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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Afolue(m): 9:58am On May 21

truthhurts2:
How expensive is the court fee is really my question...

Thanks though...

you will have to make moves yourself. It’s affordable though. But it takes long. I mean really long most especially if the 2nd party intentionally choose to frustrate efforts of the divorce process. But if you both consent, much easier and faster.

If you want an express divorce process, then protocols wont be observed. Protocols Beaten! This one will be very much expensive. For example: Barely 10 years back, a relative of mine (f) , she tried beat protocols and paid about 350k. Now, it maybe up to a million if not more…

A Lawyer will put you through all

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by socoharley: 10:02am On May 21

dollytino4real:
yes o i am working on it, only rent shikina

Better cool down and submit to your husband..you think it's easy out there as a single mother? Hmm..konji men and boys go too use you walahi you go regret your decision to get divorced. Think twice na pride dey worry una undecided

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by josite: 10:06am On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

It is 3 years separation six million Naira is outrageous even if you are a SAN and within a year you can complete the case if you take advantage of the fact that you can sue anywhere in Nigeria for a divorce case and you choose low traffic court like high court ,sagamu .

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Onegai(f): 10:11am On May 21

socoharley:
Deal! Now it may entirely depend on location...I'm in Anambra state. What location are you getting your lawyer fee quotation?

Lagos state

Josite, Ogun state has casted. Depending on the legal firm, it can be that high. Plus if it is a highly contested case, every filing gets more expensive. I've seen a SAN's fees.

People do illegal Oluwole document to avoid paying

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by pappilo(m): 10:18am On May 21

Onegai:
You're not stuck with her for life, you can walk away and not even file, commit bigamy, adultery (the world doesn't care, we're now encouraged to be as selfish as possible, self-care, choose you, chase your happiness etc).

You certainly feel like you're done right now and that's a valid emotion.

Emotions are rubbish, only a fool trusts them.

Reality is, you're going to be miserable. You will reach levels of misery you didn't even fathom. You think it is bad now, walahi you ain't seen nothing yet.

Then you'll stabilise, probably start dating again, feel euphoric in that new love and new freedom. But the romance will die eventually and you'll face your patterns, triggers and mistakes again. And this time you'll be forced to confront them (unless you want a second divorce).

And in having to work on it, you'll realize you could have put in that same effort in the first marriage and it will have survived and she was a better fir for you but now you're enduring what you couldn't tolerate before. That's when regret starts to really bloom, because regret is like a Shea butter tree, it takes time to grow.

Emotions don't last forever, you once felt happy as a young Nigerian now you hate the country. If you relocate, in 5 years time you'll love Nigeria so much even agege bread will make you weep in nostalgia.

I try and talk people out of a divorce because I've seen Divorcees 5 years, 10 years, 34 years down the line.

There's a reason that this below is now quietly being admitted to being true, by the people who spent decades telling us selfishness masked as self-care was best

You are extremely smart. You must be advanced in age and experience or a very consummate professional in this area. What tops it is that your signature says you are female. I find that really hard to believed because your submissions capture the a man's view so accurately.

The only part I disagree with you is the part where you talk about counselling. The case as described by OP is way past counselling IMHO.

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by socoharley: 10:24am On May 21

Onegai:
Lagos state

Josite, Ogun state has casted. Depending on the legal firm, it can be that high. Plus if it is a highly contested case, every filing gets more expensive. I've seen a SAN's fees.

People do illegal Oluwole document to avoid paying

Aunty e no reach like that abeg . What do they need a SAN for? Any divorce lawyer can file a divorce petition for between 250k-350k.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by regenerateman(m): 10:29am On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

You didn't confirm from the OP how the marriage was consummated and you are talking of High court. If it was customary marriage (traditional wedding) the divorce case can be filed at a customary court of where he is staying. However, if the marriage was done through approved Church (Church wedding) or statutory marriage (court wedding), the case starts from a state high Court. I will advise that you first make reconciliatory moves and forget about divorce. You can separate from her for now!

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by bigl: 11:14am On May 21

Eeya ... That's sad ... For u to have come to this conclusion, i think you've really had it to the brim and can't take it anymore.

I'll suggest separation first ... Atleast, to cool down your mind/body while u plan your final exit strategy.

