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Don't assume men.. don't want to move high to their wife demand cos of ego..

Your first story is popular or common..but your conclusion is not always the case..what if they moved to the bigger apartment, how about sustainaance..do you think the woman can keep up even with her own share of financial responsibilities with complaints and excuses for long?

And when a woman enter the point of complaining the bond don break be that..na issue and wahala till the end.. nothing fit solve am

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

QuinQQ:
So is this a good or bad thing?

It is definitely a bad thing especially for those of us in southern Nigeria. If this trend continues, then very soon, the southern majority Christians would go extinct leaving the northern Muslims to occupy everywhere. The Muslims know why they don't give women too much freedom but live conservative lifestyles generally.

Na una sabi, I must marry my sweetheart

helinues:
There are no sincere agreement between partners. Not necessarily signed agreement but mutual understanding about some certain things

Imagine when you are still single before getting married, was life easy even with money, now consider being in a marriage with someone from distance all in the name of love. Sometimes different backgrounds, different upbringing, different exposure to some things in life

The agreement is ability to compromise some certain things

Honestly I do see your submission and leap as usual, but I have to say something here. The different backgrounds, ubringing, exposure, etc you mentioned is not really the problem but selfishness... especially from the women.

A spade should be called a spade.

SixSeven:
Hypergamy is real no matter how women deny it. It's in their nature. That's why I tell men

YOU MUST ALWAYS WORK ON YOURSELF

The world is not fair on men but the world does not care men. They say women and children will get help before you. If you think that's a lie, see what happened in Ukraine war, who did they first prioritize to leave? Let your wife complain about you, you are not exciting, you are boring, you don't have drive. Once another woman shows interest in you, it will drive her crazy because even if she does better than the other lady or even if the girl is a househelp, she will just be mad that another woman species can see value in you as a man. Hypergamy for women is nature in action. She is built to submit to you the man. If she doesn't see your worth, she will be asking herself why she needs to submit to you. Women want leaders, not mates so those women who preach partnership are also misleading other ladies. We know this but no need to argue about it. If the man is not someone she looks up to, she will not submit to him.

This Tyler Perry movie captures the native of women and hypergamy. You are not on her level

While he was struggling financially he found out is wife had $280,000 in her bank account pic.twitter.com/CVdqSdxrwm

— Abdulkabir (@olawale__01) May 14, 2026

If she is doubt better than you, I'm sorry, your marriage age is at risk. I am not saying you should not support your woman but only the one with fear of God will know the value of the man in her house beyond a career that cannot be more than 30 years. I was watching Mr Brown say the man must never allow the woman be in charge of rent, school fees etc. Some people abused him but I absolutely agree with him. I have seen it over and over again. Women being in charge with a man who's not doing well as them is a very big test that only the one with fear of God can manage it. Eventually we will all realize after bashing marriage that no human being can survive alone. We need each other. So when they finish tearing marriage pant, I hope they don't get too old or its too late to know its importance.

Title of the movie please..

mkpologwu:
Honestly I do see your submission and leap as usual, but I have to say something here. The different backgrounds, ubringing, exposure, etc you mentioned is not really the problem but selfishness... especially from the women.

A spade should be called a spade.

The selfishness is shared. So a married woman don't have right to attend girls night out once in a while?

fyneboi79:
Title of the movie please..

The Family That Preys

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7632109392397176077

I forwarded this motion sometime ago but Seun refused to approve it.

I still ask, what do you think is responsible for the growing rate of divorce among our young generation as compared to the old:

1. Economic Hardship or
2. Unprecedent Sexual Insatiability?

Funny enough, every young person in this generation wants to flash the social media with a marriage cert but many of them struggle to keep the marital oath for up to 3 years.

After the divorce, I see the female folks never wanting to remarry at all but enjoying the best flow of men's runs.

On the other hand, married men of the same class keep searching for the women in marriage and even the girls that just started seeing their menses.

Someone should help offer his or her view of the situation, pleaase

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

bukatyne u are alive?
I thought u died

Your write-up captures a sentiment that is incredibly prominent on social media timelines. The "collapse of marriage" is an attractive narrative because the algorithms reward high-drama relationship discourse. However, when we step away from social media echo chambers and examine cold, hard empirical data, the claim that marriage is "dying" or hitting a "point of no return" in Nigeria is a massive exaggeration.

Social media timelines are heavily biased samples of reality, but data paints a very different, far more resilient picture of African and Nigerian marital institutions.

1. The "Death" of Marriage is Statistically False
While marriage rates are shifting slightly due to modernization, the institution is nowhere near extinct.

The Reality of Numbers: Data from the United Nations Population Division and demographic registries shows that the percentage of currently married individuals in Nigeria remains remarkably high and stable. As of 2026, roughly 65.4% of the adult population in Nigeria is currently married.

