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voiceunheard:
I have checked your profile and with your profile picture, I already know you are still growing that's why you are talking this way.

Since you are talking about reporting him to the police so that he will be arrested because that's where your thinking ends, I have reported him to 2 Christian organizations and that's not all. Although I am yet to report his threats to the police.

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Sangoamadioha1:
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Anything you call it.

voiceunheard:
My Experience After Relying on a Pastor’s Promise During a Difficult Time - How Broken Trust Affected My Health, Finances & Peace of Mind


(I have kept records of my communications and interactions regarding this matter)

I am sharing this anonymously because I have carried this pain alone for too long, and it has affected my health, finances, and emotional stability.

I come from a very difficult family background. For many years, I experienced emotional abuse, constant frustration, and lack of support from my parents and siblings. While my father was alive, he repeatedly told me that he would make sure I was frustrated in life, that I would be useless, and that I would be born to regret. Even when I did the right thing, I was still abused. Living in that environment became unbearable, and I eventually left in order to preserve my sanity and try to build a life for myself.

After leaving my parents' house, I struggled to secure stable housing and rebuild my life under difficult financial and emotional conditions. In 2025, I was living in a room-and-parlor apartment with another person. We paid the rent, agreement, and agent fees 50/50. Before the rent expired, serious conflict arose between us. Her elder sister threw my belongings out without notice. My belongings remained in an uncompleted building for three days, and I became completely stranded.

In my desperation, I went to a large Pentecostal church (a well-known church, name withheld) seeking guidance and was directed to a pastor. I did not approach him on my own. He prayed with me and told me, "God has stepped into the matter." He asked me to confirm the cost of renting a new place and promised that he would pay the full rent, including agreement and agent fees. I did not ask him for financial assistance. I only needed somewhere to stay temporarily and planned to be paying ₦5,000 monthly until I could fully sort myself out. The promise was entirely his initiative.

Because of this assurance, I relied on his words. If not for that promise, I would have immediately pursued police action against the people who threw my belongings out, recovered part of my money, added what I had, and borrowed a small amount from my bank to rent a house. Instead, I waited, trusting his promise.

During this period, I stayed in an open place and was exposed to cold. My health began to suffer. When I later met the pastor in the area and asked about the promise, explaining that cold was seriously affecting me, he said:

"You are the one who said you want to leave your parents' house because they were frustrating you. You have to bear it."

He also said:

"There are many people I have promised. I am settling them little by little."

If he already had many unfulfilled promises to others, why did he make another expensive promise to me with such confidence, as if the money was already available?

He also told me that I had 'stopped calling him, since I stopped calling him, he said let him see how I will look for a way out' which I found confusing - was I expected to call him constantly while waiting for him to fulfill his promise?

As time passed, he began ignoring my calls. During a phone conversation, when it was clear that I was desperate to secure accommodation, he told me:

"Don't go into prostitution to get money to rent a house."

This statement shocked and deeply humiliated me. I had never suggested or implied anything like that.

When I later shared this experience with a church member, she initially acknowledged that the pastor's actions were wrong. However, she then began offering explanations and justifications - including suggesting that the pastor made the statement to "prevent me from prostitution," and that he could not explain himself to me because doing so would be "bringing himself down to my level." This response deeply troubled me. It reflected a mindset where a pastor's status is prioritized over the dignity, pain, and wellbeing of a vulnerable person seeking help.

Eventually, because the delay became unbearable, I went to the police regarding the people who threw my belongings out and recovered part of my money (I could have recovered more if I had not relied on the pastor's promise). I informed the pastor that I now had more than half of the rent and asked him to assist with the remaining amount so I could finally rent a place. He still did nothing.

Around this time, someone invited me to a church where I was told:

"You should forgive people who have offended you and let go for your way to be open. How do you expect your way to be open when you are harboring many people in your heart?"

This made me realize how much emotional pain I had been carrying. The prolonged waiting, broken promise, and silence were destroying me. I formally reported the pastor to the church headquarters after more than four months of ignored calls and messages, I also went to his office, he said he has nothing to tell me.

I did not report him because I wanted money. I reported him because of the broken promise and the emotional harm caused by months of silence. The threats came only after I made the report, and I later reported those threats too.

