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EmpressTitan:
What women tolerate and forgive men for, you men can't take a quarter of it. When women churn out your nonsense to y'all, then women are bitter souls? Look in the mirror, thou art the man! Husbandman what are you sowing ready to reap the harvest? If you sow joy, you'd reap joy. If you sow tears, what do you expect to reap? Men, y'all need to be intentional about your wives, marriages and family.

Women don't forgive

the ones that claim to forgive a cheating man did so because they can't survive alone if they walk away

A man will let most things and infractions pass, but a woman won't
A man will forget the wrong you did to him but a woman will remember every detail of it in the next 30 years at any little quarrel

FEAR WOMEN!

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

Now use this same Manner to Explain the case of Tonto and her Ex over access to the child.....

well, I’m learning to be trusting God alone. I still got the trust of 6 persons tho (parents inclusive). I hope the number reduces soon 😂.

Don’t blame the man for calling at the time you call insensitive. We all are clueless what really transpired behind the camera.

It is unfortunate that she had died. And it is not good to talk ill of a deceased person. The children deserve to know their father no matter the fight between the parents. Even if the man was Satan, the mother must identify him to the children.

The man himself was at fault as he did not do enough to look for his children. If truly he loved them, he would not leave a stone unturned to get in touch with children.

But the problem started when there was no marriage but just family. Had there been marriage, it would not have been this worse.

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

I only see a deal breaker opposing something supposed to be put in check and verify the facts surrounding it rather than countering. My mum once told me the most irritating things about my dad for years upon years until they reconciled and only for my mum to turn to a sweet story teller about my dad. You are surely a consumer and not a producer. Work well for your future madam

EmpressTitan:
Cheating is natural abi? I guess it swings both ways. Anyways this generation of men una go hear am and get am hot hot from this generation of gen z baddies. In those days we used to hear how men bring their girlfriends and sidechicks to their matrimonial home which makes some women like this deny the father's access to their children... now nah nah una wives as una dey cheat say it is normal go run you your day one inside your bedroom livestream am. We all are getting there nah. Women are bitter souls abi? I laugh sipping my champagne, a toast to your bitter tears...

I think you are the bitter one...


Las las every gender go mind their own business.
that why we are already having baby mothers every where...(marriage rate go drop to 10%)
women and men will grow aged with no partners!

Who go suffer pass?
a lonely man with transactional Gfs and with his kids living with 6 different women
or woman with 7 kids from 7 different men and catering for them through daily smashing

you chose.

Basic123:
2pac said his dad passed away and he didnt cry because all along he was looking for a father he was gone.

I believe that was the programming from the Mum into his head.
because the dad had wrong her (in her perspective)....
you know how it is...

Why and how did she have kids with a man and then deny the kids from knowing him? Not a kid but 3kids??

Sometimes it is wise to keep quiet when you are not privy to situations. I have handled several matters like this particular one in my 21years as a lawyer. Both men and women can be incentive blocking children from their parents. Did you read where he said she used police to arrest all the teachers he spoke through to reach out to the children? Even if a parent is not involved in the life of the children, allow them to meet them. Simple because one parent can not bring them to this world.

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

We know all this manipulative tact. No man would abandon his biological children if they ain’t frustrated to doing so. There’s this woman in my neighborhood, she has poisoned the mind of a 6year old to express hate when her father comes anywhere near her. It is disgusting to see.
If the future, this f**lish child would claim the father abandoned her.

OvertheTop:
I think you are the bitter one...


Las las every gender go mind their own business.
that why we are already having baby mothers every where...(marriage rate go drop to 10%)
women and men will grow aged with no partners!

Who go suffer pass?
a lonely man with transactional Gfs and with his kids living with 6 different women
or woman with 7 kids from 7 different men and catering for them through daily smashing

you chose.

e pain you? Bitter ke? Even you no send your papa. Your mama bitter? I say as a society we are getting dia...shioor. Which woman you see as example through first hand experience. Oya, spill the tea...we nairalanders are reading and learning. That must be some experience and must be really hard on a little boy like you...awww( not me here trying to mimic a Dr Phil's facial expression). Yes oh, las las evey gender go mind their business ...

Ronuists and drama ..... This is funny

EmpressTitan:
e pain you? Bitter ke? Even you no send your papa. Your mama bitter? I say as a society we are getting dia...shioor. Which woman you see as example through first hand experience. Oya, spill the tea...we nairalanders are reading and learning. That must be some experience and must be really hard on a little boy like you...awww( not me here trying to mimic a Dr Phil's facial expression). Yes oh, las las evey gender go mind their business ...

That's the future:
Yes oh, las las every gender go mind their business

OvertheTop:
That's the future:
Yes oh, las las every gender go mind their business

Okay...

Don't say what you don't know.
The idea that he didn't not make attempts is wrong.

Abi you no know say; if woman put there mind into achieving in life the will surely do it.

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

ravensckar:
Going by your logic that the man deliberately chose to be absent in his kids life, so, why did he suddenly show up now? Have the children achieved fame, wealth or success?

The instance that he cited about trying to reach them, did you see anyone refute it? Oh! I forgot, it's a woman's favourite tactics to give a dog a bad name in other to hang it.

From drawing eyebrows, you folks have now graduated in the art of drawing conclusions. Nigerian ladies sha...