Long-Term Shifts, Not Collapse: Research tracking Nigerian women of reproductive age shows that while marriage rates dropped from 76.7% in 1970 to about 66.4% in 2024, United Nations projections estimate it will only settle around 64.5% by 2030. A minor drop over 60 years is not a "collapse"; it is a gradual societal calibration. The vast majority of Nigerians still choose marriage.

2. The Illusion of the "Divorce Epidemic"
You mentioned a flood of celebrity breakups (Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Pastor Chris, etc.) as proof that the traditional foundation is cracking. This is a logical fallacy known as Availability Bias—assuming because something is highly visible, it must be widespread.

The Actual Divorce Rate: According to data analyzed by Africa Check and the Nigeria Living Standard Survey (NLSS), Nigeria's crude divorce rate is consistently low. Even with recent upticks in modern urban centers, Nigeria's actual divorce rate sits under 3%.

Global Standing: While a 2023 index by Divorce.com placed Nigeria higher relative to other sub-Saharan nations because of increased legal filing infrastructure, it translates to roughly 1.8 divorces per 1,000 people. Compare that to the West, where divorce rates historically hover between 35% and 50%, and it becomes clear that the Nigerian marital foundation is structurally holding.

Celebrity vs. Reality: Celebrities make up less than 0.001% of the population. Using Hollywood-style lifestyles in Lagos to define the marital reality of an entire country of 230+ million people is statistically invalid.

3. The "Japa Factor" and the Myth of the Shrinking Pool
The argument that Japa creates "double jeopardy" for accomplished women due to hypergamy ignores how demographic integration actually works in the Diaspora.

Education and Earnings Equality: In the UK and Canada, Nigerian immigrants are consistently ranked among the most highly educated and highest-earning ethnic demographics. Because Nigerian men in the diaspora are achieving immense career upward mobility alongside Nigerian women, the pool of "accomplished men" does not shrink—it shifts geographically.

The Remarriage and Matchmaking Renaissance: The Diaspora has birthed a massive, structured ecosystem of high-end matchmaking, professional mixers, and digital platforms specifically designed to connect highly educated, high-earning African professionals.

4. The Flaw of "Geo-Arbitrage" and the Village Virgin Myth
The idea that men can escape the "modern virus" by leaving Atlanta or Lagos to marry a "pure, traditional village babe" from Kwara or Orlu is a classic fantasy that ignores the digital reality of 2026.

The Equalizer (The Smartphone): Internet penetration in Nigeria is over 55%, and mobile connectivity reaches the deep rural areas of Kwara, Imo, and Kano. A lady living in a smaller town consumes the exact same global culture, TikTok trends, and economic aspirations via her smartphone as a lady in Lekki.

The "Japa Effect" on the Submissive Dynamics: Sociological data shows that when a partner is brought from a lower economic background into a Western country, the power dynamic inevitably shifts. The moment she touches down in the UK or Canada, Western legal structures, labor laws, and social welfare empower her immediately.

Conclusion: Marriage is Transforming, Not Dying
Humans lie, data doesn't—and the data says marriage in Nigeria is evolving, not dying.

What you are witnessing is not a "steady decline to a point of no return," but a shift from forced/early marriages to intentional, companionate marriages. People are marrying later because they are pursuing education and financial stability first.

The traditional baseline of Nigerian society remains overwhelmingly pro-family. Don't let your Twitter or Instagram timeline trick you into thinking the real world is a celebrity comment section.

Given these structural realities, do you think the anxiety surrounding marriage in Nigeria is driven more by economic pressures rather than a genuine rejection of the institution itself?

RedpillAnalyst:
Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

Marriage marital politics. The root of politics in households is selfishness and unrifined mind. Amplified by certain spiritual phenomenon.

Jman06:
It is definitely a bad thing especially for those of us in southern Nigeria. If this trend continues, then very soon, the southern majority Christians would go extinct leaving the northern Muslims to occupy everywhere. The Muslims know why they don't give women too much freedom but live conservative lifestyles generally.

I like your comment but I still want to enlighten you.

If you live in the Muslim dominated north and learn how they divorce, you won't want to commend their marriage at all.

Your friend and brother may end up marrying your divorced wife and she could later trace back your arm for remarry.

A lot of incest and irritation about Marital acceptance there.

Anyway, I uphold their chastity before marriage. The south lags behind the north by far in terms of celibacy before marriage

bukatyne:
If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

Generally, men and women still need companionship, sex without guilt, children, community etc.

However, women have realized that financial provision or the promise of it is not worth the investment of a bad marriage.

So till men change emass, we are where we are.

Re hypergamy: it is not sustainable long term.

