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Well for a start , I would say my mind wasn’t really ready to start a family but unfortunately I found myself having a baby with my girl friend and we kept hoping maybe we can handle the stress and see what the future holds in store for us and then we can plan better ..

But to be honest ,I find myself back tracking and seeing myself alone not bothered by a family at my age cause I’m more of an introverted person and I love my peace and quietness but this days it just hard to focus on myself when everything seems like a burden and responsibility..

I’m not that financially buoyant or have something doing at the moment but I’m quite comfortable enough due to my past earnings in some few businesses which normally was to take care of my mental well being alone but this days I find myself trying to be there for my family and coupled with recession and bad economy ,it is taking a toll on my mental health and I’m being forced to be out there doing something concrete enough that will back my young family financially but this is not my trend and sometimes I find myself still thinking I’m living alone and looking out for opportunities in my own comfortable way not same way that feels hectic and serves as constant reminder for me to proof to myself and show that i am capable of handling the family life I got myself entangled in..

As regards my other half to be honest she is amazing ,beautiful and well disciplined but I’m not quite satisfied with her back ground and it feels like I went too low and I didn’t aim higher . She got this home domestic trauma that she experienced from her family , seeing her dad hit her mom and all that , though she let me know of this issues which I thought to myself wasn’t that really deep but tonight I find myself arguing with her cause she saw a post of a woman who was abused by her husband and due to that she kept mentioning that she will stab and kill any man who does that to her repeatedly and find that really offensive and full of negativity. Thinking how to best figure out my finances with my family and here I’m being reminded of someone who is emotionally unstable as regards abuses her mum faced from her father and aside that have seen many red flags that doesn’t quite balance with me ..

I keep thinking , how I wish I was still alone and how needed to be by myself and plan my life well but at the end of the day I’m reminded have started a journey which I ought not to have cause it feels just too early for me ..Though I’m 31 by age this year but I don’t think age should be a determining factor as regards when you choose to settle down ..Due to this difference,I’m thinking of just leaving or asking her to leave and take the child away but I’m worried cause my daughter is too beautiful and loving to be left alone with her mum ,which to me I don’t really trust her and her back ground cause she grew up from a seperated household but I don’t think that should affect her as regards her household but to be honest it feels heavy to me and I feel like giving up but at the same I want to fight it out and believe I can defeat this phase of my life and channel a good purpose through my family but my lingering worries are : if she is really worth it, I mean doing life with her and creating a good foundation and purpose for ourselves.. Our insecurities are clashing and we find ourselves arguing over this and it starting to feel like we will be heading out different ways soon but still I can’t leave my child cause I don’t trust her well being with her mom cause she herself is not financially stable and likewise her family but I can handover the child to my parents cause they are doing well for themselves and capable of keeping a good eye on my child but she is adamant and swearing she won’t leave her daughter alone and I’m quite worried..

Pls advice me ,how do I create a balance and purge any negativity from my family ..I’m still looking for a job or thinking of getting a enough capital to start a business ..have really exhausted myself financially starting from when she got pregnant, till now and a never ending cycle of commitment and responsibility which is eroding my sense of freedom ..

capetownboyz:
➜I keep thinking , how I wish I was still alone and how needed to be by myself and plan my life well but at the end of the day I’m reminded have started a journey which I ought not to have cause it feels just too early for me ..Though I’m 31 by age this year but I don’t think age should be a determining factor as regards when you choose to settle down ..Due to this difference,I’m thinking of just leaving or asking her to leave and take the child away but I’m worried cause my daughter is too beautiful and loving to be left alone with her mum ,which to me I don’t really trust her and her back ground cause she grew up from a seperated household but I don’t think that should affect her as regards her household but to be honest it feels heavy to me and I feel like giving up but at the same I want to fight it out and believe I can defeat this phase of my life and channel a good purpose through my family but my lingering worries are : if she is really worth it, I mean doing life with her and creating a good foundation and purpose for ourselves.. Our insecurities are clashing and we find ourselves arguing over this and it starting to feel like we will be heading out different ways soon but still I can’t leave my child cause I don’t trust her well being with her mom cause she herself is not financially stable and likewise her family but I can handover the child to my parents cause they are doing well for themselves and capable of keeping a good eye on my child but she is adamant and swearing she won’t leave her daughter alone and I’m quite worried..
Pls advice me ,how do I create a balance and purge any negativity from my family ..I’m still looking for a job or thinking of getting a enough capital to start a business ..have really exhausted myself financially starting from when she got pregnant, till now and a never ending cycle of commitment and responsibility which is eroding my sense of freedom ..