After I reported him, his behavior reportedly changed. He told me that I would d*e within a short time. He warned that "this trend you are embarking on will land you in a place you least expect." He said, "Don't let me see you, you won't find it funny." He later called me a thief, saying I wanted to reap where I did not sow, and told me that my life is "messed up."

From that point on, my health and emotional wellbeing deteriorated. I fell sick frequently, spent money on medications, struggled to concentrate on my business, and lost income. Eventually, I had to borrow money to rent a house on my own, which I am still going to pay back. The consequences of relying on his promise continue to affect my life in several areas (emotionally, my spirit is shattered. I can no longer concentrate or run my business properly).

I reported this matter to the church headquarters multiple times via email. I first reported this in August 2025 and sent multiple follow-up emails with no acknowledgment. After five months of complete silence, I reported again in January 2026 because the pastor's broken promise was destroying my health, finances, and emotional wellbeing. Only then did they acknowledge my complaint, apologizing for the "prolonged silence" and promising "urgent attention." However, they have since gone silent again for another month despite these assurances.

The church's repeated silence, despite multiple complaints and promises to investigate, has left me with no choice but to share this publicly. Private accountability channels have completely failed.

I am sharing this not to attack any church, but to speak about how broken promises, silence, and threatening words from someone in authority can deeply damage a vulnerable person's life.

No one should have to carry this kind of burden alone.

I am honestly asking:

• Is it right for a pastor to make strong promises to someone in distress and then disappear?
• Is it right to stop someone from going to the police and then abandon them?
• Is it okay to scare someone after they speak up?
• When does spiritual authority become harmful to a person's mental and emotional wellbeing?

Attached are supporting screenshots for transparency. Including email correspondence with church headquarters showing months of no response, and messages showing threatening behavior. Personal details have been hidden for privacy.

I am posting this anonymously for my safety, but I am open to support or advice. If you wish to reach out, please contact me via this email: voiceunheardstories@gmail.com

This is my personal experience and understanding of events as they occurred.

#ChurchAccountability #SpiritualAbuse #PastoralMisconduct #Nigeria #BreakTheSilence #JusticeForVulnerable

Sorry for all you have been through.
My sincere advice is this, you have to work on your character. Maybe your life experiences has contributed to this.
Learn to forgive and let go of hurt! The more you are quick to find fault with people,the more you keep hurting yourself.

Unburden your heart!
Love yourself, forgive and let go!
Forgiveness doesn't mean you should let the people that hurt you deeply back into your life. Observe them from a distance!
❤️ and 💥

voiceunheard:
Yet, someone will still be saying "I went too far" to report him - indirectly saying I should suffer the consequences alone. The next thing is to report his death threat to the police since the church has remained silent.

I hope wherever he is, he is seeing what his unsolicited promise that I didn't request has caused. He has succeeded in putting me in a loan cycle, borrowing from one loan app to another.

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The format never changes. 🤡

SisterAnn:
Ok you just landed 🤣

The format never changes. 🤡

Keep laughing yourself to scorn.

ceeceeuwa:
Sorry for all you have been through.
My sincere advice is this, you have to work on your character. Maybe your life experiences has contributed to this.
Learn to forgive and let go of hurt! The more you are quick to find fault with people,the more you keep hurting yourself.

Unburden your heart!
Love yourself, forgive and let go!
Forgiveness doesn't mean you should let the people that hurt you deeply back into your life. Observe them from a distance!
❤️ and 💥

Thank you for your concern and kind words. They are genuinely appreciated.

However I want to respectfully clarify one thing. This is not about fault finding or character flaws. I came from an abusive home, was stranded with no support, went to a church seeking temporary shelter, and a pastor made a specific unsolicited promise in God's name that cost me my health, my finances, and months of my life. I have documented evidence of threatening messages he sent when I sought accountability. That is not fault finding. That is documented reality.

I also want to say something that I think is important for anyone reading this. Staying silent when someone wrongs you does not make you a better person. Allowing people to mistreat you without seeking accountability is not a virtue. Speaking up about genuine documented harm is not a character flaw. It is dignity.

Some very funny replies so far. I'll use this here post as an illustration.

otipoju:
Honestly , I don't know what to tell you.

