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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Fiscus105(m): 6:59am On May 21*

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

I will advise you to calm down small maybe her sense will come back to normal, if she calm and remorseful, before you integrate her back to your life, you make sure you call at least 2 witnesses. 1 from her family and the other from your family, highlight what you want and what you don't want, and tell them, that meeting will be the last chance.

Meanwhile, from your own side make sure, you too, is not accomplice in the quarrel, do unto others what you want them to do for you.

Treat your wife the way you want your daughter or sister husband to treat her.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by terrezo2002(m): 7:03am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

maybe you should first take it to God in prayer. He will direct you on what to do.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Gotocourt: 7:06am On May 21

dollytino4real:
A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent , since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep

It is well ma'am. I hope you get breakthrough soonest.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by koxyz: 7:07am On May 21

The major cost of divorce is the future of the children that will be compromised

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Gotocourt: 7:16am On May 21

truthhurts2:
she won't. I think she really wants me to do something wild, something really violent to her that'll get me locked up. The more I'm trying to avoid that the more she's really looking for it.

It got a little bit violent this morning.

She has disappeared now, not coming home to sleep, and to be honest, I really don't care am just worried about my child that's with her.

See, don't bother about the child, the child will be fine. She'll use the child as a weapon against you📌💯.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by spiceadole(f): 7:17am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Why are you seeking divorce?
Don't you live in Nigeria where married men can just decide to walk away ,abandon their wives and children, relocate elsewhere and start another family without any consequences?

You sound like a weakling , to be honest

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by silibaba: 7:18am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Stop doing court marriage next time. If you had done traditional marriage alone m, you won't have any business with divorce.

In my village, you just call your umunna and her umunna and they will dissolve the union.

Small thing genz will rush with his wife to be to court for court marriage. Don't you know that the law protects the woman than the man?

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by FX(m): 7:19am On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by tfelicityk(m): 7:20am On May 21

Go to the court to make enquiries.

However, I will suggest you guys should try a marriage counseling first and see if things may worked out for you guys.

This is just an opinion not an advise ooooo.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by BewareOf419: 7:39am On May 21

You will get court affidavits, birth certificate, state of origin certificate, doctor's report, recommendations from your king, 4 sureties, good lawyer and plenty cash

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Akalia(m): 7:41am On May 21

dollytino4real:
A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent , since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep

I feel your pains sister.
Divorce is not a sin in the eyes of God and man so far it is done on the basis of unresolved differences of which infidelity ranks the top but religion is what is holding back a lot of partners that are disinterested in their union due to cogent reasons. Even God will understand.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by smasher1(m): 7:41am On May 21

truthhurts2:
How expensive is the court fee is really my question...

Thanks though...

You can start from 150k, 500k, 2m or more. If you don't have money if it's not resolvable, opt for separation. You can divorce 👪➡👨👩😭after a decade or more, when you are financially okay👌.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Cherrybae(f): 7:45am On May 21

Dear OP
In my opinion, do not file for divorce. Its very expensive.

First filing fee a lawyer will charge you is 100k

Again, lawyer will charge a professional Fee of not less than 500k

Also there an Appearance Fee lawyer will charge for each court day and that's about 30k.

The divorce case my last for 2 to 3 years due to series of adjournments.

Note that judges don't sit often and you will still pay your lawyer.

There are other filings that may come up too. If you are not financially buoyant, pls don't go for divorce.

Lawyers don't joke with their money. When you can't pay, the insults you will receive will be much than those from your wife.

In my opinion, try find a way to resolve this issues. Divorce is not the solution..

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by UnknownQueen(f): 7:48am On May 21

Lailo,
Leave that woman alone ooooo
Come and learn and file oo.
Free the sheeples please..
Leave women alone.
Women hater.
Free the woman and file.
Go and marry your fellow man.
Anus is free shocked

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by people4mie(m): 7:50am On May 21

Your naration is such an interesting one, I wish I can have sessions with you on this matter. I'll honestly love to speak with you at a very convenient time for the both of us.

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Willie2015: 7:51am On May 21

dollytino4real:
A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent , since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep

Just calm down, and take it to God in the place of prayer... sometimes things are not ordinary as it seems to be.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by shagasha: 7:52am On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

@Op don't mind this person o. Don't you ever trade your peace of mind for anything. What people don't understand is that there must be willingness from the two parties to reconcile before reconciliation can take place.
Anyone trying to counsel you is trying to play on your emotions to cajole you into submitting to the woman.

Like I said earlier on..... PEACE OF MIND is priority.

Goodluck to u!

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Crownofwealth(m): 7:57am On May 21

Cost varies depending on the lawyer involved and the circumstances especially if the divorce is contested, custody issues and property disputes.

truthhurts2:
How expensive is the court fee is really my question...

Thanks though...

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Honestey: 7:58am On May 21

Good topic, I need the information too. We have been nothing but housemate for closed to 2 years which means nothing to miss again.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Timoleon(m): 8:00am On May 21*

It's not two years mandatory seperation, it's one. It's nowhere near a million, nowhere near a hundred thousand to file. Don't mis inform people. People who live in face me I face you get divorced too, if they had a million to spend they probably won't be having the marital issues leading to divorce.

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Crownofwealth(m): 8:01am On May 21

Even hotly contested cases of divorce, custody and settlement of property doesn't last a year. In Delta State divorce matters don't take time.

Cherrybae:
Dear OP
In my opinion, do not file for divorce. Its very expensive.