As soon as the women in the countries attracting passport bros see what befell their mothers and grandmothers due to lack of personal funds, they will stop hunting 'just a rich man' and start to look for character and compatibility. I also think that men are projecting hypergamy more than it is important for women because it absorbs men of character building. Why do I have to be a likeable man when all I need to have is some form of resources?

I look around my circle and most of us married men we grew with at work (starting out careers with) or as far back as university. In university, two set of couples got married in same level, same unit (in a pool of 80 people; some older ones were married). The 3rd one didn't happen because the guy didn't want an 'ambitious' woman.

The irony is that the kind of atmosphere men want in marriage is possible..... if they are willing to emotionally invest in it.

There's one little point you are missing, marriage doesn't favor a man, there is nothing to gain, everything that is provided can be gained without marriage.

Besides, marriage is overrated, we have enough population already.

QuinQQ:
So is this a good or bad thing?

I think it's a good thing, marriage is old school shit

mrkings84:
So who caused the downfall of marriage??

Man or woman...

For me o, as a man. I think na woman kill marriage!!

It is the education and empowerment of women that caused the fall of marriage! To put things right again requires that men and women either go back to the traditional system of marriage where the man is the head and provides for the family and woman submits and does her wifely duties in kitchen and the other room, OR, if we want to embrace marriage as a partnership built on gender equality, then the both genders should sincerely and intentionally agree to jettison traditional gender roles and work as equal partners.

This entails that women must stop expecting men to provide for them and the family while men should also agree to join hands with their wives in doing chores in the home. Women should also stop the attitude of "his money is our money while my own money is for me alone".
If the above can be done, we'll be able to get marriage right on track.

Marriage no be by force o

The greatest factors driving marriage stats down along the years is different in the west and in Africa

In the west it is driven more by hypergamy and western laws that tends to give a man's fortune to his wife when the marriage breaks. so many men in the west have come to realize that many women are marrying just to corner their wealth and leave the man homeless at trumped up accusations

In Africa and Nigeria, marriage stats are dwindling because of economic factors, poverty and women getting jobs more than men. Go to most offices in Lagos, there are more women getting jobs than men. If more men get jobs they will settle down and more marriages will happen; where more women are getting jobs, there will be less marriages

This was not an attempt to put blame on any gender.

Men and women aren't saints in this. feminism, economy, most guys are too economically unfit to propose any meaningful arrangement to average lady and most ladies feel they might have to "settle down" and would rather be a side chick to an influential man. It's a complex situation.

Just that situation is critical and people are not seeing the big picture.

"It’s ugly, but as Hypergamy becomes an increasingly normalized a blurring of the line between dating and prostitution becomes more common." - Rational Male

"Open Hypergamy becomes open prostitution, but this relationship becomes an accepted exchange or transaction the more comfortable women get with revealing the crueler nature of their sexual strategy." - Rational Male

"Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of." - Rational Male

Discountsempai:
LOL...at washing machine is for lazy women

The thing is, it is not all the clothes we wear that should be washed by hand, some need to be washed in a washing machine.

The reason why many second had clothes that are imported from abroad look 'very new' is because they were washed in a washing machine based on the clothes label instruction which means that they last longer per wash. Doing it with hand only makes them deteriorate faster.

Perhaps when men realize that washing machine = less money spent on buying clothes, dem go reason am

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you were Makin sense till you made mention of abroad cloths new cos twas washed with machine,, that's a big fat lie

those clothes was new cos it was washed the right way plus fair weather plays major role and many at times each weather change they go for something new that suits the weather (getting cloths it's not a big deal there)...
show a cloth where machine only was written
there's are lot of cloths labels that carries hand wash or the machine logo striked out...
especially t-shirts...
washing machine makes washing faster easier neater economical, cleaner

BUT NEVER EVER MAKES CLOTHS LAST LONGER...

and I'm not saying it destroy cloths,, but it destroys T-shirts labelled hand wash only

Discountsempai:
LOL...at washing machine is for lazy women

The thing is, it is not all the clothes we wear that should be washed by hand, some need to be washed in a washing machine.

The reason why many second had clothes that are imported from abroad look 'very new' is because they were washed in a washing machine based on the clothes label instruction which means that they last longer per wash. Doing it with hand only makes them deteriorate faster.

