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For a Yoruba list, I feel it is expensive.

Omo na inflation cause this one abi wetin?

Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.

Thie total expenditure on this list should be 2_3 million naira: this is still expensive in this kind of economy.

Aryafucksfinaly:
Covid-19 lockdown period was the best time to get married.

When did the cherry get popped? I can see you're a rookie

Somebody said it is very cheap except for the cow😂. I think I understand why the wife items is included in the list. 😂

There's nothing considerate about this list. A list that's above 2M? Please

kimjessey2019:
Somebody said it is very cheap except for the cow😂. I think I understand why the wife items is included in the list. 😂

They literally shattered the list with the inclusion of cow.

Mexyz:
Where in Owerri please?
My current girlfriend is from Owerri, Mbaise to be precise and I heard their bride price no be here o

You are obviously looking for attention. How on earth is Mbaise same as Owerri?

ElevationD:
Which one is “the typical Yoruba’s list”? You do marry before, or how many marriages have you attended? Or you think that marriage lists are the same across Yoruba land. Na so una go dey defend wetin una no sabi.

lolll
Yes, I don marry before and I know the Yoruba culture in and out. I studied it formally sef.

At least 60% of the items on that list aren't cultural.

In the Yoruba culture, nothing like bride's item section.

Imagine Maltina, 5alive, Coke, Goat, Cow in a Yoruba's bride's list?
The is even no alligator pepper on the list

Items on the list are symbolic. Yam, oil, salt, honey aren't because they would eat them. But apparently, things are changing which is even showing in the quantities of these items they now normalized these days.

Owo Omo Ile, Owo Omo Osu we know. What's Owo Okunrin Ile? I'm sure the elders in that family don go finish or they trusted a woke person to handle the list.

You can pick up even a secondary school Yoruba textbook and read up Asa Igbeyawo if you care to know the culture or use AI to generate a summary from academics sources.

Looks more like a freedom list actually

Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.

In the wretched economy of All Promises Cancelled, APC, any family that is not CONSIDERATE in their bride price risks keeping their daughters as spinsters forever.

It takes a lot of courage to marry a woman in Tinubu's extreme poverty and insecurity shege Nigeria.

anonimi:
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Has ur husband seen the one full cow on the list..how is this considerate u can't get a cow for less than 1m and he will still buy another one for the celebration there is nothing considerate here

This is still a lot.

Arostar2023:
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Very cheap except for the cow, abi? Maybe dem go thief the cow. There’s nothing cheap about what I am seeing up there. I married from Owerri, in the east, and I don’t believe I spent up to half of what is on that list. Btw, marriage list and rites depends on the bride’s family. No matter what the community set as whatever list, the bride’s family has the final say. There’s always a way of waving certain things aside.

Nah. Maybe the Groom is a Herdsman...so cow will be plenty for him to give one out

yemmit90:
Cow is not included in bride list items, but he will still buy it for the bride family and get the hall for the event. He will also buy matching clothes for bride parent. These are traditions in Yoruba land. If the bride family are rich,they can forgone it on their side but if they are not, he will pay for all the expenses of the wedding on bride family.

Don't say what you don't know. Initially, Yoruba tradition don't include cow in the wedding lists, those doing it copied the act from other tribes.
For wedding, the husband doesn't pay for the venue, the venue is paid for by the bride's family because they are the one hosting the groom's family. Unless the bride's family are wicked or poor.

Sonnobax15:

Imagine wasting this huge amount of money on a woman that was deflowered by another man

Honestly the cheapest marriage in the whole of Nigeria ought to be that of urhobo.

Yes u are right

Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.

Like with this list and everythibg gotten from the MAN ..the woman would still be claiming the children belong to her ? I dont get

I beg wetin cheap here? My Ika people in Delta State #100k you don marry good woman enter house.

Axis313:
It is very cheap except for that cow.
It is a Yoruba family,we Yorubas don't believe in selling our daughters in the name of bride price.

speak for yourself abeg

Edo and Delta have very cheap marriage list, but Urhobo you go buy enough drink sha

bukkani:
Yes u are right

I got married 2020 from my neighboring village what dey usually do is they bring list given to their son that got married from my village they will only touch some small things. Even though I didn't spend up to 300k our elders that accompany me from my village is still saying is too high that they keep the list when any of their son is coming for any of their daughters hand in marriage they will present the same list to them. This one is just neighboring village I don't know if the same list they give to an outsiders.

Which one be mother of Goat again

Stephen0mozzy:
There's a Cow there Sir. Not just any cow...but a WHOLE COW.

