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Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by altteemy(m): 10:05am On Feb 02
elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going
I don't think you really have an issue and please don't let the current discontent disturb the wonderful marriage you have bar the lack of entrepreneurial intelligence wifey has.

You're lucky. She's told you her limits and wishes not to improve. I understand you wish well for her but take it as it is.

You do the full business building solo. When there's no expectations, there's no conflict. Let her do what she does best and you do you.

Build the other part by improving savings and putting your money in investments like TBills and Mutual funds.

T bills are secured and with 15% yearly which you reinvest the profits, 5m becomes 20m in 10 year and 80m in 20 years. As you save more and more, you compound wealth for the security of your family. Happy wife, happy home, happy family, plus bulky income.

Don't let tge 20% you don't have look too high than the 80% you do have and are assured of.

Wishing you well - Teemy
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Originalsly: 10:11am On Feb 02
erico2k2:
When E reach your turn marry and Unskilled and uneducated woman.
This is 2026, there is no xcuse for any human not to be at least educated to the minimum and learn a skill. man or woman, You owe it to God to at least be productive.There so many skills and trades to learn.A man can then invest in you, this is the true meaning of waht you bring to the table, not yellowness,big nyash or boby
I'm not at all saying education should not be considered in choosing a wife .... I'm saying it shouldn't be a deal breaker. No doubt...it is more important in these times than yearssss ago ... but still shouldn't be a deal breaker. Would I marry an uneducated woman in 2026? Absolutely.We owe it to God to at least be productive ... so one cannot be productive unless he's educated. Typical example of how the "degree culture" has messed up our common sense . I guess the thousandsssss of uneducated poultry farmers ...fish farmers ... tomato farmers ... pig farmers ... welders ....fabricators ...carpenters .... bricklayers and soooo many more are not productive members of society. I'm not sure at this point if the educated or uneducated are more productive in the country. Sooooo many graduates alone are doing nothing ... not productive... liabilities...for over a year ..adding nothing to society ...but they are educated.
I'll have absolutely no problem in marrying an uneducated humble woman that is successfully running a tomato farm than an arrogant and proud graduate. If need be ... uneducated one can be sent to school and be educated ....what can you do with the proud one to change her status?

It boils down to education or character....which is your priority?
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Sirchiboy(op): 10:28am On Feb 02
ChybuzzDD:
This guy! You and childish questions are like 5&6 grin
How far.
Make you and this guy you call childish fight it out
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by elipheleh(m): 10:33am On Feb 02
DMCA:
bros u go soon die, and i pity ur children when u die grin
No no. I wont die. I live because Jesus lives
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by DMCA: 10:58am On Feb 02
elipheleh:
No no. I wont die. I live because Jesus lives
ur wife go soon kill u grin
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by V3li(m): 11:33am On Feb 02
Most problems in marriage are problems that could have been avoided during the dating period but nooo. You jump into it and start regretting and drinking up and down. I just hope you don't drink and drink to the extent you jam me. I go use slap reset that your marriage for your head.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by adebayosun02: 11:42am On Feb 02
elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going
I can say that thank your God that she did not agreed to travel abroad with you. It would have been worst off.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by we4a1l: 1:11pm On Feb 02
Lots of the educated ones have zero skills, actually. You need to date a woman in a work or business context. Avoid those who just completed NYSC.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Khan76(m): 1:12pm On Feb 02
i am also going to marry a similar type girl. Should i marry or not??
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Rich4god(m): 1:13pm On Feb 02
EmperorIsaac:
The day you "upgrade her" is the day you lose that peace. Don't marry anyone with the hope of "changing" them. What you see is what they are and is what they would truly be.
I married a lady I upgraded to my taste... Its 4 years now, she gives me peace like never before.

The upgrade haven't stop. Since after we married, I have grown so well in my career, and with each growth, comes more upgrade for her both academically and personal entrepenuership.

There are good ladies everywhere. There are ladies who wont turn their back on thier husband irrespective of how "high" she is when compared to the husband.

Na una dey go find slay queen to marry. People whose loyalty lies on material things.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Rich4god(m): 1:19pm On Feb 02
Jangbajantis:
So you become your wife's parent?
You are not her parent. BUt uopgradding her is for the benefit of the family.

Through that upgrade, she earns more money, removing pressure from you. WHen you have this type of mindset, you will now be in a competition with your wife. Thats not healthy for the family.

No wonder marriage crashes these days.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by elipheleh(m): 1:31pm On Feb 02
DMCA:
ur wife go soon kill u grin
No she won't. Thats is too stressful for her.

She no even get strength to kill chicken.

