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The young man deserves flogging for such a statement. Was he born when it happened? How did he know?

A child bringing family matters to the public for discuss is not wise.

A father and mother should remain father and mother no matter what.

If the devil had a child, the child still needs to love and honour him while he still prays for his repentance.

Goo0dHardDick:
When we say that women are only interested in what they're milking from men, they'll call us names here and say we hate women.

We'll continue exposing women's psychology

Did you not see the funny thread by AccidentedCars about men marrying women because of their usefulness and he termed usefulness as her earnings. A woman is not wired to think of how useful she can be materially, she is most loyal when you have the capacity to provide. Taking care of the home and your kids and preparing good meals and satisfying your sexual cravings are her main use. Never pray to find yourself at her mercy, you may not believe what you will see.

So even if your father dosent tell you before, you will marry a woman out of pity?

I am happy that your father understood and took responsibility for his poor choices.

You see in life, whenever there is an issue between 2 people, the person who complains is most likely the person who lost, In every deal, you have to understand what you want and pursue it regorosuly.

In marriage, ensure that any woman you will be getting married to must invest in you that it will make it extremely difficult for them to leave you or you are going to cry.

Also understand that, your mother have the right to marry whoever she wants because he's locked for 12 years. If it's was the other way round, won't your dad also knack another person? Let's be honest.

Kpele, move on, and learn your lessons.

Leave your parents to sort themselves out.

shiwex:
i do

Love or hate?

Cleties:
The case isin the same page here with me,"mine" Is that my dad got my mother pregnant out of no plans for both as they were at their way to own each other in love,❤️😍it happen where my lost his work by then while we still in Enugu though I'm only son child with my step sister from another lady,my dad were just managing his little income that he earned from his aside business that was been control by my mum cause my doing her work as usually in hospital where she got employed as an supplier and errands surveyor so the whole situation get started now my dad isn't longer working he seems to cool with how things was but In an dilemma he changed saying he regretted marrying and when ever he started my mother sees me as her way out she would render all sorts of words on me telling me that I'm her regret in life she would went ahead asking me the her as a mother all cause of how is is giving her some altitude snout the the good woman for him instead she only care her self and parents however when this occurs I always be centered of topics I'm scared ot both of them right now I'm confused beyond my doubts why shouldn't see something else rather than pointing and directing it all on what is offence.....................

Nna eh! What kind of headache did you just gave me?
You just muddle words and statement from start to finish without "coma" "full stop" and all.
And some your statement doesn't make sense and not understandable

Cleties:
The case isin the same page here with me,"mine" Is that my dad got my mother pregnant out of no plans for both as they were at their way to own each other in love,❤️😍it happen where my lost his work by then while we still in Enugu though I'm only son child with my step sister from another lady,my dad were just managing his little income that he earned from his aside business that was been control by my mum cause my doing her work as usually in hospital where she got employed as an supplier and errands surveyor so the whole situation get started now my dad isn't longer working he seems to cool with how things was but In an dilemma he changed saying he regretted marrying and when ever he started my mother sees me as her way out she would render all sorts of words on me telling me that I'm her regret in life she would went ahead asking me the her as a mother all cause of how is is giving her some altitude snout the the good woman for him instead she only care her self and parents however when this occurs I always be centered of topics I'm scared ot both of them right now I'm confused beyond my doubts why shouldn't see something else rather than pointing and directing it all on what is offence.....................

@Wotowotoman "onye nkuzi" you're needed here.

Goo0dHardDick:
“My father married my mom out of pity, and he regretted it. He wants me to understand seriously that I should never get married to a woman out of pity.

At first, my father started hi.tt. ing my mom when he found that she purposely rem0ved a child for him.

Fast forward to 2013 when my father left for China but due to some circumstances, he was locked up in jail for 12 years.

He returned to Nigeria earlier this year, while in prison, he told my mom to only sell the car he have so she can be able to pay our new terms school fees.

But my mom sold every property he had and went to live in a cheaper house. Of course, the house we were living in was extremely expensive; my father was rich.

When she told my father, he didn't complain that much. Each time my father called from prison, sometimes she didn't answer.

On the day she did answer, my father asked her where she was, and she said she was at the market.

My father told her it was noisy, and as they were discussing something else, my mother told my father that he should not be in China commanding her on what to do in Nigeria. She then ended the call.

