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If them no use ahm wisely,is not your fault atlaset you dong try for them let them also try for them self

Ezechimerenwata:
All is vanity, what if the said inherited properties is not well managed by the next generation nko....just live life peacefully and pray what to use in sustaining life be available ND wahala no locate u. GIVE THANKS TO GOD ALWAYS.

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annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

God has helped me and i have aqcuired some landed properties for my children, meanwhile my father left nothing for us

I inherited good education and that's enough. It's the same thing I'm doing for my kids.

as69:
Same boat as OP. Inherited absolutely nothing in terms of land, property, money. My parents did their best but they were also starting from zero and honestly just surviving.

But ahmedio2017 made a point that hit me — my parents paid school fees consistently. Never missed a term even when things were tight. That is actually worth something. Not everyone gets that. So I can't say zero.

Fisiryorh said something important though — the goal now is to break the cycle. I think about that a lot. Whatever I build, I want my own kids to start from a better position than I did. Doesn't have to be property necessarily, it can be good education, connections, skills. Just give them a head start.

As for OP's friend — now that you've explained he wants to use the money to jump into a business he knows nothing about, your advise was actually correct lol. Land appreciates. A business you dont understand will disappear. Classic Nigerian story — someone hypes a "lucrative" opportunity, brother sells asset, loses everything within a year.

That said, if he had a proper plan with the money and understood what he was getting into, selling 1 out of 4 plots wouldn't be the worst idea in the world. It's the "they said it's lucrative" part that is the red flag.

Those of us who inherited nothing honestly grind differently sha. Theres something that happens to your mentality when you know nobody is coming to bail you out.

Gbam...👊🏾💯

😔 There are levels to this mess. Okafor a friend of mine in the church inherited some heavy stuff - Hepatitis, diabetes, HBP - from his parents. And to top it off, his dad's brother (his uncle) is allegedly trying to make a move on his mom. Meanwhile, his mom's stuck, not working or doing anything to get out of this hole, and they're struggling with debt his dad left behind 💸.

*Levels to this 💔:*
- Health issues stacking up
- Family drama post-dad's death
- Mom's stuck, financially struggling
- Uncle's shady intentions 👀

This is exactly the kind of journey I'm on now.

Bringing children into this eveeel world without giving them a Good Edge in form of (Assets) is cruelty of the highest order.

Left to me to decide, "most" Financially Poor people won't be allowed to breed children.

Adakintroy:
Is it even possible to inherit nothing from ur parents in a real sense. To me ur statement shows of lack of critical thinking. You were born by them. For a start. You lived secured under their shelter, you had medicine and health care. Alternative to that you would have died from basic malaria hence won't be here to cap careless. You had food. Alternative to hunger and malnourishment. You had education to wish you can now reason better and make better judgement. Yet you act like these are all you because them no leave land for you.

Do some of you know the meaning of inheritance or you are just showing your unintelligent self by coming online to write trash?

I’m concerned because people from other countries reading this will think this is how Nigerians are.

Farming is a great investment, but I guess it's not for everyone.

Mariangeles:
Check out this thread:
This is how life in Nigeria should be

https://www.nairaland.com/8621511/parents-farm-pictures#138521281

cucumbar:
Do some of you know the meaning of inheritance or you are just showing your unintelligent self by coming online to write trash?

I’m concerned because people from other countries reading this will think this is how Nigerians are.

Do you know the meaning of inheritance. With your one dimensional take on everything. "People on the outside ke" speak a lot about your mind set. Mr. Public perception.

annayawchee:
Today a friend chatted me up and was seeking for advice if it's okay to sell 2 plots of land from the 4 he inherited from his father..
I told him not to sell it cos he is barely 30 and still have a long way to go..

It occured to me that I actually inherited nothing 😂
Everything I have ,
I've worked so hard for it.
.I wondered would my life have been easier if I was left with anything?

