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Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by escortafrik(op): 7:26pm On May 25
faithfull18:
Lol, you truly know if a man likes you when he is financially stable esp. if you are doing well as a lady.

To those saying the story is made up, you would be shocked.
Thank you ! It’s not fiction at all, it was an anonymous post sent to our forum
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by emabe: 8:55pm On May 27
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Story story, guy should resign and leave matter for jesus
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by dominique(mod):
Unpopular opinion here. Since she has more experience and possibly better qualified, she should seek employment in another firm while her fiance stay there and gather more experience. I've seen this play out in real life . The couple met at the office and it was the man who had more experience and certificates was able to employment elsewhere because of the office policy and they went on to tie the knot. Under any circumstances should the lady in the op leave her work to become a full-time housewife else sorry will be her middle name
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by ceeceeuwa: 6:08pm On May 30
Stephen0mozzy:
"Abasay" - Edo pidgin for "Let's assume that..." 😅 I be think say it's a general pidgin term by now
It's "asper say"
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Stephen0mozzy: 6:21pm On May 30
ceeceeuwa:
It's "asper say"
Lol.. e dey correct pidgin.
Uwa, na abasay we dey use for our side.

"As per say" doesn't express the same thing.

"Make I send you 10k asper say I be Dangote" ✅

"Abasay we just see 500k for ground now, wetin you go use am do?" ✅

You get it?
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by ceeceeuwa: 6:50pm On May 30
Stephen0mozzy:
Lol.. e dey correct pidgin.
Uwa, na abasay we dey use for our side.

"As per say" doesn't express the same thing.

"Make I send you 10k asper say I be Dangote" ✅

"Abasay we just see 500k for ground now, wetin you go use am do?" ✅

You get it?
Lol. Funny you!
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by SixSeven: 8:03pm On Jun 01
dominique:
Unpopular opinion here. Since she has more experience and possibly better qualified, she should seek employment in another firm while her fiance stay there. I've seen this play out in real life . The couple met at the office and it was the man who had more experience and certificates had to seek employment elsewhere because of the office policy and they went on to tie the knot. Under any circumstances should the lady in the op leave her work to become a full-time housewife else sorry will be her middle name
Under any circumstances or under no circumstances?
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by kimjessey2019: 8:05pm On Jun 01
Madam resign and look for another job elsewhere since you already have years of experience . You re already a stubborn wife for me.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by honour8: 8:05pm On Jun 01
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escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Even if you are going to leave, make sure its after the wedding. Before then start submitting your CV. There I'd always a better place, it's just that we are too tied to our present place.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by CorrectionFLuid: 8:10pm On Jun 01
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Everyday feminists would concoct one fiction or the other.
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Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by oyeb15: 8:12pm On Jun 01
help get a good job. I will marry you. That guy is not for you. He go use and dump you
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by correctguy101(m): 8:13pm On Jun 01
Amotolongbo:
If you both have been trying to apply elsewhere during the time you’ve been debating who to resign, possibly there would be headway by now.

When the policy came out, the first approach should have been let us both try applying to other organisations and see who is going to be lucky to be employed elsewhere, not who to resign. Na that organisation dey this world?

Honestly, I don’t see this couple going far if they eventually marry.
You spoke beautifully...

That's all I got to say
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by bentenny(m): 8:16pm On Jun 01
Both of you would have suggested delaying the marriage while looking for an opening else where!
Unfortunately,the marriage as it stands is dead and buried!
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Arrowhead71: 8:16pm On Jun 01
If your story is true....dont ever make the mistake of quitting your job.....because he is not your husband yet.
He should resign delay the wedding a little period and start a Business with any small savings with you too contribution before the wedding
Note ..dont trust anyone including yourself
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Sagacity10(m): 8:21pm On Jun 01
Pls let him go. Such a man will not be able to make sacrifice for u in the marriage when you eventually got married to him.
Hes so inconsiderate and selfish.
Aunty pls look for a man who will appreciate and consider you in all of their decisions.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Solofresh2: 8:22pm On Jun 01
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Both are wrong. She is more right but her revenge plan makes her wrong too.He is not a leader. He is a man who wants to be served.She is right to be angry. But planning to get him fired is not strength. It is bitterness dressed as revenge.
A man who cannot handle his woman earning more or being more established will always be a problem. She should have seen this earlier.But her response — trying to destroy him — proves she is also not ready for marriage. Two wrongs do not make a right.
The relationship is already dead. The question is whether they will bury it with dignity or set it on fire

She should not resign but he should
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by femi4: 8:22pm On Jun 01
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Go n get another person to marry...your destiny weren't tied together
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by martinskelly(m): 8:23pm On Jun 01
I see trust lacking in this marriage, for the fact that you guys are arguing who will be the one to resign first and almost closer to the wedding date shows that if careful reasoning is not put into consideration the marriage will collapse.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by pinkygurl(f): 8:24pm On Jun 01
Amotolongbo:
If you both have been trying to apply elsewhere during the time you’ve been debating who to resign, possibly there would be headway by now.