Ironically, your opening line here was the smartest thing you produced in this riposte, and you promptly ignored its counsel. A rare moment of self-awareness, swiftly executed and buried. What followed was a masterclass in saying the loud part loud while somehow still missing the entire point - leaving behind a comment that reads as simultaneously devoid of empathy and remarkably ill-informed, a combination that ages about as gracefully as warm mayonnaise. You see, this is often what you get when you conflate being blunt with being wise, and then decide to moonlight as an unsolicited life coach. Nigerians have practically institutionalized this particular brand of cynicism-disguised-as-counsel. But before I get to the meat of this response, I'll start by highlighting the legal absurdity here, front and center:

otipoju:
The Pastor does not owe you money even if he promised you.Going to report him to his church leadership is way out of line.

Actually, mate - in most functioning legal systems, a promise that causes someone to materially alter their course of action to their own detriment is called a promissory estoppel and it absolutely can create liability. Not only did she receive a promise, she literally abandoned a viable legal remedy because of it.

otipoju:
Leave the Pastor alone...even though he is a shitty human being as many of them are.

Figure out how to fix your life. And continually pray to reverse the curse that your father placed on you...him too na useless man.

So the pastor's promise is unenforceable, but the dead father's curse is still fully operational? That's some interesting theological selectivity. Apparently, the supernatural is only valid when it's working against you.

otipoju:
Unless you did something bad to him that you are not telling us or your mother did brought another man's pregnancy to him.

This line is where I had to physically set down my beverage. Completely unverifiable, completely irrelevant, and delivered with the casual cruelty of someone who thinks they're being refreshingly honest when they're actually just being foul.

Now - and I'll be fair here - buried somewhere in the labyrinthine rubble of your reply is one recoverable point:

otipoju:
Above all, NOBODY in this life owes you anything and you need to stop telling strangers and friends of you family issues.

Yes, chronic oversharing of vulnerability with the wrong people is tactically dangerous. That's true. Predators do use disclosed pain as a targeting system. Fine. Valid. One mark in the ledger. But the delivery method chosen here was to essentially tell a woman who got stranded, threatened, and gaslit by a man of God that her character is the problem. Not the fraud, not the institutional cover-up, but the victim herself. Victim-blaming at its most blatantly shameless if you ask me.

Change your character too

That's all? After paragraphs of speculation about her mother's fidelity and her father's curses? This is arguably the most damning indictment of your staggering lack of self-awareness. It's a toss up between this and when the pastor told her not to become a prostitute while refusing to pay rent he promised. Not sure which is less self-aware at the moment.

And this is yet another problem with religion. Certain religious structures create the perfect ecosystem for exactly this - a hierarchy where authority is sacred, accountability is optional, and the vulnerable are perpetually told their suffering is a spiritual character flaw rather than someone else's actionable misconduct. And you've exemplified this problem rather excellently with this post.

Orisiri.

That's why we must always pray against the spirit of promise and fail. It is vain to hope in man, because they can disappoint.

The pastor seems like a terrible individual, by the way. Op, you sef have your own share of the blame. You should have had a plan b instead depending on promises

NerdCat:
Some very funny replies so far. I'll use this here post as an illustration.



Ironically, your opening line here was the smartest thing you produced in this riposte, and you promptly ignored its counsel. A rare moment of self-awareness, swiftly executed and buried. What followed was a masterclass in saying the loud part loud while somehow still missing the entire point - leaving behind a comment that reads as simultaneously devoid of empathy and remarkably ill-informed, a combination that ages about as gracefully as warm mayonnaise. You see, this is often what you get when you conflate being blunt with being wise, and then decide to moonlight as an unsolicited life coach. Nigerians have practically institutionalized this particular brand of cynicism-disguised-as-counsel. But before I get to the meat of this response, I'll start by highlighting the legal absurdity here, front and center:



Actually, mate - in most functioning legal systems, a promise that causes someone to materially alter their course of action to their own detriment is called a promissory estoppel and it absolutely can create liability. Not only did she receive a promise, she literally abandoned a viable legal remedy because of it.



So the pastor's promise is unenforceable, but the dead father's curse is still fully operational? That's some interesting theological selectivity. Apparently, the supernatural is only valid when it's working against you.