I dey tell you say no get strength to even cut meat into pieces while cooking. I make sure the abbatttoir people cut the meats into sizes when I go to buy meat and other things for the house

And she is God fearing. Though my life is hidden in Christ
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by kcbaba007: 2:02pm On Feb 02
Solution for you:

Stop funding her excesses, tell her that there is no work anymore, just make sure you are paying for the kids tuition ,and just daily food ,decide not to spend up to 500k on monthly exp. And see what her reaction will be

[quote author=elipheleh 9post=138324629]Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going[/quote]
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Saladdin:
BRATISLAVA:
Obavoh is viewing. Lolllllllll!
Lolzzzz. You just reminded of that guy. Nairaland's one and only Obavoh. Very bizarre person cheesy cheesy
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by faithsystem(f): 3:37pm On Feb 02
like some will say, the world no balance at all.
men are just not confident enough to commit to we the so called "the educated, working class, intelligent, and godly ladies".

my question now is "what do men really wants?" since they do not want to settle for both.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by saasala(m): 3:55pm On Feb 02
elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going
Out of all the problems mentioned here, the only valid one for me here is driving.

Are you shocked?

Your problem is that you have put too much expectations on your wife.

No be every woman go do business or work. If you are doing well for yourself, shoulder the responsibilities. Na you be man, carry the cross. Na you go take care of the house. Do like say woman no exist.

The primary function of your wife is to give you fine kids, take care of the home and give you peace. If she no dey nag, you have something extra to be thankful for.

A lot of men would kill to have a wife who can have babies, take care of the home and not cause wahala.

All these "She is not intelligent, she is not working, she is lazy, bla bla bla"....Leave her alone. You already know the kind of woman you married, accept her and move the f on.

You see all these intelligent ladies, the ones in IT and Finance, even the ones doing big businesses, their pride, ego and level of disrespect no be here o.

Stop complaining.

You dont value what you have.

And yes, I'm not just talking, I am a married man.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by QuinQ: 4:48pm On Feb 02
I
thomas2024:
The second part works like mad depending on your mentality and the kind of ladies you attract. Have you ever stumbled on the law of attraction? When a lady is deeply in love with you, you will know. You don’t need to chase, or impress a lady with money, when you “STAND”, i.e. a resourceful person and a man of value. Ladies will kpai themselves to be with you. They will dupe their maga and use the money to buy you gifts. Women chase valuable men, but they only do it codedly. I’m talking from other people’s experience and my personal experience. Study patterns, observe and you’ll understand. Have a beautiful day ahead😊
Thanks, you too.
Questions:
What do you mean by STAND?
How do you get a lady to be "deeply in love with you"?
How do you make yourself "valuable man" to them?
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by QuinQ: 4:49pm On Feb 02
TechBaron:
Yahoo boy indeed.

Mtcheeewww!
I knew it! Said it himself!
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by QuinQ: 4:51pm On Feb 02
Justicepluto:
how was i hrtless ?
I need to understand
Him not you. You told him to delete and he didn't. That's heartless
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Divinerace(m): 5:39pm On Feb 02
elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going
Some women brings good luck, while some brings bad luck to a man. No matter their educational level or background.shocked shocked You think, it's by your own power that you make 3-4m monthly. Don't you know that money is a spiritual substance. wait till you lose the woman then you will understand what l'm saying cool huh
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Ebubu6: 7:11pm On Feb 02
elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going
This story can't be true
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Lemmyo: 7:39pm On Feb 02
Marry a woman that will be submissive to you and give you peace
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by justasitis: 7:50pm On Feb 02
emmaodet:
grin grin grin grin

It has to do mainly with the earning power of the man.
Tbh, i like stay-at-home mums.
They always have more time for the family - kids and hubby and fresh. Not stressed out.
Most wives in Lekki at stay-at-home mums or just doing one minor stress-free biz just to keep them slightly busy.
My wife is a stay-at-home mum and i give her with the 2 kids 500k per month for upkeep excluding me and i still have more than enough for myself.
The question now is, how many men even earn the feeding money in a month?
How many house hold ( both husband and wife working) earn 500k a month?
Even if my wife is working or a woman decides to work, how many of them are even going to earn 150k to 200k a month to make a tangible contribution to the man?
Abi no be this nigeria again where na so so 30k, 50k per month job full ground?
God forbid something happens to you tomorrow and you are unable to meetup with the financial responsibilities of your family, who will cater for your family since you do not support that the wife should be engaged so as to support the home no matter how small.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Mariangeles(f): 8:06pm On Feb 02
QuinQ:
Him not you. You told him to delete and he didn't. That's heartless
Which you went ahead to copy and paste.
So, what does that make you?
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by QuinQ: 8:14pm On Feb 02
Mariangeles:
Which you went ahead to copy and paste.
So, what does that make you?
I have never liked people who pocknose into what is not their business.
HOW E TAKE CONSIGN YOU??!!!
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Mariangeles(f): 8:17pm On Feb 02
elipheleh:
She's a good home maker to the best of her knowledge and ability.
You don't think being a "good homemaker" is good enough?

