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Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by isio1: 10:04am On Jun 25
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Imagine wasting this huge amount of money on a woman that was deflowered by another man angry

Honestly the cheapest marriage in the whole of Nigeria ought to be that of urhobo.
The bride price of the Urhuobo's, especially the Delta Central is so cheap that with less than N300,000 - N500,000 you are done.

Reception Party after the traditional marriage rites is at your discretion, not a task. The father and mother clothings are just the most costly items on the list.

And the Urhuobo brides are very respectful, responsible and hard-working ladies.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by LARRYOBRAIN(m): 10:14am On Jun 25
It is there 1 Maalu (Cow)
yemmit90:
Cow is not included in bride list items, but he will still buy it for the bride family and get the hall for the event. He will also buy matching clothes for bride parent. These are traditions in Yoruba land. If the bride family are rich,they can forgone it on their side but if they are not, he will pay for all the expenses of the wedding on bride family.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by lightwind(m): 10:26am On Jun 25
Only 1 cow alone is 1.4 million naira.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ogwuche4u(m): 10:28am On Jun 25
goslowgoslow:
Mr stop talking thrash! In Yoruba land the wifes side spend more on all these things, they are basically the ones that takes care of the reception of course the husband can assist. I bet you are probably not a Yoruba man or your are from a greedy family that doesn't follow the true Yoruba tradition.
Will you buy 1 whole maalu for bride's family?
What is 1 whole maalu doing on that list? Which kind yeye thing is that?
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Neoteny(m):
Robertgreene1:
please find me a good Northern girl to marry sir, Igbo girls' wahala just too much abeg.
Meanwhile i want to marry an igbo girl 😂

Problem with northern girl (Hausas have the culture i mentioned) is religious issues. The women are forbidden from marrying non-muslims, though the men can marry Christians and Jews.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by lightwind(m): 10:40am On Jun 25
SUNNINO:
I beg wetin cheap here? My Ika people in Delta State #100k you don marry good woman enter house.
Where abeg bros 🙏 connect me
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Kalaba(m): 10:50am On Jun 25
Mynd44:
I know someone who got married and her dad gave her a list to give her husband to be and told her to edit it as she wants to the financial capacity of her husband.

That was considerate. This Iwo list is nonsense
This is very commendable.

In Igbo land, your parents can't even influence anything on that list.

Please, experienced igbos should enlighten me on this, thanks.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Babangidapikin: 10:52am On Jun 25
How much is Cow now? before I comment my reserve .

The Baseline Budget (Modest/Economical): ~₦1,740,500
This covers the ₦70,000 fixed cash tokens and targets a standard-sized cow, local market sourcing for textiles, and budget-friendly local staples.
The Premium Budget (High-End/Grand Celebration): ~₦3,029,000+
This accounts for a massive ceremonial bull, high-quality lace/textiles, top-tier premium food brands, and upscale household gift sets.

Culled Gemini

This is before the main Owanbe o
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by donmik: 10:54am On Jun 25
Na Yoruba Muslim family be this o. It's understood to be within range


Na when they want do the main occasion u go spend for public say tey your dad and mum go escape from the occasion if na Christian Yoruba

Nigerian marriage rites discourag the youths from settling doown and the govt always reasons with its anus to help in devising meaningful policies
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by donmik: 10:55am On Jun 25
Kalaba:
This is very commendable.

In Igbo land, your parents can't even influence anything on that list.

Please, experienced igbos should enlighten me on this, thanks.
The Igbo marriage is only for the Igbos o. If you go, you go hear am and remember me later
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by BarrElChapo(m): 10:57am On Jun 25
hopexter:
This one is worst that selling, this is trade by barter. All these kind of list makes you loose interest in your partner. 41 tubers of yam, one cow and 1 goat is almost 4 million for 3 items for a traditional wedding, you’ll still spend for court or church wedding and ceremonies, rent an event centre, hire caterers, pay for food, drinks, music and dj and buy suite for yourself and your groom’s men, you will also buy bridal gowns for your bride and bride’s maids before renting a flat where you’ll begin your new marriage, all expenses on one person. You’ll need 46 to 50 million naira to have a successful wedding in Nigeria in this hard times, more reasons why a lot of women will not get married if they keep supporting this useless marriage list.
In which world is 1 cow 1 goat and 41 tubers of yam 4 million?
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by BarrElChapo(m): 11:06am On Jun 25
Mexyz:
How exactly am I looking for attention?
Whose attention exactly?

Yes Owerri is not the same as Mbaise but they are all from Imo State.
Just a simple sentence like, Mbaise is quite different from Owerri but this and that is what I know about Mbaise.

