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An old woman who didn't marry because of her siblings and family painfully explain how she sacrifice her youthful age to take care of siblings and family and they abandoned her


Watch her explain her pains

We should stop the idea of birthing so our offspring take care of us in old age. Some children are worse than enemies. It is not a guarantee that they will acknowledge you talk more of cushioning your later years.

The woman is old. Her siblings are obviously old. The only way they can help her is to put her in a retirement home. They are busy playing with their grandchildren.

This life is one funny place I swear.

Same thing happened to my dad,who trained his immediate younger brother through the university, thinking he'd do the same for us when we finally grow up. Unfortunately,the werey of my uncle graduated,got a government job and the only thing he could do was to employ my elder bro into this poultry farm

kpankpangolo:
We should stop the idea of birthing so our offspring take care of us in old age. Some children are worse than enemies. It is not a guarantee that they will acknowledge you talk more of cushioning your later years.

Shey na another person pikin go come love and care for you at old age?? I know there are no guarantees in life… but if children are are alive, they should be empathy driven towards their own immediate flesh and blood…… yall just like sounding politically correct….

kpankpangolo:
We should stop the idea of birthing so our offspring take care of us in old age. Some children are worse than enemies. It is not a guarantee that they will acknowledge you talk more of cushioning your later years.

The woman is old. Her siblings are obviously old. The only way they can help her is to put her in a retirement home. They are busy playing with their grandchildren.

Do you know what it means for one to invest all his or her energy on his or her siblings and later turn back against you.
The complain she is complaining now is not today, it was right from her mid-old age. The thing only came out today because she was ask why did you marry. There is not wrong if they reciprocate her good will

Sonnobax15:

This life is one funny place I swear.

Same thing happened to my dad,who trained his immediate younger brother through the university, thinking he'd do the same for us when we finally grow up. Unfortunately,the werey of my uncle graduated,got a government job and the only thing he could do was to employ my elder bro into this poultry farm

I think there is no need investing ones life on siblings believing they will do same. It always end on the unexpected situation

She didn't say anything about family abandoning her o.🙄

If you check, she looks good and nicely dressed as well.
Even in her old age, her beauty still shows.
Looking neat and fashionable, with her earrings, necklace and all.

I don't think she regrets the sacrifices she made.
She looks happy.

You want to see abandonment? Go to the village and see old women their own children abandoned.

Uu go learn d hardway

She should be happy at least she is not raising liabilities which people are directly sponsoring thinking they did a good thing bringing kids in this world. With the way things arr going i would not advise my enemy to have kids.

Lovelink1991:
An old woman who didn't marry because of her siblings and family painfully explain how she sacrifice her youthful age to take care of siblings and family and they abandoned her

Her sacrifice is noted. 😒😒

WatchYourSix:
➜Shey na another person pikin go come love and care for you at old age?? I know there are no guarantees in life… but if children are are alive, they should be empathy driven towards their own immediate flesh and blood…… yall just like sounding politically correct….

You say all this while conveniently ignoring the reality of many out there who had so many children, yet left alone in their old age, abi? 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
You say all this while conveniently ignoring the reality of many out there who had so many children, yet left alone in their old age, abi? 😒😒

I get the reality… im just saying old pple shouldnt be abandoned by their folks…. They are old, need help, need love, not necessarily money…… employees in care homes wont love your aged mum or dad….

Kobojunkie:
Her sacrifice is noted. 😒😒

But not appreciated why?

WatchYourSix:
➜I get the reality… im just saying old pple shouldnt be abandoned by their folks…. They are old, need help, need love, not necessarily money…… employees in care homes wont love your aged mum or dad….

Reality has always been that a good portion of them will be abandoned. Gone is the age where they could bully or manipulate their way into being maintained by family members as entitled beings in their old age. Every adult out there ought to be responsible for his/her own life and welfare. Age, should not be an excuse. 😒

Lovelink1991:
➜But not appreciated why?

Appreciation na by contract abi wetin? 😒

WatchYourSix:
Shey na another person pikin go come love and care for you at old age?? I know there are no guarantees in life… but if children are are alive, they should be empathy driven towards their own immediate flesh and blood…… yall just like sounding politically correct….

You are right.

Anyone who has made investments into one ought not be forgotten or pushed away when they need help especially at old age. There is no guarantee on this but anyone who can and is able should support those who supported them. That is how it ought to be. A deviation from this for one who is capable is pure wickedness.