So, how do you feel now that you've bared your wife's "dirty linen" in public? Euphoric?
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Mariangeles(f): 8:19pm On Feb 02
QuinQ:
I have never liked people who pocknose into what is not their business.
HOW E TAKE CONSIGN YOU??!!!
Look at this one!
You ought to be ashamed.

Know this: when you point at people accusingly, the rest of your fingers are pointing back at you.
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by BRATISLAVA: 8:38pm On Feb 02
cheesy cheesy
Saladdin:
Lolzzzz. You just reminded of that guy. Nairaland's one and only Obavog. Very bizarre person cheesy cheesy
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by elipheleh(m): 8:50pm On Feb 02
Mariangeles:
You don't think being a "good homemaker" is good enough?

So, how do you feel now that you've bared your wife's "dirty linen" in public? Euphoric?
1. Good home maker is not an excuse not to develop one self. Its for her personal benefit and the children benefit.

2. How can you claim to love someone and you're comfortable letting them remain stagnated on thesame level year in year out?

3. What happens to my children if God forbid I am no more? Will she ship them out to become house boys and girls? How will she step up if she doesn't get it right now?

4. The linen is not dirty. Nothing secret about it. She didn’t commit any crime. It is reality. Women you girls hate being told the truth and you girls hate correction

5. I am not euphoric. Rather I contributed a piece of my mind as per the topic. Howbeit, let younger upcoming men learn from it and avoid making the same mistake
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Mariangeles(f): 9:26pm On Feb 02
elipheleh:
1. Good home maker is not an excuse not to develop one self. Its for her personal benefit and the children benefit.

2. How can you claim to love someone and you're comfortable letting them remain stagnated on thesame level year in year out?

3. What happens to my children if God forbid I am no more? Will she ship them out to become house boys and girls? How will she step up if she doesn't get it right now?

4. The linen is not dirty. Nothing secret about it. She didn’t commit any crime. It is reality. Women you girls hate being told the truth and you girls hate correction

5. I am not euphoric. Rather I contributed a piece of my mind as per the topic. Howbeit, let younger upcoming men learn from it and avoid making the same mistake
Have you ever brought up that discussion with her, @ the bolded?

What does she have passion for, at least?
Re: Men That Married A Lady Without Skill Or Education , Share Your Experience by Lexaccord(m): 9:53pm On Feb 02
Great to know yours is very homely and cares for the kids. There are people in this similar situation and it is the man that still goes the extra mile to think about how things in the house will not get grounded despite him bringing all the finance

God dey sha
Elipheleh, my story is very similar to yours and it's been on for over a decade now.
3rd class, no job, no business. No ambition.
All she wants is a good life and money to spend.... and it is frustrating to say the least.

This is despite the fact that I broke my first true relationship of over 4 years because of this fear. I had seen enough experiences with my uncles to know it's not a good idea. All the wife would care about are her kids, watching Nollywood all day, and wanting the latest items they see on other people they gossip about. I discussed this with my wife before marriage that I do not want a wife like this and she said yes, ok. Only to count several years in marriage and she never stepped out of the house to go work for one day. I've designed CV multiple times and given her money for business. All down the drain because she has no drive to do it.

But I will reecho what honour8 said. I met my wife at a low point in life but ever since, I have found myself in an upward trajectory. Every big project I put my hands into, even though it's quite difficult and takes a long time, eventually turns successful. I previously had a cycle of 3 years of good tidings and by the fourth year I would be expecting some kind of setback but things changed since I met her. She talks about it too.

Now, I'm not so spiritual or anything. I have fought with her countless times and given her several ultimatums in this issue but it's just ingrained in her not to do/want anything other than her current life.

I'm not giving up on her however because even though her inaction has put me in dire straits when it comes to making some big career decisions multiple times, I choose to look at the positives. She's good natured, loves to care for the kids better than anyone else I know and does all housewifely chores gladly. Cook, clean, etc

Besides there are many educated Nigerian couples out there today with only the husband working. Even though the wife wants to work, there's no opportunity. So just manage your accounts and lead your family the best way you can given the situation.[/quote]
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