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ikeno:
Actually it's not that she was married in real sense, just got pregnant for the guy and they began cohabitating

Don't demand any paternity test. Pretend to believe her, then go do the paternity test on your own. Be sure about the position of the law in the jurisdiction, as regards doing the test without the woman's knowledge though.

Or she might refuse and disappear with the girl alleged to be yours.

You already know what you want to do this weekend with that invitation. You just wan whine us.

Just make sure you buy enough condoms otherwise you will come back here to tell us as that the 4th child is on the way.

Enjoy the coming weekend 😉

ikeno:
Really Don't Know How To Handle This Situation

Few weeks ago an ex of mine who I still keep contact with cause we stay in same state and sometimes she comes over to my place even though am not married but she was once married but due to domestic violence she left are husband and have been fending for her 3 children through her business, called me 2 weeks ago and said her seven old daughter who is the second born belongs to me and the reason she never told me was because I was not ready to settle down then.

She sent me a video of the girl and to be honest, facially she looks like me and few of my friends I showed the video to admitted she looks like me.
Since she sent me the video have been in shock and really don't know what to do in such a situation.

Have told her to come to my place this weekend so we can talk about it.

So guys how do I go about this situation any advice will be welcome

So she is still coming even now?

The second one is loading and I can bet you her egg in month of May, 2026 ovulation is descending her fallopian tube as I am writing now!


Marry her that is what you both deserve and allow the innocent man to marry a new wife.

When she comes to your place again this weekend I can bet with my burokos that you go still carry am go inside bedroom for another one.

Lifestone:
Which Nigeria law gives her the Child? Abeg stop that type of joke.
He marries her or not, if the DNA confirms that he's the father of the child, the child belongs to him

That child belongs to her husband except he rejected her, the law recognises legality of marriage before DNA

You will reap what you sow! Anyday you ever think about settling down, keep in mind the same thing will happen to you or worse! Call it karma , call it a curse, things like this usually manifest when you least expect it, your problem is not even the kid, your real problem is the woman who would go at any length to make sure you dont ever settle down with someone else and if you settled down with her, you would always have it in the back of your mind that you're with a cheater....YOU'RE TRULY & FULLY COOKED

Firstcitizen:

Lol you see am abi? 🤣

Just be sending her school fees.
Your lucky fit shine again.

Sammy0787:
Even if DNA shows she is your daughter does not mean automatical responsibility from Ur end. Try test her willingness to release the child for you if need be, because she might be using you to care for the child and still claim full monopoly over the child

She is unlikely to release the child to him.

Beware Of Stephen Ademola Ayantoye The Impersonator on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/8668787/beware-stephen-ademola-ayantoye-impersonator

She left her husband because of you. Congratulations! You have won.Ensure that you raise the said daughter and the subsequent ones she will bear for you to take their mother as role model. Encourage them to marry and be sleeping around

ibechris:
If u don't have money for DNA test,do a simple blood test.

Enlighten me pls.

Guyman02:
That child belongs to her husband except he rejected her, the law recognises legality of marriage before DNA

Lies

There's nothing to talk about when you had an unprotected sex with a matured fertile woman you were not ready to marry. She don hook you.

Better flee this appearance of evil

Guyman02:
That child belongs to her husband except he rejected her, the law recognises legality of marriage before DNA

Which law? The final decider of paternity in Nigeria is DNA.
Oga go and read the Child Right Act

Proserpina:
When you were handling a married woman while she's with her husband did you ask us. Handle it the way you handled her.

Smh

When you were driving her car, you didn't request from us whether the car can travel or cover a short or long journey. Suddenly, you faced an express road. So, call your mechanic to fix it.

At times, I can't just laugh or interpret some posts logically.
Some Nairalanders will ask for solutions on those situations that they once gained much enjoyments from without any public invitations. But all of a sudden, when such a situation becomes a treat, then you send public invitations.
Handle it with prayer and seek for elderly counsel.

