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Women should Learn to build their men and their marriages. You are not a spare tyre in marriage, if the marriage was a luxury bus, you would be the assistant driver of the bus.

Let me tell you a true story but with made up names.

Let’s call her Lucy, she was a beautiful girl on campus and her boyfriend worshipped her to no extent. People referred to them as a couple cause everyone said they were going to end up marrying each other.

Then came along a guy, let’s call him Mike. Mike was a flashy guy on campus cause he was into business while schooling, so he had money to throw around to impress the babes. Lucy got distracted from her boyfriend and fell for Mike and within a month, they had done their introduction and marriage ceremony.
So for the next few years, the going was good, Mike’s business was doing well and they had money to go on lavish trips and all the things rich people do and then came the issues.

After more than 8 years of marriage, Lucy has decided to call it quits and her reason was Mike was not measuring up , that all his mates have left him behind.

All the years that business was good, Mike never built a house, he was still on rent. He never expanded the business nor diversify into other areas. Now Mike is broke and his wife, the mother of 3 kids has decided to quit the marriage and abandon the 3 kids with him.
She has left home and what she now does is to shuttle between Abuja , lagos and port attending parties that have “ odogus” attending.

Why didn’t Lucy advise Mike to get a house of their own when business was good?
Why didn’t she advise him to expand the business (she never took part in understanding the business)
Why didn’t she advise him to divisify or even set her up so they could both have good businesses running together?
Women, when your man is failing in certain areas, you need to subtly come in and help him plan the future for both of you . You are not a spare tyre, you are an equal partner in the development of the man and by extension the family.
Stop being selfish and self centered.

P/s the boyfriend is still broke and looking for a job, so this story is not about being faithful or contented with what you have at the moment, it’s about helping in building what you have now for the betterment of the family unit.

tnerro1:
Women should Learn to build their men and their marriages. You are not a spare tyre in marriage, if the marriage was a luxury bus, you would be the assistant driver of the bus.
Let me tell you a true story but with made up names.
Let’s call her Lucy, she was a beautiful girl on campus and her boyfriend worshipped her to no extent. People referred to them as a couple cause everyone said they were going to end up marrying each other.
Then came along a guy, let’s call him Mike. Mike was a flashy guy on campus cause he was into business while schooling, so he had money to throw around to impress the babes. Lucy got distracted from her boyfriend and fell for Mike and within a month, they had done their introduction and marriage ceremony.
So for the next few years, the going was good, Mike’s business was doing well and they had money to go on lavish trips and all the things rich people do and then came the issues.
After more than 8 years of marriage, Lucy has decided to call it quits and her reason was Mike was not measuring up , that all his mates have left him behind.
All the years that business was good, Mike never built a house, he was still on rent. He never expanded the business nor diversify into other areas. Now Mike is broke and his wife, the mother of 3 kids has decided to quit the marriage and abandon the 3 kids with him.
She has left home and what she now does is to shuttle between Abuja , lagos and port attending parties that have “ odogus” attending.
Why didn’t Lucy advise Mike to get a house of their own when business was good?
Why didn’t she advise him to expand the business (she never took part in understanding the business)
Why didn’t she advise him to divisify or even set her up so they could both have good businesses running together?
Women, when your man is failing in certain areas, you need to subtly come in and help him plan the future for both of you . You are not a spare tyre, you are an equal partner in the development of the man and by extension the family.
Stop being selfish and self centered.
P/s the boyfriend is still broke and looking for a job, so this story is not about being faithful or contented with what you have at the moment, it’s about helping in building what you have now for the betterment of the family unit.

This should be filed under the Tales by Moonlight section of things!

Kobojunkie:
This should be filed under the Tales by Moonlight section of things!

E go shock you, if I mention the university name, people wey dey during that period go code who I dey talk about.

That our girl is now an aspiring OS
That our guy don become single father of 3
And that our other guy still dey find solid job to hold on to.

tnerro1:
➜E go shock you, if I mention the university name, people wey dey during that period go code who I dey talk about.

None of that would be anything sensible to your argument because I can equally promise way more examples of women who did as you pretend they should have, only to end up regretting their so-called sacrifice.

So, excuse me for knowing Tales by Moonlight when I see it!

Kobojunkie:
None of that would be anything sensible to your argument because I can equally promise way more examples of women who did as you pretend they should have, only to end up regretting their so-called sacrifice.

So, excuse me for knowing Tales by Moonlight when I see it!

I leave you to your convictions, e no change anything..

tnerro1:
➜I leave you to your convictions, e no change anything..

It does! Stewpid stories such as the one in your OP is behind the suffering of millions of women across Africa, Nigeria included. These are not stories told of wisdom but rather tales formulated from the myopic hallucinations of the few fascinated by the foolish things of this life.

Bob the Builder
Always a beneficiary of the man you building tho

tnerro1:
Women should Learn to build their men and their marriages. You are ow for the betterment of the family unit.

Behind every successful man is a woman that is enjoying the money...did you hear where they said building the money with him?

Why don't you blame the man for his own incompetencies? A responsible married man with three kids should know he's supposed to save and spend money wisely, not foolishly and recklessly. If he lived a flashy and lavish lifestyle before marriage, he obviously continued these into the marriage. Perhaps the woman warned him and he didn't listen. I doubt she was cool with his lavish spending without inquiring about the source of his money, if he had savings, investments, etc. He probably had none but could've lied that they were fine. In any case, you should blame the man, not the woman.

Kobojunkie:
This should be filed under the Tales by Moonlight section of things!

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Kobo,my friend