#Picks_tooth

.. This your last paragraph

SAMBARRY:
leave am make he dey deceive himself

Something similar happened to one popular yoruba actor.they call him suebebe.hes dead now


When this man was still hot in the industry he just dey fvk dey go,dey lavish money on different women, abandoned his wives and children. Years later he was old, sick and forgotten. For years no one knew he was deteriorating, the children he had abandoned didn't bother to look for him,they didn't know where he stays or what he was doing. Much later some of his juniors in the industry went to look for him in his house and they saw he had turned to vegetable. He couldn't stand up to go to the toilet and so he pooed and urinated on his body. He had emanciated seriously. After they called people to clean him up, bath him and wear him clothes and then feed him I felt bad for him.

When they had given him food and he was able to talk small they took his phone and asked him the name of his wives or any of the children. He couldn't talk,he started weeping. They pet him and pressured him to mention any one of his wives and children so after much begging, petting and nursing he mentioned one of his wife,they asked him where she is he said he doesn't know, they managed to look for his children and wives contact, as soon as they pick up the phone and give it to suebebe,once they hear his voice they'll hang up.

At some point sef he begged them to stop calling them.na so the baba dey till he died. That's always want happens to those promiscuous men who spend money in women and parties without consideration for their children's welfare and well being. Make them continue. Them no dey tell person.even all his girlfriends he was spending money on at the expense his family, not even 1 showed up for him

Omo! Guurrrl...these men? Daayuuum. I know of one like that the woman was there when he had nothing, was a nobody. Nigga became somebody by wife's in put if you see shege promax e use her eyes see on guise say e dey look for male child eh?

dominique:
All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

Because you are a family member, for you to know the man wasn't blocked abi wetin? You didn't hear that all the kids teachers were arrested for allowing the man speak to them on phone? How daft can you be not to know the extent a woman can go, just to keep a man away from the children

GO FOR DNA

Go for medical DNA
Go for family DNA
Go for Divine DNA...

As for the deceased,
Where will she spend eternity
When, as a 'Christian',
She kept such a secret from her children?

Though God if the Judge!

And when there is anger and resentment, prayers doesn't work.

The Bible said if one is having issues with his/her neighbour, that one should settled with him before even bringing offerings for it to be accepted.

autoez:
Games women play. See how it ended.

Lessons: Anger is bad and God hates it. Anger leads you nowhere

Lovit:
Women don't forgive

the ones that claim to forgive a cheating man did so because they can't survive alone if they walk away

A man will let most things and infractions pass, but a woman won't
A man will forget the wrong you did to him but a woman will remember every detail of it in the next 30 years at any little quarrel

FEAR WOMEN!

Women don't forgive? Says whom? If you know what women forgive over and over again from their men even men can't take half of it. Oya, let's have you conduct this little experience... playfully ask your mama bout your old man. You'd be shocked at the things she has forgiven, tolerated... even accepted and shielded your Father from both from you kids and even outsiders you'd wondered how she still remained with him. She may have shielded him from you kids so you can still see and adore him as father. The sad reality is that a large percentage of you men ain't sh*t in the real sense and lack the basic understanding of what it means to be a Man, Husband and Father... and no, this is not the programming of gender war. This is just basic awareness.

Getting in touch with them during the funeral was a wrong move. He should have called and sent his family members to condole with them shortly after she died. At that time, he could have explained why he was distant and promise a better relationship going forward. The graveside is no place for arguments.

If he did nothing to assist their mum all through her illness, it will be hard for the kids to forgive. Ultimately, if he finds a way to make amends, they may have a better relationship. He's their only parent now.

May God guide, protect and uphold the children.

Wait until it happens to you before you start to dey run your mouth
quote author=dominique post=138299320]Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk![/quote]

Alsenora:
You are spot on. Many have concluded he was a deadbeat without being privy to what the issue was with the late woman and the estranged 'man'. Anyways, either couple may be rightly agrieved but the kids should never be involved or instigated and outsiders can never be the judge that conclude whose bad...

If you stay away from your children for 15 good years and only turned up after their mother died, YOU ARE A DEADBEAT! Make una no dey look for soft landing for irresponsible men abeg. She blocked him from seeing his children my left foot!

Exousiang01:
Even after stating clearly how he had been trying to reach them and the woman blocked him to the extent of arresting teachers in the childrens school, you still say this?

Are you family members aware of your mental health condition?

Are you sure you are seeing a doctor?

Honestly you need help. Not joking.
This your situation is beyond therapy

How did she block him from accessing his kids? Did she hide them in an airtight vault or kept them hidden in an undisclosed location? I'm not buying all these lame excuses about the mother blocking the father from seeing his kids. If a father is intentional about wanting to be with his children, he will find a way. Lazy irresponsible men that will be watching from the sidelines as the mothers are doing the all the heavylifting of raising kids then expect to be welcomed with opened arms after the children are grown. They will learn the hard way!

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

Well said. Many men are like this. Though lots if times you can't really blame them: it could be drugs, alcohol, spiritual, financial, etc - better to stay away than be around and be a burden!

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

Until you become victim,then you will understand.
My three children is still living with their mother and she refuses me access to them unless it passes through her

The woman was wicked.
No wonder peace left her.

dominique:
Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?

All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?

She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!

Pray u don't find yourself in a similar situation.
Pray u don't marry from a family. The wife's family are usually callous.


My 3 children are in IBADAN and the exact location is not known to me. I have gone to IBADAN 5 times (BARIKA, where I married the woman).

HacheNoire:
Fear women!

They will format those kids to hate you.

Similar way Afeni Shakur poisoned Tupac to extent that she even said his father was dead while dude was still alive.

where you sef, dey when dem dey format your children?