₦airaland Forum

I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign

If you both have been trying to apply elsewhere during the time you’ve been debating who to resign, possibly there would be headway by now.

When the policy came out, the first approach should have been let us both try applying to other organisations and see who is going to be lucky to be employed elsewhere, not who to resign. Na only that organisation dey this world?

Honestly, I don’t see this couple going far if they eventually marry.

This is easy, frame the guy and get him fired.

It's difficult to believe some of these stories y'all post here. Naturally the guy should know to be the one to resign and look for a job elsewhere.. that's the right and decent thing to do.

I feel this is just a made up story sha.. y'all should take it easy in making guys look like monsters.

Samantha125:
This is easy, frame the guy and get him fired.

This is sarcasm abi.
Cos e be like say I nor sabi detect am lately.

thrillionaire:
It's difficult to believe some of these stories y'all post here. Naturally the guy should know to be the one to resign and look for a job elsewhere.. that's the right and decent thing to do.

I feel this is just a made up story sha.. y'all should take it easy in making guys look like monsters.

Definitely made up. But in the abasay scenarios that it's true....

If I'm the guy, I'd resign so she can continue. Afterall, she actually gave him the opportunity in the first place. I don't support biting the finger that fed you.

Secondly, men, make una try dey get more ambition nao. Since you've been working, company policy or not, he should already be using the experience he has now in the job for pursuing other opportunities, networking and using their combined connection to get referrals to a new organization.

Na so some people take dey use pride lose good woman. Person wey actually saw potential in you when you had no job - and from the lady's side, there's more job security in her own position and she's earning more.

Stephen0mozzy:
Definitely made up. But in the abasay scenarios that it's true....

If I'm the guy, I'd resign so she can continue. Afterall, she actually gave him the opportunity in the first place. I don't support biting the finger that fed you.

Secondly, men, make una try dey get more ambition nao. Since you've been working, company policy or not, he should already be using the experience he has now in the job for pursuing other opportunities, networking and using their combined connection to get referrals to a new organization.

Na so some people take dey use pride lose good woman. Person wey actually saw potential in you when you had no job - and from the lady's side, there's more job security in her own position and she's earning more.

I totally agree with you brovv.. I hate disloyalty.
Your woman lifted you up from the dungeons and now you're suddenly smarter eh.. dump his sorry ass I'd say.

However.. wetin be 'abasay' abegggg

thrillionaire:
I totally agree with you brovv.. I hate disloyalty.
Your woman lifted you up from the dungeons and now you're suddenly smarter eh.. dump his sorry ass I'd say.

However.. wetin be 'abasay' abegggg

"Abasay" - Edo pidgin for "Let's assume that..." 😅 I be think say it's a general pidgin term by now

On this issue, I would like to hear from him.
Quote me daily!

This guy is wicked, he should go seek a job elsewhere. Imagine after building a career and risen to a senior cadre and he wants you to resign, NO WAY. Mhen, that guy just proposed to you because of the job assistance you gave to him. Kick his fvcking ass off the job, if you can.

Samantha125:
This is easy, frame the guy and get him fired.

Ahh ahhhh ahhhhrrr,
Eve at it again

I'm in support of that gender on this , ladies don't play with their source of money 📌💯.

Shape of things to come, he is selfish and unfeeling. Better not go ahead with the wedding or else

Leave me alone...🤣🤣🤣

Gotocourt:
Ahh ahhhh ahhhhrrr,
Eve at it again

A kind and smart woman who loved you whole-heartedly when you had nothing may still whole-heartedly support you if you resign and consciously find another work elsewhere.

The few months out of work, she can still help you until you are stable. Why bite the finger that feeds or fed you? That is disloyalty, irresponsibility and lack of tact plus emotional intelligence.

The guy may end up losing both the job and this smart lady plus her goodwill and referrals.

Well my submission is based on her account and may change if we also hear from the guy.

Fiance is not husband. If anybody tell you to resign they should be prepared to hand you cash, at least 5yrs of your salary.

Since Tinubu became president everything in this country has gone upside down my sister please don't leave your job

Aunty for d brother-man to tell u to resign, either he has seen things that kept u single until ur menopause day or he is just an unfornate idiot.
Bcs all these daughter of eve can lie for Africa snd still play d victim card

Samantha125:
This is easy, frame the guy and get him fired.

Samantha, when will you change?

Let's just have a little fun with this! It’s all about the vibe, right? It’s a simple, breezy conversation. a little sparkle to it.

Make them flip coin abi make them cancel the marriage.

When Jesus comes...🤣🤣🤣

Achor1111:
Samantha, when will you change?

Please don't resign 🙏 coz you may end up blaming yourself later.
"A word is enough for the wise"

escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign

What happened to the website?

escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign

FortCavazosKnox:
What happened to the website?

It’s active, weren’t you able to access it ?

AcadaWriter0:
Let's just have a little fun with this! It’s all about the vibe, right? It’s a simple, breezy conversation. a little sparkle to it.

Thank you 😉

Couldn’t access it before, just gained access

escortafrik:
It’s active, weren’t you able to access it ?

FortCavazosKnox:
Couldn’t access it before, just gained access

Ok great 👍

(.. as difficult as this may sound), walk away!

Please do all your best to make sure his sack. He his an ungrateful fellow. Don't give up to emotions that guy and his family are very ungrateful. Tell the company you guys aren't in any relationship. Please come back to give us feedback. This is completely unacceptable

Lol, you truly know if a man likes you when he is financially stable esp. if you are doing well as a lady.

To those saying the story is made up, you would be shocked.

Most Nigerian men forming smart, hard workers and ambitious were just lucky to land themselves a good job. Take away their white collar jobs, and watch them wither away like a piece of dry hibiscus flower.

This is why most of them take to drinking and idling away once they lose their lucrative jobs. Women are the real hustlers, and majority of them have become the bread winners. For that reason, no woman should step down for any man to excel. The sacrifice ain't worth it!