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bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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Sit your wife down and let her know the importance of savings. Eating everything you have made without saving enough for future unforeseen isn't life. Let her cut her coat according to her cloak. She knew your financial strength before marrying you, so she should not over stretch your limit. After talking to her and she fails to hear. Have a family budget and let her know the budget for each month. Always insist if the budget is exceeded and then reluctantly bring out a little supplementary. This way the message will begin to sink gradually. Don't allow her. They reason like children. They don't know what is tomorrow. Their mantra is always "Living in the moment".

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, she has a valid point there. Why should she have to take on additional stress all in order that you can save yourself from the stress of having to do more to afford the bills? I mean, you are trying to give her more work to do because you don't want to have to do more work as a provider. That ogboju dem dey call that one. 🥱🥱🥱

2. What reason would you have to suggest she do that, though? Anyways, you could always divorce your wife and go find yourself a cheaper woman who wouldn't mind cooking using charcoal and taking on all the stress that goes along with it. Alternatively, you can take over cooking duty in your home so you can handle the stress all by yourself instead of stacking on to the stress your wife already has to deal with. 🥱🥱🥱

Zero points made but sentiments.
The Op itemized high cost of energy and family maintenance. No emotions or sentiments involved but practicalities.

Kobojunkie:
You know that using a pressure cooker instead would have made your life a whole lot easier? 🥱🥱🥱

True.

ogascomax:
Before you called someone wife a parasite go and subject your wife to such situation first. If you don't have a wife you have females in your home so ask them first if they will do that except they are in some locations that they are already used to that.

Ignorance is disease that stove is trending cost up to 80k we normally use it to cook beans very nice and economical
But am sure u still stays with yur parents that shoulder everything for u
Man want to cut cost this one is bringing his family people into it

Pls not time for kids on dis tread pls

Why won’t the average man suffer for marriage?
Don’t blame the single men out there who’ve refused marriage. Choosing not to marry can be self-preservation, not selfishness. Everyone is just trying to survive and stay sane in this economy and society. Any average guy should shun any relationship or marriage where the expectations and sacrifices are placed on one side alone.

Dzzzz:
But he can pay for Gotv and can’t spend on what to eat?.Una Dey reason backwards sometimes oo..

So you think if one decides to minimize is spending is to reason backward or do you forget the part where he said his wife should also contribute her own quota. You don’t need to argue further, I hear you.

Is it every family matter you guys will bring to the front page for us to analyse?
Please deal with this simple matter otherwise how can we be more focused to attend other serious issues?

WhiteIverson:
You encouraged him not to do anything illegal but same you still encouraged him to bypass his meter. What kind of hypocrisy is this?

If you were intelligent enough, you'd have read that I talked about godliness and legality when I emphasized the importance of money. Read the last part again and again before coming with your arsenals.

We

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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They must take you to the city square, have you given twelve strokes of bílálà by a hefty, angry soldier that escaped from sambisa forest for taking a fine girl' from her father's house in 21st century and taking her back to old stone age.


Anyway, appeal to her and make her see reason to adapt for now. So many things are ravaging her mind.

K

Mercury12:
Tell her you had a terrible dream about a explosion in your home while cooking. Find one unknown man to act as prophet and also tell her his vision about a gas explosion that she should be careful and stay off it for a while.


If I hear say she no believe enh!!!
infact say goodbye to gas and electric cooker in your home. But watch out, if you not at home she is likely to dash your gas cylinder to aboki condemn iron buyers roaming the streets if u follow my advice

This guy

Kalulu44:
If he takes over cooking, will the wife agree to provide?

You don shoot @Kobojunkie kaboom for yansh. If she reply you, mention me to her response. Person wey I call out till today because of her double standard, na race she pick, till today, she has never responded😂

opicgif:
And the annoying thing is

Gas is cheaper, and more efficient than Charcoal!!!

If you said firewood, I will understand

But you went out and bought a new stove?

Nahh, you’re wicked!
You hate that woman

Why crying more than the bereaved?😂😂😂

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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Most of them here are either single or fraudsters

Don't listen to them o...
Run your home as best as you can .... Adjust when needs arises.. stand on your ground lovingly when you take decisions... No let woman push you pass ur limit o

If possible do the cookings by urself for one week anytime you are around, so she also understand that it's doable and not rocket science

Lekby25:
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The cost of charcoal and gas is almost the same now. Let's be honest with ourselves, it's not easy to move down from using gas to using charcoal. If you are in her position you will find it difficult too. But where i will blame her is her unwillingnes to support in the cost of using gas or hot plate. She does not want to spend her own money, that is not good enough. A good wife must be ready to offer support when needed.

I tire ooo. Two adults living in a house and one is footing the bills of the entire household. While the other is doing nothing owing to the fact that she doing domestic work, domestic work the man may end up assisting her o. I keep saying the fact that na mumu Dey struggle to marry for this our generation😂

JuanDeDios:
It's about the TIME spent cooking, not how stressful it is. Be calming down when you're reading. No, I did not say cooking (by any method) is not stressful. Be calming down when you're reading.

When you are done rambling, let me know. 😕😕

@bigpicture001, nah true she talk.. cooking everytime is stressful enough.. having to add something that fumes makes it more stressful. 15k every 1.5month will not kill u.. if a must, take that money from something else - maybe ur own person comfort or car fuelling or even data

Juliearth:
Will a difference of 12 to 15k (price for refilling a 12.5kg cylinder) per month make your financial status any better? Did you carry her along in this decision? Are there no other expenses that can be cut? Expenses such as cost of fuelling your car, hangout with the boys, alcohol, peppersoup..?

