₦airaland Forum

Jayboiii:
Let them rent...if its sustainable time will tell.

parags:
Ngo, engineering , IT, realtor , federal government parastatals like CBN, PPPRA, ,NCC,, OIL AND Gas ( even small oil services companies ), , banking ( as a staff ). Not to even near entrepreneurship

Pootle:
i pity them, i jus hope its not too late for them,

Kajaard:
This has come to stay. Expect more of this trend happening.

Blame the men giving them money while they neglect their wives and children.

teeteepeejay:
It baffles me how men pay for sex

Talk more of the ones that pay just to see a nude woman.

RemoteNaija:
.It is funny how people immediately jump to 'Runs' or 'Men' whenever they see women renting decent apartments. We need to wake up; the economy has changed.

We are in the gig economy era. A lot of Nigerian ladies are quietly earning legitimate dollars remotely as Virtual Assistants, Content Writers, and UI/UX designers. Financial independence has no gender anymore. If they are earning in foreign currency, renting a flat in Lagos is easy for them. Let’s stop discrediting their hustle.

muyico:
In all sectors
Women earns more money than men,
With little earning of some men, 60/70% still go them, I mean women

Nexus5011:
I have seen it over & over. MOST of these girls are doing runs, even if they have a steady BF.

Shedrack777:
To be very honest 70% of the ladies renting those apartment and renting them for content creation. While 40% of the ladies renting them are renting them for hook ups

LordIsaac:
Ask a Nigerian lady out today let's see how many hours till she starts billing you. Go out and confirm this hypothesis!

oylam:
You need to accept the fact that women are as smart as men and in this 21st century, that means a lot.

kingthreat:
The house I was staying few years ago had a fellow tenant, a lady in her early 30s. The house was rented to her by her married boyfriend. The married man comes once in awhile but this girl had like 3 guys who spend the night steady in her apartment.
You're right, a lot of wrong trends by ladies are caused by men who are their enablers.

Makamatic:
Bro for every lady in remote work , they're 20 more guys doing bigger paying remote jobs . If we want to be truthful , these young girls want freedom and it's very bad .

Juliearth:
So a woman who is independent is a prostitute, right? Cavemen should sometimes, stick out their heads from their caves of imprisonment and take in fresh air, at least.

Gotocourt:
Na Oloshoes work dey pay Wella for this economy 🤷🏿.

Also, ladies wey dey press keyboard and accomplice don surplus.

Samantha125:
Some men and their primitive thinking... If a woman is fully financially dependant on a man, it's an issue, you guys would complain of how she's lazy to work and financially look after herself, but immediately she becomes financially independent and starts lo[color=#770077][/color]oking after herself, it's still an issue... You're now assuming that she's promoting prostitution for renting her own apartment and even going to the extent of wondering how she'll maintain it in the long run as if women don't get educated and work in the same field as you guys.

Some of you are just misogynists and threatened by career women.

Edusouls:
and na only girls dem Dey employ? What of millions of graduates looking for jobs? And what’s holding you from getting employed in all these places? And these places pay 500k to 2 million monthly in this economy? When 70k minimum wage na still wahala to pay? This gen Z kids I wonder how una brains Dey work, bro stop misleading people, haba

Edusouls:
unfortunately bro it’s too late for many, cos most won’t get married, these times are very difficult, uncertain and short

ufotunang:
. majority of them it's their boyfriends and sugar daddies that rent the apartment for them

Clature:
I am a Nigerian man and I must say Nigerian guys generally need to do and think better. It is not the 1950’s, ladies are working, earning even more than men, funding most households; I stand on this. Of course, some will be funded by men but way more are working and earning high level pays. Let us all quickly grow up, besides, mind your business.

Gerrard59:
Runs doesn't fund a middle class lifestyle. It might serve as initial capital for an eventual business which funds the lifestyle, but runs cannot fund a middle class lifestyle. Also, there's a limit to which most girls engage in runs/hookups.

Gerrard59:
You cannot just pull out numbers like that when you haven't conducted a research into it.

Edusouls:
marry waiting? Most women don spoil finish beyond repair, they are now very hazardous to man’s and well being

Gerrard59:
Associating with women as a man costs money.

1) Women are an expense. Know this and have peace.

2) Unfortunately, men cannot do without women, but women can nowadays, do seemingly well without men.

IbeOkehie:
Not completely true on both counts.

1) That's the opposite of my own personal experience. Add to that, I know SEVERAL high earning women who married men who earn much less. I'm talking USA based specialist physicians marrying guys making $40 to 70K per year. One particular lady I told you about is in a specialty that earns an average of $400K per year. There's a female oil company executive we knew in Houston whose marriage was similar. This thing is no longer rare or exceptional.

This makes sense once it's understood that resources aren't just FINANCIAL...it's also GENETIC AND SOCIAL. Women in many cases end up being ASSETS not EXPENSES for a man, especially when they bond as a family unit and all ledgers are balanced. It can even be argued that this is merely a reversion to how it used to be....men took women as part of their wealth.

Or we can put it like this - there's broad evidence that women are earning much more than a generation ago. While we acknowledge female hypergamy, the REALITY is that they can't ALL get higher earning men. Thus it ALSO makes sense that more of them will SETTLE or actually PAY for men who're financially poor but RICH in other resources. Now whether women REMAIN happy after settling is another matter that explains high and growing divorce rates .

2) Men are the ones now rejecting marriage, while women are the ones who initiate divorce. All the stats and zeitgeist point to one truth - most young men of every race and nationality have realized that marriage is a big risk, even in Nigeria. I've already told how some younger male family friends are the ones that made me understand this!

Women (those who want marriage) are now the ones chasing men for marriage. A US citizen going to marry someone in Nigeria is BESTOWING a huge life benefit & opportunities on the lucky Nigerian. How do you explain that it's now a big trend for young women of Nigerian background, including those born and and raised in the USA, to seek out husbands in Nigeria? This thing is RAMPANT in the Nigerian community these days.

When I got to the USA it was me and my male peers who were seeking wives in Nigeria, I noticed those who arrived around 2007 to 2010 onwards stopped doing it....these days ZERO young Nigerian men even consider it...they generally don't even want to get married.

Anyway sha, that's what I see.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Gerrard59:
1) This article is my response. https://archive.md/2025.12.01-093700/https://www.economist.com/briefing/2025/11/06/all-over-the-rich-world-fewer-people-are-hooking-up-and-shacking-up

Female hypergamy is on steroids across the rich world.

2) Men need sex more than women and women have the monopoly of sex. For this reason, men will need women in their lives. It doesn't have to translate into marriage, but because of sex, men will continue to approach women.