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| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Doyou2019: 7:33am On Jun 08 |
Host78:Nailed it! |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by kenysbabe(f): 7:36am On Jun 08*. Modified: 8:08am On Jun 08 |
Host78:Hello, Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts on this. I agree that children should be corrected and disciplined when they do something wrong, but discipline must be handled appropriately and within proper boundaries. If a child violates school policy, disobeys instructions, or behaves in a way that affects others, then it is understandable for the school to address it. However, in this particular case, I do not believe the teacher’s action was appropriate. The child’s hair did not even appear overgrown, and he looks very young. If the teacher felt the hair needed to be cut lower, the proper thing to do would have been to send a note or message to the child’s parents. A teacher is a guardian only while the child is in school, but that does not give her the right to take such a personal matter into her own hands. I have read several people say that if parents do not want their children disciplined, they should homeschool them. In this case, the question is: how was the boy’s hair preventing the teacher from teaching? Was there a health concern, such as lice? If so, the right approach would have been to inform the school authorities and the parents, not to take such drastic action. I feel strongly about this because something similar happened to my child. I was called from work and told to come to the hospital because my child had been rushed there. A teacher had ‘disciplined’ him with a sharp object, which tore his forehead. He was only three years old! When I arrived, my child was soaked in blood and tears. What made it even harder was that the children present were too young to clearly explain what happened, so I never truly got closure. The school authorities and teachers came to my house several times to apologize, and the teacher was eventually let go, but my child still carries the huge scar on his forehead till date because someone felt they had the right to discipline him in a harmful way. Discipline is important, but it must never cross the line into humiliation, harm, or abuse. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Truvelisback(m): 7:39am On Jun 08 |
I have hated that profession because of the hypocrisy of school owners(especially private school owners) and these Genz parents we have now. The children we have now are spoilt brats and disrespectful. They don't even have regards for their teachers unlike our days. This is as a result of poor upbringing by their parents. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by damoobaba: 7:41am On Jun 08 |
Gbadugbakun:FOR ME, shaving a child's hair (EVEN WITH PARENT'S CONSENT) IS WRONG. If you can't shave your child's hair by yourself. That child will not enter my school, if it's my school. Using cane on children is actually going obsolete too but I don't see any reason why children should not serve punishment if they have done anything wrong. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Doyou2019: 7:43am On Jun 08 |
HacheNoire:Three Saturdays ago, I listened with grief to a lawyer's account of a 15-year-old boy sent to prison for raping a girl in Nigeria. This was narrated by Barrister Omosebi of NIgeriainfofm as the boy literally confessed to him. To say parents deal with am wella, shey this amount of disgrace and pain go reach dia family. Make dem continue raising ill-trained children. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Weathered: 7:52am On Jun 08 |
Host78:you forgot to add most teachers these days are grossly unqualified. NCE remains the minimum standard for a teacher which you didn't have. Private schools are business not learning places. In my primary school there was no lesson then. No need for it. Teachers were sound. I was reading very well in primary three. Today you and your fake schools are imposing lesson from primary school. Does it mean your students are dull or there's something wrong in the process? |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by TEYA: 7:53am On Jun 08 |
Gbadugbakun:You said you will pay influencers to lie. It's a shame that a parent is thinking along that line. As a lying parent, what lesson do you have to teach your child on telling the truth? |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by keemsleek(m): 7:53am On Jun 08 |
Host78:Thank you my brother. You are so right |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by sben2308(m): 7:55am On Jun 08 |
Host78:I totally understand how u feel and u are 100% correct but believe me parent nowaday are adding to the problem Saying dont beat their child but in class this kids is d headache of all while to the mother they are holy |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Host78(op): 8:02am On Jun 08*. Modified: 8:20am On Jun 08 |
