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I Will Not Have Children Until I Become Rich

Many people may disagree with me, but I believe bringing children into poverty is one of the most selfish decisions a person can make.

For generations, society has told us that having children is a natural part of life. People are encouraged to start families even when they struggle to pay rent, afford healthcare, or provide quality education. Then, when the children suffer from lack of opportunities, society calls it "destiny."

I reject that mindset.

I refuse to have children until I am financially successful. Not because I hate children, but because I respect them. Every child deserves more than survival. They deserve security, education, healthcare, and opportunities to pursue their dreams.

Some people say, "If you wait until you're rich, you'll never have children." My response is simple: if I cannot provide the life I believe a child deserves, why should I rush to become a parent?

Others argue that love is enough. Love is important, but love does not pay school fees. Love does not put food on the table. Love does not cover medical bills.

The harsh truth is that many people have children because they want emotional fulfillment, not because they are truly prepared for the responsibility. The child then becomes the one who pays the price.

Parenthood should not be measured by age or social pressure. It should be measured by readiness.

So yes, my position is controversial: I would rather be criticized for waiting too long than regret bringing a child into a situation where I cannot give them the best possible start in life.

What do you think? Is financial success a requirement for parenthood, or is this mindset taking things too far?

Among SENSIBLE people, this is NOT an unpopular opinion.

NOBODY should be having kids they CANNOT cater for.

You CANNOT be living from hand to mouth and then add ANOTHER mouth to that equation.

That's a recipe for DISASTER.

The worst part is people advise to marry that children are blessing

Namaster:
Among SENSIBLE people, this is NOT an unpopular opinion.

NOBODY should be having kids they CANNOT cater for.

You CANNOT be living from hand to mouth and then add ANOTHER mouth to that equation.

That's a recipe for DISASTER.

Obogidi:
I Will Not Have Children Until I Become Rich

Many people may disagree with me, but I believe bringing children into poverty is one of the most selfish decisions a person can make.

For generations, society has told us that having children is a natural part of life. People are encouraged to start families even when they struggle to pay rent, afford healthcare, or provide quality education. Then, when the children suffer from lack of opportunities, society calls it "destiny."

I reject that mindset.

I refuse to have children until I am financially successful. Not because I hate children, but because I respect them. Every child deserves more than survival. They deserve security, education, healthcare, and opportunities to pursue their dreams.

Some people say, "If you wait until you're rich, you'll never have children." My response is simple: if I cannot provide the life I believe a child deserves, why should I rush to become a parent?

Others argue that love is enough. Love is important, but love does not pay school fees. Love does not put food on the table. Love does not cover medical bills.

The harsh truth is that many people have children because they want emotional fulfillment, not because they are truly prepared for the responsibility. The child then becomes the one who pays the price.

Parenthood should not be measured by age or social pressure. It should be measured by readiness.

So yes, my position is controversial: I would rather be criticized for waiting too long than regret bringing a child into a situation where I cannot give them the best possible start in life.

What do you think? Is financial success a requirement for parenthood, or is this mindset taking things too far?

it's your life n your decision

U can do anything u like with it

In life, ur life is like a movie in which u are playing the lead role...it depends on how u play it

Obogidi:
The worst part is people advise to marry that children are blessing

Only CRAZY people believe that.
Especially those BRAINWASHED by religion.

A poor man will marry an even POORER woman and start POPPING OUT kids like rabbits all because they want to "be fruitful and multiply".

After taking such a TERRIBLE decision, they'll end up sending those "blessings" away to an uncle or aunty that are BARELY scraping by themselves.

Then we'll hear stories of how said uncles and aunties SEXUALLY or physically ABUSE those children.

Having children without FINANCIAL SECURITY is EVIL and STEWPID.

Wise talk OP. My opinion also. It is indeed very selfish to bring into the world children you cannot cater for adequately.

I would go further to say men should prioritise having a decent degree of success/wealth and career progress before marrying because "love is not enough".

When a man and his wife are struggling, the love can quickly turn to hate, resentment, animosity, infidelity and , eventually, divorce.