On another day, he called her. She picked up the call and was complaining that our house rent would expire soon, so my father provided the house rent from prison.

After she took that money from him, she stopped receiving my father's calls to this day.

In 2017, she slept with another man and got pregnant. My grandfather died then. She came for the burial and that's when my uncle's wife discovered that she was pregnant.

She ran away and later @b0rted the child.

Now my father is back. Do you know I have been telling her to call my father, but she didn't call him? She's saying it's my father who is supposed to call her. Even their family is saying the same thing.

Well, I have stopped talking to her. I'm pained, and I don't even know how hurt my father will be. I'm a man, and I know how I feel. That means I don't think my dad will ever forgive her.

Now my father is thinking of div0rcing her.

I think I'm in support of it and I'll never take care of my mother till she leaves this Life.

I'm the first child. I have 3 siblings: 2 boys and 1 girl.

If they think they can take care of her, they should go ahead; I won't stop them. But as for me, bro, I'll never ever do it.

And if she dies I won't accept to bury her in my father's compound if my father is dead by then. (I'm not wishing de@th for them) But that's reality of life.…” - A 21-year-old Nigerian man has sparked reactions online after vowing never to take care of his mother, as he recounted the events that led to the breakdown of his parents' marriage.

https://www.facebook.com/100067538267625/posts/1364893775771885/?app=fbl

The pain is on you. When she dies, whatever happens to her body is inconsequential

Na everything una de turn to man vs woman

What she did was wrong, if you no longer interested why not divorce the man and go your way being free to marry another

Why sleeping around while still being his wife

zoghys:
If the case were reversed and the woman was the one locked up continent away, do you expect the man to stay celibate. Let not justify BS, like the above comment let the guy leave his parent to settle their differences and face his life.

Threedoorsdown:
Na everything una de turn to man vs woman

What she did was wrong, if you no longer interested why not divorce the man and go your way being free to marry another

Why sleeping around while still being his wife

That's your opinion , i respect it but it doesn't mean you're right or wrong.

okomile:
You are young
Pls think of your life
Your parents have lived their life, let them sort themselves

Don't meddle in what you know but not in depth of it all

All the best

Exactly

floss:
To solve this problem is very easy... The husband should invite people and go to the wife's village or parents house, so that the bride price be returned... Then everyone will be happy, bloodbath will be avoided.

The husband started carrying drugs or was found with one, man must survive.

Stop saying nonsense.

Nobody is seen with drugs in china and comes back to Nigeria alive.

okomile:
You are young
Pls think of your life
Your parents have lived their life, let them sort themselves

Don't meddle in what you know but not in depth of it all

All the best

He is just stating his choices, in his own Life and we should respect that as well.


As Nigerians, we love to run away from facts and realities of Life, that is why the level of Hypocrisy and Sycophancy is so high.
That his Mother slept with another Man and was pregnant for that Man, while his father was in Prison, as a consequence of his "hustle" for his Family, is a Pain he has to live with. for the rest of his Life.

The Lesson here, for ALL Men, is that "Money-Go, Woman-Go".
I did not invent that, the statement has always been true from the days of Adam and Eve

Cleties:
The case isin the same page here with me,"mine" Is that my dad got my mother pregnant out of no plans for both as they were at their way to own each other in love,❤️😍it happen where my lost his work by then while we still in Enugu though I'm only son child with my step sister from another lady,my dad were just managing his little income that he earned from his aside business that was been control by my mum cause my doing her work as usually in hospital where she got employed as an supplier and errands surveyor so the whole situation get started now my dad isn't longer working he seems to cool with how things was but In an dilemma he changed saying he regretted marrying and when ever he started my mother sees me as her way out she would render all sorts of words on me telling me that I'm her regret in life she would went ahead asking me the her as a mother all cause of how is is giving her some altitude snout the the good woman for him instead she only care her self and parents however when this occurs I always be centered of topics I'm scared ot both of them right now I'm confused beyond my doubts why shouldn't see something else rather than pointing and directing it all on what is offence.....................

Guy, abeg no lie. You don pass WAEC English? You don hear of a book called Brighter Grammar? 🤔

MissOpe:
You cannot hate other women and love your mother...
It only makes you an hypocrite mm

The fact your mom was a cheat doesn't mean other people's mom are!