Kobojunkie:
Reality has always been that a good portion of them will be abandoned. Gone is the age where they could bully or manipulate their way into being maintained by family members as entitled beings in their old age. Every adult out there ought to be responsible for his/her own life and welfare. Age, should not be an excuse. 😒

Bully... manipulate... entitled....all three words are wrong to be applied to those who supported one when one needed help. It's a dangerous trend that could turn the tables and make some adults re-think support for youngsters. Many young people already feel some adults are not providing them the required help or support or platform to succeed. It could be worse if most people think helping their aged parents or relatives are a big unwarranted burden.

amoco:
➜Bully... manipulate... entitled....all three words are wrong to be applied to those who supported one when one needed help.
➜It's a dangerous trend that could turn the tables and make some adults re-think support for youngsters. Many young people already feel some adults are not providing them the required help or support or platform to succeed. It could be worse if most people think helping their aged parents or relatives are a big unwarranted burden.

That is the manipulation we are talking about right there... this notion that because they chose to birth and feed you, you therefore owe them. 🤔🤔

2. Adults who choose to have children are legally responsible for the support and wellbeing of their children. Young people are right to expect support and care from their caregivers. 🤔🤔

Kobojunkie:
That is the manipulation we are talking about right there... this notion that because they chose to birth and feed you, you therefore owe them. 🤔🤔

2. Adults who choose to have children are legally responsible for the support and wellbeing of their children. Young people are right to expect support and care from their caregivers. 🤔🤔

If there is a contract parents signed to take care of their children at their vulnerable periods, then that contract extends to children (who have the wherewithal) to cater for their aged parents at their vulnerable period.

If it's a societal construct, then it applies to all.

It is not manipulative for a parent to suffer and invest in their children and then ask the children to support them when they are aged. It is not at all.

amoco:
➜If there is a contract parents signed to take care of their children at their vulnerable periods, then that contract extends to children (who have the wherewithal) to cater for their aged parents at their vulnerable period.
➜If it's a societal construct, then it applies to all.
➜It is not manipulative for a parent to suffer and invest in their children and then ask the children to support them when they are aged. It is not at all.

it does not. 🤔

2. it does not. 🤔

3. it is manipulation to impose yourself on someone who never had a say in it all from the beginning. 🤔

Kobojunkie:
Reality has always been that a good portion of them will be abandoned. Gone is the age where they could bully or manipulate their way into being maintained by family members as entitled beings in their old age. Every adult out there ought to be responsible for his/her own life and welfare. Age, should not be an excuse. 😒

I dont get ur context of bullying … how is expecting your own folks to love you and check up on you at your lonely time called bullying??

Just as children ddnt ask to be born, humans dont ask to be old… it’s a vicious cycle designed by nature

. Like I said there are no guarantees because even children can die before their parents …. But if children are still alive, they should be empathy driven towards their immediate family, especially parents who need love and checking up on …

amoco:
You are right.

Anyone who has made investments into one ought not be forgotten or pushed away when they need help especially at old age. There is no guarantee on this but anyone who can and is able should support those who supported them. That is how it ought to be. A deviation from this for one who is capable is pure wickedness.

Abi naaa…..
nature brutally rigged this cycle of vulnerable periods into our existence ….... no one asked to be born and no one asked to be old…

WatchYourSix:
➜I dont get ur context of bullying … how is expecting your own folks to love you and check up on you at your lonely time called bullying??
➜ Just as children ddnt ask to be born, humans dont ask to be old… it’s a vicious cycle designed nature
➜ Like I said there are no guarantees because even children can die before their parents …. But if children are still alive, they should be empathy driven towards their immediate family, especially parents who need love and checking up on …

1. It is in treating it as some sort of obligation... something owed you... that it can be seen as bullying or manipulation. If your children or relative show up of their own volition, that is fine. However, no adult has right to demand he/she be cared for simply because. 🤔

2. False equivocation! Those two things do not compare in any way or form. 🤔

3. Wrong! Should are under no obligation either by law or by virtue of being born to take care of any adult. 🤔

Kobojunkie:
it does not. 🤔

2. it does not. 🤔

3. it is manipulation to impose yourself on someone who never had a say in it all from the beginning. 🤔

It's not enough to say "it does not". I was hoping you will show me the contact between children and parents on this. You have non and so there is none.
It's a rule of thumb and it covers both.