It's not easy I alway wondered how it feel like being a tenant under constant pressure to pay rent while the landlord keep shifting goal post each year making it harder for tenant. The house I am currently staying with my wife a 3bedroom apartment was given to me by my father of blessed memory not that I can't afford to pay 3 to 4m yearly for rent but been pulling saved income in other business ventures which are also earning me something..with extra cash I can capitalise on opportunities. Not much difference just u have to cut ur coat according to ur size in the end we just need food shelter and good health and extra cash for other necessities.

ibechris:
I inherited nothing from my father and today,I am doing extremely well because I decided to do one thing...

I extinguished that spirit of fear and decided to go it alone with my wife as my support base.

After that decision,my life began to take shape and work the way I planned it.

This is not the first time you’ve talked about your wife being supportive and understanding, I’m really happy to you bro and may GOD continue to bless your home.

Kaczynski:
wait until your children are fighting and kpeeling them selves over so called properties. before you know it all of your children have joined you in bye bye land.

You are just talking nonsense.

Have you heard of something called a “will”.

Besides the good book says - Proverbs 13:22 "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.

The flip side is a bad man doesn’t leave any inheritance

annayawchee:
He wanted to invest in a business he knows nothing about ..

They simply told him it's lucrative and he wants to plunge in

Oga over time you will realize sometimes you keep your advice to yourself. Tomorrow when the guy is not doing well, his story will be that he would have been successful if one friend (out of bad belle) adviced him not to sell land and invest in one business like that, he will say all those that went ahead to invest are now rich like dangote. Lol
Omo, till tomorrow, my mama de talk say na me advice am not to use her boys quarters start school on a small scale 25 years ago, say by now she would have had a conglomerate of schools. One the other hand, when I wanted to do large scale fish farming, land in ayobo was 250k, I wanted to buy multiple plots as my friends were doing for their farming. Omo my old man adviced me not to waste money, say make I do the farm for him large compound, where he had excess unused space. Omo fish farming was a desaster, guess what, those my friends sold their land with the structures for millions of naira years later, as for me, my empty concret fish pounds was used to store pigs, later destroyed and a building built on the land. I come de regret why I take the advice, if it was a friend that advised me and not my papa, heavy blame would have been on that guy.

Elzazzi:

Is this Ella Mathias?

And that's why majority of Africans are still poor.

This myopic mentality of yours is the reason why many Africans are still living in poverty.

Angelfrost:
I never expected to inherit a dime from anyone... So, I have always hustled hard.

No child of mine is also expecting to inherit from me, even though there will be plenty to leave behind.

I have taught them to find and make their own fortunes...!


Inheritance should never be a right or entitlement... It should be a privilege that you add to what you already made for yourself.

He needs to be flogged...😑😑😑

lightwind:
My father made soo much money while working at Elf oil company and Cadbury Nigeria plc in the 70s and early 80s in Portharcourt. A shinning young man, made money before his brothers and kingsmen.
He couldn't invest his money, but busy knacking Kalabari, Ikewere and Opobo women up and down until he got sick and was relieved off his job.
Packed up all his belongings from ph then finally settled in the village till today.

So my father left nothing for me nor my brother or sisters.

How is it a blessing when we had no part in them conceiving us?

We didn't force them to bring us into this world, they did it out of their own freewill and therefore are obligated to care for us.

We need to normalise holding our parents accountable for their selfish decisions... Why did they have 7 children in the first place when they themselves were not progressing in life?

Ewedegubbler:
i inherited zero except education from primary 1 to js3.. the rest i did on my own..

I have been a millionaire in every currency since 2011 and i also pulled everyone of my 6 siblings out of poverty..

Do not blame your parents for ur lack of progress. giving birth to u is already in itself a blessing..

nedekid:
Oga over time you will realize sometimes you keep your advice to yourself. Tomorrow when the guy is not doing well, his story will be that he would have been successful if one friend (out of bad belle) adviced him not to sell land and invest in one business like that, he will say all those that went ahead to invest are now rich like dangote. Lol
Omo, till tomorrow, my mama de talk say na me advice am not to use her boys quarters start school on a small scale 25 years ago, say by now she would have had a conglomerate of schools. One the other hand, when I wanted to do large scale fish farming, land in ayobo was 250k, I wanted to buy multiple plots as my friends were doing for their farming. Omo my old man adviced me not to waste money, say make I do the farm for him large compound, where he had excess unused space. Omo fish farming was a desaster, guess what, those my friends sold their land with the structures for millions of naira years later, as for me, my empty concret fish pounds was used to store pigs, later destroyed and a building built on the land. I come de regret why I take the advice, if it was a friend that advised me and not my papa, heavy blame would have been on that guy.

it's okay

Riches profited not in the day of death and a crown does not endure to all generation

ahmedio2017:
If your parents has sponsored your education up to university level, you have inherited everything on earth....

