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PREMIUM TIMES reported that Mr Abati, a former adviser to President Goodluck Jonathan, unveiled Kikelomo, the CEO and Chief Consultant of Z-Edge Holdings, as his third wife in 2023.

Speaking during an interview on media personality Morayo Afolabi-Brown’s “The Morayo Show”, the marketing communications executive revealed that she experienced two failed marriages before meeting Mr Abati.

She appeared alongside the 60-year-old journalist in the interview, which was posted on the show’s YouTube channel on Wednesday.

Reflecting on her past, Ms Atanda-Owo explained that those experiences shaped her appreciation for finding a partner who genuinely values and respects her.

Past experiences

Opening up, she said: “I’m so happy to be here to explain to other women and people behind me to understand that love can find you again. I’m a woman who has been divorced twice. I allowed it the best way I could. And my scars, I’ve been burnt, but my scars have healed, and I’ve found victory. And in that victory, there is healing first. So you must first see yourself before you can align with someone else.

“For a woman who has been divorced twice, first off, I married a gay person without me knowing. Let me put it out there. And the second one was the biggest philandering abuser. She (Morayo) knows part of the story. And today, looking back, I have no regrets whatsoever because when I look at my children, I say to myself, ‘How better would I have had the children if not through these experiences?’ So God blessed me with the greatest investment of my life.”

Intentional partners

Additionally, the entrepreneur explained that she went through that experience because she rushed into love and due to her personal background.

Offering advice to both women and men, she emphasised that someone may seem reasonable, but not be right for them, highlighting the importance of finding a partner who truly suits them.

“You must find somebody who will align with your journey. And I think that’s the reason why the universe provided me with one of the greatest, most prominent voices Africa has ever produced. And today, when I’m telling my story, I’m thankful, I’m grateful to God that I had a man who saw my value. I had a man who met me when I had clarity, when I had purpose.

“Many people who are out there, sometimes you find yourself in certain relationships because of what the world will say, because of how you feel depressed with yourself, how you got to that place. You must first of all understand yourself and why you make the choices you make and the patterns that you make”, said Ms Atanda-Owo.

She revealed that, at one point in her life, when a man told her he loved her, she automatically assumed he intended to marry her.

The entrepreneur also clarified that she did not condemn anyone for being gay, but emphasised that such individuals should marry within themselves rather than deceive others.

She said, “My parents never lived under the same roof. And at some point, when my dad relocated, I was living in a different house where my grandmother, Alhaja, passed away. And at that point, when you tell me you love me, automatically, it means you want to marry me.

“So, every guy that comes my way, and you say you love me, I believe them. Even though we are in the season of love, like my husband said, I think that love is not enough.”

Enter Abati
However, Mr Abati insisted that their marriage was founded solely on a shared field of experiences.

He added that anyone trapped in an abusive relationship should make every effort to leave.

“There is hope for every woman and for every man because it cuts both ways. Now, madam (Morayo) is asking me how I imagine in my mind that I can catch her. I’m a struggling journalist. I always tell her. You know, we journalists. She is an entrepreneur. But our relationship is not based on material things. It’s not based on money. It’s based on a concept called a field of shared experience in the literature of mass communication.

“You meet someone, and you have this meeting of minds. And you just see that this is your person. And some women are not looking for money. Who are not going after a man because they think he has kept some money somewhere. You know, women who are attracted to a man because of his intellect. And because of his talent. And then on the other side, for a man… You meet a woman, and you just say, Ah, this one must not go. Too good to be true”, said Mr Abati.

He also revealed that he had known his wife from a very young age.

Speaking about raising their children, Mr Abati emphasised that the Ms Atanda-Owo children are his own, noting that he personally takes them to school every morning.

“I knew her when she was a young girl: my friend, AIG Lakano. I would go to his house, and then there was this young girl there. And then all of a sudden, the young girl grew up. She had grown up and acquired degrees all over. And then she’s also a journalist. You know, in the course of work, we met and all of that. You know the Yoruba say this lady is good, and we must make her our wife.

“She is a very talented person. We have the same field of shared experience. So, one of the things I do, apart from dropping the children off at school, is do homework assignments. We then, you know, we wake up together. So, there is really no problem. The other children are older.”

Jakumo:
In addition to being one of Africa's most polished communicators in the English language, Ruben Abati has a connoisseur's taste in women.

His wife is sexy and gorgeous.

No man could resist that mischievous smile.

dominique:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/entertainment/naija-fashion/854606-how-i-ended-up-with-a-philanderer-gay-man-before-marrying-reuben-abati-kikelomo-atanda-owo.html

Wananonly:
Bro!

It takes gigantic balls to marry a fine woman.

Either peace of mind means nothing to you or you already found it long before.

Freshandfitpod:
Abati ended up being the $!mp, the left over man after all the juice have dried up. I shake my head

SixSeven:
The man who marries a beautiful woman is like the man who plants maize on the roadside.

SixSeven:
This statement is more ignorant than true. It’s a subjective, dismissive remark using slang and metaphor to ridicule Abati’s romantic choice. You are telling divorcees how to pick leftovers and extract juice. You never see anything for this life. Inexperience clings to rules, experience knows value cannot be timed.

Life will humble you. Just wait your turn.

SixSeven:
This statement is more ignorant than true. It’s a subjective, dismissive remark using slang and metaphor to ridicule Abati’s romantic choice. You are telling divorcees how to pick leftovers and extract juice. You never see anything for this life. Inexperience clings to rules, experience knows value cannot be timed.

Life will humble you. Just wait your turn.

Freshandfitpod:
Her type is for recreational purposes only, don't wife 304s they always have one excuse or the other.

Wananonly:
Bro!

It takes gigantic balls to marry a fine woman.

Either peace of mind means nothing to you or you already found it long before.

Freshandfitpod:
Abati ended up being the $!mp, the left over man after all the juice have dried up. I shake my head

motymop:
you guys will just be quoting old school quotes, that does not even make sense

she is just a light skin woman, i do not see any beauty

Jagabanfromcali:
BS , never had any respect for abati , knew he was never up to it , just propelled by the establishment, never a good measure of a man , imagine a twice divorced woman with all the lies she is spitting out , we go soon hear that abati is a one minute man when this one packs up

motymop:
when a simp marries a fair woman, they think they have arrived.

i have been seeing a certain pattern, it is either these old men are obsessed with fair women

infact another example is the way they treat bianca, like they literally worship her, i have nothing against her but these men think she is the only beautiful woman in nigeria, i am 100% sure she can never date any of these simp men.

motymop:
you guys will just be quoting old school quotes, that does not even make sense

she is just a light skin woman, i do not see any beauty

DatNiggaDaz:

You are a real nicca

Real G's don't make a ho a housewife

ChoCho54:
It's your type that ends with not just a hoe but one that maltreats you and you won't do pim because of certain circumstances.

DatNiggaDaz:


You are in pains. But for what actually. Did I mention you ? Did I quote you ?. If you aint one why bothering yourself in issues that has nothing to do with you.

FYI, real niccas can be maltreated by a ho

ChoCho54:
Nairalande red piller! If one takes a closer look, na woman dey feed you.