The options available are straightforward in this case. You have a child, and that child needs to be raised by the parents, preferably both of them. From your story, seems the mother of the child does not have her feet on the ground still. One thing you can do is become the primary parent for your baby while the mother, after moving on, begins working to at least pay child support for the child. ( She can, of course, visit with the child often to ensure the child has the mother in their life through the period.) After the woman has adequately situated herself — gotten her own apartment and is financially stable enough to host her child for at least a couple of days each week — you can both decide on a co-parenting schedule that allows the child spend 50/50 time with each parent.

Either that, or you can always take the woman to court and get 100% custody of your child based on the fact that the woman is not able to handle the responsibility at all at this time. 🥱🥱🥱

All the negatives you see in your "wife" now, were all there before you started having sex with her without protection.
Your so called mental health was already wack before you started having sex without protection.
Your finances were already suboptimal...
It's just the pregnancy and arrival of the baby that has now cleared your eyes, nothing else has changed.

So all you have to do is man up and face your responsibilities. Don't think you're too young at 31 to start a family.

Sometimes when challenges comes like yours, if you don't calm and analyse every opportunity around you, you might loss someone that will be hard for you to replace even when you have gotten whatever else you crave for in life.. due to your write up, you have a good woman, am not saying she is perfect bcuz everyone too have their short comings, but there are some correctable trait.. back to you my suggestion, can't you asked your wife to engage in something creative too!! Can't she look for catering job, while she can still get little money while learning,.and also building her own client base, or she engage in petty trading while u figure out road to financial stability..tasting a couple life and going back to single life sometimes drain alot..
There will b a time when after the day stress,you need someone at home to do the house chore, gist partner, and so on..it's not easy tho but talk to your wife about it..find a way out as a partner..thank God you only have a kid, what of me with twins oo, and my wife already had kids before we meet..

capetownboyz:
Well for a start , I would say my mind wasn’t really ready to start a family but unfortunately I found myself having a baby with my girl friend and we kept hoping maybe we can handle the stress and see what the future holds in store for us and then we can plan better ..

But to be honest ,I find myself back tracking and seeing myself alone not bothered by a family at my age cause I’m more of an introverted person and I love my peace and quietness but this days it just hard to focus on myself when everything seems like a burden and responsibility..

I’m not that financially buoyant or have something doing at the moment but I’m quite comfortable enough due to my past earnings in some few businesses which normally was to take care of my mental well being alone but this days I find myself trying to be there for my family and coupled with recession and bad economy ,it is taking a toll on my mental health and I’m being forced to be out there doing something concrete enough that will back my young family financially but this is not my trend and sometimes I find myself still thinking I’m living alone and looking out for opportunities in my own comfortable way not same way that feels hectic and serves as constant reminder for me to proof to myself and show that i am capable of handling the family life I got myself entangled in..

As regards my other half to be honest she is amazing ,beautiful and well disciplined but I’m not quite satisfied with her back ground and it feels like I went too low and I didn’t aim higher . She got this home domestic trauma that she experienced from her family , seeing her dad hit her mom and all that , though she let me know of this issues which I thought to myself wasn’t that really deep but tonight I find myself arguing with her cause she saw a post of a woman who was abused by her husband and due to that she kept mentioning that she will stab and kill any man who does that to her repeatedly and find that really offensive and full of negativity. Thinking how to best figure out my finances with my family and here I’m being reminded of someone who is emotionally unstable as regards abuses her mum faced from her father and aside that have seen many red flags that doesn’t quite balance with me ..