Mine didn't.

Samantha125:
Judging by the comments, it's like most of you inherited nothing from your fathers, what were they doing throughout their lifetimes that they left you guys with nothing?🤔🤔🤔

I mean even my paternal grandfather who wasn't educated left a farm, livestock, a house, and a courtier title for each of his children.

it seems you’re a girl u think as e easy 4 ur grandpa naso e easy 4 d rest grandpa abi

JuanDeDios:
Mine didn't.

Eeya, it wasn't their fault just try to obtain at least nce certificate and sponsor your own children giving them properties does not guarantee success rather it will expose them particularly if they are not enlightened....

Who told you it doesn't count?

Not so many people have such privilege. It's not just something but something very big and important. Education is an asset. It's Human Capital Development. Countries all over the world spend fortune on education and research and innovation. Without it, we are probably gonna be in darkness.

Dtruthspeaker:
This one no count. You can as well say that because they have fed and clothed you, then you have taken your inheritance.

Right, strap in you magnificent disasters, because uncle Sven has read every single one of these posts, boiled them down to their essential stupidity, and is about to surgically remove the bullshit with absolutely zero anaesthetic. Not because I hate Nigeria. I love Nigeria. I love Nigerians. I love the food, the energy, and the absolute chaotic genius of this place. But love without honesty is just flattery, and flattery is the Nigerian national sport, so we’re going straight past that today into the cold, hard logic of the situation.
​Let me lay the philosophical foundation first so nobody can claim they misunderstood the assignment. Two adults. Consensual. Choose to have sex. Choose, or fail to prevent, a pregnancy. Choose to keep that child. Spend approximately zero seconds of that entire process thinking about what the child wants, needs, or consented to, because the child does not exist yet and consent is not a Nigerian parenting concept apparently. Then they spend eighteen years doing the absolute bare legal minimum feeding, clothing, occasionally educating, sometimes medically treating, and intermittently emotionally damaging this child they chose to make and then they retire expecting compound interest on their mediocrity. That’s it. That’s the whole scam in one paragraph. You don’t get a medal for not letting your child starve. That’s the job. That was always the job. The job you signed up for the moment sperm met egg and you didn’t stop it. The second you reproduce, you are contractually obligated by basic human decency to raise that child to functional adulthood. Not loan them into life. Raise them. And then, when they’re grown, you release them. Full stop. End of invoice. No bill. No interest. No wedding levies. No kneeling. No prostration. No “drop something for the family.” The account is settled the moment they leave your house as a functional adult. Anything else is just greed wearing a gele.
​Now. Let’s go through these posts one by one like the world’s most depressing buffet. Annoyawchee, bless your heart, you are the least offensive person in this thread and I’m going to be relatively gentle with you, which means I’m only going to call you mildly confused rather than catastrophically broken. You inherited nothing. You worked for everything. Good. That’s called being alive in the 21st century. The fact that you sat there having a moment of “hmm, would it have been easier with inheritance” while simultaneously telling your friend not to sell his land is actually fine, that’s just normal human reflection. You’re not the problem here. You’re the accidental straight man in a comedy of absolute weapons. You realized you did it yourself, yet you still feel that phantom limb of "what if." It's human, but don't let it turn into the bitterness I see in the others.
​Kaczynski. Mate. You wrote four lines to say absolutely nothing except “inheritance causes family drama” which, yes, obviously, we know, you haven’t discovered fire here son. “Before you know it all of your children have joined you in bye bye land.” I read that three times trying to find the insight. Still looking. Still nothing. You’re just wallowing in a sort of nihilistic "it'll all end anyway" feeling that helps exactly no one. It’s like a Norwegian "Janteloven" but with more "kpelling." Sit down. Samantha125. Oh, Samantha. Samantha with her paternal grandfather’s farm and livestock and courtier title. Samantha who looked at a thread full of people who grew up with nothing and decided the correct contribution was “what were their parents even DOING though?” You absolute brass necked monument to missing the point. Do you understand what you just did? A room full of people sharing economic difficulty and you walked in wearing your grandfather’s legacy like a fur coat to ask why the poor people are cold. “I mean even my paternal grandfather who wasn't educated left a farm.” Good for him Samantha. Genuinely. But the correct response to people who have less than you is not to wonder aloud what their dead parents were doing wrong. That’s not curiosity. That’s classism with a question mark stapled to it. You’re talking like someone who thinks they hit a home run when they were actually born on third base. Go and sit with your courtier title and think about what you’ve done.
