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Samantha125:
Judging by the comments, it's like most of you inherited nothing from your fathers, what were they doing throughout their lifetimes that they left you guys with nothing?🤔🤔🤔

I mean even my paternal grandfather who wasn't educated left a farm, livestock, a house, and a courtier title for each of his children.

U cnt compare dose time wt dis present time.. tins are quite easier den dan now….. and wat av u also achieved and plan of leaving for ur children too

Lekan239:
In Nigeria, this statement sounds nice but it’s not the reality for many students. Plenty of parents only handle the beginning, then leave the child to struggle through the rest of university alone fees, rent, feeding, everything.
What makes it worse is the attitude. Many of these same parents disappear when the student is suffering, but once the child succeeds, they quickly come out to claim the glory and say they “trained” the child. If the child fails, they distance themselves and blame the same child.
Let’s be honest many Nigerian students succeed because of their own struggle and resilience, not because they were fully supported from start to finish.

You don't generalized.....
Try to get me right.
I said IF your parents sponsored you through university you've inherited everything on earth...

If your parents bought land for you and refused to sponsor your education then you can loose that property at anytime but you cannot lose your education/certification....

Risingblue008:
Guy man,how?
So till date,u still believe say it education say key to success?

University is just another level of socialism from different

At least it will guide you through your entire life, once there is life there is hope.... You can lose a property you cannot lose your liberty....

Durabest:
If not for my grandparents that left things for us my father was just busy knacking woman

Your dad need to be dealt with ruthlessly .
Same here with mine

ChybuzzDD:
Why did you advise him not to sell because he has a long way to go??
What if he needs the money to get himself established and make the long way easier and less stressful for him?
Your focus should have been on what he intends to use the money for.

Facts, con be like say him na bad belle...
What if na business e wan start or build something for his future.

Kaczynski:
keep it up, only for your daughters to give it to some hobo because of shmex.

Keep it up as an unsecure African that you are

ChybuzzDD:
Why did you advise him not to sell because he has a long way to go??
What if he needs the money to get himself established and make the long way easier and less stressful for him?
Your focus should have been on what he intends to use the money for.

Landed property that can multiple many times in value within a very short time. There is very high probability that if he sells the land he will just waste the money on frivolities.
What of if he doesn't have anything to sell, won't he survive?

My own na the blessings of Abraham I inherit

annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

ahmedio2017:
What is the essence of giving you everything without education, you will end up losing everything.....

The bottomline is that you still got something

Durabest:
If not for my grandparents that left things for us my father was just busy knacking woman

Still thank your father he didn't sell those things his father left behind, if he has sold them to knack women before he died, there is nothing you would have done

What do you mean things were quite easier then than now when my grandfather only recently passed away in 2012?

And how will I tell you of the things my husband and I have already achieved for our future generation without people thinking that I'm boastful?

inyass2580:
U cnt compare dose time wt dis present time.. tins are quite easier den dan now….. and wat av u also achieved and plan of leaving for ur children too

lanre316:
If someone talk now, they will say someone is quick to attack Christianity.

See the topic and see wetin you type. How they relate?

You are free to attack Christianity and you are free to say what you feel as saying. Still yet, it will no deter us from saying Christ is the ultimate inheritance.

Archworld:
My own na the blessings of Abraham I inherit

It is well

Mariangeles:
Thankfully, you're not against him leaving something for his daughters instead.

Ah, no. I support every good thing and leaving an inheritance is a good thing. But what i will not support is women taking short cut and trying to reap where they did not sow

i inherited zero except education from primary 1 to js3.. the rest i did on my own..

I have been a millionaire in every currency since 2011 and i also pulled everyone of my 6 siblings out of poverty..

Do not blame your parents for ur lack of progress. giving birth to u is already in itself a blessing..

My dad was a wealthy businessman.Since he died in 2017,I haven't even bothered asking my mum and elder brother about his money and assets (apart from the ones I can obviously see) because I used the university education he gave me to get a job and from the job I saved enough and now own my own business, so I am comfortable. I will eventually ask though, where I come from,we don't rush these inheritance/estate issues unless we are desperate.

Samantha125:
My grandfather also used to work in another province as a miner before his retirement, leaving my grandmother to be the one overseeing all of his assets back home.

Check out this thread:
This is how life in Nigeria should be

https://www.nairaland.com/8621511/parents-farm-pictures#138521281

annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

Cos we did not rely on their properties same way they left their father's properties to create theirs

Imagine leaving properties in the village in Nigeria for children that have japa abroad for over 20yrs. They have never been to the village in their lifetime

ahmedio2017:
If your parents has sponsored your education up to university level, you have inherited everything on earth....