I keep thinking , how I wish I was still alone and how needed to be by myself and plan my life well but at the end of the day I’m reminded have started a journey which I ought not to have cause it feels just too early for me ..Though I’m 31 by age this year but I don’t think age should be a determining factor as regards when you choose to settle down ..Due to this difference,I’m thinking of just leaving or asking her to leave and take the child away but I’m worried cause my daughter is too beautiful and loving to be left alone with her mum ,which to me I don’t really trust her and her back ground cause she grew up from a seperated household but I don’t think that should affect her as regards her household but to be honest it feels heavy to me and I feel like giving up but at the same I want to fight it out and believe I can defeat this phase of my life and channel a good purpose through my family but my lingering worries are : if she is really worth it, I mean doing life with her and creating a good foundation and purpose for ourselves.. Our insecurities are clashing and we find ourselves arguing over this and it starting to feel like we will be heading out different ways soon but still I can’t leave my child cause I don’t trust her well being with her mom cause she herself is not financially stable and likewise her family but I can handover the child to my parents cause they are doing well for themselves and capable of keeping a good eye on my child but she is adamant and swearing she won’t leave her daughter alone and I’m quite worried..

Pls advice me ,how do I create a balance and purge any negativity from my family ..I’m still looking for a job or thinking of getting a enough capital to start a business ..have really exhausted myself financially starting from when she got pregnant, till now and a never ending cycle of commitment and responsibility which is eroding my sense of freedom ..

Mental health

😂 😂

This generation and mental health must go hand in hand
If you knew you wanted an introverted life you shouldn't have been indulging in unprotected shingles

Young man sit your wife down and tell her in plain words how u feel about her. Tell her to grow up and throw away that nonsense mentality she has and sit down and plan life with you. If she is not ready she should walk out and take the child.she either Purge her self from all those bitterness and look for something doing to better you guys finances.

capetownboyz calm down with are. I promise you Five years from now you will surely regret whatever negative actions you take

Redoil:
capetownboyz calm down with are. I promise you Five years from now you will surely regret whatever negative actions you take

thank you for your input on this topic..

Emmy000seun:
Sometimes when challenges comes like yours, if you don't calm and analyse every opportunity around you, you might loss someone that will be hard for you to replace even when you have gotten whatever else you crave for in life.. due to your write up, you have a good woman, am not saying she is perfect bcuz everyone too have their short comings, but there are some correctable trait.. back to you my suggestion, can't you asked your wife to engage in something creative too!! Can't she look for catering job, while she can still get little money while learning,.and also building her own client base, or she engage in petty trading while u figure out road to financial stability..tasting a couple life and going back to single life sometimes drain alot..
There will b a time when after the day stress,you need someone at home to do the house chore, gist partner, and so on..it's not easy tho but talk to your wife about it..find a way out as a partner..thank God you only have a kid, what of me with twins oo, and my wife already had kids before we meet..

thank you for your input on this topic..

Emvicprints1:
Young man sit your wife down and tell her in plain words how u feel about her. Tell her to grow up and throw away that nonsense mentality she has and sit down and plan life with you. If she is not ready she should walk out and take the child.she either Purge her self from all those bitterness and look for something doing to better you guys finances.

thank you for your input on this topic..

Marriage without money is indeed very tough and empty.

U and ur wife need to sit yourselves down and talk about this.

While at the talk pls,don't allow ur daughter to live with another person,don't ever dream it.

Another thing is,u will always overcome this trouble it's just a temporary setback only if u have the quality and traits of a man with vision.

Believe in yourself.