And I must have gained something, you just decided to go on the offensive.
Make una sha dey take am easy, I know everybody now is just showing where to pour their frustration because of the bitting economy.
There is a reason why even people from imo state avoid marrying from mbaise. Leave mbaise for mbaise.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by BarrElChapo(m): 11:08am On Jun 25
sagitariusbaby:
I'm from Igarra in Edo state, everything listed in our bride price if converted to cash is not up to 150k and I meant every bit of this cos our last born the last to get married in the family wedded this past Easter.

This list right here is comparable to what many Igbos require from the groom.
Many Igbos ? How many Igbos have you married? Go and read pages one and two of this tread and see people saying that Edo list is very expensive.

If you know anything about Igbo list you will know list varies from umu nna to umu nna. It’s not an Igbo thing.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by BarrElChapo(m): 11:10am On Jun 25
Kalaba:
This is very commendable.

In Igbo land, your parents can't even influence anything on that list.

Please, experienced igbos should enlighten me on this, thanks.
There’s no place where there isn’t a compromise. Know that
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ariesbull: 11:15am On Jun 25
That doesn't make it cheap ...either way !
Axis313:
It is very cheap except for that cow.
It is a Yoruba family,we Yorubas don't believe in selling our daughters in the name of bride price.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ariesbull: 11:15am On Jun 25
Cow is 150k
sagitariusbaby:
I'm from Igarra in Edo state, everything listed in our bride price if converted to cash is not up to 150k and I meant every bit of this cos our last born the last to get married in the family wedded this past Easter.

This list right here is comparable to what many Igbos require from the groom.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by MrJeremy: 11:41am On Jun 25
All of all these for a non virgin is the dumbest thing a man can do or pay for.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Robertgreene1(m): 11:45am On Jun 25
Neoteny:
Meanwhile i want to marry an igboe girl 😂

Problem with northern girl (Hausas have the culture i mentioned) is religious issues. The women are forbidden from marrying non-muslims, though the men can marry Christians and Jews.
ln that regards bro, we can do counter-balance, l find you a good lgbo girl to marry down here, you find me a good Hausa girl to marry over there. Deal? smiley
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by sharone21(f): 11:57am On Jun 25
Affordable bride price places in South South:

Edo

Urhobo/ Isoko

ANIOMA- SIMILAR list as above....Though, it depends on the community and family

Bride price may be cheap/ affordable but the things you buy on the list makes it appear expensive.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by TheGift: 12:24pm On Jun 25
Stephen0mozzy:
Congratulations to her, and well done to the family if they really modified the list 🤗 - but she no trust the guy to buy her stuff after the marriage? You know how much the wife items section go cost? 🤣

One whole maluu and iya goat don near or pass 1.5m

I think the South South still has the cheapest bride list - God bless my babe family 😁

Modified:
Alot of you have mentioned me, telling me how Akwaibom is expensive. Shey dem tell una say Akwa Ibom is the only state in the South-South?

Meanwhile, just so you know, bride price can actually be adjusted to your financial capacity if you're not marrying into a Hungry and sha__me-less family.
You said South South, so stop complaining about people calling you out, with Akwa Ibom. Just accept that you generalized and then be more specific. Thats all.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Neoteny(m): 12:25pm On Jun 25
Robertgreene1:
ln that regards bro, we can do counter-balance, l find you a good lgbo girl to marry down here, you find me a good Hausa girl to marry over there. Deal? smiley
I'm game, except it'd be difficult to find a traditional hausa family who'd go against the religious rule of not marrying a non-muslim 😢

It's just one of the quirks of religion.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Exceed15: 1:53pm On Jun 25
Just don't marry into a struggling family
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by gunners160(m): 1:57pm On Jun 25
Mrchippychappy:
That list is very cheap.

If e reach your turn, use bottle of groundnut and 12 garden egg as bride price for your pikin
Please define cheap. How would you call these cheap. Una wicked ooo.....
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by hopexter(m): 2:16pm On Jun 25
BarrElChapo:
In which world is 1 cow 1 goat and 41 tubers of yam 4 million?
1 cow is 1.5 to 2 million naira while goat is 250 to 500k. Calculate 41 tubers of yam. That is not even part of your own expenses for feeding your own wedding guests, plus JD. lol
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by BarrElChapo(m): 2:56pm On Jun 25
hopexter:
1 cow is 1.5 to 2 million naira while goat is 250 to 500k. Calculate 41 tubers of yam. That is not even part of your own expenses for feeding your own wedding guests, plus JD. lol
Go and read your comment. You said those 3 items were 4m.

