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Everybody on social media is doing the airport photo, the "finally landed" caption, the visa approval screenshot with the praise-God emojis. Nobody posts the part that comes six months later. I think we need an honest conversation about that part.

The version we're sold

Japa is sold like a finish line. Once you land, story don end, suffering don finish, life go just click into place. Nobody tells you that landing is actually just the beginning of a completely different kind of struggle — just a quieter one that doesn't make good content.

The qualification reset

That degree you worked so hard for, the years of experience, the seniority you built — a lot of it doesn't transfer the way people think. Doctors doing care work. Accountants stacking shelves. Engineers driving for delivery apps. Not because they're not skilled, but because "start from zero and prove yourself again" is the unspoken rule almost nobody explains before you leave.

The loneliness nobody warns you about

Back home, even on your worst day, somebody's checking on you — family close by, that one friend who just shows up unannounced, a community that exists whether you built it or not. Abroad, you have to construct that from nothing. Weekends can feel unbelievably long and silent, especially the first year, especially if you moved somewhere without an established Nigerian community.

Money enters differently than expected

Yes, the exchange rate makes it look like you're suddenly rich when you convert to naira. But rent is high, bills are high, taxes take a real chunk, and suddenly the "I'll be sending money home every month" plan starts competing with your own survival costs. A lot of people are quietly stretched thin while everyone back home assumes they're swimming in dollars/pounds/euros.

The pressure to perform "successful abroad"

Even when things are hard, there's a strange pressure to keep up appearances — because you already told everyone how it was going to be different this time. So people suffer in silence, post the good days only, and let everyone believe the mirage continues.

Identity confusion

You're not fully "them," but home doesn't feel entirely like home anymore either, especially after a few years. Phone calls back home start feeling like updates from a life you're no longer fully inside of. That in-between space is one of the most disorienting parts nobody prepares you for.

It's not a warning against japa, it's a warning against the illusion

I'm not saying don't go — for a lot of people, it genuinely is a better path, long-term. I'm saying the version being sold on social media, the "just land and everything works out" version, is doing people a disservice. The real story is: it can absolutely be worth it, but it comes with its own type of hard, not an absence of hard.

If more people knew what the first 1-2 years actually looked like — realistically, not the highlight reel — I think a lot of them would still go, but they'd go prepared instead of blindsided.

For those abroad already — what's the one thing you wish somebody told you honestly before you left? And for those still planning to japa, what's the biggest fear holding you back? 👇

Most sensible people will take their chances on the other side than to live in a country beplagued with adverse corruption.

Elsanchez:
Most sensible people will take their chances on the other side than to live in a country beplagued with adverse corruption.

I agree. When corruption affects almost every part of daily life—jobs, healthcare, education, infrastructure, and even access to basic services—it's understandable why many people look elsewhere for better opportunities. Most people aren't running away from Nigeria itself; they're trying to escape a system that often makes hard work feel less rewarding than connections or corruption

I saw a clip of some young Nigerians in Canada or so looking miserable and dejected... some without shelter, you could literally see the regret in their eyes.
Threads like this are good for those ones with "I must japa" mentality, so they can know what awaits them on the other side.

flokii:
I saw a clip of some young Nigerians in Canada or so looking miserable and dejected... some without shelter, you could literally see the regret in their eyes.
Threads like this are good for those ones with "I must japa" mentality, so they can know what awaits them on the other side.

Not everyone who japas succeeds, just as not everyone who stays back thrives. Moving abroad isn't a magic solution, and Nigeria isn't a guaranteed dead end either. People should migrate with proper planning, realistic expectations, and enough savings—not because of social media pressure. One sad clip doesn't tell the full story, just as one success story doesn't.