A $3 condom would’ve prevented this quagmire.

ibechris:
Marriage without money is indeed very tough and empty.

U and ur wife need to sit yourselves down and talk about this.

While at the talk pls,don't allow ur daughter to live with another person,don't ever dream it.

Another thing is,u will always overcome this trouble it's just a temporary setback only if u have the quality and traits of a man with vision.

Believe in yourself.

thank you for your input on this topic..

capetownboyz:
Well for a start , I would say my mind wasn’t really ready to start a family but unfortunately I found myself having a baby with my girl friend and we kept hoping maybe we can handle the stress and see what the future holds in store for us and then we can plan better ..

But to be honest ,I find myself back tracking and seeing myself alone not bothered by a family at my age cause I’m more of an introverted person and I love my peace and quietness but this days it just hard to focus on myself when everything seems like a burden and responsibility..

I’m not that financially buoyant or have something doing at the moment but I’m quite comfortable enough due to my past earnings in some few businesses which normally was to take care of my mental well being alone but this days I find myself trying to be there for my family and coupled with recession and bad economy ,it is taking a toll on my mental health and I’m being forced to be out there doing something concrete enough that will back my young family financially but this is not my trend and sometimes I find myself still thinking I’m living alone and looking out for opportunities in my own comfortable way not same way that feels hectic and serves as constant reminder for me to proof to myself and show that i am capable of handling the family life I got myself entangled in..

As regards my other half to be honest she is amazing ,beautiful and well disciplined but I’m not quite satisfied with her back ground and it [b]feels like I went too low [/b]and I didn’t aim higher . She got this home domestic trauma that she experienced from her family , seeing her dad hit her mom and all that , though she let me know of this issues which I thought to myself wasn’t that really deep but tonight I find myself arguing with her cause she saw a post of a woman who was abused by her husband and due to that she kept mentioning that she will stab and kill any man who does that to her repeatedly and find that really offensive and full of negativity. Thinking how to best figure out my finances with my family and here I’m being reminded of someone who is emotionally unstable as regards abuses her mum faced from her father and aside that have seen many red flags that doesn’t quite balance with me ..

I keep thinking , how I wish I was still alone and how needed to be by myself and plan my life well but at the end of the day I’m reminded have started a journey which I ought not to have cause it feels just too early for me ..Though I’m 31 by age this year but I don’t think age should be a determining factor as regards when you choose to settle down ..Due to this difference,I’m thinking of just leaving or asking her to leave and take the child away but I’m worried cause my daughter is too beautiful and loving to be left alone with her mum ,which to me I don’t really trust her and her back ground cause she grew up from a seperated household but I don’t think that should affect her as regards her household but to be honest it feels heavy to me and I feel like giving up but at the same I want to fight it out and believe I can defeat this phase of my life and channel a good purpose through my family but my lingering worries are : if she is really worth it, I mean doing life with her and creating a good foundation and purpose for ourselves.. Our insecurities are clashing and we find ourselves arguing over this and it starting to feel like we will be heading out different ways soon but still I can’t leave my child cause I don’t trust her well being with her mom cause she herself is not financially stable and likewise her family but I can handover the child to my parents cause they are doing well for themselves and capable of keeping a good eye on my child but she is adamant and swearing she won’t leave her daughter alone and I’m quite worried..

Pls advice me ,how do I create a balance and purge any negativity from my family ..I’m still looking for a job or thinking of getting a enough capital to start a business ..have really exhausted myself financially starting from when she got pregnant, till now and a never ending cycle of commitment and responsibility which is eroding my sense of freedom ..

you see that line.

most of us dt are married sometimes reason this way. Regret of "I married wrongly" , "I married sm1 too low for my status", "my ex was beta",.........and the list of regret and gnashing of teeth keeps going on and on and on

if you think you marid too low, dt means your saying you are wiser , more knowledgeable, more expose, giving or contributing more, more classy Dan dt woman dt has a baby for you.

