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This is very bad. It is very unfortunate that all the evils our people told us that the people from the SE do, we seem to do them more than them.

Tosin deserve better.

She not saying the true

How she take TREAT MEMBERS when HUBBY dey?

Really? just eight days after his death.



parents like mubahd father still in existence?


Those parents need to be investigate.


wifes pls learn to be humbles to your in laws to avoid this type of scenero.



rest on T boy

The deceased family are suspects....
Investigations should be intensed..
They are the one that kpai the guy...
If not....why occupying his property 8days after his death and even planning to sell his car....8 f-days...haba

They are the ones that murdered the guy
QED....

SixSeven:
Fair enough. I won't digress from the topic but I always wonder why men think about who will be with their wife when they die

Life is for the living

Same reason you think of what family/wife might do with your wealth/money when you are no longer there.

Because you can't stop their actions anymore, including if the wife chooses to cosy up with your worst enemy/traitor/killer.

It's also in recognising rightly that everyone will move on without you.

At least thinking about all scenarios allows you to take action to keep your wealth for your children.

Even though life is for living, you didn't live to build wealth for one efulefu from nowhere.

I used to think some of these things are peculiar to the South East and the South, but then I realised that this is Nigeria. Most times, we generalise based on what we see in movies or a few stories on social media. However, when you visit other parts of Nigeria, you will experience a similar trend.

My wife's friend, an Igbo woman, got married to a Christian from the northern part of Nigeria. According to her, they don't behave like the Igbo people. Guess what? She has four children, all girls, and she still wants more because of the fear of her husband marrying another wife due to the absence of a male child.

As a man, the solution is to draft a will, especially for properties that are within the town, city, or metropolis. You can never tell what will happen to your family when you are not there.

crestedaguiyi:
Questions should be asked before taking sides. Many men wish they could end the marriage or have the opportunity to have a marriage with an expiry date, as in something with an expiry date.

If you think i am lying, check bars and restaurants in the evening after work to see many men remain there till 8 or 9 before going home; e no rosy for house na im make them chill for bar so that before them reach house, them go don dey well na just to bath go bed go remain.

This your submission doesn't hold water!

Even if the house is not rosy, they remained married till death do them part. How the wife manages the home and properties with the children is entirely their business. The father in-law and the rest of the husband's families and siblings are third parties in this matter and should face their own family.

Encroaching into the matters of the properties the son left behind is deemed illegal because the son already had his own family before he died.

As an activist it is better to listen to both sides before taking sides.

Nobody is talking about what might have killed this young man. Most times it is what the husband had told his family about his wife that warrant all these things. I'm not saying she's bad but women in general can be deadly, wicked and selfish.

crestedaguiyi:
Questions should be asked before taking sides. Many men wish they could end the marriage or have the opportunity to have a marriage with an expiry date, as in something with an expiry date.

If you think i am lying, check bars and restaurants in the evening after work to see many men remain there till 8 or 9 before going home; e no rosy for house na im make them chill for bar so that before them reach house, them go don dey well na just to bath go bed go remain.

Nigerians are too emotional and lacks wisdom in most cases including the ministry in charge of issue related to matters like this. They might even be protecting the properties because of her children. People always forgot that parents suffer alot to train their children from babes till when they are old enough to take care of themselves. Have we all forgot Mr. Ibru wife who sold all his properties withing a space of 3 years and subjected his children into poverty.

No inlaw will do that to their daughter in-law withiout a reason. Who knows she might be the one behind her husband death, that is why investigation need to be carry out before we take side. The most painful thing to any family or parent is to see their daughter in-law who is allegedly responsible to thrir son death to be enjoying his properties he laboured so hard for with a strange man.

This thing na crime .

olutops:
The deceased family are suspects....
Investigations should be intensed..
They are the one that kpai the guy...
If not....why occupying his property 8days after his death and even planning to sell his car....8 f-days...haba

They are the ones that murdered the guy
QED....

Just 8 days bro

Stephen0mozzy:
If you have kids when you marry:
Write a Will!
Write a Will! Write a Will.