In Africa, this is the norm. Elsewhere where a child takes a loan to fund his or her education on their own, maybe you can say the child doesn't owe their aged parents any duty of care.

Again , I am trying to see what you call manipulation here unless you mean the society actually manipulates adults to take care of children and then manipulates people to think it is unreasonable for aged adults to be taken care of by their children.

I don't stress myself to please people cos I know no one owe me a favor no matter my kind gesture to them. My reward will come from God not from man

amoco:
✓ It's not enough to say "it does not". I was hoping you will show me the contact between children and parents on this. You have non and so there is none.
It's a rule of thumb and it covers both.
2. In Africa, this is the norm. Elsewhere where a child takes a loan to fund his or her education on their own, maybe you can say the child doesn't owe their aged parents any duty of care.
✓ Again , I am trying to see what you call manipulation here unless you mean the society actually manipulates adults to take care of children and then manipulates people to think it is unreasonable for aged adults to be taken care of by their children.

1. No such legal contract exists. 🤔

2. That norm only exists in your mind. Again, there are no laws that mandate children take care of their adult parents or any adults for that matter. So, you need to be able to separate delusion from reality at this point. 🤨🥱

3. It is manipulation/fraud to require something ,without adequate agreed-upon compensation, from someone else where the law does not obligate any such. 🥱🥱

kpankpangolo:
We should stop the idea of birthing so our offspring take care of us in old age. Some children are worse than enemies. It is not a guarantee that they will acknowledge you talk more of cushioning your later years.

The woman is old. Her siblings are obviously old. The only way they can help her is to put her in a retirement home. They are busy playing with their grandchildren.

don't worry yourself, don't bother having your own children to take care of you in your old age, the future that Buhari and Tinubu created for you will make sure you are taken care of in your old age, even with two grains of rice and a drop of groundnut\engine oil 🤣🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
1. No such legal contract exists. 🤔

2. That norm only exists in your mind. Again, there are no laws that mandate children take care of their adult parents or any adults for that matter. So, you need to be able to separate delusion from reality at this point. 🤨🥱

3. It is manipulation/fraud to require something ,without adequate agreed-upon compensation, from someone else where the law does not obligate any such. 🥱🥱

at birth your parents would have thrown you into a pit toilet and let you suck on poo and die cause there was no contract to take care of you as a baby.

Sonnobax15:

This life is one funny place I swear.

Same thing happened to my dad,who trained his immediate younger brother through the university, thinking he'd do the same for us when we finally grow up. Unfortunately,the werey of my uncle graduated,got a government job and the only thing he could do was to employ my elder bro into this poultry farm

tell your bro to sell the birds without his consent na him right

Ovieemmanuel:
➜at birth your parents would have thrown you into a pit toilet and let you suck on poo and die ➜ cause there was no contract to take care of you as a baby.

Well, that would have been murder. How stewpid can you be? 🤔

2. If you cannot contend with the fact that your offspring are not your slaves, why not have them altogether? Resorting to murder is simply mindfuckery. 🤔

Kobojunkie:
1. No such legal contract exists. 🤔

2. That norm only exists in your mind. Again, there are no laws that mandate children take care of their adult parents or any adults for that matter. So, you need to be able to separate delusion from reality at this point. 🤨🥱

3. It is manipulation/fraud to require something ,without adequate agreed-upon compensation, from someone else where the law does not obligate any such. 🥱🥱

No contract a child signs for the parents to take care of them. No contract an aged parent signs for their children to take care of them if they can.What exactly are you taking about?

Parents take care of their children because the children are vulnerable and cannot take of themselves at those points. No social contracts signed. When those aged parents are vulnerable, the children who have the capacity should take of them.

That is what makes the world go round.

Why would you think it's irresponsible for a parent to not cater for their children and then not irresponsible for a capable adult to take of their aged and vulnerable parents?

You haven't made any point aside from the use of "manipulation"

amoco:
➜No contract a child signs for the parents to take care of them. No contract an aged parent signs for their children to take care of them if they can.What exactly are you taking about?
Parents take care of their children because the children are vulnerable and cannot take of themselves at those points. No social contracts signed. When those aged parents are vulnerable, the children who have the capacity should take of them.
That is what makes the world go round.
Why would you think it's irresponsible for a parent to not cater for their children and then not irresponsible for a capable adult to take of their aged and vulnerable parents?
You haven't made any point aside from the use of "manipulation"

. No amount of whining to me will change the facts.😒😒😒