Shud dt be ur reasoning , den dt is where ur strength lies. use your comparative strength and advantage you have over dt woman and begin change things in dt huz for good.

Reduce ur complaining. you have not put any effort ur already complaining. clarity comes along the way wen you start taking baby steps to resolve ur issue. use your wisdom to bring back your joy you were savouring and saw in her before she got preg for you.

look at her again and write out wat you actually like abt her. see how you can use dos her strength to ur advantage.

Above all, the major reason why your lamenting is because you dnt have enough money. what money cannot solve , more money will solve it.

gerizzim:
you see that line.

most of us dt are married sometimes reason this way. Regret of "I married wrongly" , "I married sm1 too low for my status", "my ex was beta",.........and the list of regret and gnashing of teeth keeps going on and on and on

if you think you marid too low, dt means your saying you are wiser , more knowledgeable, more expose, giving or contributing more, more classy Dan dt woman dt has a baby for you.

Shud dt be ur reasoning , den dt is where ur strength lies. use your comparative strength and advantage you have over dt woman and begin change things in dt huz for good.

Reduce ur complaining. you have not put any effort ur already complaining. clarity comes along the way wen you start taking baby steps to resolve ur issue. use your wisdom to bring back your joy you were savouring and saw in her before she got preg for you.

look at her again and write out wat you actually like abt her. see how you can use dos her strength to ur advantage.

Above all, the major reason why your lamenting is because you dnt have enough money. what money cannot solve , more money will solve it.

thank you for your input on this topic..

The first problem I see is inadequate finances for your family.

To work on this, you will need to have cooperation of your girlfriend. Both of you MUST be willing to put in the work. Both of you must look for work or business to be doing to provide for your family. Your finances alone cannot do it at this point. Hopefully your girlfriend is an understanding one that will work with you.

Sit her down, have heart to heart discussion with her about this.

If she is not willing to work with you on this, you can separate like Kobo mentioned above.

Her background is another issue but finance is first key to address. Even with another woman with better background, you will still have same problem with her if your finances are inadequate for a family.

Except i didn't read it well her only crime is the emotional baggage you claim she carries from her childhood experiences with her parents.
Oga stop looking for excuses to separate your family. Be thankful she's not plotting to runaway with or separate you from your child with her parents even when you're struggling. Some men who made much more efforts providing against all odds still can't even remember how it feels to cuddle their child anymore because of the monster of a woman they got a baby with.

Stop complaining. Start seeking. Seek for ways to improve yourself. A child is better raised in a balanced home. Whatever you find to do that brings in money, do it with all your heart. Don't look for faults in your woman. What's done is done. If she's not stable mentally which I doubt then you be the one to stabilize the family.

Teach her how by example. Give her reorientation about the life you see for the both of you. Truth is no one is 100% . The girl you think you deserve definitely has her shortcomings and you migh not be able to deal with it. Even if you don't love her anymore do it for your daughter at least.

Don't run away from her because your eyes done clear. As the eyes clear use am take see opportunities when go help you give your child the life both of you never had. Talk to your dad about all of this too than relying on here for advice. Your partner has done nothing to warrant separating her from her child. Don't start what you can't finish.

Kobojunkie:
The options available are straightforward in this case. You have a child, and that child needs to be raised by the parents, preferably both of them. From your story, seems the mother of the child does not have her feet on the ground still. One thing you can do is become the primary parent for your baby while the mother, after moving on, begins working to at least pay child support for the child. ( She can, of course, visit with the child often to ensure the child has the mother in their life through the period.) After the woman has adequately situated herself — gotten her own apartment and is financially stable enough to host her child for at least a couple of days each week — you can both decide on a co-parenting schedule that allows the child spend 50/50 time with each parent.

Either that, or you can always take the woman to court and get 100% custody of your child based on the fact that the woman is not able to handle the responsibility at all at this time. 🥱🥱🥱

Is this actually coming from kobojunkie? Good gracious!