If you've ever known what it means to teach a group of students, you'll know never to single yourself out as an example. Children learn at different paces. Some pick up reading in primary 3, some in primary 4 and some will never master it even after secondary school. Secondly, yes some teachers are not qualified. In fact I started teaching right after my waec while waiting for admission to the university. While I don't have the official qualification, there was nothing above me to teach the primary students. Maybe I could have been a better teacher if I had gotten the qualifications but at the time, I was the best option they had and so was employed. One of the teachers in the secondary school (we had jss 1-3) once called me to explain atoms to the students because in her words she didn't do science but is supposed to teach science. Same as another time a boy once argue with the female teacher and he was right but she kept insisting. I could have interfered but I never did. So yes, issues of qualifications are there. But they've always been there. My uncle who was a government primary school teacher back in the day and taught us, was retired from the army where he picked up reading from his colleagues. That was his only qualifications back then and he did the job well until his retirement. Teaching primary school is not some rocket science. Go to any primary school today, Most of their teachers are secondary school graduates trying to find their feet or waiting for admission. People are not as eager to teach your kids as much as you think. Because the pay is peanuts. I was earning 6k then a month plus teaching primary 5 (all subjects) and jss 1-3 their maths, basic science and intro tech (I was the only science student in the school). You think a graduate will be queuing up to accept such pay? Schools are scared of increasing school fees not to scare parents away. And so cannot pay these teachers well. The school owner later offered to bump my pay but then I became too tired and also had gotten my admission. Thirdly, most primary school especially in private schools today have extra lessons which starts immediately after school time (2-4pm). They are often mandatory nowadays and added to school fees. It's never because the teachers are terrible, it's more of an adopted practice. Even then, other schools do send their kids to our school then for the extra lesson especially those in public schools. They will go home, eat sharp and then come and join my class. I had about 4 of them. My younger sister after her normal school hour have her own lesson teacher who comes to our house as a private teacher. I really don't think you have a point, I'm just rather chanced today which is why I'm replying any and everyone. Weathered: |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Host78(op): 8:08am On Jun 08 |
I understand your point ma. Personally while teaching my mantra has always been never to draw blood or cause any form of bodily injury. In fact, any time I discipline the kids, I always start with the weakest one, you have to know how much he can bear (in my case it was a girl). She can cry eh. Also, if I'm a teacher today, honestly I'm never touching any child again whether they do anything, it's written notes only to their parents and the school management. It's not worth it at all. kenysbabe: |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Kalulu44: 8:29am On Jun 08 |
HacheNoire:You said it all. Where I am working now as a security. The owner of the house lives abroad. So recently she gave all the tenants (students) quit notice. After the last person has parked out. I went into the apartments and was clearing out what most of them left. I saw some literature books and some school projects. I kept those ones cus I love reading. It turns out the particular owner of those books is a Mass Communication students of Ogitech, Ogun state institute of Technology. . So I began reading most of the books especially her school projects and one particular book that her and her fellow mass com students made a biography about themselves. Guy you won't believe after reading, I got so angry that I felt like storming their school to find out the department that wrote those biographies. You won't believe mass com students can't construct and write in good English. I was just reading jargons that almost gave me brain damage. It was a book that contains eulogies about 10 mass com students, I can tell you for free that it's only one among all of them I could gladly say wrote hers well and I was able to enjoy her write up. . So just like you said, our education system in Nigeria is so bad that we are churning out dundies in the name of graduate. I for one dropped out of school in my 2nd year due to circumstances beyond my control back in 2004 and ventured into transportation business. But I can tell you for free, I can read and write very well. I can stand in front of any president, governor or whoever and express myself in good English. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Mattswaggz: 8:40am On Jun 08 |
SAMBARRY:Lol.....keep it up okay you'll soon be able to sleep better at night....this is called classic creating one's happiness....keep the entertainment going kiddo you'll soon be there. . |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Mattswaggz: 8:45am On Jun 08 |
SAMBARRY:Was such contract agreed upon by the school authorities and the parents to barb their child without their consent or there any law that permits such in Nigeria?. And also stop dodging my question and get straight to the point let me know the kind of person I am dealing with.....are you in support of extrajudicial justice system....Yes or No?. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by obyikye(f): 9:32am On Jun 08 |
