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Timoleon:
It's not two years mandatory seperation, it's one. It's nowhere near a million, nowhere near a hundred thousand to file. Don't mis inform people. People who live in face me I face you get divorced too, if they had a million to spend they probably won't be having the marital issues leading to divorce. !

Brother, Nigeria's laws are online please go and check.

Customary court (Traditional Wedding dissolution) is not High Court (Registry Wedding dissolution).

A lot of Nigerians are doing higi-haga and faking certificate of divorce, they are always caught eventually.

If I am wrong, bring evidence and I and 2 lawyers here will offer you N20k each, if not you pay us N20k each. Deal?

Onegai:
Brother, Nigeria's laws are online please go and check.

Customary court (Traditional Wedding dissolution) is not High Court (Registry Wedding dissolution).

A lot of Nigerians are doing higi-haga and faking certificate of divorce, they are always caught eventually.

If I am wrong, being evidence and I and 2 lawyers here will offer you N20k each, if not you pay us N20k each. Deal?

Folake4u

(Who is another learned silk here 🤔)

Why are you plagiarizing the bold from Obahiagbon.

Lithiumite:
Thought it was 3 years mandatory separation,thats really the easiest way out except the other party consents and doesn't contest.......is the divorce automatic after the mandatory separation.

3 years separation means No Fault Divorce, which means one party can file without consent. Doesn't mean the divorce will be automatic.

There's no such thing as automatic divorce in Nigeria, our laws are based on British laws and they're just still figuring theirs out

Best is that the couple have no kids and and not interested, then you file uncontested and the other party doesn't even waste their time or money to show up, thereby assenting to the petition, that's 6-9 months.

DeepSight:
Why are you plagiarizing the bold from Obahiagbon.

Who?

I plagiarized nothing

Nigerians don't know the law and don't read their constitution, all this is even online or go to any High Court.

Onegai:
Who?

I plagiarized nothing

Nigerians don't know the law and don't read their constitution, all this is even online or go to any High Court.

I said the bold. Look again.

Willie2015:
Just calm down, and take it to God in the place of prayer... sometimes things are not ordinary as it seems to be.

yes o! But atimes temporary separation can do small work in both parties

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

The cost and consequences of a divorce may be huge which you may not be able to afford but there is this simple solution to causes of divorce and that's JESUS, invite Him into your marriage and your marriage will never be the same again. That peace that has eluded your marriage that's making you contemplating divorce will come fully to your marriage because Jesus Himself is the prince of peace.

Receive peace into your marriage in Jesus mighty name.

Akalia:
I feel your pains sister.
Divorce is not a sin in the eyes of God and man so far it is done on the basis of unresolved differences of which infidelity ranks the top but religion is what is holding back a lot of partners that are disinterested in their union due to cogent reasons. Even God will understand.

the everyday abuse dat is really pisssing me off

Gotocourt:
It is well ma'am. I hope you get breakthrough soonest.

yes o i am working on it, only rent shikina

DeepSight:
Are you a lawyer practicing family law?

See how America controls your head. Where have you seen a lawyer in Nigeria who is not a family lawyer/business lawyer/political lawyer/accident lawyer etc.?

NNEVERAGAINN:
what did you do? Do you still look good in your dressing? And how dirty are you with the kids? Does he like dirty environment, or is there anything he as been complaining abt? Are you badmouthing? Do you nag at him or compare him with another man?

never compare at all because am a Christian, wat i see is dat we are both tired of each other

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Then you should leave the environment first to safety before seeking counsel on divorce proceedings.

dollytino4real:
A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent , since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep

What did you do? Did he just become a monster?

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...


Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

which #1m-#6m? This is a big fat lie! Go to high court and you will get a lawyer file it for you . Just have a budget of 350-500k.

truthhurts2:
How expensive is the court fee is really my question...


Thanks though...

budget like 500k..Do quick because we need more of you single mothers back on the streets

Ha, na wa ooo. Abeg be calming down

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...


Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

dollytino4real:
A beg add me jon, my own the everyday insult in public at home in the presence of my children, pls my own now rent , since he managed to pay 250k he locks us out untill my neighbors will beg for us to enter n sleep

Budget like 500k...and please be fast,we need una for street sampling

cricifixo:
If this is true please leave the beast

is the truth, is just rent not else

capetownboyz:
Marriage crashes this days feels crazy and here I am dealing with a baby mama and looking for means to bring her back into my life along with my baby cause I can’t bare to grow apart from my child most especially..

Go ahead its very important u do that..

socoharley:
Budget like 500k...and please be fast,we need una for street sampling

street sampling wetin e mean

Dtruthspeaker:
See how America controls your head. Where have you seen a lawyer Niger who is not a family lawyer/business lawyer/political lawyer/accident lawyer etc.?

Lawyers have areas of specialization too, okay? If you are not one, please SHATTAP!
Besides you obviously missed the word "practicing." Or dont know the meaning.

socoharley:
which #1m-#6m? This is a big fat lie! Go to high court and you will get a lawyer file it for you . Just have a budget of 350-500k.

Prove me and her wrong, we pay you N20k each. We prove you wrong, you pay us N20k each. Deal?

Cherrybae:
Dear OP
In my opinion, do not file for divorce. Its very expensive.

First filing fee a lawyer will charge you is 100k

Again, lawyer will charge a professional Fee of not less than 500k

Also there an Appearance Fee lawyer will charge for each court day and that's about 30k.

The divorce case may last for 2 to 3 years due to series of adjournments.

Note that judges don't sit often and you will still pay your lawyer.

There are other filings that may come up too. If you are not financially buoyant, pls don't go for divorce.

Lawyers don't joke with their money. When you can't pay, the insults you will receive will be much than those from your wife.

In my opinion, try find a way to resolve this issues. Divorce is not the solution..

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

If u get a lawyer at 250/500 ,he may abandon the case midstream I will advise you budget 1/1 5m and it should be filed in sagamu high court .I know what I'm saying

socoharley:
What did you do? Did he just become a monster?

na life challenges and bad advice from his client he deals with women those adulterers so as they telling him how the manage theirs home he is now using it against me 4getting i do not do such

people4mie:
Your naration is such an interesting one, I wish I can have sessions with you on this matter. I'll honestly love to speak with you at a very convenient time for the both of us.

Sure, send me a message please

Onegai:
3 years separation means No Fault Divorce, which means one party can file without consent. Doesn't mean the divorce will be automatic.

There's no such thing as automatic divorce in Nigeria, our laws are based on British laws and they're just still figuring theirs out

Best is that the couple have no kids and and not interested, then you file uncontested and the other party doesn't even waste their time or money to show up, thereby assenting to the petition, that's 6-9 months.

But should be cheaper at least........if so,could be worth the wait.

Lithiumite:
But should be cheaper at least........if so,could be worth the wait.

Uncontested is the cheapest. There are people who codely meet and settle outside, buy car and house and transfer it. So that by the time they file, the other party has been bought off so it is uncontested.

Even uncontested, I saw 2 cases that still wasted time and every time your lawyer appears in court, you must pay them.

One lady posted on IG that she was going from Abuja to Benue and it was N70k each trip, minus all the other money spent just to hire lawyer.

Please if you are interested in cancelling your divorce, ask me how, I am more than happy to help you do our best to rebuild your marriage.

Abeg.

Onegai:
Prove me and her wrong, we pay you N20k each. We prove you wrong, you pay us N20k each. Deal?

Deal! Now it may entirely depend on location...I'm in Anambra state. What location are you getting your lawyer fee quotation?

Kobojunkie:
Find the court closest to you. Call and ask them about filing fees and stuff. If the court has a website, check it for more information. 😒

Courts don't quote fees on websites.
While the constitution allows a citizen to conduct his case by himself ,it is best you go to NBA office or legal aid or ministry of justice to seek help if you don't have money .

Onegai:
Please if you are interested in cancelling your divorce, ask me how, I am more than happy to help you do our best to rebuild your marriage.

Abeg.

better keep quiet and mind your business...until one party kills the other out of anger and pain abi