Show us the child here , show yourself as well , so the judgement will be Fairer

Am I the only one who felt as if as she just want to use u to reduce the burden on her head by making u the financial provider of ur so called daughter. Y didn't she tell u right from when it happened until now that she didn't have a helper. Trust Nigerian woman at ur own risk.

ikeno:
Really Don't Know How To Handle This Situation

Few weeks ago an ex of mine who I still keep contact with cause we stay in same state and sometimes she comes over to my place even though am not married but she was once married but due to domestic violence she left are husband and have been fending for her 3 children through her business, called me 2 weeks ago and said her seven old daughter who is the second born belongs to me and the reason she never told me was because I was not ready to settle down then.

She sent me a video of the girl and to be honest, facially she looks like me and few of my friends I showed the video to admitted she looks like me.
Since she sent me the video have been in shock and really don't know what to do in such a situation.

Have told her to come to my place this weekend so we can talk about it.

So guys how do I go about this situation any advice will be welcome

You caused domestic violence in her marriage.

You dey mind am. When you promise her America, in Za other room, me and PROSERPINA, no even know the location.

Proserpina:
When you were handling a married woman while she's with her husband did you ask us. Handle it the way you handled her.

Smh

When u wew Knacking her, you did not invite us..

Now yawa don gass, you dey come heee to disturb our peace...

My friend, carry your cross o.

ikeno:
Really Don't Know How To Handle This Situation

Few weeks ago an ex of mine who I still keep contact with cause we stay in same state and sometimes she comes over to my place even though am not married but she was once married but due to domestic violence she left are husband and have been fending for her 3 children through her business, called me 2 weeks ago and said her seven old daughter who is the second born belongs to me and the reason she never told me was because I was not ready to settle down then.

She sent me a video of the girl and to be honest, facially she looks like me and few of my friends I showed the video to admitted she looks like me.
Since she sent me the video have been in shock and really don't know what to do in such a situation.

Have told her to come to my place this weekend so we can talk about it.

So guys how do I go about this situation any advice will be welcome

Na only Lalami3232 for this nairaland go fit give u correct advice.
after all, what do i know sef

ikeno:
Exactly, that's why I want her to come with the kid so if possible to do a DNA test and if the child is actually mine, I will make sure I have custody of her

You'd be a fool to willing submit your DNA for testing. That case must reach supreme court. Even if the child looks like yout twin. It is her husband's child.

Onegai:
Ikeno,

Please tell her to meet you at Mecure, Lagos state DNA testing facility (Marina, Lagos Island)or Clina-labs with the child to do a DNA test.

I hate to agree with a previous poster (because he called her a vulgar disgusting word with no proof) but she cohabited with someone and had 3 kids and somewhere along the line, was still having time for you.

That's not great judgement being shown by either her or you.

She may be looking for financial ease and decided to do this.

Be firm, ask for DNA test and don't let her move in with you.

If the DNA test comes back as your child, decide what to do. You can offer to take that child (are you married, are you ready to be a single dad, don't start looking for girlfriend to help you, most won't want to play stepmum). Or you can give her money for upkeep monthly (I'm more concerned about this route, as neither of you have shown good character judgement).

You can't force her to give up custody because legally under Nigerian law, that's her child and not yours (unless you marry her and then all the kids belong to you).

You should get your parents involved so that if she is your kid, they can convince this woman to release that child into your care and their care, as it may be better for her future to have stability.

Op be careful with this post,it seems the reply here is the husband of your ex for giving you location where to run the test.funra.ooo.once again funra oo...

DNA

She is a disloyal cheater and you don't trust such women. She can do worst to you. Just finding a way to share responsibility or you be taking care 100%. Fear women. Make sure you get a DNA test before any thing ooo

ikeno:
Actually it's not that she was married in real sense, just got pregnant for the guy and they began cohabitating

Man justifying sleeping with another man's woman.
Finally, na man do man!

McLizbae:
[/b]Your GOAL is to ensure that your DAUGHTER (as confirmed by DNA test) is NOT raised by a Single Mother.[b]

Will a single father do better? Lols...

Don't mind them. Running their mouths as if being a single father is better. The hypocrisy stinks to high heavens

MK SHE COME MK U FUVK HER AGAIN.