Perhaps when men realize that washing machine = less money spent on buying clothes, dem go reason am

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you were Makin sense till you made mention of abroad cloths new cos twas washed with machine,, that's a big fat lie

those clothes was new cos it was washed the right way plus fair weather plays major role and many at times each weather change they go for something new that suits the weather (getting cloths it's not a big deal there)...
show a cloth where machine only was written
there's are lot of cloths labels that carries hand wash or the machine logo striked out...
especially t-shirts...
washing machine makes washing faster easier neater economical, cleaner

BUT NEVER EVER MAKES CLOTHS LAST LONGER...

and I'm not saying it destroy cloths,, but it destroys T-shirts labelled hand wash only

Lovit:
The greatest factors driving marriage stats down along the years is different in the west and in Africa

In the west it is driven more by hypergamy and western laws that tends to give a man's fortune to his wife when the marriage breaks. so many men in the west have come to realize that many women are marrying just to corner their wealth and leave the man homeless at trumped up accusations

In Africa and Nigeria, marriage stats are dwindling because of economic factors, poverty and women getting jobs more than men. Go to most offices in Lagos, there are more women getting jobs than men. If more men get jobs they will settle down and more marriages will happen; where more women are getting jobs, there will be less marriages

especially that blord group

Jman06:
It is the education and empowerment of women that caused the fall of marriage! To put things right again requires that men and women either go back to the traditional system of marriage where the man is the head and provides for the family and woman submits and does her wifely duties in kitchen and the other room, OR, if we want to embrace marriage as a partnership built on gender equality, then the both genders should sincerely and intentionally agree to jettison traditional gender roles and work as equal partners.

This entails that women must stop expecting men to provide for them and the family while men should also agree to join hands with their wives in doing chores in the home. Women should also stop the attitude of "his money is our money while my own money is for me alone".
If the above can be done, we'll be able to get marriage right on track.

Vital points made but I think marriage is spoilt beyond repair..... Cos it's not possible to unlearn what has been learned!

RedpillAnalyst:
Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

Every idiot is suddenly an expert on everything and will always give their ignorant opinions on issues.

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

It takes two to make a marriage work. You seem to absolve women completely of the rate of failing marriages nowadays.

As much as men contribute to marriage failing, women also do too.

Thank God say my eye don open,I no fit fall for the scam call marriage.

RedpillAnalyst:
Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

We are already overpopulated abeg.
If i become president, i will ban marriage for 8yrs😁😁
No marriage
No childbirth

If you born, you will be arrested and seriously dealt with.
U cant be giving birth when over 80% of Nigerians are poor

SixSeven:
The Family That Preys

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7632109392397176077

Do you know that same thing happened to me in my previous marriage. While I was slaving away to fend for this woman i sold my Honda accord vehicle a ridiculously low price because I needed money to finish a contract.,only to later discover she had twice the amount I needed in her account. Na that day I collect sense. Selling the Honda didn't break me because it was her I wanted to pass it to because I was already sure I had an suv coming. So na she lose and I vowed never to buy her any vehicle till fate brought our divorce.

RedpillAnalyst:
Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

What is eyinbo? It is called Oyinbo

The institution of marriage is one institution that is checkmating juvenile deliquency..it aint dying

bukatyne:
If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

Generally, men and women still need companionship, sex without guilt, children, community etc.

However, women have realized that financial provision or the promise of it is not worth the investment of a bad marriage.

So till men change emass, we are where we are.

Re hypergamy: it is not sustainable long term.

As soon as the women in the countries attracting passport bros see what befell their mothers and grandmothers due to lack of personal funds, they will stop hunting 'just a rich man' and start to look for character and compatibility. I also think that men are projecting hypergamy more than it is important for women because it absorbs men of character building. Why do I have to be a likeable man when all I need to have is some form of resources?

I look around my circle and most of us married men we grew with at work (starting out careers with) or as far back as university. In university, two set of couples got married in same level, same unit (in a pool of 80 people; some older ones were married). The 3rd one didn't happen because the guy didn't want an 'ambitious' woman.

The irony is that the kind of atmosphere men want in marriage is possible..... if they are willing to emotionally invest in it.

all this one na grammar. You expect men to adjust. What is the woman doing? Anyway na who carry marriage for head go get HBP. So many rubbish in the dating market these days.

fyneboi79:
Do you know that same thing happened to me in my previous marriage. While I was slaving away to fend for this woman i sold my Honda accord vehicle a ridiculously low price because I needed money to finish a contract.,only to later discover she had twice the amount I needed in her account. Na that day I collect sense. Selling the Honda didn't break me because it was her I wanted to pass it to because I was already sure I had an suv coming. So na she lose and I vowed never to buy her any vehicle till fate brought our divorce.

make Una continue to Marry dey turn unasslevs to slave for one woman. As long as you're well to do as a guy..you have no business marrying one woman . Bro...no make that mistake again. Women selfish die.

Hhh4444:
Thank God say my eye don open,I no fit fall for the scam call marriage.

my nigga. Our two dey the same ship. Na suffer head.

Maj196:
Na una sabi, I must marry my sweetheart

abeg when she starts to show you shege. No forget to update us.

Yours sincerely
Ser 10 racks.