@OP, the child is here, the child is here. That's all that matters. Na you bring her come so grow up and suck it all up.
You ain't too young to haxe a family. Or you are planning to hit 40 first? Don't maltreat that woman and stop looking down on her. You ain't much better than her
You need a mentor to walk you through this phase. I would advise you sit down with your dad and discuss all of these concerns. He will help you see things clearer. Best of luck bro.
I started my own family at that age

GorillaApp:
Is this actually coming from kobojunkie? Good gracious!

@OP, the child is here, the child is here. That's all that matters. Na you bring her come so grow up and suck it all up.
You ain't too young to haxe a family. Or you are planning to hit 40 first? Don't maltreat that woman and stop looking down on her. You ain't much better than her
You need a mentor to walk you through this phase. I would advise you sit down with your dad and discuss all of these concerns. He will help you see things clearer. Best of luck bro.
I started my own family at that age

thank you for your input on this topic..

Quite a dilemma.
Like everything else, no condition is permanent.
No guarantees in life, even with money.

She has her fears which is understandable and the best you can do is to help her overcome them by showing her you are a better man. You care about your child and feel your woman's background isn't best for her to raise the child by herself. Provided she isn't disrespectful and you both love each other, you guys can make it work. It requires working hard with the right intentions from both parties and proper planning.
Lastly, can you draw a budget with her and see how well you both can stick to the budget? It really helps.

Apart from the financial crises, I feel what your wife needs is therapy, y'knw that'd help change her mindset from the abuse she faced as a child and she wouldn't think about killing anyone.

Capetownboyz

Welcome to Adulthood.

Life is tough. Marriage is hard. Parenting is difficult.

Hooray!

You have 2 roads in front of you.

One road: you keep focusing on all the problems with your spouse and how you felt you "settled" for her. Remember the 3 sentences I started with? Yeah, that will keep affecting you. Eventually you'll make some money and tell yourself "I deserve to be happy!". That's when, even if you didn't want it, your marriage or relationship will end. You'll become a single Dad, start dating "your choice" and find out that what you were looking for in Sokoto, was in your shokoto.

The end result is that it will be too late, but luckily for the rest of the world you'll hide your regrets very well.

I know someone who did the exact same thing you did, went down this road, "tolerated rubbish" for years. He's separated now, he went haywire at the end (blew up his reputation with his family and in-laws and good friends, bad friends were telling him to "keep choosing his happiness" and I see glimpses of his regret, he uses anger and pride to hide it. But God is faithful and we are all working on things, to hear good news soon.

2nd road: realize that if she was good enough to date, she was good enough to marry and MAN UP! You're not better than her, get off that prideful horse, she's exactly at your level. She is your woman. Go home and tell her that "the only way out of this marriage is via death so better get ready to bury me at age 90".

Tell yourself that every day, choose her every blessed day. Make up your mind and every day keep choosing your wife.

Money will come. This too, shall pass. And when the money comes, thank the Lord and do not discard the wife of your youth. There's nobody out there, there's nothing better.

Just ask Tuface and all the men who were hailing him for "upgrading" and are now quietly using him as teachable moment.

Whatever she writes on social media, discuss with her calmly, try and get some maturity abeg. You're a husband and a father now.

Everytime money looks tight, go home and play with your wife and little daughter. They're all you have in this world, nothing will make you richer. Blessings are in their hearts for you, you only need be kind and faithful to them, to unlock it.

This too, shall pass. Remember that.

duduade:
Mental health

😂 😂

This generation and mental health must go hand in hand
If you knew you wanted an introverted life you shouldn't have been indulging in unprotected shingles

For the past 40-60 years, global society has been telling itself that Happiness is so important, every moment you are unhappy means something is wrong and must be fixed, cut off, discarded or changed.

We keep thinking peace is to be found externally and that we are perfect humans, the problem is the rest of the world.