Don't mind them. Gbadugbakun: |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by placeofallure(f): 9:51am On Jun 08 |
HacheNoire:Kudos to OP for a job well done. Teachers are seeing premium ṣege from parents cause I'm in the system. I don't know from what lens parents are viewing from; but why would a teacher single out a pupil with the intent of meting out hatred to them? It doesn't make sense! You see this rot has been in existence for long. I served in the year 2001. We, some Corp members, and I were in the Zonal Inspector's office, and one of us asked me if I could help her with a write-up on culture, a task assigned to her by her boss, who was serving with one of the state commissioners. I don't know why she asked me, but I collected the paper and in a few minutes, I was done. (Those were not AI days). I didn't know the ZI was eavesdropping on me. He asked to see the article afterwards and he nodded appreciatively. He went on to scold my friend wondering why she couldn't write a line by herself. I became the ZI's unofficial PA, he moved me from my PPA to some place close to his office. I did a lot of stuff for him. I became his friend such that I got away with many things, even going AWOL. He said there's nothing he couldn't do for me. He was stunned that many graduates couldn't even respond to a query. So that rot has been in existence for a long time, and dare I say it's getting worse now. There is practically no part of Nigeria that is untouched by the corruption that we now wear as a tag. Everybody needs to do better. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Chris225: 9:56am On Jun 08 |
Gbadugbakun:Stop using Europe as a moral compass Europe is in steep decline due to moral decadence It's annoying u kept using the "Europ" example What's enviable about their morality ? |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Chris225: 9:59am On Jun 08 |
HacheNoire:The thing is the teachers don't explore legal options cos if they do those parents would also be in jail for assault and battary |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Weathered: 10:10am On Jun 08 |
Host78:I was expecting you to turn your response into another class room moment and you didn't disappoint. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Major7: 10:11am On Jun 08 |
WatchYourSix:Thank God we're enjoying democracy,else military regime are more strict with orderliness. I don't support violence as I wasn't brought up in it,my dad only flogged me twice as a child till I grew up cos my parents prefer dialogue. If an adult wants to be treated like one then he/she should act like it |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by flexyrule(m): 11:30am On Jun 08 |
U Gbadugbakun:Ado atata ebot. First of all, you talked about receiving "emotional quotes" .... But in your post, you said that you will lock up a teacher for cutting your ward's hair.. What do you call that? Secondly, you are comparing Nigeria to Europe. Are you in Europe? Mtcheeewww. You're just making noise man! |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:27pm On Jun 08*. Modified: 1:48pm On Jun 08 |
Mattswaggz:I slept like a beautiful princess but I can't say the same about you since you've been doubling down on your tears,trying to push for parents disgracing themselves in their children's schools ![]() Parents that need parenting themselves ![]() And for the records, my children are in the university behaving decent and self respecting.results I get from their lecturers.i don't need to go to their school because I raised independent, decent,sensible children not the ones dressing like touts from secondary school with scruffy hair ![]() You sef try and rest.you don try ![]() Oyinbo wannabe, rest,you hear ![]() |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:28pm On Jun 08 |
Mattswaggz:if there was an existing law and the parents were informed but they still chose to disobey,why cry if e pain the parents that much take the matter to court.its as simple as that ![]() Na because we dey in a generation where pikin dey born pikin na wetin cause all these tears ![]() |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:30pm On Jun 08 |
flexyrule:leave am make he dey boast ![]() Na for social media chicken dey boast of having teeth and cats boasting of flying ![]() |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:32pm On Jun 08 |
Major7:exactly. |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:35pm On Jun 08 |
Chris225:exactly o.e don so master them that's why there's an influx of clueless and ignorant parents ![]() |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:38pm On Jun 08 |
Chris225:no mind .Europe wey don dey turn 3rd world country gradually |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by SAMBARRY: 1:42pm On Jun 08 |
placeofallure:the way some parents are feeling entitled to gross foolishness, they will soon pay teachers and principals for their kids to be doing exam at home while they're watching TV TV with a glass of drink.nor be all these premature parents wey dey sag trousers again? ![]() |
| Re: My Take On Parents Confronting Their Kid's Teachers As A Former Teacher by Mattswaggz: 1:57pm On Jun 08 |
SAMBARRY:Keep it up.....you're almost there kiddo.... don't stop, keep the firing burning okay. . |
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