This line is where I had to physically set down my beverage. Completely unverifiable, completely irrelevant, and delivered with the casual cruelty of someone who thinks they're being refreshingly honest when they're actually just being foul.

Now - and I'll be fair here - buried somewhere in the labyrinthine rubble of your reply is one recoverable point:


Yes, chronic oversharing of vulnerability with the wrong people is tactically dangerous. That's true. Predators do use disclosed pain as a targeting system. Fine. Valid. One mark in the ledger. But the delivery method chosen here was to essentially tell a woman who got stranded, threatened, and gaslit by a man of God that her character is the problem. Not the fraud, not the institutional cover-up, but the victim herself. Victim-blaming at its most blatantly shameless if you ask me.



That's all? After paragraphs of speculation about her mother's fidelity and her father's curses? This is arguably the most damning indictment of your staggering lack of self-awareness. It's a toss up between this and when the pastor told her not to become a prostitute while refusing to pay rent he promised. Not sure which is less self-aware at the moment.

And this is yet another problem with religion. Certain religious structures create the perfect ecosystem for exactly this - a hierarchy where authority is sacred, accountability is optional, and the vulnerable are perpetually told their suffering is a spiritual character flaw rather than someone else's actionable misconduct. And you've exemplified this problem rather excellently with this post.

Thank you for taking the time to read carefully and respond with such clarity and legal precision. This is exactly the kind of engagement this situation deserves.

I wanted to address some of the things he said, but at the same time, I don't want to come across as being aggressive, because some people are already attacking my character here.

NerdCat:
Some very funny replies so far. I'll use this here post as an illustration.



Ironically, your opening line here was the smartest thing you produced in this riposte, and you promptly ignored its counsel. A rare moment of self-awareness, swiftly executed and buried. What followed was a masterclass in saying the loud part loud while somehow still missing the entire point - leaving behind a comment that reads as simultaneously devoid of empathy and remarkably ill-informed, a combination that ages about as gracefully as warm mayonnaise. You see, this is often what you get when you conflate being blunt with being wise, and then decide to moonlight as an unsolicited life coach. Nigerians have practically institutionalized this particular brand of cynicism-disguised-as-counsel. But before I get to the meat of this response, I'll start by highlighting the legal absurdity here, front and center:



Actually, mate - in most functioning legal systems, a promise that causes someone to materially alter their course of action to their own detriment is called a promissory estoppel and it absolutely can create liability. Not only did she receive a promise, she literally abandoned a viable legal remedy because of it.



So the pastor's promise is unenforceable, but the dead father's curse is still fully operational? That's some interesting theological selectivity. Apparently, the supernatural is only valid when it's working against you.



This line is where I had to physically set down my beverage. Completely unverifiable, completely irrelevant, and delivered with the casual cruelty of someone who thinks they're being refreshingly honest when they're actually just being foul.

Now - and I'll be fair here - buried somewhere in the labyrinthine rubble of your reply is one recoverable point:


Yes, chronic oversharing of vulnerability with the wrong people is tactically dangerous. That's true. Predators do use disclosed pain as a targeting system. Fine. Valid. One mark in the ledger. But the delivery method chosen here was to essentially tell a woman who got stranded, threatened, and gaslit by a man of God that her character is the problem. Not the fraud, not the institutional cover-up, but the victim herself. Victim-blaming at its most blatantly shameless if you ask me.



That's all? After paragraphs of speculation about her mother's fidelity and her father's curses? This is arguably the most damning indictment of your staggering lack of self-awareness. It's a toss up between this and when the pastor told her not to become a prostitute while refusing to pay rent he promised. Not sure which is less self-aware at the moment.

And this is yet another problem with religion. Certain religious structures create the perfect ecosystem for exactly this - a hierarchy where authority is sacred, accountability is optional, and the vulnerable are perpetually told their suffering is a spiritual character flaw rather than someone else's actionable misconduct. And you've exemplified this problem rather excellently with this post.

Once again, you displayed plenty of knowledge without any iota wisdom.

The girl,her father, the pastor, and the church administration are all a bunch of nasty people.

You can report my account for ban again.

Ishilove:
Orisiri.

That's why we must always pray against the spirit of promise and fail. It is vain to hope in man, because they can disappoint.

