How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? - Family (4)

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by merits(m): 8:25pm On Apr 04

tellsblinks:
The Marriage Age is deeply affected especially as the economy of Nigeria keeps depreciating, a 40years old man still doesn’t have enough money to start a family! While a 30years old is still starting out life as a 9-5 with a 100k salary

For educational person Only.

How old were you when you got married? And how old was your Spouse?

50yrs and 30yrs Thirty years difference.

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by AdeOba11: 8:37pm On Apr 04

I am single , I'll settle down whenever I need a good lady ,

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by mankan2k7(m): 8:38pm On Apr 04

We were both 29, but my wife take 4 days senior me. Very loyal woman till today.

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by spiceadole(f): 8:44pm On Apr 04

theophorus:

No be everybody dey reason like you ooo.
And he clear from this your comment say dem still dey feed you and you have never been in a relationship.

Because if you are mature at all, you will know that before marriage there is some period of friendship_courtship etc...

And please, what's wrong with marrying a 30+ lady?

It's on this forum that I learnt that everything was wrong with marrying a woman who is 30+.
Meanwhile, I'm married with 3 children.
Why you dey vex? I was only wondering why the guy isn't practising what you guys preach on social media

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by spiceadole(f): 8:45pm On Apr 04

queenbetsy:
A 30 years old lady is evening newspaper to you? Seriously

Isn't that that name 30+ single women are labelled on this forum? Or are you new here?

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by spiceadole(f): 8:46pm On Apr 04

mankan2k7:
We were both 29, but my wife take 4 days senior me. Very loyal woman till today.

For the marriage that men have nothing to benefit from, you married a woman wey senior you
Shameee! 🤣

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by spiceadole(f): 8:48pm On Apr 04

bikefab:
Unfortunately some 40 plus guys are still single despite their desires to get married. No thanks to the economic realities in Nigeria

Desire to marry? Marriage that they brag doesn't benefit them? What happened to having baby mamas?

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Liverpoolfc(m): 8:53pm On Apr 04

i was 30years 4months and she was 26 years 10months. we are just 10years in marriage.

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by enemyofprogress: 8:59pm On Apr 04

I was 22 while she was 29. It was love at four site

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Olachase(m): 9:11pm On Apr 04

queenbetsy:
so, that’s your reason for not wanting to get married?

you think that's not a genuine excuse

And why are you turning your back at us at your DP

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by mankan2k7(m): 9:12pm On Apr 04

spiceadole:
For the marriage that men have nothing to benefit from, you married a woman wey senior you
Shameee! 🤣

What concern me with your opinion. You may be living in hell, that is your own cup of tea. The shame should be yours

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by SixSeven: 9:20pm On Apr 04

queenbetsy:
honestly, you couldn’t have said this any better but then, it’s the situation we’ve found ourselves in

Something I should have added is that marriage teaches patience. I was listening to a man in his 100s say that people today are so quick to divorce at the slightest bang but they were brought up to weather it out. It's not to say people should suffer in silence if it is not working but it's only going to get worse in this me-centric times we live in where we put everything on the internet and we compare our filtered lives while others help us like, share and comment on what they have been shown. Everyone wants to he Mr and Mrs Right and they will always have fans even while plotting their own destruction. No one wants to compromise anymore or work to preserve the institution. Our alter ego is so big for the cameras that the ego no fit hear word again. Our lives are now a show cry

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by frankoben(m): 9:22pm On Apr 04

I had my first child at 27 out of wedlock. I'm 44 now with four kids from four different women, still single and never married.

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by theophorus(m): 9:23pm On Apr 04

spiceadole:
It's on this forum that I learnt that everything was wrong with marrying a woman who is 30+.
Meanwhile, I'm married with 3 children.
Why you dey vex? I was only wondering why the guy isn't practising what you guys preach on social media

I have NEVER written any against women as far as Age is concern because I know that Lofe treats us differently.

Same way I will never tell someone whose family is been seeking for Child that they are not doing enough because I think life treats Us differently.

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by SixSeven: 9:30pm On Apr 04

UnknownQueen:
If na by fear, then you no go marry at all..
Na fear go continue to hook you, you better marry, if e work fine, if e no work fond divorce go, no be by force...

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by SixSeven: 9:37pm On Apr 04

QuinQQ:
1 was 18, she was 16 and pregnant.
Divorced and happily single

Did you marry or were you forced to marry because she was pregnant?

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Elzazzi: 9:40pm On Apr 04

DeltaBachelor:
Hmmmm. Still a bachelor sha. I am over 45 BTW !

No kid too ?

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Elzazzi: 9:47pm On Apr 04

SixSeven:
Won't tell the public but I can tell you that marrying young was never alien to Africans until the Western education confused them that they have to wait till they have PhD before they married. Meanwhile, marriage is a school of life and no amount of books can teach you. It's the only school where the certificate is given before you attend it. Some people tear theirs in the name of divorce.

