₦airaland Forum

happney65:
Na una get money to waste. Na una send them

Absolute Nonesense

Sonnobax15:

Imagine if they could impose that kind amount of money on a dead body,you can imagine how theur marriage list and requirements will look like

Not that they'll even assist the children in any way . But be looking for ways to bill the hell out of the children.

1bunne4lif:
Though I'm not in support of such demands, but your parents were also partakers of it during other people's burial

Dmthreads:
This story keeps repeating itself all over Igboland and it's always the same pattern — a family already drained by hospital bills now has to source a cow and feed three different groups before they can bury their own mother in peace. Nobody is saying we should throw away tradition, but there's a difference between honoring culture and using grief as leverage to extract money from people who have no choice but to comply.

What gets me is the "highest burial category because she was 71" part. So the older and more accomplished your parent was, the more it costs you to mourn them? That's backwards. If anything, elders who lived long, full lives should be celebrated without their children going into debt for it.

Credit to Nobis and his brother for handling it calmly instead of blowing up at the village — that's actually how change happens. You can't reform a system by fighting the people who administer it; you reform it by being in the room, year after year, until "we've always done it this way" stops being a good enough answer. Culture isn't static, it's just slow. Someone has to start the conversation, and he just did.

Jamesclooney:
What happens if you don’t pay?

How do poor people like Okada men etc bury their loved ones?

CodeTemplar:
We have succeded in monetizing every aspect of our lives.
Marriage, child naming, birthday(girls especially) , burials(anambra) etc.

Dghold:
You must do it, it's tradition. There are consequences for not doing it.

Dghold:
You must do it, it's tradition. There are consequences for not doing it.

VenExchangee:
I see nothing here, the dead also enjoyed from other people's own...

So it must go on...
E be like osusu, them don contribute for her, na time for her to contribute for another person

ZombieDredd:
Bigot has spoken.

You mean it's not God that created igbos or what?

An opportunity for bigotry has come up, lick it and belleful

1bunne4lif:
Though I'm not in support of such demands, but [/s]your parents[s] [/b]his/her parents were also probably[b] partakers of it during other people's burial

happney65:
Consequences ko, consequences ni.

Tradition is make some people dey charge over high because you want to bury the dead. Dey play

Rubbish

Savageman247:
A Nigerian man has ignited conversations on social media after revealing the list of items his family was asked to provide by one of his village groups following the death of his mother.

The man, Emeka Nobis, disclosed that he and his brother recently attended meetings in their mother's village as part of the traditional burial process. According to him, they met separately with three groups: the Umunna (men of the kindred), Umuada (women of the kindred), and Alurudi (women married into the kindred).

He explained that each group presented its own set of requirements before the burial rites could proceed. Nobis shared one of the lists online, showing numerous food items and refreshments expected to be provided for members of the group.

The post quickly attracted widespread reactions, with many Nigerians questioning why grieving families should face such financial obligations while mourning the loss of a loved one.

Reflecting on the experience, Nobis revealed that his mother died at the age of 71 after a prolonged battle with cancer that had already cost the family millions of naira in medical expenses. Because of her age, he said she was classified under the highest burial category in his community, with the family also expected to provide a cow as part of the traditional rites.

Despite the demands, he said he and his brother have chosen to approach the discussions calmly while engaging community leaders in constructive conversations.

Sharing the reason behind making the experience public, Nobis wrote that he wanted to document the realities of traditional burial practices in his part of Igboland, prepare others who may one day go through a similar process, and encourage conversations about reforming customs that place heavy financial burdens on bereaved families.

"Culture can be modified. It's left to us to challenge these practices as years go by. I'm pretty sure that it definitely will happen," he wrote.

His post has since sparked a broader debate online, with many arguing that some traditional burial practices should be reviewed to reduce the financial and emotional burden on grieving families, while others maintained that cultural customs should be preserved but adapted to reflect present-day economic realities.

SOURCE
https://www.reportnaija.ng/2026/07/bereaved-son-sparks-debate-after.html

Dghold:
You must do it, it's tradition. There are consequences for not doing it.

cr7lomo:
Not just the village ...church is also involved in this extortion...not pentecostal ooo.. Catholic and Anglican... they will request for the tithe , the late person dint pay all thru their lifetime in their church. Even if u tell them the person paid tithe in another branch of the church, they wudnt accept it....the will request for levies the person dint pay , the donations the person dint donate...if u dont do it ,the church will not bury the person ...

Village and church demands gulps millions of naira ...some 5m some 7m depending on their demands ... the richer the person was, or if there is a rich member in the family , the more demands ... tgey will charge for meetings the late person failed to attend and also add the children fees that failed to attend meetings...

ikeno:
Truth is that burial of love one in eastern part of Nigeria is expensive and I keep wondering how will people that are not financially capable cope.

We buried my late mom in 2024,and the demands that each village groups and even the church,CWO were demanding was atrocious. All this demands runs into millions of naira and this is apart from the foods and drinks you will serve them on that day and when the ceremony ends the money these groups will contribute to your family is peanut.

Thank God, we gave them what they want and everyone of them ate and drank to their fill without no complain.

All and all, anyone who wants to bury their love should do so according to their means not imposing so much demands all in the name of tradition.

cr7lomo:
Not just the village ...church is also involved in this extortion...not pentecostal ooo.. Catholic and Anglican... they will request for the tithe , the late person dint pay all thru their lifetime in their church. Even if u tell them the person paid tithe in another branch of the church, they wudnt accept it....the will request for levies the person dint pay , the donations the person dint donate...if u dont do it ,the church will not bury the person ...

Village and church demands gulps millions of naira ...some 5m some 7m depending on their demands ... the richer the person was, or if there is a rich member in the family , the more demands ... tgey will charge for meetings the late person failed to attend and also add the children fees that failed to attend meetings...

Dmthreads:
This story keeps repeating itself all over Igboland and it's always the same pattern — a family already drained by hospital bills now has to source a cow and feed three different groups before they can bury their own mother in peace. Nobody is saying we should throw away tradition, but there's a difference between honoring culture and using grief as leverage to extract money from people who have no choice but to comply.

What gets me is the "highest burial category because she was 71" part. So the older and more accomplished your parent was, the more it costs you to mourn them? That's backwards. If anything, elders who lived long, full lives should be celebrated without their children going into debt for it.

Credit to Nobis and his brother for handling it calmly instead of blowing up at the village — that's actually how change happens. You can't reform a system by fighting the people who administer it; you reform it by being in the room, year after year, until "we've always done it this way" stops being a good enough answer. Culture isn't static, it's just slow. Someone has to start the conversation, and he just did.