The pastor seems like a terrible individual, by the way. Op, you sef have your own share of the blame. You should have had a plan b instead depending on promises

I actually had a plan before he made the promise, it was his promise that dismantled my plan.

otipoju:
Once again, you displayed plenty of knowledge without any iota wisdom.

The girl,her father, the pastor, and the church administration are all a bunch of nasty people.

You can report my account for ban again.

Including you. Nobody reported your account.

voiceunheard:
I actually had a plan before he made the promise, it was his promise that dismantled my plan.

Take some responsibility for this mess you find yourself in. You should have had a back up plan (the aforementioned Plan B) irregardless of whatever promises the man made. A bird in hand is worth 10 in the bush. You had no "bird in hand" but rather was hoping on the 10 in the bush. Until a promise materialises, take it on the surface level. If they like let them promise to heavens, if it hasn't materialised, have a back up plan.

I am curious, did you let him know that you had plans of your own and his promises have made you shelve them? If you did and he still assured you that there was no need to move forward with them, then you are very well right to drag him. But if you didn't, then it still boils down to your excessive dependence on promises.

Be that as it may, it has passed. After this experience, the man will be very careful about how he makes pledges.

voiceunheard:
Including you. Nobody reported your account.

Na the people wey still dey respond to you wey think sey you be better person.

Dem no know say you be first class troublemaker.

I quickly figured you out.

Ishilove:
Take some responsibility for this mess you find yourself in. You should have had a back up plan (the aforementioned Plan B) irregardless of whatever promises the man made. A bird in hand is worth 10 in the bush. You had no "bird in hand" but rather was hoping on the 10 in the bush. Until a promise materialises, take it on the surface level. If they like let them promise to heavens, if it hasn't materialised, have a back up plan.

I am curious, did you let him know that you had plans of your own and his promises have made you shelve them? If you did and he still assured you that there was no need to move forward with them, then you are very well right to drag him. But if you didn't, then it still boils down to your excessive dependence on promises.

Be that as it may, it has passed. After this experience, the man will be very careful about how he makes pledges.

Of course I told him I had plan (and he was asking me how am I sure it will work?), I wasn't after his money at first. Although, there is no way I will tell him my full plan, but I came there just to seek a temporary accommodation while pursuing my plan, not for financial assistance, before he made the promise.

Like I said earlier (my reply to someone), before you see me ask for anything from people, it's difficult. Even when people decide on their own to help me, most times I don't accept. It's because let it not be as if someone is an enemy of herself, you pray to God and God answered through someone and you say you won't accept, tomorrow you say God doesn't answer prayer. That is why I accept sometimes. Assuming I know his promise wasn't genuine, I won't have accepted.

I asked him several times if he is sure he will fulfill his promise and he said he doesn't make empty promises. I later told him I have more than half of the money for rent, and his response was that I shouldn't go into prostitution to get money to rent a house, and promise to give me the remaining money but at the end he did nothing, what followed was silence.

You said a bird in hand is worth ten in the bush. I agree completely. But what happens when someone in spiritual authority takes the bird out of your hand, promises you ten in the bush, and then disappears? The bird was the police action I could have taken immediately. He took it from my hand with his advice, asking me not to go to the police. The ten in the bush was his promise. He never delivered it.

I didn't ask him for financial assistance.

otipoju:
Na the people wey still dey respond to you wey think sey you be better person.

Dem no know say you be first class troublemaker.

I quickly figured you out.

So, that was all you could figure out? Because I reported the pastor. Continue to figure out, I won't tell you to stop.

You, always let people mistreat you and go free, always be silent since you are not a troublemaker.

This matter should be handled in America where there is the judge and the jury.......

voiceunheard:
Of course I told him I had plan (and he was asking me how am I sure it will work?), I wasn't after his money at first. Although, there is no way I will tell him my full plan, but I came there just to seek a temporary accommodation while pursuing my plan, not for financial assistance, before he made the promise.

Like I said earlier (my reply to someone), before you see me ask for anything from people, it's difficult. Even when people decide on their own to help me, most times I don't accept. It's because let it not be as if someone is an enemy of herself, you pray to God and God answered through someone and you say you won't accept, tomorrow you say God doesn't answer prayer. That is why I accept sometimes. Assuming I know his promise wasn't genuine, I won't have accepted.