Cries of "mental health" are just the latest buzz word to the lack of contentment.

We've forgotten how to be content with ourselves, how to place ourselves in the only constant Being, who never changes.

Once you turn to God, the noise quietens down in your heart and you find yourself enjoying solitude, accepting that you're a mess, accepting that you won't be as rich or as happy as you think you ought to be (because none of us, if we get all we wanted, is ever truly happy- a quote by WM Thackeray). You'll humble yourself and be grateful for everything and not hold anything tight to your chest. You'll learn how to forgive and unburden yourself.

And you'll stop thinking that the world thinking choices makes sense, it doesn't.

Onegai:
Capetownboyz

Welcome to Adulthood.

Life is tough. Marriage is hard. Parenting is difficult.

Hooray!

You have 2 roads in front of you.

One road: you keep focusing on all the problems with your spouse and how you felt you "settled" for her. Remember the 3 sentences I started with? Yeah, that will keep affecting you. Eventually you'll make some money and tell yourself "I deserve to be happy!". That's when, even if you didn't want it, your marriage or relationship will end. You'll become a single Dad, start dating "your choice" and find out that what you were looking for in Sokoto, was in your shokoto.

The end result is that it will be too late, but luckily for the rest of the world you'll hide your regrets very well.

I know someone who did the exact same thing you did, went down this road, "tolerated rubbish" for years. He's separated now, he went haywire at the end (blew up his reputation with his family and in-laws and good friends, bad friends were telling him to "keep choosing his happiness" and I see glimpses of his regret, he uses anger and pride to hide it. But God is faithful and we are all working on things, to hear good news soon.

2nd road: realize that if she was good enough to date, she was good enough to marry and MAN UP! You're not better than her, get off that prideful horse, she's exactly at your level. She is your woman. Go home and tell her that "the only way out of this marriage is via death so better get ready".

Tell yourself that every day, choose her every blessed day. Make up your mind and every day keep choosing your wife.

Money will come. This too, shall pass. And when the money comes, thank the Lord and do not discard the wife of your youth. There's nobody out there, there's nothing better.

Just ask Tuface and all the men who were hailing him for "upgrading" and are now quietly using him as teachable moment.

Whatever she writes on social media, discuss with her calmly, try and get some maturity abeg. You're a husband and a father now.

Everytime money looks tight, go home and play with your wife and little daughter. They're all you have in this world, nothing will make you richer. Blessings are in their hearts for you, you only need be kind and faithful to them, to unlock it.

This too, shall pass. Remember that.

Thank you so much for this wonderful advice..Noted 🙏🏽

You don't want to continue the relationship with the mother of your child because she's from a broken home, yet you want to subject your daughter to the same upbringing.

And you seeing domestic violence as something that isn't that deep screams a huge red flag for me... So please, free that woman and continue living your life as a bachelor.

When you met her, her family was already broken, but you still decided to have a relationship with her which eventually conceived a child, now all of a sudden you don't see yourself having a future with her because she's from a broken family and you're using her childhood trauma against her instead of helping her by assuring her that she's in safe hands with you... Free her.

capetownboyz:
Thank you so much for this wonderful advice..Noted 🙏🏽

On Instagram, there is this account:

The Gottman Institute

Please follow them and read their articles, take it seriously.

Your marriage can and will improve only if you work on it.

Break that pattern in your daughter's life by breaking the pattern in her mother's life. Don't let your child be the 3rd generation to come from a broken home.

You were not financially stable when you got your girlfriend pregnant. You people lack self control and will never learn.

duduade:
Mental health

😂 😂

This generation and mental health must go hand in hand
If you knew you wanted an introverted life you shouldn't have been indulging in unprotected shingles

condom of how much will have made this post unnecessary

Pootle:
condom of how much will have made this post unnecessary

It still would've happened, sooner or later.

You know most of you don't practice what you preach online.