Don't completely cut out your immediate family from your assets sha, but ensure properties are willed to your kids and wife - clearly defined - WITH A CLAUSE THAT WHEN SHE REMARRIES, THE OWNERSHIP MUST BE PASSED DOWN TO YOUR OWN KIDS - AND IF THE KIDS ARE YOUNG, THE PROPERTIES CANNOT BE SOLD UNTIL THE KIDS ARE OF ADULT AGE.

If you feel your wife is a skosko, then will the properties to your kids and hire a Lawyer as an executor of your estate, abi as them dey talk am.

Meanwhile, the government (Ministry of Women Affairs) should take that family on an excursion to prison.

Write a will?
Na everybody go write will?
Me wey never see food chop, na my phone I go will? Don't get me angry ooo

yemre:
This your submission doesn't hold water!

Even if the house is not rosy, they remained married till death do them part. How the wife manages the home and properties with the children is entirely their business. The father in-law and the rest of the husband's families and siblings are third parties in this matter and should face their own family.

Encroaching into the matters of the properties the son left behind is deemed illegal because the son already had his own family before he died.

Oga calm down, how do you even know the property belongs to the deseased?
Eg your father has 6 of you. He has properties which you all occupy, one of your siblings then dies, are you saying the wife then owns the property? Someone who may remarry tomorrow, if she then dies the husband then lays claim to the house as his abi? Go and read the late billionaire Iwuanyanwu's will, people were laughing but only the wise saw reason with what he did. He stated that his young wife can stay in the house, but once she ever remarried, she must leave.
That is why as a man you should build your own house or properties exclusive of and without any link to family assets. You eg build your house on family land or even spend millions renovating or building family house, omo you are on your own as that property belongs to all your siblings. The first time I went into industrial scale fish farming as a young man many years ago the mistake I made was that I listened to my old man who convinced me to build the farm on family land saying it was close by and I will be able to monitor it, that why waste money buying land, meanwhile a plot of land at ayobo was 250k then. My friends all bought 2,3,4 plots, I had the money but did not buy. Ofcourse all of us that did the farming all failed and lost money, my friends sold their lands which had appreciated, especially with the structures on it, they recovered millions, Omo me took all the loss, farm I could not sell.
If someone had kpai then, my wife then claims the farm was her husband's property, then goes on social media to say her inlaws are claiming her husband's property.

So you who has lived in Yorubaland with your placenta buried in the South West, are you saying that Igbo culture is greater than Yoruba culture?
Me I dey chop statistics. where did you get your statistics from?
Archeology? artifacts? Old Great African empires?
Historical Trans Saharan and Transatlantic trade? How, where and when?
Are you sure charcoal pot is not calling kettle black with you also making conclusions based on hearsay?

agadez007:
The thread may not pass one page because they are disappointed Ita not from the South East
I saw one Igbo girl tiktoker live where she was praising the Yoriba culture snd denigrating Igbo culture,it made me laugh,this girl probably have never been to the South west nor lived anywhere near the Yoriba land,she was making her conclusion based on hearsay

jmoore:
Without a will, the inlaws have no say in the property. The surviving spouse and children are the ones entitled to the property when no will is written.

Okay, but it costs no luxury to have one.

crestedaguiyi:
Questions should be asked before taking sides. Many men wish they could end the marriage or have the opportunity to have a marriage with an expiry date, as in something with an expiry date.

If you think i am lying, check bars and restaurants in the evening after work to see many men remain there till 8 or 9 before going home; e no rosy for house na im make them chill for bar so that before them reach house, them go don dey well na just to bath go bed go remain.

So even if he ends the marriage, na him father go take care of his children abi.....

No be the property him live go use care for the children by the way if we find out now, the woman also contributed her quote to the properties they solely claimed to be their sons'

SixSeven:
Is it even enough? What about honoring contracts?