With less than 100k you’ll get very sizeable 41 tubers of yam so by your calculations we’re talking 2.6m and this is an extreme amount because definitely we can get those items for way less.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by expert234: 2:58pm On Jun 25
Easyincome24:
Unlike what some families bill their would be son-inlaws, this lady was grateful for her family being considerable by cutting down the expenses on her bride list.
How much do you know about Islam and the fiake book called Quran?
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ibrahimawelo12(m): 3:09pm On Jun 25
Does items no much nah,
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Robertgreene1(m): 4:39pm On Jun 25
Neoteny:
I'm game, except it'd be difficult to find a traditional hausa family who'd go against the religious rule of not marrying a non-muslim 😢

It's just one of the quirks of religion.
I don't mind converting to lslam if l don't even find better girl bro. Who religion help huh Religion wey be Foreigners' own not even our own sef. So be searching for me over there, while l'm searching for you down here. Whoever finds a good one first should inform the other person cheesy
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by yemmit90: 4:40pm On Jun 25
goslowgoslow:
Mr stop talking thrash! In Yoruba land the wifes side spend more on all these things, they are basically the ones that takes care of the reception of course the husband can assist. I bet you are probably not a Yoruba man or your are from a greedy family that doesn't follow the true Yoruba tradition.
Lolz, so when you did your own, you and your people just carried battalion of guests go chop withiout dropping Kobo for bride family? We have done six weddings so far in recent time in my family, I also have so many people who has done wedding that I attended, and that is the same way all went through. The last one we did, bride father is even a rich person but the groom still gave cow, bought atires for bride parent and rented hall.

I've never seen where groom and his people will just take only dowry and bride items to weeding hall withiout contributing anything to the process on bride side.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by Chris225: 6:30pm On Jun 25
Stephen0mozzy:
Congratulations to her, and well done to the family if they really modified the list 🤗 - but she no trust the guy to buy her stuff after the marriage? You know how much the wife items section go cost? 🤣

One whole maluu and iya goat don near or pass 1.5m

I think the South South still has the cheapest bride list - God bless my babe family 😁

Modified:
Alot of you have mentioned me, telling me how Akwaibom is expensive. Shey dem tell una say Akwa Ibom is the only state in the South-South?

Meanwhile, just so you know, bride price can actually be adjusted to your financial capacity if you're not marrying into a Hungry and sha__me-less family.
Omo 1 whole cow is expensive oo
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ultraviolet27(f): 6:49pm On Jun 25
That's not a typical yoruba bride list what is maltina,five alive,coke, doing in eru iyawo?or na ebina I never chop family dem be? it's the brides family who will get that to entertain the groom's families and her guests.And that shouldn't be included in the bride price and items given to the husband to be!

Even the cow fee will be shared between the 2 families and if the husband's family is well to do he can shoulder the purchase of the cow alone but it will never be included in the brides lists when did osun sub tribe of yoruba start potraying hunger? imagine almost half of the items on the list are edibles my brother married in 2021 to an ilesa osun state girl and never was he asked to buy a goat nor a cattle.

My younger sister getting married in ekiti on december in bride's list there wasn't anywhere a goat,cattle,malt,soft drinks,five alive or chivita were included in it,Yes the groom's family is supplying the cow but no time or no where was he forced to shoulder the responsibility alone.
Re: A Would Be Bride Shows Off Her Family's Bride List by ultraviolet27(f): 6:58pm On Jun 25
yemmit90:
Lolz, so when you did your own, you and your people just carried battalion of guests go chop withiout dropping Kobo for bride family? We have done six weddings so far in recent time in my family, I also have so many people who has done wedding that I attended, and that is the same way all went through. The last one we did, bride father is even a rich person but the groom still gave cow, bought atires for bride parent and rented hall.

I've never seen where groom and his people will just take only dowry and bride items to weeding hall withiout contributing anything to the process on bride side.
The brides parents clothes will be bought by the bride alone or the expenses be shared by the 2 couples it won't fall on the groom alone no matter how poor the groom's parents are same with the cow but if the groom wishes to buy the cow alone he won't be disuaded.

So what will the brides family now spend on their daughter? when all the expenses are shouldered by the groom?that is exploitation, greed and lack of dignity on the bride's side of the family maybe you have been meeting greedy in-laws how are they now different from the eastern side we say their marriage is expensive even there the groom don't buy the cow and almost all the brides house hold utensils and requirements for marital life are purchased by the bride's family.
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