In this day and age, smart men understand the need to be financially successful or at least afloat. It is the basis for a good life.

Namaster:
Having children without FINANCIAL SECURITY is EVIL and STEWPID.

Absolutely. What is the main problem of Nigeria today if not the Almajiri children now being absorbed into banditry and terror cells?

I have said it several times here that Nigeria must initiate an official family planning policy because we need productive human resources i.e children who become adults capable of producing solutions because they are well-educated and catered for properly.

Not begging from age two across Nigeria. The realities we are refusing to confront is what is destroying Nigeria today.

We can all remember that China initiated a one child per family policy family when the nation decided that such was needed to tackle how population growth was outstripping available resources.

Having children that cannot be educated and catered for adequately only creates menaces to society. We all dey chop that breakfast today with banditry and terrorism.

Namaster:
Among SENSIBLE people, this is NOT an unpopular opinion.

NOBODY should be having kids they CANNOT cater for.

You CANNOT be living from hand to mouth and then add ANOTHER mouth to that equation.

That's a recipe for DISASTER.

Indeed. Sad as it is to admit, and even as some will be uncomfortable with this truth, one of the major problem of Nigeria is how Northerners have children they cannot cater for and pawn into the Almajiri system.

You are 💯% correct. Sensible and responsible adults know it is wrong to bring a child you cannot cater for adequately into the world.

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Obogidi:
I Will Not Have Children Until I Become Rich

Many people may disagree with me, but I believe bringing children into poverty is one of the most selfish decisions a person can make.

For generations, society has told us that having children is a natural part of life. People are encouraged to start families even when they struggle to pay rent, afford healthcare, or provide quality education. Then, when the children suffer from lack of opportunities, society calls it "destiny."

I reject that mindset.

I refuse to have children until I am financially successful. Not because I hate children, but because I respect them. Every child deserves more than survival. They deserve security, education, healthcare, and opportunities to pursue their dreams.

Some people say, "If you wait until you're rich, you'll never have children." My response is simple: if I cannot provide the life I believe a child deserves, why should I rush to become a parent?

Others argue that love is enough. Love is important, but love does not pay school fees. Love does not put food on the table. Love does not cover medical bills.

The harsh truth is that many people have children because they want emotional fulfillment, not because they are truly prepared for the responsibility. The child then becomes the one who pays the price.

Parenthood should not be measured by age or social pressure. It should be measured by readiness.

So yes, my position is controversial: I would rather be criticized for waiting too long than regret bringing a child into a situation where I cannot give them the best possible start in life.

What do you think? Is financial success a requirement for parenthood, or is this mindset taking things too far?

I support you 100%.

Majority of Africa still believe in children are blessing not responsibility, there subjecting innocent children to harsh reality of the world,
the only advice I want now is how to make money not advice on adding to my problem,

Namaster:
Only CRAZY people believe that.
Especially those BRAINWASHED by religion.

A poor man will marry an even POORER woman and start POPPING OUT kids like rabbits all because they want to "be fruitful and multiply".

After taking such a TERRIBLE decision, they'll end up sending those "blessings" away to an uncle or aunty that are BARELY scraping by themselves.

Then we'll hear stories of how said uncles and aunties SEXUALLY or physically ABUSE those children.

Having children without FINANCIAL SECURITY is EVIL and STEWPID.

So you support that children are blessing for this modern world

BATified2023:
it's your life n your decision

U can do anything u like with it

In life, ur life is like a movie in which u are playing the lead role...it depends on how u play it

Obogidi:
So you support that children are blessing for this modern world

where did u see me type that?

U said something n I said it's your life n your decision so u can do anything with it

U can even decide not to have kids, it's not a crime n police no fit arrest u because of that

U ain't d first n u won't b d last

It's your life.....live it

You sound like you are against it,

BATified2023:
where did u see me type that?

U said something n I said it's your life n your decision so u can do anything with it

U can even decide not to have kids, it's not a crime n police no fit arrest u because of that

U ain't d first n u won't b d last

It's your life.....live it