It used to be around 80 to 120k around that 2016 ... but now, those lawyers no wan hear anything below 450k oooo ... And its also location dependent.

You might be lucky to maybe have a friend of a friend who might be willing to help u with the process for something budget friendly.

If na island or abuja lawyer u go get, you'll nearly sell your kidney to pay cos dem go use bill wound and injure you.

So, consider the separation thingy for now till you're really sure u wanna split off from your partner or maybe you want to settle down with another person.

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Wharehouz: 11:32am On May 21

Onegai:
How can i get your contact sir,
steadfeetconsult@gmail.com..please email me. Thank you.

Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by dollytino4real(f): 11:53am On May 21

socoharley:
Better cool down and submit to your husband..you think it's easy out there as a single mother? Hmm..konji men and boys go too use you walahi you go regret your decision to get divorced. Think twice na pride dey worry una

not divorce permanently but still dey o, the separation is 4 value adding to our lives

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Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by sonofthunder: 11:55am On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Are you a marriage counselor or what?

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Onegai(f): 12:16pm On May 21

sonofthunder:
Are you a marriage counselor or what?

Me ke??

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Onegai(f): 12:18pm On May 21

pappilo:
You are extremely smart. You must be advanced in age and experience or a very consummate professional in this area. What tops it is that your signature says you are female. I find that really hard to believed because your submissions capture the a man's view so accurately.

The only part I disagree with you is the part where you talk about counselling. The case as described by OP is way past counselling IMHO.

His case hasn't even reached bad counselling levels. It is so fixable.

People with worse cases fix their marriage

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by tonididdy(m): 1:30pm On May 21

Onegai:
Let's just say, my calling is to hold people's hands during a tough period

With your experience please give me an answer or two.
Two married couples now leaving apart ( not divorced yet)
But one party ( the woman) moves on fast and starts dating again even when the traditional price is still on her head and an active court marriage certificate.

My question is? Is this sueable? ( I don't remember the law terms in such situation).
But can the man hurt the woman in question legally?

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Onegai(f): 1:40pm On May 21

tonididdy:
With your experience please give me an answer or two.
Two married couples now leaving apart ( not divorced yet)
But one party ( the woman) moves on fast and starts dating again even when the traditional price is still on her head and an active court marriage certificate.

My question is? Is this sueable? ( I don't remember the law terms in such situation).
But can the man hurt the woman in question legally?

Can you prove she's dating and do you know his name? The Court will want evidence (pictures of them together, people to be witnesses).

Under Sharia law Adultery is a crime in the North (even Abuja). Police can arrest them.

Under Nigerian constitution, Adultery is not a crime. However, you can sue the man and say he is the reason your marriage broke down (Daddy Freeze was sued for N5million, I think). You can sue side chics for upto N50million, the court won't award that much but you can get some money.

Personally, neither party should have rushed into dating openly

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by BigManny: 1:46pm On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Thank you for this illustration. It's a hell of lengthy process. Reading for a friend though..

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by tonididdy(m): 1:49pm On May 21

Onegai:
Can you prove she's dating and do you know his name? The Court will want evidence (pictures of them together, people to be witnesses).

Under Sharia law Adultery is a crime in the North (even Abuja). Police can arrest them.

Under Nigerian constitution, Adultery is not a crime. However, you can sue the man and say he is the reason your marriage broke down (Daddy Freeze was sued for N5million, I think). You can sue side chics for upto N50million, the court won't award that much but you can get some money.

Personally, neither party should have rushed into dating openly

No face detected yet.
But it's something she brags about.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by tonididdy(m): 1:51pm On May 21

Onegai:
Can you prove she's dating and do you know his name? The Court will want evidence (pictures of them together, people to be witnesses).

Under Sharia law Adultery is a crime in the North (even Abuja). Police can arrest them.

Under Nigerian constitution, Adultery is not a crime. However, you can sue the man and say he is the reason your marriage broke down (Daddy Freeze was sued for N5million, I think). You can sue side chics for upto N50million, the court won't award that much but you can get some money.

Personally, neither party should have rushed into dating openly

If you familiar with the popular TV host frank edohos case.
Does this mean, he could sue the artist chike ?