Alright, no problem

zoghys:
That's your opinion , i respect it but it doesn't mean you're right or wrong.

12 years and you expect her not to cheat. She clearly didn't endure with him but may be it was stress.

Do the hard maths on how much all 4 of you are daily, then multiple by 4000... A years schools fees X12. Other expenses like transportation, electricity and rent.
Come up with a rough estimate.

Goo0dHardDick:
The fact your mom was a cheat doesn't mean other people's mom are!

You will not die well

Goo0dHardDick:
Where has a woman ever been locked away? Let's start from there first

Pushing hard drugs across countries is not gender restricted to men. lots of women are incarcerated too. although the ratio of male to female is higher. look at you the other day it was a even a uk grandma very lucky to be caught in nigeria airport. if na dubai or Saudi no locking away nonsense , killing straight . Do the crime do the time. nobody go reason say you be female. but again it takes two to tango. drug pusher and olosho. the story no clear. Boy Chicago pikin never rillly talk wetin him hardworking streets papa do for china land 12years jail first instead of deportation straight.

MissOpe:
You will not die well

Same way you and your people will not die well? My prayers are with you

Goo0dHardDick:
Same way you and your people will not die well? My prayers are with you

May Sorrow be your best conpanion, you and all that are yours.

#spi ts on you....

MissOpe:
May Sorrow be your best conpanion, you and all that are yours.

#spi ts on you....

Sorrow and sadness with frustrations are already part of your daily companions, hence the reason you're in constant thinking and depression.

My prayers are with you. My the sorrow, sadness and frustrations not depart from you anytime soon

Goo0dHardDick:
Sorrow and sadness with frustrations are already part of your daily companions, hence the reason you're in constant thinking and depression.

My prayers are with you. My the sorrow, sadness and frustrations not depart from you anytime soon

Wish you the same ...# ekuke 😂😁🤣

Goo0dHardDick:
Where has a woman ever been locked away? Let's start from there first

So in history and till date, no woman has ever been imprisoned? God please give sense to the senseless.

1Alex:
the man even provided house rent from prison to the disloyal wife.

He provided shelter for the wife but majorly for his 4 children. Disloyal? So you expect the woman to be celibate since 2013?? Can you do that fo a woman? Can the man do that for his wife? For the woman not to be eager to see him after his release shows he is a bad husband even before his imprisonment. He should start by telling us what took him to the prison in the first place.

Esc2ctrl:
A LOT OF WOMEN DONT KNOW WHAT MARRIAGE MEANS BEFORE ENTERING NEITHER DO THEY UNDERSTAND THE OATH THEY SAY WHEN THEY EXCHANGE VOWS
IN MY OPINION MARRIAGE ENTAILS LOVE, DUTY, DISCIPLINE, FAITHFULNESS, LOYALTY AND FRIENDSHIP THEY ARE LIKE DIFFERENT GEARS IN A CAR, THEY FLOW ON THESE PRINCIPLES

MY ADVICE TO THE OP, IS THAT YOU FORGIVE HER, BUT TELL THE TRUTH TO YOUR FATHER AND LET YOUR MOM BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF HER ACTIONS

IT IS ALSO FAIR IN THE EYES OF GOD....YOUR FATHERS DECSION BASED ON THE FACTS OF THE MATTER IS TOTALLY HIS CHOICE TO MAKE

ITS A SAD REALITY BUT YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG

From your first paragraph, I guess alot of men knows what marriage means before entering and really understand that oath they took when they exchanged vows. That is why over 85% of them have side chicks they keep unapologetically and without remorse while in marriage.

YOU'RE RIGHT. & THANK YOU FOR POINTING THAT OUT

HOWEVER, MY OPINION IS FOCUSED ON THE PERSON OF INTEREST.

A DAY WILL COME WHEN OPINION WILL SHINE A LIGHT ON MALE BEHAVIOUR

Kwinesther:
From your first paragraph, I guess alot of men knows what marriage means before entering and really understand that oath they took when they exchanged vows. That is why over 85% of them have side chicks they keep unapologetically and without remorse while in marriage.

PattersonHR:
God, I had headache reading this

so sad ,, where I'm there is not frequent network .I guess that is the whys of all the errors I'm mistaken ..my past please!!!!🏃

Kalulu44:
@Wotowotoman "onye nkuzi" you're needed here.

mehn so sorry, but all is alrit