I asked him several times if he is sure he will fulfill his promise and he said he doesn't make empty promises. I later told him I have more than half of the money for rent, and his response was that I shouldn't go into prostitution to get money to rent a house, and promise to give me the remaining money but at the end he did nothing, what followed was silence.

You said a bird in hand is worth ten in the bush. I agree completely. But what happens when someone in spiritual authority takes the bird out of your hand, promises you ten in the bush, and then disappears? The bird was the police action I could have taken immediately. He took it from my hand with his advice, asking me not to go to the police. The ten in the bush was his promise. He never delivered it.

I didn't ask him for financial assistance.

Hmm, now I understand better. You had a course of action planned out and this individual ruined that plan after making several assurances. He was aware of your planned course of action, but he still did not deliver, thereby making you lose at both ends (somewhat). What makes it worse is he is in spiritual authority and should have acted better. This must have been very bitter and very disappointing.

Gosh, what a nasty individual. No wonder you are royally pissed off.

See, op, this life is more spiritual than physical. While tackling the physical, also tackle the spiritual. Don't stop praying against the spirit of promise and fail, the spirit of rejection and hardship, negative auras and curses (parental, foundational and self acquired).

This life can be a battlefield but just keep trusting in God. As for that pastor, he is a very terrible person and I hope nemesis catches up with him.

otipoju:
Once again, you displayed plenty of knowledge without any iota wisdom.

And you have displayed none of the above.

otipoju:
The girl,her father, the pastor, and the church administration are all a bunch of nasty people.

Hmmm. That's a lot of "nasty" to keep track of. Did you run out of theological excuses and decide to just hate everyone?

otipoju:
You can report my account for ban again.

Why would I report you? Your comments are the best evidence I have for my points. If you get banned, I lose my favorite living illustration of what happens when cynicism meets a total lack of reading comprehension. So sit tight, I’m not done with the lesson.

NerdCat:
And you have displayed none of the above.



Hmmm. That's a lot of "nasty" to keep track of. Did you run out of theological excuses and decide to just hate everyone?



Why would I report you? Your comments are the best evidence I have for my points. If you get banned, I lose my favorite living illustration of what happens when cynicism meets a total lack of reading comprehension. So sit tight, I’m not done with the lesson.

You have the floor to yourself. You can take up her case and fight for her rights in the courts of law or on the pages of nairaland.

Enjoy.

otipoju:
You have the floor to yourself. You can take up her case and fight for her rights in the courts of law or on the pages of nairaland.

Enjoy.

A man who suggested someone's mother may have been unfaithful is now performing dignity on his way out. Lol. The audacity travels in a full suit and tie. Well, I didn't need your permission to be right anyway, but I appreciate the formal ceremony. You may now return to your regularly scheduled victim-blaming.

otipoju:
You have the floor to yourself. You can take up her case and fight for her rights in the courts of law or on the pages of nairaland.

Enjoy.

Why handing over the floor? because you have nothing left to stand on.

Ishilove:
Hmm, now I understand better. You had a course of action planned out and this individual ruined that plan after making several assurances. He was aware of your planned course of action, but he still did not deliver, thereby making you lose at both ends (somewhat). What makes it worse is he is in spiritual authority and should have acted better. This must have been very bitter and very disappointing.

Gosh, what a nasty individual. No wonder you are royally pissed off.

See, op, this life is more spiritual than physical. While tackling the physical, also tackle the spiritual. Don't stop praying against the spirit of promise and fail, the spirit of rejection and hardship, negative auras and curses (parental, foundational and self acquired).

This life can be a battlefield but just keep trusting in God. As for that pastor, he is a very terrible person and I hope nemesis catches up with him.

He will surely face the consequences of what he has done, and it will dawn on him.

The most painful part is that he doesn't even know the depth of what he has done. That was one of the reasons I reported him, for the church to talk sense into him, let him know that what he did is wrong.

He sounds like someone who is manipulative/a deceiver, who listens to gossip and acts on it without verifying, etc

If there is anyone who asked him not to fulfill his promise after ruining my plan, he will regret why he listened to the person, the person will also regret why he/she told him so.