Kobojunkie:
When you are done rambling, let me know. 😕😕

I am duty bound to request the immediate hindrance of your raucous and unedifying prattle lest I choose to asphyxiate your focus with a dense atmosphere of antedilvian verbiage

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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Bro it's easy, it's wat we r doing in Lagos here, call a gud electrician, bycut ur electric cookers and other heavy heat emitting appliances from d meter line, even me, my ac is not from d meter.....

Den try and stay on a budget for ur gas dat u won't exceed. Also make her understand this... Also, mind how u use energy, some women will boil water 3 times b4 using, and dey have one million excuse or reason to do such...

Just make her understand dat she has to adjust.

Cooking is the issue. Women waste gas and electricity when cooking because they will be watching soap opera and playing with phone. Some will even forget they are cooking food. Something they should cook for 20minutes will still be on fire for 60 minutes. That is why women will never agree to share energy costs. Women are just too wasteful.

Double0h7:
How much energy does cooking a meal really use? Are you guys cooking banquets? You’re not saving much money by not cooking so check where else the energy is going. Do you have a washing machine? Are you using AC? Are you leaving lights on when nobody is in the rooms? Are you watching tv/playing games/on the computer? Cooking isn’t the issue so find the issue!

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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This life isn't balanced ehen, my wife just adopted this usage of charcoal to cook and she is so loving it. But that doesn't stop me from filling gas tho. We use charcoal to cook beans or support gas
Country difficult abeg

ojotobiloba1:
This life isn't balanced ehen, my wife just adopted this usage of charcoal to cook and she is so loving it. But that doesn't stop me from filling gas tho. We use charcoal to cook beans or support gas
Country difficult abeg

That money you used to buy charcoal and refill it, you could have easily used to purchase a pressure cooker which will cook your beans faster on gas and save you a whole lot. This is 2026! Why are you folks deadset on not making sense? 🥱🥱🥱

Dzzzz:
This matter get as be sef..Bro,you sef get your own for body..You no buy gas,you no want make she use burner,makawhy na??..You carry her back to analog days when we Dey digital era,COME ON NA!!..I sure say you get side chick ooo!!

what you said now, is it what you really understand from the man story?

Kobojunkie:
why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱

Why should you want the man to reverse his role and not same for the woman?
@thomas2024

Kalulu44:
Why should you want the man to reverse his role and not same for the woman?

I never asked that the man to reverse his role. So, again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
Sister u dnt understand marriage.. in marriage, women cook all the time.. NEPA comes in 40k monthly, 12.5 kG gas finishes by 1 ND half month..

Remember gotv sub oo, data for the home etc.. expenses is too much..

Yes we use washing machine ND mini oven plus yam pounder which is scarcely used..

It's too much, income is not increasing.. I can't save for children future .. upon we use family health insurance oo

That is the issue majority of families are facing now.

Just try to make her reason with you, it is not easy for a woman who have been used to gas cooker or hot plate to start using charcoal. Besides, Charcoal is also expensive and risky, it doesn't worth the stress.

All you need to do is to cut down some expenses from other aspect. Why are you still using Gotv when you can simply watch latest movies and cartons for the kids through a flash drive or simply connect to YouTube. Stop buying data for the home, buy data only for your self, let your wife buy hers too. You can share with them when it absolutely necessary and remove them immediately. Also, is your wife stay at home mum who have time to cook all the time. Cooking should done twice daily, and the evening one should be very light and short.

By now, every man should understand that this is not the time to over pampering anyone.

Wife that cannot bear with husband especially this tulumbu era no be wife

Maybe she can excuse, when things settle she should come back

Kobojunkie:
I never asked that the man to reverse his role. So, again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱🥱

You never asked for reverse role and you're still mentioning the man to take over cooking.
Is cooking made for the man, if you say yes. Then providing is also made for the woman

Kobojunkie:
I never asked that the man to reverse his role. So, again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱🥱

Pray, discontinue this torrent of pleonastic vapidity forthwith before I am moved to entangle your perceptions in a web of convoluted morphological intricacies

thomas2024:
So you think if one decides to minimize is spending is to reason backward or do you forget the part where he said his wife should also contribute her own quota. You don’t need to argue further, I hear you.

Wetin person no fit finish,make e no better start am..Bro the guy should be answering some questions on this matter..I understand you well but let’s not blame the woman for everything cause he’s saying she should “contribute” but let’s ask him,Was she contributing from the start??

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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So, you want your wife's eyes to turn red, and her face/skin dark and burnt, cooking with charcoal, in the name of being economical, abi?
And when you no longer find her attractive, you will start complaining that she no longer takes care of herself, then start looking outside.

See, there's no reward in suffering.

Well, maybe she will consider cooking with your charcoal stove if you promise you'd be the one to always start the fire and get the coal burning, otherwise...

By the way, I wouldn't buy your gokpo charcoal stove...except maybe for adventurous outdoor cooking purpose.

And my own wife likes to cook with woods and charcoal. Irony of life.

ZUBY77:
And my own wife likes to cook with woods and charcoal. Irony of life.

She doesn't like it.
She's just enduring it because it's not convenient.

Buy her gas stove.