless he is from a wealthy home.
20. By all means never give birth if you don't have any source of income.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by aktolly54(m): 10:29am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! If a man cannot afford a woman, he should have no business with that woman at all. 🥱🥱🥱

For that woman to continue, she would need to have a legal contract drafted to ensure that the man not only pays her what is due her but also ensures that not a single dime is left unpaid after the grace period that is specified by her in the contract. 🥱
so if a man rich enough to marry five wives and buy house for each one of them and marry all of them then man can do that? Since we are talking about "AFFORD" this moment
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by EmekaBlue(m): 3:17pm On Dec 22, 2025
Silentgroper:
Your female cousins nko?
I no send them
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Kobojunkie: 4:06pm On Dec 22, 2025
aktolly54:
so if a man rich enough to marry five wives and buy house for each one of them and marry all of them then man can do that? Since we are talking about "AFFORD" this moment
how much is a house that you would think it should be all a woman's time, body and energy should be Worth? If a man gave you a house so you will .marry him and live at home for him, will you be satisfied with that to want to dedicate your life to living for him and his dreams? 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by bukatyne(f): 10:31pm On Dec 22, 2025
pocohantas:
Hahaha! Problem is, ladies ain't that interested in their own matter.
So they should maintain their sex so they can help us put mouth for mata.

🤣
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by aktolly54(m): 10:43am On Dec 23, 2025
Kobojunkie:
how much is a house that you would think it should be all a woman's time, body and energy should be Worth? If a man gave you a house so you will .marry him and live at home for him, will you be satisfied with that to want to dedicate your life to living for him and his dreams? 🥱🥱🥱
"afford " is the keyword here. If Regina Daniels no want, she won't marry Ned. It's not by force, if one woman no want stay for polygamy rich lifestyle she can leave.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Kobojunkie: 2:46pm On Dec 23, 2025
aktolly54:
✓ "afford " is the keyword here. If Regina Daniels no want, she won't marry Ned. It's not by force, if one woman no want stay for polygamy rich lifestyle she can leave.
You forgot to reason that the price is determined by the one to be afforded and not the one doing the paying. lipsrsealed

Part of the reason why Ned married Regina while she was still a child has to do with her not really knowing or understanding her worth at that time. He too advantage of her naivete to take her only to dump her after she began to come to the realization that she was worth more than life as a handbag for an old man at that . 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by aktolly54(m): 8:41pm On Dec 23, 2025
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Kobojunkie:
You forgot to reason that the price is determined by the one to be afforded and not the one doing the paying. lipsrsealed

Part of the reason why Ned married Regina while she was still a child has to do with her not really knowing or understanding her worth at that time. He too advantage of her naivete to take her only to dump her after she began to come to the realization that she was worth more than life as a handbag for an old man at that . 🥱🥱🥱
it doesn't matter, if you no gree million of lady go gree once a man can afford it. Thousand of ladies want pa ned to see them, maybe he never ready to see them. Once a man can afford 10 wives, he should go for available and READY LADIES
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Kobojunkie: 8:54pm On Dec 23, 2025
aktolly54:
J it doesn't matter, if you no gree million of lady go gree once a man can afford it. Thousand of ladies want pa ned to see them, maybe he never ready to see them. Once a man can afford 10 wives, he should go for available and READY LADIES
Well, that's always been a given, hasn't it? undecided
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Merry100: 12:19am On Jan 04
CandidNotes:
1. There is a consequence for EVERY ACTION, good or bad. Immediately or in the future.

2. Wife not cook, wife, not maid is a ridiculous ideology; it’s a woman’s responsibility to NURTURE HER FAMILY and she should do it WITH PRIDE.

3. Don’t waste your time fighting men over who is the head of THE HOME. Your husband is THE HEAD OF YOUR HOME. Every other man around you is the head of HIS OWN HOME…

4. Sex is spiritual; life is spiritual. The Netflix and chill you are doing with that guy today, will complicate your life in the future…

5. Virginity is not old fashioned; REAL MEN will be over the moon, with a virgin wife. They’ll respect and treasure you for the rest of your life. By the way, they’ll boast to friends and family about your virginity and those people too would respect you for it…

6. MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY; if you want your husband’s respect, if you want to prevent side chicks, if you want to secure your children and your future, if you want your man to be IN AWE OF YOU, MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY…

7. Finally, but most importantly, know God, walk with Him, trust in Him. E get why…
Can you name ten politicians or billionaires, anywhere in the world, who married virgin?

If "real men" to you are just the average Nigerian men you meet on the street hyping virginity, then I hope you are not being delusional.

Virginity is simply a Biblical value, but it is not a relationship advantage. Quit assuming it guarantees a good husband. If not handled wisely, it can even become a disadvantage.

Real men value women who are confident, intelligent, and accomplished.

Cooking is not wrong, and it may be necessary in some homes, but it should not be treated as the ultimate measure of a woman. Not cooking does not send anyone to hell, nor does it destroy a woman's happiness or her home.

As the saying goes, another man's food is another man's poison.

Some men do not even want wives who cook. A friend once joked, "If I marry you, I wouldn't let you bring this your fine skin into the kitchen." When another man intruded and tried to impose his baseless standards, my friend replied, "When you marry, you can build a bedroom for your wife in the kitchen; but don't tell me how to run my own home."

Families need room to breathe. Many relationship problems are fueled by outsiders and their expectations.

I have even seen men complain that, despite hiring chefs and maids to help their wives, their wives still stress themselves too much.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by CandidNotes: 9:52pm On Jan 04
cheesy if this makes you sleep well at night, knock yourself out!

Merry100:
Can you name ten politicians or billionaires, anywhere in the world, who married virgin?

If "real men" to you are just the average Nigerian men you meet on the street hyping virginity, then I hope you are not being delusional.

Virginity is simply a Biblical value, but it is not a relationship advantage. Quit assuming it guarantees a good husband. If not handled wisely, it can even become a disadvantage.

Real men value women who are confident, intelligent, and accomplished.

Cooking is not wrong, and it may be necessary in some homes, but it should not be treated as the ultimate measure of a woman. Not cooking does not send anyone to hell, nor does it destroy a woman's happiness or her home.

As the saying goes, another man's food is another man's poison.

Some men do not even want wives who cook. A friend once joked, "If I marry you, I wouldn't let you bring this your fine skin into the kitchen." When another man intruded and tried to impose his baseless standards, my friend replied, "When you marry, you can build a bedroom for your wife in the kitchen; but don't tell me how to run my own home."

Families need room to breathe. Many relationship problems are fueled by outsiders and their expectations.

I have even seen men complain that, despite hiring chefs and maids to help their wives, their wives still stress themselves too much.
Re: Women In Your 30's & 40's, What Advice Will You Give To A 20 Year Old Wom Today? by Merry100:
CandidNotes:
cheesy if this makes you sleep well at night, knock yourself out!
Predictable; just the usual pick-me line to dodge logic. Slow down, doll, I'm not even chasing but facts don't care.
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