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by sonofthunder: 2:28pm On May 21

Onegai:
Me ke??

So what do you do and what if there's someone that wants to reach out to you?

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Onegai(f): 2:32pm On May 21

sonofthunder:
So what do you do and what if there's someone that wants to reach out to you?

Check my signature

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Dtruthspeaker: 2:57pm On May 21

DeepSight:
Lawyers have areas of specialization too, okay? If you are not one, please SHATTAP!
Besides you obviously missed the word "practicing." Or dont know the meaning.

America controls you if not you would have seen that in Nigeria there is almost nothing like specialisation.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by DeepSight(m): 2:59pm On May 21

Dtruthspeaker:
America controls you if not you would have seen that in Nigeria there is almost nothing like specialisation.

If only you know how ignorant this is.

Ol' boy, in any jurisdiction, not only can one do a masters in a particular field, one can go on to do a doctorate in such a field and then practice exclusively or predominantly in that field.

Many of my classmates are specialists today including in fields like medical law, projects and finance, capital markets, etc and some only practice in their field.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by Caaz: 3:59pm On May 21

Nawa o.....it's well with some of you going thru worst marriages

My sympathy!

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by truthhurts2(op): 5:24pm On May 21

Raregem9000:
My people will say suuru la n fi se oko obinrin (it is with patience that one becomes a successful husband to a wife), although I now understand that you wanted to divorce but bro, I’ll still advise you to be calm in this situation.

What I’m thinking is leading to the violence is that both of you are not calming down for each other. Because it’s only gbasgbos + gbasgbos that can lead to that.

If your wife is blowing hot, relax and calm down. If someone is insulting you, just dey calm down dey look at the person or simply excuse yourself, no way that one go lead to violence. Lol. Don’t blow hot at the same time.

You are the head of the family, so do everything possible to make your home work. Marriage is not easy, but with patience and wisdom, many things can still be resolved. Like I said, I don’t know all the details, so if you can briefly share more, we can advise you better.
Ire o.

Can't just continue this way! My peace of mind is becoming like my shadow, distancing itself from me. Pressure is mounting fast on me, my life is under threat from pressure and lack of peace, I'm really becoming a shadow of myself, turning to a monster.

There's no time that I think of taking drastic action without thinking of my little princess, can I really cope without her? What will my life look like if she's not around me? Loving her is an understatement, she's absolutely become part of me. To me, she's (my daughter) the one still holding this marriage together, if not, I would have long gone before even starting this my agribusiness in my compound, which is now very difficult to move along with me if I want to leave. My life is under intense pressure right now which is really blurring my thinking...I can't think straight again.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by truthhurts2(op): 5:30pm On May 21

UnknownQueen:
E never reach like that, if you can't afford court case, seperate from her for as long as you want..

There's no crime in that, who never chop belleful no fit go file for court....

Separation will go a long way returning my sanity back. But the major problem is, I can't be the one to leave the house for her cos, that's where my life is. My job/business is my life, it's what's putting food on the table for me. And, she's not ready to leave either!

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by truthhurts2(op): 5:33pm On May 21

spiceadole:
Why are you seeking divorce?
Don't you live in Nigeria where married men can just decide to walk away ,abandon their wives and children, relocate elsewhere and start another family without any consequences?

You sound like a weakling , to be honest

relocating elsewhere without my source of livelihood will make me miserable for couples of years before getting my feet.

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by truthhurts2(op): 5:35pm On May 21

terrezo2002:
maybe you should first take it to God in prayer. He will direct you on what to do.

she's actually frustrating all my efforts...I'm losing it!

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by truthhurts2(op): 5:37pm On May 21

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...

Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Maybe we can talk...

Re: What's The Cost Of Getting A Divorce? by JustMakeMoney(m): 7:26pm On May 21

I hardly comment here!

But this case is simple, just focus on your business and maintain a full attention on your child. Ignore every word she says n perform your responsibilities on your baby. Don’t waste your time n money going to court because she will contest and frustrate the process. Am sure your mind isn’t at peace when ever you think how to go about divorce right? It’s a sign that you need to invite an higher power spiritually.

She will latter calm down if she sees you no longer respond as expected besides you didn’t mention her age here because it matters now a heads.

Peace I leave you!

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