When the policy came out, the first approach should have been let us both try applying to other organisations and see who is going to be lucky to be employed elsewhere, not who to resign. Na that organisation dey this world?

Honestly, I don’t see this couple going far if they eventually marry.
FAKE STORY THOUGH, engagement farming story
BUT BEST ADVICE I HAVE SEEN SO FAR. THO FOR FAKE STORY THEY BOTH SHOULD BE ACTIVELY JOBHUNTING APPYING TO JOBS ELSEWHERE, POSTPONE/PUT THE WEDDING ON HOLD UNTIL IST PERSON LANDS SOMETHING CONCRETE. AND HAS A VALID JOB OFFER. youu dont tell anybody to resign in these Tinubu hard times without job offer.its not the only company on earth. but a bird at hand.....Ist person to land a valid job offer with reasonable pay resigns . and they can marry
fromall indications the marriage might not last,though.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by saintruky(m): 8:25pm On Jun 01
D dude dey ment... Him dey fear to go start supermarket business... Person pick you from corner, clean you shine come give you job, you open your gutter say make she resign for you... So you go start to misbehave... Your fada well well....

Obaby whip em lost... He's evil...
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Elmuktari(m): 8:26pm On Jun 01
The guy's side of the story before I judge...however, woman, is it that you can't secure another job elsewhere or you can't leave your boss/ boyfriend?

There are more to this story...bring them we're all ear.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Franktom247(m): 8:29pm On Jun 01
Come and marry me abeg
I will be house husband
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by ozil123: 8:42pm On Jun 01
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
The most important decision here is the one you owe yourself: look hard at the man, not just the job, before you tie your life to either.
Keep the fire. Just point it at the right target: your own freedom, not his ruin.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by colossus91(m): 8:45pm On Jun 01
Samantha125:
This is easy, frame the guy and get him fired.
We have run out of wonders today😂
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by kennethesan(m): 8:54pm On Jun 01
Dey play Fiance....

Ma da loun o
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Ifyz0001: 8:56pm On Jun 01
The guy isn't serious....he should be the one to resign. Or terminate the wedding ...Does he not have any skill ...she can fund him...You can't waste all your life effort just because of marriage, it's not advisable.

If he can't resign...then you call of the wedding. Period.

Im a man, typing this....if all you are saying is true about how you helped him secure the employment at the place you are working... He should be the one to resign instead.

You can fund him to get a biz or something...or help him get another job in a similar organization like where you are working.

You see say na income dey make most men remain single.


escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by babztee(m): 8:58pm On Jun 01
This story doesn’t even sound real.Your company came up with a policy ,and as two fvvkng grown adults who I think are educated and exposed should have handled the situation better.

Pause the marriage ,both of you should take time to apply to other companies.Yes,you’re engaged but the marriage can still wait.

These stories turn my stomach honestly.wh rushing to marry when you know that one of you would be jobless in the marriage.what kind of annoying story is this ?
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by bluefilm:
End time Fiance

You better send am away now before you come back here to tell us stories that touch
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by EngrEssien(m): 9:02pm On Jun 01
Nonsense cock and bull stories everywhere


escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Westman001: 9:08pm On Jun 01
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
No one is wicked between you two. For you to say that shows you're the problem. Overthinking the whole.

You said not just because of the job itself but you still will not leave and would rather have him sacked.

There's nothing as an equal partner. And you leaving the company to start your business does not make you less than him.
There's compromise and sacrifice necessary for a successful marriage, even a successful life.

You've been there far long enough to leave, start a business or use that experience to get a far higher role in another company. If you're considerate, wedding his coming, as a man it's the confidence he needs and with all the wedding expense and paying your bride price, you'd have him leave because you love the company so much.

If you be a good woman and leave for him, start your business, he may one day get sack and join you in that business. If you end it with him and the company sack you the next month, what will you do then. Fight your company?

You finally got what you want in a man at this age, and you couldn't make a little to no sacrifice to keep what you have.
Re: I Helped My Fiancé Get A Job In My Company… Now He Wants Me To Resign by Bennycollins: 9:08pm On Jun 01
escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign
Why get him sacked, simply breakup.
That way you both keep your jobs.
Or does the policy takes effect once you start dating get engaged?
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