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What you owe your children are the basics of life like feeding, healthcare, shelter, basic education and all these you are to give them while they are still children and not adults!

If you have provided the above in their childhood, immediately they turn 16, start instilling the mindset of independence in them. By asking them honest questions about what they want to do with their lives whether going to the university or learning a skilled work. You can decide based on their performances in school, the path each of them would toe. Those who are good in school can be guided on picking good courses with job prospects so they can proceed to study such courses in school. On the other hand, those who might not be so good academically can be guided to learn lucrative trades or skills.

Once they turn 18, make it clear to them that whatever you're doing for them going forward is a plus. We know that due to the kind of country we are in, there's a possibility that your adult children might not all become independent immediately, but make it clear to them that whatever support you're offering at certain age is just a grace.

I am sick and tired of some ungrateful adult children of nowadays going about insulting their parents and asking irresponsible questions like "where were their father when Dangote was making money?". Whenever I hear a child ask such questions, it annoys me. Asking your father such question is the height of ingratitude and irresponsibility!

We read posts here from the likes of sirchiboy castigating their parents for not amassing wealth enough for their lazy aszes to enjoy! Raising children with such mindset is very bad and every parent must avoid that.

The mindset of trying hard to amass so much wealth for one's children and unborn generations need to be put in checks. Such mindset is why our politicians loot public treasury and civil servants loot public funds at their reach. Even traders and artisans are not left out in the craze.

Let us focus on building a better country we can all be proud to bequeath to our children and unborn generations. Let us emulate the whites and learn from them about how to make legitimate wealth without looting what belongs to the public. If you observe, in the western countries, those who are super rich are those who add values to the society like inventors, artists, footballers and other sportsmen and women and genuine business men/women and when these rich whites die, they mostly will their wealths to charity because they understand that leaving such wealth to their children would rather make their children lazy instead fighting hard to create their own wealths and making names for themselves.

Let's stop raising children with entitlement mentality.

Come back when you have your own.

But seriously, what were those parents doing with their lives apart from procreating when other parents were busy investing in their children's future?

Stop justifying your parents' laziness.

Samantha125:
But seriously, what were those parents doing with their lives apart from procreating when other parents were busy investing in their children's future?

Stop justifying your parents' laziness.

You don't understand it. Those guys asking such questions are those who feel entitled to inheriting wealth they did not work for. They're usually the lazy and greedy ones who would not work hard but keep castigating their parents for not having so much for them to inherit.

Everybody cannot be reach like the Dangotes. Some parents were just civil servants who relied on their meagre salaries! Provided your parents gave you the basics as a child, it is very irresponsible for you to hope on inheriting wealth from them instead of working hard to make your own wealth.

We see how some of such pampered children usually end up. Immediately their father dies, they start fighting and killing one another over inheritance and many of them end up wasting whatever they eventually inherit from their father's wealths and become liabilities to the society. If they had the independence mindset they wouldn't end that way.

Samantha125:
But seriously, what were those parents doing with their lives apart from procreating when other parents were buisy investing in their children's future?

Stop justifying your parents' laziness.

Are you alright

So you're no longer mad at me? I deliberately commented just to see your reaction... ... Good boy.

Anyways, I digress... The children would only fight and unalive each other if their father neither communicated his intentions clearly while he was still alive nor left behind a valid will.

The proper thing to do is to train and prepare your children from an early age by creating a structured development roadmap for them and by being transparent with them... One thing many African parents fail to do is mentoring their children into offering them hands on experience, which would help them identify their children's strengths and weaknesses.

Jman06:
You don't understand it. Those guys asking such questions are those who feel entitled to inheriting wealth they did not work for. They're usually the lazy and greedy ones who would not work hard but keep castigating their parents for not having so much for them to inherit.

Everybody cannot be reach like the Dangotes. Some parents were just civil servants who relied on their meagre salaries! Provided your parents gave you the basics as a child, it is very irresponsible for you to hope on inheriting wealth from them instead of working hard to make your own wealth.

We see how some of such pampered children usually end up. Immediately their father dies, they start fighting and killing one another over inheritance and many of them end up wasting whatever they eventually inherit from their father's wealths and become liabilities to the society. If they had the independence mindset they wouldn't end that way.

Samantha125:
So you're no longer mad at me? I deliberately commented just to see your reaction... ... Good boy.

Anyways, I digress... The children would only fight and unalive each other if their father neither communicated his intentions clearly while he was still alive nor left behind a valid will.

The proper thing to do is to train and prepare your children from an early age by creating a structured development roadmap for them and by being transparent with them... One thing many African parents fail to do is mentoring their children into offering them hands on experience, which would help them identify their children's strengths and weaknesses.

How can I be mad at you, my love? I was never mad at you Sammie love!

Most times, men die unexpectedly without writing wills and leaving their children to fight over inheritance. In some cases, some children would still fight one another despite the existence of a will. I have seen cases where wills are contested in courts.

Yeah, I agree with you about the mentoring part. Fathers need to mentor and guide their children on financial literacy.

Using words of endearment towards another woman while on a public platform is quite disrespectful towards your fiancee... And do you want to get me divorced?😒😒😒

A will can only be contested if the applicant can prove its invalidity, lack of testamentary capacity from the testator, or coercion during the time the it was drafted.

Jman06:
How can I be mad at you, my love? I was never mad at you Sammie love!

Most times, men die unexpectedly without writing wills and leaving their children to fight over inheritance. In some cases, some children would still fight one another despite the existence of a will. I have seen cases where wills are contested in courts.

Yeah, I agree with you about the mentoring part. Fathers need to mentor and guide their children on financial literacy.

Samantha125:
Using words of endearment towards another woman while on a public platform is quite disrespectful towards your fiancee... And do you want to get me divorced?😒😒😒

A will can only be contested if the applicant can prove its invalidity, lack of testamentary capacity from the testator, or coercion during the time the it was drafted.

Lolzzzz... it's just my way of letting you know that we're good. My fiancee is not on nairaland and I don't want to get you divorced my love


Okay o, noted