​Durabeast. “If not for my grandparents that left things for us my father was just busy knacking woman.” I actually respect this one purely for honesty. You described your father as a man whose primary hobby was other women and whose legacy was your grandfather’s assets, not his own. That’s devastating and accurate and you delivered it with the energy of someone reading a shopping list. Respect. You’re not the problem either, you’re just a man telling the truth about the specific failure of a generation that thought "legacy" was something you lived off, not something you built. PHIPEX. Right, here’s the interesting one, because you’re the only person in this entire thread who managed to point the finger in an approximately correct direction. Politicians. Stolen wealth. Children who’ll sell it off. That’s a coherent thought in a thread full of incoherent ones. You get half a point. But then you didn’t follow the logic all the way home did you, because the same entitlement culture that makes Nigerians expect wedding payments and burial respect money and child-birth levies is the same cultural wiring that makes a politician think public funds are family inheritance. It’s the same brain. Same operating system. Different scale. You almost got there mate. So close.
​Zionstaar75. “Clarify the type of inheritance u mean.” Brother. The thread is called “people who inherited nothing.” The clue is in the title. The type of inheritance they mean is the type that is nothing. Zero. None. Blank. You did not add anything to human knowledge by pointing out that 500k and 50 million are both technically inheritance. You’re the human equivalent of a loading screen. boxypane. “Why should you train a child to consciously depend on the properties of his parents?” And there it is. There’s that word. Train. You train a dog. You train livestock. You train a system. You raise a child. The fact that you reached for “train” without a second’s hesitation tells me everything about how children are conceptualized in this framing. As assets to be optimized. As investments to be managed. As things that need training rather than people that need raising. And the question itself, why should you raise a child to depend on parents, contains a fascinating inversion, because nobody asked you to raise dependent children. The question was about people who got nothing. The answer to “I got nothing” is not “well dependency is bad anyway.” That’s not wisdom. That’s a man justifying absence with philosophy.
​damble. Oh damble. Damble who is “so greedy and selfish” about parents who didn’t plan. You know what I noticed? You described parents suffering because children are struggling and can’t support them. That’s the bit that bothers you. Not that the children are struggling. That the parents are now uncomfortable because of the consequences of their own financial choices. You dressed it as concern for the children but read it back. “Things wouldn’t have turned out negative for them.” For them. The parents. You’re annoyed that poor planning inconvenienced the people who did the poor planning. That’s not wisdom either. That’s just consequence blindness with a sympathetic tone. You're upset the ATM is broken, not that the bank was robbed.
​Mankind2024. Alright so this one is technically competent advice buried inside what is transparently a stock market group advertisement. Compound interest. NGX. “Drop a comment if you’re investing.” Brother this is a Nairaland thread about inherited poverty and you pulled out a pitch deck. Respect for the hustle, zero respect for the context. “Compound interest levels the playing field for everyone.” No it doesn't. Compound interest levels the playing field for everyone who has money to begin with. That’s the entire point of compound interest. You need a base. The person who inherited nothing and earns minimum wage and feeds three people on it doesn't have a base to compound. I’m not saying investing is bad. Investing is great. I’m saying “just invest bro” delivered to people describing genuine economic hardship is the financial equivalent of telling someone with a broken leg to just walk it off. Also “NIGERIAN STOCK EXCHANGE MARKET PICK ALERTS” in capitals mid paragraph is not subtle advertising mate. We see you. You're trying to hawk a life-jacket to people already drowned.
​Gigabyte13. “80% of people who inherited stuffs from their parents have entitlement mentality.” Gigabyte you beautiful hypocrite you just used entitlement as a criticism in a thread full of people demonstrating entitlement in real time without apparently noticing. Also “men wey Dem leave inheritance for sef, l no even bother to check how my siblings dey run am.” So you have inheritance and you don’t care about it. That’s actually Samantha’s opposite and somehow equally useless to this conversation. You’ve contributed nothing except a statistic you invented. Lekan239. You’re fine. You’re actually fine. You described the specific Nigerian parent phenomenon of disappearing during struggle and reappearing for success with shameless ownership of the outcome. “I trained that child.” You trained nothing. You watched from a distance while your child dragged themselves through broken glass and when they got to the other side bleeding and successful you ran up to say you helped. That specific flavour of retroactive parenting is genuinely one of the most corrosive things in this culture and Lekan clocked it cleanly. Have a point. You’ve earned it.
