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Why is it that it's women that are always having this kind of advice?

It's not by power oo. It's by the grace of God.

Predictor3:
She's saying the truth. Which one would you rather do? Try everything to make your in-laws like you or try everything to make your in-laws hate you?

Why should you put so much efforts for your inlaws to like you? This should come naturally and effortlessly. If you have to put so much efforts to gain the love of your inlaw then you could as well not married from such family.

I've always said this, you won't know the value of this advice until you have issues with your partner.
You can have a bad partner, in all you do, ensure you have a good in-law

No matter how hard u try, they will never like u

Most especially man whose mother and sisters have a strong hold on him.
They see u as a threat if your family is financially richer than them

Talking from experience

Na when you jam this one your eye go clear

DixseenMktPlace:
That’s Yoruba culture, what about other cultures?
She should keep her opinion to herself and the yorubas

Thats the best culture

DixseenMktPlace:
That’s his opinion, he work for her no mean say e go work for anyone like that, na the same inlaws dem get?

that’s a shiitty opinion sir,

helinues:
Hate me for telling you the truth is better than love me for lying to you

I don't seek people's validation

How you tell the truth matters

ejieddy:
How you tell the truth matters

Telling you the truth or advising people is now obsolete. If you want to enter the canal, cheers to that. Mind your business and flourish

Why will you go into family you know they don't like you?

I dont see this statement of any important because Omotola knew she goofed badly when she was on acting platform as actress so its now she turned a preacher after loads of mess ba?

Don't go into marriage in any family you are not welcome no need trying hard to make family that don't want you to like you its just a pure waste of time.

helinues:
Telling you the truth or advising people is now obsolete. If you want to enter the canal, cheers to that. Mind your business and flourish

There's a difference between "You are a fool" and "stop being foolish". One is aggressive while the other is suggestive. One is most likely to breed violence and offense while the other is an advice. Lacking emotional intelligence will always make you have issues with people because in your bid to "tell people the truth", you fail to present the truth in a non conflict way where possible.

A good woman will be loved naturally.

victorVIC1:
Why is it that it's women that are always having this kind of advice?

Because most times the woman's family are welcoming and want the best for their daughter's marriage. You cannot try so hard to make anyone like you, you can only like the ones who like you or be cordial in worse case. If possible, avoid that kind family.

I have a SIL and she didn't try everything to make me like her. I just did.

alphonsojidebab:
“Try Everything to Make Your In-Laws Like You” — Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Advises Couples


https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/02/13/omotola-advises-couples-make-inlaws-like-you/

This isn't difficult..Your mother birthed you,you grew up in her arms,you probably understood her more than how and outsider could..You could tell if Ur Mom is a troublesome woman or not...If you know ur mom isn't the troublesome type,then don't fall for tricks when Ur wife lies...if Ur wife isn't that troublesome woman,and Ur Mom is,don't fall for Ur mom's tricks when she lies...

That is your own family, in laws and for you. You don’t know the character of others and you cannot give such advice. Some in-laws are dangerous. One must treat people how they treat you and if such relationship threatens your peace, safety and nuclear family, deal with them at arms length. It is up to the husband to ensure his family are in check and treat the wife well. Anything outside that, a daughter inlaw is not obligated to understand, make anybody like her, tolerate and embrace bad behavior or abuse.

Entanglement:
see one of them

Years later you will be wasting in Shiloh and doing all sorts of hallelujah challenges in quest of a man because you can't take a simple advise

You made no sense. All these your usual attempt of using shiloh to guilt trip ladies into marrying wrongly even when the signs are there doesn't work anymore. Why should a young lady or man dive his or herself into a marriage where the inlaws hate them in the first place? For how long will you continue to please and impress them just for them to accept you?

alphonsojidebab:
“Try Everything to Make Your In-Laws Like You” — Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Advises Couples


https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/02/13/omotola-advises-couples-make-inlaws-like-you/

My madam see it as a World Cup trophy, hate my family with passion, not even a Nigerian

helinues:
Hate me for telling you the truth is better than love me for lying to you

I don't seek people's validation

With due respect
So seeking peace with someone is now seeking people's validation
Really that's why I don't talk in social media because these Gen z has a way of abusing words and attaching their own meaning to words

jossymekoos:
With due respect
So seeking peace with someone is now seeking people's validation
Really that's why I don't talk in social media because these Gen z has a way of abusing words and attaching their own meaning to words

Which of my comments are you struggling with so that I can break it down for you Gen A

Seeplusplus:
Instead of trying hard to win over them, I'll bounce immediately I notice the friction.

Talk is cheap o.

Are you a good in-law to those already married into your own family? If you are not then you can keep bouncing but that won't solve your problem.

If you want something good, first give it out and it will come back to you.
Horrible in-law no be ghost. It's you

Seeplusplus:
Instead of trying hard to win over them, I'll bounce immediately I notice the friction.

Exactly!

alphonsojidebab:
“Try Everything to Make Your In-Laws Like You” — Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Advises Couples


https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/02/13/omotola-advises-couples-make-inlaws-like-you/

If you have to try EVERYTHING to make your Inlaws like you, then they probably should not be your in-laws. And maybe your spouse probably doesn't love or respect you enough and/or they love and respect your inlaws too much.

Even for the in-laws that did not like me, I focused nI not on trying to please them . But on loving.my wife who also treated me with love and respect.

Today, it's a different story.

Kwinesther:
You made no sense. All these your usual attempt of using shiloh to guilt trip ladies into marrying wrongly even when the signs are there doesn't work anymore. Why should a young lady or man dive his or herself into a marriage where the inlaws hate them in the first place? For how long will you continue to please and impress them just for them to accept you?

you never get pikin so comot from my mention!
Once you have a a grown up child who want to marry come back to this writeup and erase it

dederocs:
A good woman will be loved naturally.

You lie if you weren't wanted from the onset by your mother in-law and her kids their is no amount of being good that will endear you to them that's why the Yoruba adage says "omo buruku se e fe sugbon ana buruku ko se e nii"
never force yourself to where you aren't wanted it's better to marry a bad spouse than have bad in-laws!!

I don’t believe people’s marriage advice. Most times they don’t follow it.

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

If you say your in-laws are not good, then you may be the one with issues.

It’s not possible for all your in-laws to be bad.

Well, a lot of things are encompassing in marriage. The major thing is for love to be between husband and wife. Then it will be easy to defend the marriage, defend and respect your partner in front of your extended family.

Even if your in-laws don't like your partner, the love between the two of your will make you defend your partner in the presence and absence of your partner.

Once husband and wife fails to defend each other there will be lots of problems.

Predictor3:
She's saying the truth. Which one would you rather do? Try everything to make your in-laws like you or try everything to make your in-laws hate you?

None. I'll just be myself

The woman no wan old, Abeg wetin the woman dey use.Maybe she dey use Sagba Dewe

Entanglement:
you never get pikin so comot from my mention!
Once you have a a grown up child who want to marry come back to this writeup and erase it

Advice your children to choose their spouses from family that hates them Mr seer.

Kwinesther:
You made no sense. All these your usual attempt of using shiloh to guilt trip ladies into marrying wrongly even when the signs are there doesn't work anymore. Why should a young lady or man dive his or herself into a marriage where the inlaws hate them in the first place? For how long will you continue to please and impress them just for them to accept you?

U go cry nor worry.