It is not a normal Yoruba bride price list. A COW is not a normal item in the list

DesireV:
lolll
Yes, I don marry before and I know the Yoruba culture in and out. I studied it formally sef.

At least 60% of the items on that list aren't cultural.

In the Yoruba culture, nothing like bride's item section.

Imagine Maltina, 5alive, Coke, Goat, Cow in a Yoruba's bride's list?
The is even no alligator pepper on the list

Items on the list are symbolic. Yam, oil, salt, honey aren't because they would eat them. But apparently, things are changing which is even showing in the quantities of these items they now normalized these days.

Owo Omo Ile, Owo Omo Osu we know. What's Owo Okunrin Ile? I'm sure the elders in that family don go finish or they trusted a woke person to handle the list.

You can pick up even a secondary school Yoruba textbook and read up Asa Igbeyawo if you care to know the culture or use AI to generate a summary from academics sources.

Looks more like a freedom list actually

“You can pick up even a secondary school Yoruba textbook and read up Asa Igbeyawo if you care to know the culture or use AI to generate a summary from academics sources”.

So you think Asa Igbeyawo is universal in Yorubaland?

Lists over all cultures are meant as guides and not final deciders in traditional marriages. Families choose whatever suits them. That’s why you find many either subtracting or adding, depending on circumstances, capacities and families. No one list is final when it comes to marriages.

Arostar2023:
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Very cheap except for the cow, abi? Maybe dem go thief the cow. There’s nothing cheap about what I am seeing up there. I married from Owerri, in the east, and I don’t believe I spent up to half of what is on that list. Btw, marriage list and rites depends on the bride’s family. No matter what the community set as whatever list, the bride’s family has the final say. There’s always a way of waving certain things aside.

This is what I keep telling them. I think Igbos just have bad PR. Marriage list depends on community and family. My sister was married and the list was so cheap. Nothing close to this. But everyday, they scream Igbos have expensive list and that, I keep laughing, even Akwa Ibom list will humble U. It is crazy how Igbos have very terrible PR.

Arostar2023:
You are obviously looking for attention. How on earth is Mbaise same as Owerri?

How exactly am I looking for attention?
Whose attention exactly?

Yes Owerri is not the same as Mbaise but they are all from Imo State.
Just a simple sentence like, Mbaise is quite different from Owerri but this and that is what I know about Mbaise.

And I must have gained something, you just decided to go on the offensive.
Make una sha dey take am easy, I know everybody now is just showing where to pour their frustration because of the bitting economy.

Neoteny:
Hungry families.

Half the list is food.

In the North, the bride's family provides the food items to last the couple months, as well as essential and quality-of-life items like the beds, sofas, curtains, kitchenware, dining table and such.

All the groom does is pay the dowry, and find a place to stay. The wife's family furnishes it and provides the chow.

please find me a good Northern girl to marry sir, Igbo girls' and their family's wahala just too much abeg.

Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.

Were our forefathers drinking malt and coke those days? Did they use Ecolac ?


Some of the lists need to be reviewed

meobizy:
If she’s worth it, he will pay. There are many women in society, hardly wives. No wonder men are settling to be baby daddies. The economy is not smiling.

There’s one guy who would add… if she’s a virgin

Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.

I'm from Igarra in Edo state, everything listed in our bride price if converted to cash is not up to 150k and I meant every bit of this cos our last born the last to get married in the family wedded this past Easter.

This list right here is comparable to what many Igbos require from the groom.

Exactly, he should just be grateful. Even among the most expensive marriage rite states like Anambra and Imo State....if you meet a liberal family and you are a very good guy yourself.....the way they would step down your stress of marriage rite requirements would shock even the devil himself.....it's personal experience........marriage rite requirements depends on individual family you are marrying into......most educated and logical family wouldn't want to bother you with expensive requirements and even if they do, might just be on paper but will be waived at the backyard......some would tell you to bring a Mother and father cow but only on paper to make outsider feel otherwise......

Easyincome24:
Good luck to you man. Your in-law must be nice as it's not all SS that are cheap as you mentioned. Just be grateful.

Axis313:
It is very cheap except for that cow.
It is a Yoruba family,we Yorubas don't believe in selling our daughters in the name of bride price.

no, it's not cheap compeard to what's obtainable in my part of Edo state. 150k covers everything in bride price when converted to cash. The cow alone has made it comparable to the most outrageous ones in South East.

Mrchippychappy:
That list is very cheap.

If e reach your turn, use bottle of groundnut and 12 garden egg as bride price for your pikin

Many cultures don't even collect dowries again, except Africans and part of Asia. So, what are you on about?