​Lightwind. Your father was “knacking Kalabari, Ikewere and Opobo women up and down.” You listed the ethnic groups. Specifically. In order. You delivered that information with the calm precision of a man reading coordinates into a GPS. I genuinely don’t know whether to laugh or pour one out for you. That’s not a joke, your father sounds like he was spectacularly bad at everything except geography. You didn’t inherit nothing. You inherited a cautionary tale, which is arguably more educational than land. I’m genuinely sorry about the rest of it. That one landed differently. Dtruthspeaker. “What i will not support is women taking short cut and trying to reap where they did not sow.” Right. Okay. You’ve inserted a completely separate grievance into this thread like a man who shows up to a funeral and starts talking about his parking ticket. Nobody mentioned women taking shortcuts. The thread is about inheritance. You saw an opportunity to voice something that was apparently already loaded and ready and you fired it into the wrong conversation entirely. Sit down, reload, find a relevant thread. This isn't about the battle of the sexes; it's about the bankruptcy of the previous generation.
​Chinchum. “Your education and exposure largely provided by parents is your launching pad.” This is reasonable except for the part where many of the people in this thread are specifically describing parents who didn’t provide that either. You’re describing the ideal and presenting it as the common experience. “I detest entitlement mentality in parents.” Good. Hold that thought. Apply it to the wedding levies, the child birth payments, the funeral appearance fees, the bride price negotiations. Apply it consistently. I’ll wait. Pinknipple. I’m not going to make fun of your friend Okafor because that situation sounds genuinely rough and listing other people’s real suffering with bullet points isn’t the comedy own-goal the others were pulling. You’re fine. Move on.
​Manculated. Right. You. You beautiful catastrophic disaster of a human being. “Most Financially Poor people won’t be allow to breed children.” You typed that. With your actual fingers. And posted it. Publicly. On the internet. Where words live forever. The audacity of a person who is almost certainly not themselves wealthy, on a thread about people who inherited nothing, deciding that the solution to generational poverty is eugenics for poor people. You have taken entitlement, inflated it past critical mass, and it has collapsed into something that isn't even entitlement anymore, it's just deranged. You’re not thinking about poverty. You’re performing superiority from a position you haven’t earned. That’s the most Nigerian thing in the thread and the thread is absolutely stacked with competition. It's like a Royal Marine trying to use a wet noodle as a weapon.
​Now. The meta point. Because this is what all of you missed together as a collective. The whole thread is people complaining about what they didn’t receive while simultaneously in the comments demonstrating every cultural mechanism that perpetuates exactly that problem. You complain your parents didn’t invest, then you post about how you expect to be paid at weddings. You complain about entitlement from above while absolutely reeking of entitlement from below. You use the word “train” for children without flinching. You describe parental duties as optional generosities rather than basic obligations. You frame feeding and educating your child as achievements worthy of celebration rather than as the minimum required to not be a bad person.
​And here’s the kicker that nobody wants to hear. The same culture that produces parents who “knack woman” instead of investing, the same culture that produces people who expect burial fees and wedding payments and prostration and bride price, the same culture that produced every single complaint in this thread, that culture is inside every single person complaining about it. Because you didn't just inherit money or land or nothing. You inherited the thinking. The framework. The assumption that human relationships are transactional, that presence requires payment, that love comes with an invoice, that children owe parents for being born, that guests owe hosts for attending, that grief is a revenue opportunity.
​You train animals. You raise children. You correct errors. You teach people.
​And a city that paves its streets in urine while police look the other way isn’t suffering from a lack of inherited wealth. It’s suffering from a culture that decided a long time ago that responsibility is someone else's problem right up until there's money on the table. The inheritance most of you actually received and are currently passing on to your own children isn’t land or money. It’s the exact thinking this thread is full of. And it compounds too, just not the way Mankind2024’s stock alerts would have you believe. It compounds into a society where everyone is "taking the piss" and nobody is actually building the house.

