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Lexzeey:
We don't have history, he has been non-existent all my life only to pop up like an annoying arsehole itch at that burial then choose me to oppress amongst everyone present in the name of uncle, I would have beaten him sef.

SpencerForbes:
Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

I can tell that u are a true son of a he soil. Nna gi muru gi

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Automolite:
Lemme post in English.

OP you lack wisdom that's plain and simple.

If ur uncle had been blaabbing back and forth, why did u take it personal?
Did he call ur name?, why assume the rants where directed to you.
You even said he was drunk, so why take his drunken rabble to heart?.
How much pain could his "hit me on the back" have caused u that you could not control yourself?
How many days is burial that you could not manage the situation maturely and disappear after a few days?
U failed to process the whole situation maturely and act with wisdom, but reacted like a child u are and have come hear for justification.
Only the senseless will support u. You are painting it as if a hit on the back is equivalent to a violent attack. How many times did you slap ur mom or dad for the times dey beat u silly?.
I sense that you are young, u have a long ways to go in life, so I understand the attitude.
Time and life will humble you eventually.

Peace.

Lexzeey:
Arrest me na, a full grown adult you want me to become a child because of some backwards thinking, shey you have useless uncles too, submit yourself to slapping na, and whimper when they do repeatedly to show you're a good child who doesn't cho cho cho cho.

silaswills01:
No matter how hard u want to defend your actions 2 wrongs doesn't make a right you were wrong
I never said I don't have useless uncles or this ur own uncle is a good person
But the point is you should have done things differently other than slapping the man
Period

Lexzeey:
Lol Una too mumu I swear, try leave that tiny village that is your world and go outside, you won't misbehave anyhow under the guise of culture and they'll do you someday, you'll land in jail for small reason due to ignorance.

Kobojunkie:
1. If you know me so well, then you should also know that I stick to the facts, but meaningless things and gobbledegook like non-codified traditional ideas, which seem more like an entitlement-driven system that is so far away from justice and truth at the end of the day. (Your traditional systems rarely seem to benefit or stand on the side of victims but perpetrators.)

2. Research shows that humans are actually so many times worse than gorillas and other primates in the way they deal with each other. 🥱🥱

3. OP has not asked for your trust and does not need it. Unless you yourself have a way of going around him to privately investigate the facts for yourself, you and I have no alternative but to address the situation as presented by OP. 🥱🥱🥱

4. I don't believe in any of your standards of morality. To this day, your pastors/imams/traditional leaders/elderly/etc happen to be some of the most vile beings who walk the planet. But guess what? Your morality nonsense presents them with excuse after excuse for why they should continue to prey on the weak and the low. That is wickedness to me. 🥱🥱🥱

5. Please spare me the meaningless stories. I have read enough of those same bullsheet that I heard so many times during my childhood, only for me to realize later on that these stories never applied to the rich and/or powerful in the communities. Against the poor and helpless, tradition is a literal weapon of subjugation and misery! 🥱🥱🥱

Lexzeey:
Based on your judgement and scope of understanding right, that means it's not as significant as you think it is, your opinions I mean.

Babalegba:
✓ The o.p slapping his uncle is symptomatic of a wider general malaise in his life, my experience in resolving disputes has taught me to read between the lines.
My former boss was always telling me not to throw out the baby with the bath water,no system is perfect. Most women will not raise up decent human beings. Years ago I saw my Jamaican origin colleague beaming and happy. I asked her what was up and she told me that she just realized that she has raised a decent hard working morally upright resilient son.
Three of my nephews got fully funded scholarships abroad and one is working as a lecturer abroad at his old university. They are not looking for somebody to scam.They were raised the old fashioned moralistic way.
You should not bring pastors and imams into something like this; they are mostly cult leaders . Men should be taught about controlling themselves.

Kobojunkie:
Why do many of you folks think that posting what are literally brain farts in a bid to get the last word in works in your favor? 😩😩😩😩

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Lexzeey:
And leaving where he stood and was making a phul of himself wasn't ignoring him enough, it's a mistake being born in Africa honestly cuz the way una dey reason dey muzz me, for me to avoid someone and leave him where he's making a jest of me, he still chased me outside, at this point it's better I talk to cow head cuz this thickness no be here, nothing fit enter una head.

skedy1:
First off, that's your uncle.
You didn't need to slap him, that wasn't needed bro.
This is Africa, you don't slap your uncle.
Better way was to walk away and keep his distance for good, as I would perceive you have always done.

Mcslize:
Don't mind the young man. It's a tap. The moment I started reading his post, I knew it was a tap and not a slap as he claimed.

Mo na leave the young man. Life go humble am. Life has a way of humbling arrogant brats like that. He is a spoiled brat and life will teach him a great lesson in the future that is if he will be alive to tell the story.

Everybody dey advice am but he is still forming capon. He will surely learn the hard way trust karma and nature for this. He is not wiser than those that had walked across the surface of the earth and beyond.

Life always has a way of teaching people like that a big lesson. Mo na leave am.

Mattswaggz:
Dumb talk ....another child is free to retaliate as well if assaulted.

Tenrack:
what if he dies early?

StillDtruth:
And then you wonder why the world is full of bad people to the point that you people no longer want to marry or have kids.
Anyway, you like it, so I bless you with it.

Mattswaggz:
I don't wonder why when I can clearly see your likes who make selective justice, implement double standards and overlook certain behaviors based on stupid sentiments.....as far as ur likes are en masse in this world....one doesn't need to wonder anything....the answer has already revealed itself.

StillDtruth:
So, now you have the world you want where kids slap their elders and children kill their parents, siblings and neighbours. So, children, mattswaggs, says blesses your slappings and killings

Mattswaggz:
You're the one talking about killing here....if you are killing people or you're around those doing that then stop or report the persons to the Police.

As for the the main topic of discussion..... every human has the right to act in self defense which op just did and no amount of gibberish you're saying up there will change that basic human right.

Dtruthspeaker:
An uncle's slap on the back does not amount to an attack worthy of self defence.

Mattswaggz:
Depends on perspective.....Mr OP might have overreacted but that doesn't mean he is a bad person....he was responding to something that shouldn't be done to him and even that "response" still depends on individual perspective.

The culture of always overlooking what elder ones do regardless of being wrong/right is archaic and should be left where it belongs (in the thrash)......it has done more harm than good in the society today.

Dtruthspeaker:
Every reasonable person can see that that retaliation was premeditated

Mattswaggz:
Whether "premeditated" or whatsoever he was responding to an assault..... it's a different case if the assaulter kept to his/her boundary and was attacked.....when you violate someones right be ready to face the consequences because not everyone will walk away of just shove it off and doesn't mean they're wrong for retaliating.

Lexzeey:
His lilly livered sons? Lol, people like me who hardly talk always have something sinister brewing inside, I beg them to prod me bro, and yes I came here to vent but it seems there's more of my uncle on nairaland too, y'all don't see anything wrong with the drunk hitting an adult first for no apparent reason.

Dtruthspeaker:
So, now you admit that he is a very bad person for normal people do not attack every person who attacks them. Only evil people. And that is why I bless you that your world be filled with ivu children