First filing fee a lawyer will charge you is 100k

Again, lawyer will charge a professional Fee of not less than 500k

Also there an Appearance Fee lawyer will charge for each court day and that's about 30k.

The divorce case my last for 2 to 3 years due to series of adjournments.

Note that judges don't sit often and you will still pay your lawyer.

There are other filings that may come up too. If you are not financially buoyant, pls don't go for divorce.

Lawyers don't joke with their money. When you can't pay, the insults you will receive will be much than those from your wife.

In my opinion, try find a way to resolve this issues. Divorce is not the solution..

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by UnknownQueen(f): 8:03am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Let me get this straight... Does that mean I'm stuck with her for life if I can't afford a court case?

If yes, then somebody's son or daughter will go six feet below or end up in jail one day

E never reach like that, if you can't afford court case, seperate from her for as long as you want..

There's no crime in that, who never chop belleful no fit go file for court....

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by UnknownQueen(f): 8:05am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Can't continue with this again and I can't afford to vacate the home for her cos, I work from home, I do my businesses inside my compound and it can't be moved cos getting a space like where I am at is hardly possible.

Then , it means say youve got to be patient or make u go rent house for house outside or prepare your mind to be the one to end 6ft below the ground cheesy

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by UnknownQueen(f): 8:06am On May 21

capetownboyz:
tell her to leave to her parents place and stay there for the time being ..

Imagine, just like that, make himself leave to his parent for the time being...

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Raregem9000(m): 8:13am On May 21

My people will say suuru la n fi se oko obinrin (it is with patience that one becomes a successful husband to a wife), although I now understand that you wanted to divorce but bro, I’ll still advise you to be calm in this situation.

What I’m thinking is leading to the violence is that both of you are not calming down for each other. Because it’s only gbasgbos + gbasgbos that can lead to that.

If your wife is blowing hot, relax and calm down. If someone is insulting you, just dey calm down dey look at the person or simply excuse yourself, no way that one go lead to violence. Lol. Don’t blow hot at the same time.

You are the head of the family, so do everything possible to make your home work. Marriage is not easy, but with patience and wisdom, many things can still be resolved. Like I said, I don’t know all the details, so if you can briefly share more, we can advise you better.
Ire o.

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Bankowner: 8:15am On May 21

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

My simple advice is that you consult a family lawyer. The consultation should not cost you more than #50,000.

A considerate lawyer will charge a professional fee of between #300,000 to #500,000 for the divorce process. This excludes filing fees, appearance fees, and other ancillary expenses.

On the other hand, if you are worried about money, try and mend issues with your partner. Embarking on a divorce without money will put more strain on you than the marriage you're running away from.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by TrainPark: 8:15am On May 21

Calm down and do not respond to yapping when tempers are high. Sit your man down and tell him calmly how you feel insulted and disrespected when he speaks rudely to you and worse in public. DO NOT RESPOND AND EXCHANGE WORDS. Be the bigger person. You can build your own home and still manage your man. Sometimes, it looks hopeless, but you can fix[ your own home by being calm and feminine because sometimes, we men no dey relax appreciate better woman. Be a little patient and calm and only address issues when tempers are calm. Do not mock or insult your husband when you are angry even if he is short of resources.

quote author=dollytino4real post=139470327]A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent, since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep[/quote]

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by ravensckar(m): 8:17am On May 21

Everything I've read here strengthens my belief that registry marriage is a prison of some sort.

Why do I have to go through such long and arduous process just to break up with somebody that I no longer want to be with? Like did we even go through all this to be together in the first place?

My advice for the OP is simple! It's about time you do things the traditional way. Tell that daughter of Eve that is stressing your life to vacate your apartment immediately. If she refuses, you should firstly inform her parents and then pack her things out in the open. What rubbish!

Where I come from, if a man no longer wants to be married to a woman, he simply tells her to evacuate. Tell her to pack her things and leave you the hell alone. Which kind weak men all of una don become self? huh

Do two things first before you begin this process; report to her people and yours. Then, make a police report just to cover your back. Then, you're good to go. If she likes her stuffs, she will pack them herself. And if she doesn't, well, she should be ready to pick them up (in pieces) at the refuse dump. You should simply change the keys to your apartment and move on with your life.

Me? File court cases because I want pursue my wife? What arrant nonsense!

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by DeShineShine(m): 8:23am On May 21

Well to me, the major and most important cost is that child that you and your spouse pleaded to God to give you and at the end you decided to punish. Why can't the two of you resolve your differences? Remember, the two of you came from different backgrounds and decided to marry, do not punish the innocent soul you have brought to this world. To the glory of God, I have been married for over 25 years with three beautiful grown up daughters. My wife and I did not come from heaven but tried as much as possible to let God be the driver of our home. Enough of all these sayings of irreconcilable differences. The only thing I can say is that so far there is no physical abuse, nothing should stop a marriage from working.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Sunkyboie(m): 8:24am On May 21

To get a divorce paper is easy
1. The marriage most be last at least 3month
2. Who want to take custody of the child or children
3. Both parties lawyer can be request for a shorter date of adjournment

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by neonly: 8:33am On May 21

Move out of the house and site treat to life
That why we keep telling u people to avoid court wedding (court wedding na slavery opt to be gain by the woman only)

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Bogusmoney: 8:54am On May 21

UnknownQueen:
Imagine, just like that, make himself leave to his parent for the time being...

He pays the house bills so she should leave

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