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“Sex spoils good friendships” — BBNaija's Tochi advises men to keep female friendships platonic

Former Big Brother Naija housemate Tochi has sparked conversations on social media after advising men to cultivate non-sexual friendships with women, arguing that such relationships can offer valuable support without becoming romantic.

The reality TV star shared his thoughts via a series of posts on his Instagram Story, where he encouraged men to appreciate the benefits of platonic relationships with women.

According to Tochi, maintaining healthy friendships with women can positively impact a man’s life, while introducing sex into such relationships often creates complications.

Tochi shares relationship advice
In one of the posts, Tochi wrote, “As a man, learn to have non-sexual friendships with women. You’ll be surprised how much value and support they add to your life. Most times, sex spoils good friendships.”

He followed it with another message directed at married men, stating, “He that find a wife, finds a good thing and should leave other women alone.”

His remarks quickly attracted attention, with many users debating his perspective on relationships and marriage.

Mixed reactions trail Tochi’s comments
The posts have since generated mixed reactions online. While some social media users agreed that platonic friendships between men and women can be beneficial, others argued that such relationships can be difficult to maintain because of emotional or romantic attraction.

Others also praised Tochi’s message encouraging married men to remain committed to their spouses, saying it promotes loyalty and respect in relationships. The discussion continues to trend across social media platforms.

Except the lady is a childhood friend, he go hard. Women no dey too dey available if dem no get something to benefit from you.

Sometimes, Sex actually converts a friendship into a relationship that blossoms.

But you see billing? It kills everything it touches. Let's also advise women against billing like Nepa.

When my female friend comes to my place, this is how we relax

The only women who will stay in a friendship with you are those who initially rejected you or those who want to knack you. The latter mostly give themselves sense and move away. The aforementioned toy with you till you get sense and disappear. I don’t see any benefit of both because they equally c—block you when you show interest elsewhere.

There's no way a goat will keep Yam as a friend without eating it.

Total balderdash.... Sharrap

Them don drop quotes for them SIMP 😂😂😂

GBAM


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bestman09:
There's no way a goat will keep Yam as a friend without eating it.

Capital lie.
Women only develop real feelings and create a bond with a man after sex.
Especially if you gave her orgasms.

Advice for nice guys

She said U’d be surprised the Value and support they will add to your life…

Hahahahahahahahha!!

Women will exploit your friendship and any relationship for their gain…they see nothing wrong with it….. Its a skill they developed from childhood… starting with their male family members ..

Lol, women cofide in men they have sex with and value that relationship than the one without sex.

But excessive billings doesn't right?


She wants to friend zone you people. If you nah like make you people fall mugu.

Youths of nowadays will never believe what the ex bbnaija To hi is saying.
Must a guy and a lady sex before marriage?
Y destroy and allow devil to come into your marriage before the actual marriage which you will go to God to presents yourself as husband and wife?
Youths can't stay without sex. Sex is for husband and wife, not for youths. That is y youths don't reason well anymore. Anywhere they are, sex comes to their minds first. I pity and one who put sex or believe in sex bf marriage. It is a SIN. Get it straight or forget it.

Milking men also spoils good friendship.


These girls can be funny, they demand for girlfriend treatment but still want to claim platonic friendship. Talking about eating your cake and still wanting to have it.

but to collect man money no dey spoil good friendship
Of what friendship is dog and lion?

Platonic relationship no easy o.

It's either you're doing a distant friendship or better cold/konji never catch her for your side....esp the victims of toxic relationships.

Mind you, I no dey keep male bestie, not to mention a female one.

Most so called females friends will still ask you for money and other things indiscriminately

Ask them for financial support and they will act broke even if they have millions in saving

Sex doesn’t stop a female friend from helping you

My people make una see format ooo... Billing nko?

True. But most men will feel cheated if they spend hours chatting with you and being friends while you're banging another nigga (unless he's not at all sexually attracted to you)

Muhmuh talk. Go friend cobra and expect no bite.

Walai na that sex gan gan be the only reasonable thing they fit offer in as a friend.

Very true na.

Once you introduce sex, its becomes complicated, toxic, too much responsibility you don't need and load bearing.

Keep the relationship clean, firm as a casual setting.

If you want sex ensure it is laid out(agreed) by both parties in the starting so you know this one is just for sex and nothing more. But if not, just maintain ur bachelor status. Except if you want a partner to turn into a wife material then you can go on with the sex galore!

It's a very wonderful advice until the so called lady friend call you mumu in front of her friends

Friendship with ladies work only if she's not attracted to you sexually but how would you really know
Cos women is another name for pretense.

I quite agree with him.

There should be boundaries. Discipline should guide you in deciding who to be intimate with and when not to cross the line.

Sex doesn't kill relationships,like unnecessary billing from ladies does

Everytime yo and sec get runs social app you no gree

Hmmm if i give my POV on this...

some small boy go say NA Lie

It's impossible to cultivate a non sexual friendship with a Nigerian girl because she'll keep billing and billing you, until you become broke. Most times guys use sex as compensation for their expenses on the girl.

Friendship has been abused by most girls. They see it as a struggle for survival.

ok no wahala last last evrybody go dey alright

Mr. Simpson has spoken. He who has ears let him hear.