This is largely true. We are no longer in 1950's. Our parents live up to 70's to 90's now and their inheritance largely managed by them. In this century, your education and exposure largely provided by parents is your launching pad. The same way i detest entitlement mentality in parents is similar to how i detest it in children. It is a bonus if they provide physical inheritance .

donleo92:
It makes us hustle harder

"People who inherited nothing from their parents, how did you cope."
The question is already dead on arrival and nobody noticed.
You inherited. Sit down. Three billion base pairs of biological instruction manual, your immune system, your brain, your face, your temperament, your disease risks, the specific way your knees sound on a cold morning. Good DNA or absolutely catastrophic DNA, it's still inheritance. Your father was a broke useless layabout? Congratulations, here's his cardiovascular risk profile and his stubbornness, sign here, no returns.
You got the machine. You're running on their hardware right now composing this very complaint.
And here's the bit that's going to sting. They don't owe you anything beyond keeping you alive to adulthood. That's the whole contract. They shagged, you appeared, nobody asked you, they kept you breathing until you could breathe independently, books closed, everyone go home.
But also. You don't owe them anything either. So what exactly are we coping with here.
You're alive. On the internet. Typing. That's not nothing. That's literally everything they were required to give you and they gave it.
Cope? You're already doing it. You just want an audience for it.

ahmedio2017:
Can you tell me what education is?
Not certification, with a proper education a child have a better opportunity to greatness and is better than leaving a land for the child... The family members might even sell the land after the father might have gone.

We both know we are taking University degree in this scenario.

Is it everyone with a university degree that is a success?

I’d rather my Father leaves me N100m or i inherit his business than send him sending me to University as my inheritance.

That doesn’t mean education isn’t useful. Yes it can create opportunities but i’d my Father gives me real value, with that i can generate more wealth that will last generations.

Ewedegubbler:
i inherited zero except education from primary 1 to js3.. the rest i did on my own..

I have been a millionaire in every currency since 2011 and i also pulled everyone of my 6 siblings out of poverty..

Do not blame your parents for ur lack of progress. giving birth to u is already in itself a blessing..

Another angle

They cope by acquiring something for themselves.

My mother gave me bundles of love as an inheritance and in addition to that, my school fees from primary to university.

Honestly, inheritance is nice, nobody go lie. If dem leave you land or money, e fit reduce pressure and give you small head start in life. But e no automatically mean say life go easy. Some people inherit plenty things and still mismanage everything before dem reach 40. Meanwhile, some people inherit nothing, but build everything from scratch and become solid. Sometimes I even think about it too, would life have been easier if I was left with something? Maybe yes. But at the same time, building things by yourself gives you a different kind of confidence and strength. You understand the value of what you have because you worked for it. Maybe our own story no be to inherit wealth. Maybe na to start the wealth.
One day, na our children go dey reason whether to sell the properties we left for them. And that one? That’s a different kind of win. 💯🔥

annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

The same way the parents who created wealth to leave for their children did it.

EmperorIsaac:
Jesus is actually all we need....He is the source of our sustenance.
Mine left me with Jesus, and oh, no better inheritance than that!

annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

You advised the person well. He should work hard and at the same time be thinking on what he can do with those lands. Even if na to least some for now

SammySammy1011:
We are creating our own for our own children, I didn't inherit anything from my dad, today, I have bought 2 plots of land for my 2 daughters.

As God blesses you., build on those lands . Put it for rent , put the money in a trust for them . A fixed amount given to them yearly till a point and start with their kids at a point. This ensures to a degree that that which you.worked for does not get squandered by a generation .

Kaczynski:
wait until your children are fighting and kpeeling them selves over so called properties. before you know it all of your children have joined you in bye bye land.

Kill this mindset. It’s a poverty mindset. Try and leave inheritance for your kids anyway

Suddenly nobody inherited nothing from his parents?

Nairalanders una too lie.

May God help us all


"Note" if your parents sponsored you to university level, you inherited everything on earth " God bless the person that made this comment.

as69:
Same boat as OP. Inherited absolutely nothing in terms of land, property, money. My parents did their best but they were also starting from zero and honestly just surviving.

But ahmedio2017 made a point that hit me — my parents paid school fees consistently. Never missed a term even when things were tight. That is actually worth something. Not everyone gets that. So I can't say zero.

Fisiryorh said something important though — the goal now is to break the cycle. I think about that a lot. Whatever I build, I want my own kids to start from a better position than I did. Doesn't have to be property necessarily, it can be good education, connections, skills. Just give them a head start.

As for OP's friend — now that you've explained he wants to use the money to jump into a business he knows nothing about, your advise was actually correct lol. Land appreciates. A business you dont understand will disappear. Classic Nigerian story — someone hypes a "lucrative" opportunity, brother sells asset, loses everything within a year.

That said, if he had a proper plan with the money and understood what he was getting into, selling 1 out of 4 plots wouldn't be the worst idea in the world. It's the "they said it's lucrative" part that is the red flag.

Those of us who inherited nothing honestly grind differently sha. Theres something that happens to your mentality when you know nobody is coming to bail you out.

Your lasts statement hits so hard. You grind differently when you know no one is coming to rescue you!