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omoredia:
This one go soon turn old cargo. We must do away with the Adeboye faIse teachings against polygamy. If we Christian men dont marry more to help our sisters na bandits and terrorists go marry them oo. Adeboye is not for our progress

Did Adeboye ever hold a gun to your head and tell you not to marry more than one wife?

There is still hope for you. Your very man go locate you but work on your character dear.

Ofunaofu:
Everything Is Dawning On Me-Phyna Laments As She Nears 30 Without Getting Married

Former Big Brother Naija winner Phyna has shared how growing older has changed her views on marriage, admitting that she now sees things differently as she approaches her 30th birthday.

In a video posted on her Instagram Story, the reality TV star reflected on turning 29 and said she is beginning to understand life from a different perspective.

According to Phyna, when she was 22 or 23 years old, she thought 29 was still a long way off. Now that she has reached that age, she says many things are becoming clearer to her.

She also admitted that she used to wonder why some women in their early 30s were not married, believing at the time that something was wrong with them.

However, she said age and experience have changed her mindset, and she now realizes that there is nothing wrong with being unmarried in your early 30s.

Phyna explained that many of the women she once judged were simply living their lives, and their marital status did not define them.

She said, “I’m just thinking out loud. I remember when I was 22, 23 then, you know, 29 was so far away, but now this is 29 and everything is just dawning on me.

“I remember that time all those my aunties that were like in their early 30s that they are not married. I’d be like, ‘Auntie, you no go marry? Auntie, you no marry?’ Like then it was looking like the auntie get problem.

“Guys. Guys. We sef don dey touch am o. Auntie no get problem. I swear. Our aunties, they did have problem. No single problem.


https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailymirror.ng/everything-is-dawning-on-me-phyna-laments-as-she-nears-30-without-getting-married/

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Lamentation at 30? Too soon.
40 will come like a flash. By then all the zaddies will be with young ones. Auntie then finds the Lord, spends time in churches hoping to snap a gullible bloke.

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There's nothing to be afraid of my dear, 30 is just a number or at a best another milestone.

“The age’s between 27 and 30 are subliminally the most stressful for women as the realization sinks in that they must trade their ‘party years’ short term mating protocol for a long term provisioning strategy.” - Rational Male

"Short term schedules facilitate breeding w/ the Good Genes male, while long term breeding is reserved the Good Dad male. This [...] is why women will marry the Nice Guy, stable, loyal, (preferably) doctor and still Bleep the pool boy or the cute surfer she met on spring break." RM

BennyDGreat:
You are responsible for your choice. That's why you are an adult sir. No need to mention anybody's name as being responsible for your predicament

If I mention name what do u want to do about it? Adeboye is a fake

Phyna phyna
Lol

omoredia:
This one go soon turn old cargo. We must do away with the Adeboye faIse teachings against polygamy. If we Christian men dont marry more to help our sisters na bandits and terrorists go marry them oo. Adeboye is not for our progress

Can you even feed yourself, not to talk of feeding 2 women?

I think one of the biggest mistakes society makes is putting an expiry date on people's lives. At 22, many of us think 30 is "old" and assume everyone should have figured life out by then. Then life happens, and reality humbles us.

Marriage is not an achievement unlocked because you turned 30. It's a lifelong commitment that should happen with the right person, not because of pressure from family, friends, or social media.

Some people marry at 24 and are divorced by 28. Others marry at 35 and enjoy decades of peace and companionship. There is no universal timetable for happiness.

Phyna's realization is something many people eventually come to understand: those "aunties" we judged weren't failures—they were simply living life on their own timeline. It's easy to judge from the outside until you walk the same path yourself.

Rather than asking, "Why are you not married yet?" perhaps we should start asking, "Are you happy? Are you growing? Are you at peace?" Those answers matter far more than a wedding date.

Life isn't a race, and marriage is too important to enter just to satisfy society's expectations. Better to marry late for the right reasons than early for the wrong ones.

This isn't news worthy nah
What's going on with nairaland these days?
Wetin concern us with person way dey change her age every time she yawns?

At 30 without a job and leaving with your parent is a RED FLAG

Memberclub:
At 30 without no man is red flag.

AguluLiar:
Can you even feed yourself, not to talk of feeding 2 women?

I will feed Ur entire bloodline. No jokes

galantjoe:
I hear say VDM wanted to marry her before now but she refused.

Maybe now she has seen life at 29 differently as she saw it then, I will advise her to go back to VDM and accept his marriage proposal

In Addy to (VDM)his numerous girls Abi first wife to vdm?

Mumben:
But 30 is not old naa, why d anxiety?

Dey whine

Mumben:
But 30 is not old naa, why d anxiety?

30 is old for a lady pls
my mum married at 19. all my sister's married before they clocked 26. I am 35 though I am not married but I can't marry a 30 years old woman abe

floss:
True true school no be scam....

