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Hey guys I'm a young guy of 26 years I find it difficult to say no and I am overly caring. I'm scared of people leaving me and me being alone so I tend to be overly nice which has backfired at me in recent times.
Some times I will have like 5h with me and somebody will ask me for money instead of me to say no I'll give the person the money and afterwards start regretting it.
Most times I try to be a good guy but people always end up seeing me as a bad guy.
At times when I get into fights the other person will just be hitting me I'll find it hard to hit the person back as I'll be scared what if the person dies and all that.
I always tend to care about what people will say. Whenever I'm with someone I always tend to do their biddings even if they don't do mine.
Even with women no matter how nice I am to them I hardly get their pussy and they end up leaving me.
So guys pls help me on how I can change from this character.

Hmm... Kindness and empathy is not the problem here at all. The problem is the "people-pleasing" tendency and not saying NO when you should.

You need to learn two main things:
1. Everyone cannot be your friend.
2. Personal boundaries thay can't be broken.

Try asking for favour from those people you're moving heaven and earth for and you'll see that dem no send you.

Stephen0mozzy:
Hmm... Kindness and empathy is not the problem here at all. The problem is the "people-pleasing" tendency and not saying NO when you should.

You need to learn two main things:
1. Everyone cannot be your friend.
2. Personal boundaries thay can't be broken.

Try asking for favour from those people you're moving heaven and earth for and you'll see that dem no send you.

true bro and when they decline I feel hurt and offended I'll learn to say no from now henceforth