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LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

eepeepook:
I’m joking because your thread is pointless. Tradition dictates that men should be the head of the home. It is not so in many cases. There are some households where the abused child is the woman’s relative. Once the man tries to put things in order, a family meeting is called where her uncles and aunts will choose to berate his authority. We all know once bitten, twice shy. The man will look away and do his thing. Also, the husband wasn’t the one who did the abusing. What concerns him in the matter?

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

Jman06:
There's no basis to arrest the spouse of the culprit in a domestic violence. It's just like saying that the spouses or relatives of those who commit crimes should be arrested. That doesn't make sense at all! When I heard of the husband of the Anambra woman being arrested, I immediately knew it was people like you who are always quick to call for the heads of men in every unpleasant situation that must have triggered his arrest. This is because, unless the woman was not there at the time and perhaps the police decided to hold the man pending when the woman gets arrested, there's no basis for arresting the man when the child already identified the one who abused him.

Feldie:
you are just trying to rope men into women's crimes. I have seen my sisters totally bodied their own children as though were doing some sort of guerilla warfare. Now imagine what they would do if they had strange kids living with them. In fact my eldest sister lived with my half sister as a child and she beat her up every day but didn't do it when the husband was around. Yes she'd still scold and berate her but won't go full commando when he's around. She still tells the story sometimes and never says anything bad about the man. She has no reason to lie since they're both dead. If these children were being abused by the men they would say so when being questioned by the police but they never do.

Jman06:
There's no basis to arrest the spouse of the culprit in a domestic violence. It's just like saying that the spouses or relatives of those who commit crimes should be arrested. That doesn't make sense at all! When I heard of the husband of the Anambra woman being arrested, I immediately knew it was people like you who are always quick to call for the heads of men in every unpleasant situation that must have triggered his arrest. This is because, unless the woman was not there at the time and perhaps the police decided to hold the man pending when the woman gets arrested, there's no basis for arresting the man when the child already identified the one who abused him.

dominique:
It's the way you want the husband look like a helpless victim in all these. What makes you think he's also not partaking in the abuse? A man can beat up his wife, his kids but not the help? Puhleeese! In fact, not only is he beating up the child help, he's tampering with her down below too. That's why such men would never want their wives to return the little girls.

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.

What do you guys think?

BarrElChapo:
This is not what the law says. You cannot hold a person for another person’s crime except they are an accessory or accomplice to the commission of that crime or they stood surety for such persons for their bail. That practice is bad policing.

LeopardX:
I'm talking about child abuse here, man.
A child has no agency of his or her own.
At least a woman can walk away if she's had enough. She's an adult.
But a child? C'mon man!!!

I'm very sure you won't stand by and let your wife brutalize a child for any reason. So I believe you're just joking.

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

kingthreat:
Wives of men who sexually abuse younger girls should also be arrested.

eepeepook:
I’m joking because your thread is pointless. Tradition dictates that men should be the head of the home. It is not so in many cases. There are some households where the abused child is the woman’s relative. Once the man tries to put things in order, a family meeting is called where her uncles and aunts will choose to berate his authority. We all know once bitten, twice shy. The man will look away and do his thing. Also, the husband wasn’t the one who did the abusing. What concerns him in the matter?

Reference:
And what happens in the all too common domestic incidents of rape and other sexual vices perpetuated by men (since we have decided to digress and make this a gender confrontation). Should the woman be arrested and charged. Won't the argument become one of, 'oh she wasn't aware he was doing all that'.

PulaPower:
Trash from Hypocrite..

So if a man is a soldier or navy or any other job, that barely stays home, such man should also be penalized?

Men will not be penalized for a crime committed by their wives..

FAFO

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

Feldie:
you are just trying to rope men into women's crimes. I have seen my sisters totally bodied their own children as though were doing some sort of guerilla warfare. Now imagine what they would do if they had strange kids living with them. In fact my eldest sister lived with my half sister as a child and she beat her up every day but didn't do it when the husband was around. Yes she'd still scold and berate her but won't go full commando when he's around. She still tells the story sometimes and never says anything bad about the man. She has no reason to lie since they're both dead. If these children were being abused by the men they would say so when being questioned by the police but they never do.

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

dominique:
You're the one that wants to absolve men from child abuse and your excuses are not going to crawl not to talk of fly. Men that commit at least 90% of the violent crimes in the society suddenly become timid puppies on the homefront? Abegi! I have seen and I'm still seeing firsthand the maltreatment children face living with another family from BOTH couples. In fact the one I'm currently witnessing is a nephew of the husband. The wife sends the poor boy on errands she would never send her children and the husband beats him over any slight mistake. The boy went to a neighbour to collect phone to call his dad crying that he should come and take him away from there. His father pleaded with him to endure, the couple are only training him to become a better person. Don't come here and exonorate husbands from the harms being inflicted on child helps, they're also partakers if not even the main perpetrators.

LeopardX:
I'm talking about child abuse here, man.
A child has no agency of his or her own.
At least a woman can walk away if she's had enough. She's an adult.
But a child? C'mon man!!!

I'm very sure you won't stand by and let your wife brutalize a child for any reason. So I believe you're just joking.

MrSly:
No he will beat the wife is she insists. Or step out to report to the police and comeback probably seeing a dead child, with absconded wife. You argument doesn't hold at all and will never happen except when the man is proven to be an accomplice.

eepeepook:
I’m joking because your thread is pointless. Tradition dictates that men should be the head of the home. It is not so in many cases. There are some households where the abused child is the woman’s relative. Once the man tries to put things in order, a family meeting is called where her uncles and aunts will choose to berate his authority. We all know once bitten, twice shy. The man will look away and do his thing. Also, the husband wasn’t the one who did the abusing. What concerns him in the matter?
I'm not in support of legally arresting the husband but then truth is these things happened under your roof and you cannot say you didn't know. I haven't have a maid in my house now for more than 10 years because I never liked how my wife relates with our house helps, it was like seeing a different her whenever she has a help around and I decided she will never employ another person under our roof. I took my stand and we have survived without a help.. The kids are grown now and we are good.. My point is we as men can do a lot to stop such occurrences if you decide to man up and take a stand.