The aggression I could have directed towards the people who unlawfully evicted me, he asked me not to and still he didn't fulfill his promise, that is why I have to direct the aggression towards him.

voiceunheard:
He will surely face the consequences of what he has done, and it will dawn on him.

The most painful part is that he doesn't even know the depth of what he has done. That was one of the reasons I reported him, for the church to talk sense into him, let him know that what he did is wrong.

He sounds like someone who is manipulative/a deceiver, who listens to gossip and acts on it without verifying, etc

If there is anyone who asked him not to fulfill his promise after ruining my plan, he will regret why he listened to the person, the person will also regret why he/she told him so.

The aggression I could have directed towards the people who unlawfully evicted me, he asked me not to and still he didn't fulfill his promise, that is why I have to direct the aggression towards him.

While doing that, start to get your life back together. If you can't repay the loans, lock up, borrow military mind and start blocking their loan recovery agents when they begin bombarding you with calls and texts. Even Nigeria is owing and you won't be the first person to default. Last last you won't be able to borrow again because of your bad credit score but that is better than giving yourself high bp over what you can't control.

When you financially able, repay the principal and ignore whatever late payment fees that has accrued. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to borrow to repay loans. That is like digging pits to fill up holes.

In all, be prayerful because there is a lot going on in your life which you are not aware of. Wake up seriously.

Ishilove:
While doing that, start to get your life back together. If you can't repay the loans, lock up, borrow military mind and start blocking their loan recovery agents when they begin bombarding you with calls and texts. Even Nigeria is owing and you won't be the first person to default. Last last you won't be able to borrow again because of your bad credit score but that is better than giving yourself high bp over what you can't control.

When you financially able, repay the principal and ignore whatever late payment fees that has accrued. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to borrow to repay loans. That is like digging pits to fill up holes.

In all, be prayerful because there is a lot going on in your life which you are not aware of. Wake up seriously.

Thank God you understand the depth of what the pastor has done, most people here don't. They keep telling me that I went too far to report him, that I should have "just move on", another person here said I am a troublemaker.

The pastor deserves it. He doesn't value his reputation that some are trying to protect here.

Concerning the debt he has put me into, I will have to look for a way to repay the loan. Me leaving it and I cannot borrow again, when I don't have, how am I going to cope? Because I don't know to beg/ask from people.

Concerning me praying, I normally pray especially about what the pastor said "that he will soon find himself where he least bargain for" (this period) because I reported him. If he like, let him engage in Pentecostal witchcraft, he will use his head and carry it double fold (I wish he is seeing this). A person who said "he will die within a short time", can go to any length to do anything.
Although, I may not be praying as I am supposed to because what the pastor did also affected my prayer life (made my spirit to be shattered).

voiceunheard:
Thank God you understand the depth of what the pastor has done, most people here don't. They keep telling me that I went too far to report him, that I should have "just move on", another person here said I am a troublemaker.

The pastor deserves it. He doesn't value his reputation that some are trying to protect here.

Concerning the debt he has put me into, I will have to look for a way to repay the loan. Me leaving it and I cannot borrow again, when I don't have, how am I going to cope? Because I don't know to beg/ask from people.

Concerning me praying, I normally pray especially about what the pastor said "that he will soon find himself where he least bargain for" (this period) because I reported him. If he like, let him engage in Pentecostal witchcraft, he will use his head and carry it double fold (I wish he is seeing this). A person who said "he will die within a short time", can go to any length to do anything.
Although, I may not be praying as I am supposed to because what the pastor did also affected my prayer life (made my spirit to be shattered).

He really said your enemy will die within a short time?? He said he wants to see how you will go far in life? Did he make these pronouncements before you reported him, or after you reported?

Ishilove:
He really said your enemy will die within a short time?? He said he wants to see how you will go far in life? Did he make these pronouncements before you reported him, or after you reported?

He said "he will die within a short time", that "he will soon find himself where he least bargain for". That was after I reported him.

voiceunheard:
Why handing over the floor? because you have nothing left to stand on.

Comment farmer !!!

You life is your life. Keep fighting yourself. You will win eventually.

otipoju:
Comment farmer !!!

You life is your life. Keep fighting yourself. You will win eventually.

Don't confuse yourself here trying to reframe the entire situation!!!

Name calling from someone who has genuinely run out of substance.

Continue to prioritize endurance over accountability.