Men, you can't trust your family entirely because the attitude they display is because you are alive and there. People can change and you can never trust the human instinct not to succumb to greed. If you are alive, do whatever you can to give it to her in her name while you are alive, don't wait for death. The world is not smiling. Families are usually entitled to their sons and see the woman as a foreign entity that came to share space. They don't even look at her as someone who came to expand the family and left her father's home. They just treat her anyhow they like. Only a few with conscience do unto others what they wish done to them. Therefore, in this life, since you know human beings are unpredictable, do what is predictable and within your control. The dead have no fight in the game of the living. Love is not enough.

Wao, what a wisdom you display there bros. More grace 👑

SixSeven:
Fair enough. I won't digress from the topic but I always wonder why men think about who will be with their wife when they die

Life is for the living

No mind them, because when they were alive they chopped other women asides their wives, and they dont want such to happen to them alive or dead...😂😂

Awon ole buruku

SixSeven:
Fair enough. I won't digress from the topic but I always wonder why men think about who will be with their wife when they die

Life is for the living

😂bros see where you go play penalty go😂

MissOpe:
No mind them, because when they were alive they chopped other women asides their wives, and they dont want such to happen to them alive or dead...😂😂

Awon ole buruku

what do you mean chop? Is it sharwarma 😂😂

MissOpe:
So even if he ends the marriage, na him father go take care of his children abi.....

No be the property him live go use care for the children by the way if we find out now, the woman also contributed her quote to the properties they solely claimed to be their sons'

the wife did not contribute anything to the man's life..

the wife should return to her father's house and leave the children with her in-laws..

nedekid:

Go and read the late billionaire Iwuanyanwu's will, people were laughing but only the wise saw reason with what he did. He stated that his young wife can stay in the house, but once she ever remarried, she must leave.

sharp!
The will make sense cos once she remarries what if she kpais her new husband will inherit her house asap 🏠 🏡.laying claim to what he did not 🚫 labour for.
Even some wives can connive with their new boyfriend to sell off the property and share the proceeds. Women are easily manipulated.
But again, where children are involved, it's always wise to leave something exclusively for the children and something for the woman to fall back on and sustain your little kids till they are of age.

She must be mandated not to sell off the property until the children are eighteen and can decide

nedekid:

The first time I went into industrial scale fish farming as a young man many years ago the mistake I made was that I listened to my old man who convinced me to build the farm on family land saying it was close by and I will be able to monitor it, that why waste money buying land, meanwhile a plot of land at ayobo was 250k then. My friends all bought 2,3,4 plots, I had the money but did not buy.


Ofcourse all of us that did the farming all failed
and lost money, my friends sold their lands which had appreciated, especially with the structures on it, they recovered millions, Omo me took all the loss, farm I could not sell.

Not derailing this thread 🧵 but
At the bolded, what do you mean by OF COURSE, all of us that did the farming all failed as if it's a guaranteed must that fish 🐟 🐠 farming business MUST fail.of course.

What do you mean by OF course ?
Do you mind throwing a little more light ?
Any few tips for upcoming first time fish farmers to avoid failing

Hope she's legally married.

Dancebreaker:
Same reason you think of what family/wife might do with your wealth/money when you are no longer there.

Because you can't stop their actions anymore, including if the wife chooses to cosy up with your worst enemy/traitor/killer.

It's also in recognising rightly that everyone will move on without you.

At least thinking about all scenarios allows you to take action to keep your wealth for your children.

Even though life is for living, you didn't live to build wealth for one efulefu from nowhere.

One thing I don't ever forget is that we are animals. Because of that, I know that the most important things I can pass on are not what people can take from them

They'll be fine without me. It's been a privilege teaching them

I have a question. If you give to charity, isn't it God's work that the ex-wife is helping the efulefu? Isn't that your manhood living on

codemaniacs:
the wife did not contribute anything to the man's life..

the wife should return to her father's house and leave the children with her in-laws..

Because na her inlaws born them??

You do well....

Samuels90:
what do you mean chop? Is it sharwarma 😂😂

Na Pizza and Asun

What if the wife has hand in his death or maltreated or neglected the husband while alive. My thoughts though

Kobicove:
What if it was the father-in-law that built the house?

Certainly she moves out her children have a stake in the house and she could stay because of that!