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My dad and I were very close when I was growing up. He later suffered from prostate cancer, and during that time, I stayed with him in the hospital as much as I could. I helped in every way I knew how. Watching him fight for his life was painful, and we were constantly struggling to raise money for his treatment.

In the process of trying to find money, I made a terrible mistake. I chose an illegal path and got arrested. While I was in custody, my dad sold his only piece of land to pay for my bail.

The day the payment was made, he was too weak to come himself because he was receiving blood due to his blood pressure. So he gave the money to my mom to go and pay for my release. After she paid, they told her I would be released the next day.

My mom called my dad and told him the news. He said, “Thank God.”
Moments after he hung up the phone… he passed away.

The next day, I was released, only to come home and hear that my father had died while receiving blood.

He used his last strength to save me.
And I didn’t even get the chance to say goodbye.

lavylilly:
Moms love is overrated. From DM

otipoju:
Mom can do this too. Fathers as well.

That you stood by him also helped as well.

I was rebellious as a teenager but once I got on campus and started showing my dad a lot of respect for just being my father, that man could do ANYTHING for me.

I wish he was here now because he is probably the only human being on earth that can tell me to sit down and I won't ask why because I trust his wisdom and good intent and guidance.

A Father who knows his duty , can be relied upon.

Love800:
Father's love is just on surface level and formal.
Mom's love penetrate deeper, she understands your everyday grinding and being on G-levels with you.

lavylilly:
But your mom ask you the same question and you would ask why

Love800:
Father's love is just on surface level and formal.
Mom's love penetrate deeper, she understands your everyday grinding and being on G-levels with you.

Imindmybusiness:
This is the greatest lie I have ever read on the internet. Only a father will ever want his child to be bigger than him, not a mother and that's an unconditional love which is the greatest love ever to exist. You will see a mother envy her daughters by making the same hairstyle with them or telling them to buy her the same cream they use. All that is just to measure up because she thinks her daughters are taking all the shine. A father will never ask his son to buy him anything that is better than what the son has, you can't see that. Only your father wants you to be greater than him, the same level he will rather die than see his competitors get to.

lavylilly:
I don’t think a father’s love is surface level. It’s just expressed differently.

A mother’s love often feels emotionally close — she notices your moods, your stress, your everyday struggles. She asks questions. She checks in. She nurtures. It’s intimate and immediate.

A father’s love can look more structured, more formal — sometimes even distant. But many times, that “surface” appearance is actually protection, responsibility, and pressure carried quietly.

Mom may sit with you in the struggle.
Dad may be fighting battles you don’t even see so you can struggle safely.

Mom connects emotionally.
Dad often connects through provision, correction, discipline, and sacrifice.

The difference isn’t depth.
It’s expression.

Some fathers didn’t learn how to verbalize love. Some grew up believing love is shown through action, not conversation. So instead of “How are you feeling?” you might get “Have you eaten?” or “Are you focused?”

That doesn’t mean it’s shallow.
It just means it speaks another language.

And truthfully, when a father opens up emotionally, you realize the depth was always there — it was just guarded.

Both loves matter.
One may feel warmer.
The other may feel firmer.
But both can run deep.

Love800:
Astonishing.

Nice one.

I appreciate.