Honestly speaking; having a stable head start in whichever venture sometimes make it easier for someone because some avoidable hurdles, pressures, & stress would have been bypassed, unlike someone who is beginning from scratch; although deligence & focus would determines how far d both can go.

Life happens to us differently & most times we have no choice than to accept d kinds of backgrounds we came from. Some were given EVERY opportunity to succeed faster in life but squandered it, while some make it big from scratch all by themselves. It's still inside d same life

If we are to be sincere with ourselves, 90% of those who pray to God openly or silently in whatever denomination are PRAYING for a destiny helper. And d Destiny helpers of some happens to be their parents or d circle of background they find themselves.

I inherited ABSOLUTELY NOTHING from my parents. (Not even Education). But God has been so faithful against all odds. Self efforts can never yield results for everyone unless there's an intervention. Funny as it may sound, sometimes I imagine myself to be Adeleke, Otedola, Adenuga Son or my dad should have been someone from their league; but here we are,..

Giving a child or Children an education for an inheritance by parents isn't entirely true. Simply because that is one of their basic responsibilities as parents but it's so unfortunate that many parents failed dis responsibilities including mine. If education seems to be an inheritance, then Clothing, shelter, & feeding from infant should follow suit. My Bottom line is that; leaving an inheritance behind by parents to their children is a leverage that might possibly ease their hardships & stress in d journey of life, even though some got it all but blew it away. And those of us who were not fortunate by it, should strive to change d narrative for our own children.

Inheritance is not limited to Land alone. It could be houses, stable businesses, reasonable cash in millions & d likes. D sad part is that, many people inherited Curses from parents which even makes it so hard for breakthroughs no matter d level of education & opportunities, & I believe dis is d major reason why churches & other worship centers are always filled to d brims in times of crusades & series of programs.

Proverb 13:22 "A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.

Samantha125:
And that's why majority of Africans are still poor.

This myopic mentality of yours is the reason why many Africans are still living in poverty.

Lol... I come from a lineage of wealth actually.

It's your entitlement mentality that you call "broad minded" that has kept many poor.

Inheritance or Legacy is no one's right... It's supposed to be a privilege which should not be demanded, neither should anyone's success in life be hinged on what is left behind by parents.

I've really gone through a whole lots of life threatening experience, nevertheless still resilience hoping that one day I'll make it

Mariangeles:
... because a generation of men decided to leave the lands their fathers worked on, and headed to the city in search of "greener pasture", even when their pastures were already green.
That was the beginning of the decline of Nigeria.

And you think it is different in South Africa where she’s from? Which kind thing be this?

Samantha125:
Judging by the comments, it's like most of you inherited nothing from your fathers, what were they doing throughout their lifetimes that they left you guys with nothing?🤔🤔🤔

I mean even my paternal grandfather who wasn't educated left a farm, livestock, a house, and a courtier title for each of his children.

Different strokes for different folks. We all live very different lives. Some may get the opportunity to amass a lot for their kids; some may not.