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folake4u:
The fact that he referred to what he's providing for his wife as "rubbish", and him resorting to seeking external happiness.

I think that refers to how she looks at him and the food. It is more of figurative. As for seeking external happiness, that one na normal Naija man MO. They find a new wife or gf ASAP.

Chijeep:
To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.

Talk to a marriage counsellor or your parents

chidifrank:
no one is fighting a war here but you see gender based, man and woman are different. There is a reason the devil spoke with the woman and not the man . I will leave u with that

Here we go...Give the man the advice he seeks...then go comfort yourself with what you know be the reason the devil spoke with Eve. Happy now?

[quote author=Chijeep post=139841213]"I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her."


I think this your statement is completely wrong. It suggests that you've already given up instead of being willing to fight for what you both share. This is the time she needs reassurance and encouragement from you, not an open invitation to leave.

Every marriage goes through seasons of financial challenges, especially in the beginning. Rather than telling her she's free to quit, remind her that you're both a team and that you'll overcome those challenges together. Let her know that you're committed to building a great future with her, no matter how difficult things may seem right now. Encourage her not to give up on the love and commitment you both share, but to stand with you as you work together toward something beautiful.

pocohantas:
I think that refers to how she looks at him and the food. It is more of figurative. As for seeking external happiness, that one na normal Naija man MO. They find a new wife or gf ASAP.

Hmmm alright then.

I wish him the best his sojourn.

EmpressTitan:
Get tf of my mention.

Next time don't address any member mannerlessly.

chidifrank:
you be man come dy reason like woman . Okay now I know , u are not man enough . You will get your reward soon . Continue dy reason this way . Weakie

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I can see
You are really frustrated.
Women don show you signs and wonders
I wish quick recovery

EmpressTitan:
re you so stvpid to not comprehend my post? Scurry along little boy...i don't have time for your tantrums. I said get tf off my mention.

Next time, try to pretend like someone who has manners. Stop insulting people. It's a bad behaviour.

Both of you got caught up with initial adrenaline and fantasies of love that you forgot to look at other important sides.
Now you are seeing the real her is not what you expected. Best advice that I can give is for both of you to see a professional marriage counselor not pastors ooo. Maybe a marriage counselor would help.

StoryHaven:
Next time, try to pretend like someone who has manners. Stop insulting people. It's a bad behaviour.

okay mommy! People have to pretend they have manners now? Noted. Anything else?

EmpressTitan:
okay mommy! People have to pretend they have manners now? Noted. Anything else?

Good!
Good girl, Keep pretending.

StoryHaven:
Good!
Good girl, Keep pretending.

You'd know about that now, wouldn't you?

Are u a man or woman or eleriibu??

EmpressTitan:
Amazing the way you speak of your wife behind her back! Imagine what you may have been saying to her or your treatment of her. It may just not be about what you are able to provide... possibly your capacity to be a husband, talk more of a good husband.

The last line of your third paragraph ("but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided") is a pointer you should examine thoroughly.

Chijeep:
To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.