Your grandparents got married in their 19s and early 20s when it was most fertile for the woman and when the men had more energy to raise families. Today, they are bombarded with fear while not afraid to be chiking each other. Parents keep deceiving themselves that their children are not ripe for marriage but their body is going through hormonal changes.

In all you said you didn’t even consider finances. Or is that not important? That’s what really holding men back lately. A man who can feed himself should get married and start bringing in children?

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Elzazzi: 9:48pm On Apr 04

maysimsimple:
Married at 28, she was 27 in 2011. Separated in 2016. I missed you dear and I wished you all the best life can give wherever you're. 🙏

You still miss her ? Hmmm

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by DeltaBachelor(m): 9:51pm On Apr 04

Elzazzi:
No kid too ?

None. Do you have a baby mama for me ?

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by sirblend: 9:55pm On Apr 04

Daniel058:
The one that is very painful is a man who's well to do financially and in his 40 + still going out with different girls and Calling them girlfriends . Mu² men !! , what do they think they are doing? Having fun?

It's their lives, mind your business....

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by SixSeven: 9:59pm On Apr 04

Elzazzi:
In all you said you didn’t even consider finances. Or is that not important? That’s what really holding men back lately. A man who can feed himself should get married and start bringing in children?

I completely understand that. It's the duty of the parents to bring them up and support them till they are comfortable. This is why families were very interested in marriages because the man's family would have done everything to raise him, support him so he can have his own home. This thing is still common in Asia and you will see that we have similar patterns when it comes to marriage unlike the West. They train you for responsibility and they support you but today, you are on your own. About the economy, let me tell you, economy will never be better. It's not a curse. It is just how life is, those who married just last year will find it easier to marry than those who want to marry today. Yesterday is always cheaper than today.

Families are failing in raising both men and women properly today, they only care about western education and white collar jobs. The other things you are taught normally in most African traditions are
1. Sex
2. Food
3. Raising a child
4. How to be attractive to your spouse
5. Rituals

A example is the fattening room. There are similar traditions to this all over Nigeria but we don't even bother to study our culture and traditions and find a way to merge it with today's realities. We just discard everything and start doing public proposal for a girl when you are yet to approach her family.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7475300334710164742

Sex for instance became a taboo because of religious texts and instead of children understanding it came with responsibility, they were scared with sins and they took the easy way out, condoms and preventive methods. Finance that you mentioned wasn't just having a trade that brought you money, they gave you land etc. They made sure you went through apprenticeship etc. It's not just about having money, but you were taught how to spend and where to spend. I am not living in utopia, I am realist. If parents are serious today, if they have a male child, do everything possible to support him to be a man. A responsible man. The economy is hard but would you rather your boy have baby mamas that will still be your responsibility or a father who knows what to do to fend for his family? Parents in the 70s, 80s and some still do today helped with housing, car or whathaveyou. Those things that will help you stabilize for 1-2 years. Things have changed today but we must apply sense. Did you see that post where that guy was saying that most of us today live scattered in cities and paying rent here and there when we could combine our money and stay in family houses? Everyone now wants to be independent and we all know it is easier when you combine resources than when you go alone.

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Elzazzi: 10:00pm On Apr 04

TechSkill:
Oh lucky you o.

I don run from anything online.

The last girl I met here made me abandoned the idea

I have never tried meeting any NL babe tho. Lol

The last one I collected her number that’s about 6 years ago we no later meet sef

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Shedrack777: 11:05pm On Apr 04

DeltaBachelor:
Oga, I believe I know what a bachelor means. I have never been married. I am still single. So how am I a divorcee ? Abeg go play with sand

ok! I'll play with sand. But, then, at 47, you've never been married? I think you should come let's play with sand together

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by QuinQQ: 11:06pm On Apr 04

SixSeven:
Did you marry or were you forced to marry because she was pregnant?

Oh it was a big semi-open secret of a scandal. Her very respectable parents covered up she was already pregnant durring the wedding. Something that shouldn't be a big deal. They were trying to pass off she married as a virgin!

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by SixSeven: 11:07pm On Apr 04

QuinQQ:
Oh it was a big semi-open secret of a scandal. Her very respectable parents covered up she was already pregnant durring the wedding. Something that shouldn't be a big deal. They were trying to pass off she married as a virgin!

Wait, it wasn't your pregnancy? shocked

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Iamgrey5(m): 11:16pm On Apr 04

34 my wife 29

Got married 2025, already blessed with a child

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Verytallman: 11:32pm On Apr 04

I was 30 while my wife was 22..

Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Sunkyapogee(m): 11:50pm On Apr 04

Tfkspecial:
I was 33
She was 22 (an undergraduate)
Got married in 2011 and blessed with three children.
Which of the favour of our God can we deny

Bro how did you manage . I’m about to take this part. Did she get pregnant while in school?

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Re: How Old Were You? And How Old Was Your Spouse When You Got Married? by Midex88(m): 12:00am On Apr 05

30 and wifey 29yrs and on a salary of 121k then.. but today we are really blessed… several properties on our books… my advice is that marry a woman who is ready to support you and your dreams any day any time..
To God be the glory…

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