Only Miracle that won Big Brother among the rest winners actually became successful outside the rest winners.... He won , left the social media and faced his aviation career... He was already a pilot before going for big brother....

The rest winners waiting on public validation and re-validation before they can tell their right from their left... Living fake life until money finish, the female ones goes back to O-S in order to maintain the fake life... Last last, every body don answer their papa name like phyna at 33, nothing to show....

How did you arrive this assertion?

More twenty years to menopause the time is ticking.

In China, if you are 23 and a lady. People already think you are too old..

They actually organise a 'marriage market/exhibition' where men go to find potential partners.

AngelSlay:
At 30 without a job and leaving with your parent is a RED FLAG

one is easier

Her Akara don dey cold.

omoredia:
I will feed Ur entire bloodline. No jokes

Some of you guys go just dey make mouth. Any small thing, " I will feed your entire bloodline.

You know if the guy na aboki ? Wey get 23 children, talk less of each of the numerous children from his siblings.

Make she call Groovy na

Abi the groove don end Tru Tru?

AngelSlay:
I think one of the biggest mistakes society makes is putting an expiry date on people's lives. At 22, many of us think 30 is "old" and assume everyone should have figured life out by then. Then life happens, and reality humbles us.

Marriage is not an achievement unlocked because you turned 30. It's a lifelong commitment that should happen with the right person, not because of pressure from family, friends, or social media.

Some people marry at 24 and are divorced by 28. Others marry at 35 and enjoy decades of peace and companionship. There is no universal timetable for happiness.

Phyna's realization is something many people eventually come to understand: those "aunties" we judged weren't failures—they were simply living life on their own timeline. It's easy to judge from the outside until you walk the same path yourself.

Rather than asking, "Why are you not married yet?" perhaps we should start asking, "Are you happy? Are you growing? Are you at peace?" Those answers matter far more than a wedding date.

Life isn't a race, and marriage is too important to enter just to satisfy society's expectations. Better to marry late for the right reasons than early for the wrong ones.

you are a wonderful soul, a brilliant nd mature person.

Henrydata:
. I don't laugh tire for this your comment.

So owning Nairaland is not a job again?

Maybe Seun should open a spaza shop
As our S/A bros call it

pocohantas:
Of course it should.
Some of you thought you are special and the chosen one because you are younger. Forgetting time does fly and some day you will be the older woman you probably join men to insult. That must be humbling.

Ah Poco you brutal o, you no even support the babe, sounded like you were talking about the younger version of yourself though.

Well, she didn't lament, contrary to the headline. In fact, she's now encouraging being a single lady at 30s . Misleading headline

Fiscus105:
If women can lower their level and leave up to reality, 80% of those who ended up without being married, could have married and had kids.

Yes na, empty pride has blinded them. You'll see a jobless young lady without 50k in her account calling a man driving a 10m car broke, because someone with a G wagon is toasting her, I wonder how that gender dey reason sometimes o, but their karma is always loyal.

Now she wants to marry?

However, which decent man will want to marry her though?

Ofunaofu:
Everything Is Dawning On Me-Phyna Laments As She Nears 30 Without Getting Married

Former Big Brother Naija winner Phyna has shared how growing older has changed her views on marriage, admitting that she now sees things differently as she approaches her 30th birthday.

In a video posted on her Instagram Story, the reality TV star reflected on turning 29 and said she is beginning to understand life from a different perspective.

According to Phyna, when she was 22 or 23 years old, she thought 29 was still a long way off. Now that she has reached that age, she says many things are becoming clearer to her.

She also admitted that she used to wonder why some women in their early 30s were not married, believing at the time that something was wrong with them.

However, she said age and experience have changed her mindset, and she now realizes that there is nothing wrong with being unmarried in your early 30s.

Phyna explained that many of the women she once judged were simply living their lives, and their marital status did not define them.

She said, “I’m just thinking out loud. I remember when I was 22, 23 then, you know, 29 was so far away, but now this is 29 and everything is just dawning on me.

“I remember that time all those my aunties that were like in their early 30s that they are not married. I’d be like, ‘Auntie, you no go marry? Auntie, you no marry?’ Like then it was looking like the auntie get problem.

“Guys. Guys. We sef don dey touch am o. Auntie no get problem. I swear. Our aunties, they did have problem. No single problem.


https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailymirror.ng/everything-is-dawning-on-me-phyna-laments-as-she-nears-30-without-getting-married/

No, nothing is dawning on you. Keep doing what you have been doing oh

pigmania:
Ah Poco you brutal o, you no even support the babe, sounded like you were talking about the younger version of yourself though.

In your imagination.

12yrs on Nairaland and I have never been silly to discriminate a fellow woman, be it young or old on marital grounds.